What happens when you think about doing less? If it’s hard to even consider, and your mind starts sounding off some alarm bells, you’re not alone. We’ve been conditioned to do more, not less. In this episode, your host Kay Coughlin talks about the reasons it’s so hard to do less, and how you can get started when you are ready. As always, no judgment or guilt, and no pressure!

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Can you really say no and still be a kind person? Yes, you can. In this episode, your host, Kay Coughlin, explains why we confuse these two behaviors and how you can say no and still be kind if you want to.

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In this episode, host Kay Coughlin talks about ways she is being gentle with herself. Even when our culture seems to be pushing in the opposite direction. Kay gets pretty honest here, in the hopes that something she admits will help you be more gentle with yourself, too.

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Gen X and Millennial family caregivers don’t get much attention and don’t get much in the way of resources right now. Yet as the middle generations of adults, we are the silent backbone of our families and of the economy. And we don’t have to put up with being ignored, and left to struggle alone, anymore. As always, there's no judgment and no guilt here.

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Sources cited: AARP/NAC "Caregiving in the U.S. 2020" study. CDC "Mental health among parents...and unpaid caregivers of adults...Dec 2020-Feb 2021" study.

What if you could transform “yes” into “HECK YES!” What if you could stop saying “yes” so darn fast, and instead, you could learn to pause before you say “yes?” Join host Kay Coughlin to talk about how to say “yes” from a place that will make your life better and more fulfilling. As always, there’s no guilt and no judgment here.

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Episodes mentioned: 75 (The Art of Saying No) and 68 (When People Only See You as a Caregiver)

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If the thought of saying “no” makes you feel a little (or a lot) uneasy, you’re not alone. Join host Kay Coughlin for this very practical episode on how to say “no” even when you feel uncomfortable. As always, no guilt and no judgment here!

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One of the main reasons we don’t rest is that we’re not taught how to do it. And even if we know how, we’re not encouraged to rest, either. Join host Kay Coughlin for this discussion of some tactics to build rest into your life - one of these only takes one minute! Throughout the episode, Kay references the guide she wrote called “How to Rest,” and you can get that in the Library area here or here. As always, you can expect to be guided with no judgment and no guilt!

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Humans need rest. It’s a biological fact. Why, then, do we push ourselves to the brink of exhaustion, mental anguish, and physical stress before we finally whisper to someone, “I need a break”? Join host Kay Coughlin in this episode to find out how you can help yourself get a break before you are desperate. As always, no judgment and no guilt!

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If you are fed up with people making and changing plans on you at the last minute (or even worse, cancelling), this episode is for you. Join host Kay Coughlin to hear what you can do so that you don’t have to be the victim of this kind of disrespect any more.

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"5 Love Languages" work by Gary Chapman link: https://www.5lovelanguages.com/

Did you know it’s totally normal for family caregivers to feel grief over the way your life used to look? Missing something that’s gone is just grief, and it doesn’t make you a bad person!  Join host in this episode Kay Coughlin to explore this sensitive and somewhat taboo topic. As always, no judgment and no guilt.

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