Get a Grip Podcast

In this intense and unfiltered episode of the Get A Grip Podcast, Louis Essig and Aaron Garnes sit down with Matt Wiseman to unpack a life story that is as shocking as it is deeply human.Matt’s journey begins in a chaotic childhood where innocence was stripped away early. He shares what it was like taking his first drink at just 6 years old—forced to grow up fast in an environment filled with trauma, violence, and confusion. As his family faced devastating accusations against his father, Matt recalls the moment law enforcement came to take him away—and how, as a child, he reacted in a way no kid ever should have to.From there, his life spiraled into a cycle that would define his adolescence: addiction, crime, and incarceration. By the age of 12, Matt already believed he was a full-blown addict, and from that point forward, freedom became rare. In and out of juvenile detention and prison, he opens up about spending the majority of his formative years behind bars—detailing charges ranging from robbery and kidnapping to grand theft auto, arson, and more.This episode dives deep into the mindset of someone institutionalized at a young age—what it’s like getting caught stealing a semi truck by multiple departments, surviving prison riots, and even breaking into a volunteer fire department in search of needles. Matt also shares stories from working on oil rigs, the violence he encountered both inside and outside prison walls, and the moments that continued pulling him back into the system.Perhaps the most raw moments come from his time serving a 16-year sentence, including his transfer to Lebanon Correctional Institution, where the first six months tested him mentally and physically. He speaks openly about making moonshine behind bars, and what it really looks like to join the Aryan Brotherhood—including the brutal initiation process.But through all the chaos, there’s a question that lingers—what’s different this time?Now, after spending the majority of his life locked up and only a few years of true freedom since childhood, Matt reflects on the patterns, the pain, and the possibility of change.This is not just a story about crime and addiction—it’s about trauma, survival, identity, and whether someone can truly break free from a life that seemed destined from the start.⚠️ Viewer discretion is advised: This episode contains graphic discussions of violence, addiction, and prison life.If you or someone you know is struggling with addiction, this conversation is a powerful reminder that no matter how far gone things may seem, change is still possible.
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In this powerful and raw episode of Get A Grip Podcast, Louis Essig and Aaron Garnes sit down with Vinny Ramirez to uncover a life story that spirals from chaos and survival into addiction, crime, and ultimately redemption.Vinny takes us back to his childhood growing up in East Chicago, where instability was the norm. With nine people packed into one house and violence never far away, he looked up to his older brother while navigating a world that hardened him early. One night, that reality came crashing in when three trucks pulled up to attack their home—setting the tone for the life he would soon be pulled into.By his teenage years, Vinny was already deep in the streets—getting paid to drive cars loaded with drugs and quickly learning the game. What started small escalated fast. In what feels almost unreal, he went from a high school student to a full-blown heroin dealer overnight—breaking down rocks in science class and moving serious weight before most kids graduate. At one point, he was selling quarter bricks and even found himself entangled in situations involving stolen evidence tied to a murder.But the fast money came with devastating consequences.Vinny opens up about losing his daughter, his addiction spiraling out of control, and the dangerous lifestyle that followed—getting raided, crashing into a guardrail while fleeing police, and using increasingly deadly heroin like “cop killer.” He shares the moment he first injected heroin and how his life became consumed, with rigs everywhere and no escape in sight.Eventually, it all caught up to him. After getting high and arrested, Vinny confessed to everything—leading to prison time filled with violence, fights, and hard lessons. But even after release, the cycle continued. Relationships, addiction, and loss collided again, including a haunting moment where his child’s mother overdosed and was brought back to life.At his lowest point, Vinny overdosed four times in a single day.But this isn’t just a story about addiction—it’s about survival and transformation.Vinny shares how finding faith and rebuilding his life gave him a way out. Today, he reflects on meeting his wife, blending their families into a household of six kids, and what it truly means to come back from the edge.This episode is intense, unfiltered, and unforgettable—a firsthand account of what it looks like to fall into the depths of heroin addiction and somehow find a way back.

