Getting Your Sh*t Together

What's in this episode?
Today, I sit down with Jocellyn Harvey, where we discuss her new book "Recovering the Home," and how her sobriety journey has impacted her career as a writer.  

In this episode we talk about:

• How recovery looks different for everybody AND THAT'S OKAY!
• How "Recovering the Home" came to be
• How sobriety typically goes hand in hand with coming to grips with your mental health and family history 

As a special gift, Jocellyn has provided listeners to the opportunity to purchase her newest mini-guide on "Recovering the Home" at 50% off using the code: CYNTHIALISTENERS50 at her site https://www.recoveringthehome.com

Through her site, you will also find a mini-guide for "Recovering the Holidays." Check it out, it's that time of year and no matter where you are, there is always something that can be gleaned from dealing with folks during this special season.

More about Jocellyn!
After several years of near-daily drinking in her early to mid-20s, Jocellyn rolled over in bed one morning in January of 2016, cried, and said goodbye to champagne, wine, and gin. Since then, Jocellyn has lived a sober life through 12-Step programs, the Hip Sobriety School, therapy, and other spiritual work. And since she's a lifelong writer, Jocellyn loves writing the successes and trials of her recovery, whether it's about sober travel, astrology, health issues, compassion, and change. You can also find her work on The Temper and read her newest piece Recovering the Home, which is a decluttering eBook aimed at sober women (www.recoveringthehome.com)

• https://www.recoveringthehome.com/
• https://tinyletter.com/Sharingmysobriety
• @sharingmysobriety - not actively posting, but you can still browse the old posts

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What's in this episode?
I celebrated ten months of sobriety on November 1st. I decided to do a little recap on what I've learned so far. These are my key takeaways and while this is about my recovery from the booze. You can really apply most of these to anything involving a major life shift or change that you're going through. Hopefully, some of these will give you some food for thought as you start to reexamine your life since we're approaching the end of this year. Can't believe it!

1. Stopping the drink was the easy part
2. Pink cloud of sobriety is a legit thing
3. Feeling come back when you least expect it
4. You will need support
5. Triggers can hit you at anytime and anywhere! 
6. Honesty is HUGE and has been a lifesaver
7. Boundaries are awesome BUT not everyone will dig them
8. You may lose people (OR, they may lose you)
9. FOMO (it's all in your head but damn it does suck)
10. Time flies! 

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What's in this episode?
Life Recovery, what does that mean and how does sobriety play into it? This the second part of the interview that I had with Kiola Raines and we dive more into how the tools learned in sobriety can shape your life for the better. AND even if you don't have any issues with addiction but want to rework your life, these tools can still benefit you. 

In this episode we talk about:

• How sobriety shaped how we view our lives and the key steps Kiola abides by when it comes to changing your life for the better 
• Accountability! And how Kiola uses it to keep her clients engaged over the interwebz!

As a special gift, Kiola has provided listeners to the opportunity to join her challenge for December, click this link right here and get all up in it. I will be in there too, trying to set myself to end this year with a bang and keep that momentum going for 2020. Also, if you're interested in the rest of her services, check out her website!

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What's in this episode?
The lovely Kiola Raines joins the podcast to talk about health, wellness and recovery! Fun fact: we're sober sisters (been in recovery since January 1, 2019) and we're not to far in age! She has a young spirit too and I love her vibe so I really enjoyed the conversation. 

In this episode we talk about:

• What it was like for Kiola to come clean about her recovery while being in the coaching and health/wellness field 
• How she views recovery versus sobriety (they are not one and the same)

This is part one of a two part interview series. So tune in next week to hear the rest where we will discuss the benefits of recovery and what Kiola is up to this month!

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What's in this episode?
I grew up in a household that leaned more towards the conservative side. I never felt like I fit in and I seemed different not just in my family but just in general. So, in order to go undetected, I learned to project what I thought people wanted. Which worked, for a while but one of two things usually happened:

• I slipped up one day and I got reamed for it
• I grew resentful and acted out in some type of destructive manner

My need to act out has definitely ramped up since getting sober. A joke in AA is that quitting drinking is the easy part, I used to roll my eyes at that BUT NOW -- honey, that truly was the easiest part of all of it (and the most harmful). In sobriety, I see my triggers all the more clearly and now that I don't have my numero uno vice booze to knock me out of my head/body...my mind still goes through hoops in order to scratch that damn itch. 

Let's chat about it, shall we?

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What's in this episode?
Time to get all into mess. I know, as adults, people try to shy away or hide from their mess because it's not what put together grown folks do. Well, screw all of that. We all have some type of mess in our lives, whether it's financial, career, family, friends, relationships -- and that's okay! We shouldn't hide from it or pretend like it's not there because that's not how it works (unfortunately). So what do you do? Celebrate it? Okay. Cry over it? Why, not? 

Personally, I say own that shit. Learn from it and use it