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Louis takes the conversation beyond the studio and into the streets, sitting down face-to-face with people experiencing homelessness to hear the stories most of us never get to hear. In this raw and unfiltered episode, he speaks with men who are living day-to-day survival, many of them battling serious addiction while navigating life without stability, safety, or support.What quickly becomes clear is that homelessness is far more complex than most people assume. Behind every person is a story—of trauma, loss, mental health struggles, and, for many, substance use that started as a way to cope and slowly took control. These conversations shed light on the harsh reality that a large percentage of those living on the streets are caught in cycles of addiction, often with little access to the help they need.Through honest dialogue, Louis breaks down the stereotypes and humanizes a population that is often overlooked or misunderstood. These aren’t just “homeless people”—they are individuals with families, histories, regrets, and hopes. Many express a deep desire for connection, for someone to listen without judgment, and for a way out that feels possible.This episode is eye-opening, emotional, and, at times, difficult to watch—but it’s also a powerful reminder that empathy and understanding are essential. Real change doesn’t start with assumptions; it starts with conversations like these.🔥 Expect emotion. Expect truth. Expect hope.🔔 Don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more powerful stories on addiction, recovery, and resilience.Get a Grip Podcast Social Media: Find our TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, Spotify, Apple Podcasts, iHeart Radio links, a more on our Link Tree below!Get a Grip Social Media Links: ⁠https://linktr.ee/officialgetagrippodcastFor Collaboration and Business inquiries, please use the contact information below:📩 Email: [email protected]👇 Let us know your thoughts in the comments.#getagrip #redemptionstory #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #addictionrecovery #recoveryjourney #trauma #childhood #oxy #dealer #soberlife #wedorecover #childhoodtrauma #healing #inspiration #awareness #kingpin #trafficking #hustle #opioidcrisis #neardeathexperience #fyp #prison #bar #mistake #change #survivor #survival #tv #television #inspire #parole #officer #school #teacher #students #study #student #changinglives

In this deeply emotional and eye-opening episode, Louis Essig and Aaron Garnes sit down with Marrissa Hibbler to share a story that begins in what many would consider a “normal” upbringing—but quickly unravels into a journey marked by trauma, loss, addiction, and ultimately, resilience.Marrissa takes us back to her early years, opening up about her childhood and the complicated relationship she had with her father. While things may have looked typical from the outside, inside the home there were struggles that shaped her sense of self early on. As chaos crept into her family life, her mother stepped in to hold things together, but the emotional weight was already building. Marrissa reflects on pivotal moments growing up—like shaving her head and navigating the pressures of high school—offering insight into the internal battles she faced long before substances entered the picture.At just 16, Marrissa entered a relationship that would change the trajectory of her life. By 17, she was pregnant, stepping into adulthood far too soon. What followed was a series of devastating challenges: her one-year-old suffering a seizure, entering into an abusive relationship, and experiencing the heartbreak of a close friend’s overdose. What started with crack and cocaine escalated as Marrissa tried to cope with overwhelming grief and trauma—including the loss of a baby and a deeply traumatic incident at a friend’s house. Even as she attempted to regain control—becoming pregnant again and trying to get clean—life continued to hit hard. She shares the pain of experiencing physical abuse, finding the strength to leave, and facing one of the most difficult moments a parent can endure: her son being diagnosed with congenital heart disease.As her son underwent multiple surgeries, Marrissa found herself slipping deeper into addiction, eventually turning to heroin while trying to survive emotionally and physically. A Xanax blackout became a turning point, leading to an intervention from her mother and her first attempt at detox. But even then, addiction held tight—smuggling drugs into treatment and getting caught, followed by a year-long fentanyl relapse that cost her custody of her children and forced her into survival mode.This is where the story shifts.Today, Marrissa is living proof that even after the darkest chapters, change is possible. She shares where she is now, what sobriety looks like for her, and the lessons she’s learned along the way.This episode is raw, powerful, and filled with moments that will stay with you. It’s a story about how quickly life can change—but also how strong the human spirit can be when given a second chance.
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In this powerful and unfiltered episode, Louis Essig and Aaron Garnes sit down with Al Savage to unpack a life story that most people couldn’t imagine surviving—let alone coming back from.Al doesn’t hold anything back. From the streets to the system, he walks us through the chaos of a life consumed by addiction, crime, and survival at all costs. What started as substance use quickly spiraled into a relentless cycle of desperation, poor decisions, and consequences that would change his life forever. At his lowest point—strung out and disconnected from reality—Al made a decision that would define his story for years to come: shooting his own parole officer.This episode dives deep into the mindset behind that moment. What does it take for someone to reach that level of darkness? What is going through your mind when addiction completely overrides logic, morality, and fear? Al gives a rare, firsthand account of just how powerful and destructive drugs can be when they take control.But this isn’t just a story about crime—it’s about consequences, accountability, and what comes after. Al shares what life was like behind prison walls, the mental and emotional toll it took, and the long road he had to face once the chaos finally stopped. From navigating prison culture to confronting the weight of his actions, this conversation explores the reality that many never see.More importantly, this episode is about perspective and transformation. Al reflects on who he was, the pain he caused, and the process of trying to rebuild a life after everything has fallen apart. It’s raw, it’s intense, and it’s real.This is a story about how far addiction can take you—and what it takes to come back.If you’re looking for a conversation that pulls no punches and shows the true cost of living on the edge, this is one you don’t want to miss.🔥 Expect emotion. Expect truth. Expect hope.🔔 Don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more powerful stories on addiction, recovery, and resilience.Get a Grip Podcast Social Media: Find our TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, Spotify, Apple Podcasts, iHeart Radio links, a more on our Link Tree below!Get a Grip Social Media Links: ⁠https://linktr.ee/officialgetagrippodcastFor Collaboration and Business inquiries, please use the contact information below:📩 Email: [email protected]👇 Let us know your thoughts in the comments.#getagrip #redemptionstory #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #addictionrecovery #recoveryjourney #trauma #childhood #oxy #dealer #soberlife #wedorecover #childhoodtrauma #healing #inspiration #awareness #kingpin #trafficking #hustle #opioidcrisis #neardeathexperience #fyp #prison #bar #mistake #change #survivor #survival #tv #television #inspire #parole #officer #school #teacher #students #study #student #changinglives

in this powerful and unfiltered episode of Get A Grip Podcast, the team steps out of the studio and into the streets to uncover the raw, often unseen reality of addiction and homelessness. What unfolds is an eye-opening look at the lives of people many pass by every day—stories that are rarely heard, and even more rarely understood.Through honest, on-the-ground conversations, the team connects with individuals battling addiction in real time. These aren’t rehearsed interviews or polished narratives—this is real life, captured as it is. Pain, survival, resilience, and truth all collide as each person shares a glimpse into what led them here and what keeps them going.One of the most striking moments comes from an interaction with Bruce. His condition tells a story before he even speaks. The visible damage to his skin reflects the harsh reality of substances like xylazine, a powerful veterinary sedative increasingly found mixed into fentanyl. Its effects are devastating, often causing severe wounds and rapid physical deterioration. Seeing it up close puts into perspective just how dangerous and far-reaching this crisis has become.This episode doesn’t just show addiction—it humanizes it. It challenges assumptions, forces uncomfortable truths to the surface, and sheds light on a crisis happening in plain sight. These are people with names, histories, and voices that deserve to be heard.Viewer discretion is advised. This is a raw and emotional look at addiction, but it’s a conversation that needs to happen.Timestamps🔥 Expect emotion. Expect truth. Expect hope.🔔 Don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more powerful stories on addiction, recovery, and resilience.Get a Grip Podcast Social Media: Find our TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, Spotify, Apple Podcasts, iHeart Radio links, a more on our Link Tree below!Get a Grip Social Media Links: ⁠https://linktr.ee/officialgetagrippodcastFor Collaboration and Business inquiries, please use the contact information below:📩 Email: [email protected]👇 Let us know your thoughts in the comments.#getagrip #redemptionstory #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #addictionrecovery #recoveryjourney #trauma #childhood #oxy #dealer #soberlife #wedorecover #childhoodtrauma #healing #inspiration #awareness #kingpin #trafficking #hustle #opioidcrisis #neardeathexperience #fyp #prison #bar #mistake #change #survivor #survival #tv #television #inspire #parole #officer #school #teacher #students #study #student #changinglives

In this episode, Chelsea Boggs shares her raw and unfiltered story of addiction, survival, and the long road to recovery.Chelsea opens up about her childhood and how a major family shift shaped her early life. What started as partying on the weekends quickly escalated after experimenting with drugs in her teenage years, leading to the use of Percocets and eventually daily dependence. As her environment changed, so did the severity of her addiction—introducing harder substances and more dangerous situations.She talks about being in a toxic and abusive relationship, experiencing homelessness after a police raid, and becoming deeply involved in the drug scene. Chelsea recounts selling to a confidential informant, her first experience using f3ntanyl, and how quickly it took hold of her life.From waking up in withdrawal, wrecking cars while nodding off, and risking everything just to avoid being sick, to facing legal consequences—including drug test tampering charges and court-ordered supervision—her story highlights the brutal reality of addiction.This episode also touches on some of the darkest and most chaotic moments, including working while under the influence, repeated close calls with law enforcement, and the physical and mental toll of fentanyl dependence.But through it all, Chelsea’s story doesn’t end there. She shares how she finally began her journey into recovery and what it took to start turning her life around.This is a powerful, eye-opening conversation about addiction, consequences, and hope.If you or someone you know is struggling, this episode may resonate more than you expect.

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In this powerful and deeply moving episode, Louis Essig and Aaron Garnes sit down with Nicole Stull to share a story of survival, pain, and ultimately redemption.Nicole opens up about a childhood marked by unimaginable trauma. Growing up in a home where she was abused by her older brothers in ways no child should ever experience, Nicole spent years carrying the weight of that pain in silence. The emotional scars followed her into adulthood, shaping how she saw herself and the world around her.Like many who endure deep trauma, Nicole eventually turned to alcohol as a way to numb the memories and escape the overwhelming emotions that haunted her. What started as a way to cope quickly spiraled into a life consumed by alcoholism. For years she battled the bottle, trying to outrun the past while the consequences of her drinking continued to pile up.But Nicole’s story doesn’t end there.Through the darkness, she eventually reached a breaking point where the cost of continuing down that path became too great. Facing the consequences of her addiction forced Nicole to confront the pain she had spent years trying to bury. With courage and determination, she began the difficult journey toward healing and sobriety.Today, Nicole is living proof that even the deepest wounds can heal. She is sober, safe, and building a life filled with peace, strength, and purpose. Her story is one of resilience and hope—showing that no matter how painful the past may be, a new life is always possible.This episode is raw, honest, and inspiring for anyone who has faced trauma, addiction, or feels trapped by their past. Nicole’s courage to speak out reminds us that healing begins when the truth is finally brought into the light.Tune in to hear Nicole’s incredible journey from survival to freedom.

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In this episode, Emma and Rihanna from The Ohio State University sit down with Louis Essig to hear the powerful story of how a young man from an upper-class community ended up living on the streets in the grip of addiction—and how he fought his way back.Louis grew up in what most would consider a normal, stable environment, but everything began to change after his first drink at 16. What started as typical teenage experimentation quickly spiraled into a decade of substance abuse. From alcohol to whatever drugs he could get his hands on, Louis spent the next ten years trapped in addiction. As his life unraveled, he cycled through jail stays, homelessness, and the constant chaos that comes with life on the streets.Eventually, the justice system intervened and Louis was placed in a drug court program. Even then, the battle wasn’t over—after one more relapse, something finally clicked. At 26 years old, in 2016, Louis made the decision that would change everything and committed to sobriety.Since then, Louis has rebuilt his life in remarkable ways. In a full-circle moment, he returned to the very correctional facility where he had once been incarcerated—this time as an employee. He would go on to become the first former inmate ever to rise into a leadership position there, breaking barriers and proving that real transformation is possible.Today, Louis travels across Ohio speaking in schools, jails, and recovery communities, sharing his story to inspire others who may feel trapped by addiction. His message is simple but powerful: no matter how far someone falls, redemption and purpose are still possible.This episode is an honest conversation about addiction, consequences, redemption, and what it truly takes to turn a life around.
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In this powerful episode, Louis Essig and Aaron Garnes sit down with Dr. Nicole Labor to hear a story that challenges everything people think they know about addiction, recovery, and redemption.Nicole grew up in a strict household where drugs were something to fear and avoid. But like many stories of addiction, the path didn’t begin where anyone expected. What started with heavy drinking as a teenager eventually led her into the counterculture world of the Grateful Dead scene, where she became a devoted “Dead Head” and began experimenting more deeply with substances.Despite her growing substance use, Nicole pursued an ambitious path into medicine. While studying and preparing for a career as a physician, her drug use escalated—eventually leading to an addiction to powerful opiates. In a shocking turn, Nicole entered medical school already struggling with addiction. What began with prescription pills quickly progressed to Oxy 160s and ultimately to heroin. At one point, she was traveling to New Jersey to cop heroin while simultaneously trying to maintain the life of a future doctor.In one of the most gripping parts of the conversation, Nicole opens up about injecting heroin while attending medical school and somehow still managing to graduate. She candidly describes the moment she admitted to her school that she was addicted, the painful cycle of detox and relapse, and the crushing weight of living a double life as a doctor battling heroin addiction.But Nicole’s story doesn’t end there.After hitting bottom, she eventually found recovery—and today she has 17 years of documented sobriety. Now a physician specializing in addiction medicine, she dedicates her life to helping others escape the same disease that nearly destroyed her.Nicole also shares how her journey brought her to Akron, Ohio—the birthplace of Alcoholics Anonymous—and how personal tragedy, including the loss of her husband after his struggles with addiction and incarceration, further shaped her mission.In this deeply honest conversation, Dr. Labor explains why addiction is truly a disease, how it works in the brain, and why people struggling with it deserve treatment, compassion, and understanding rather than shame.This is the story of a woman who shot heroin in medical school and still became a doctor—and who now uses that experience to save lives.A raw, eye-opening conversation about addiction, resilience, and the possibility of recovery no matter how far someone has fallen.

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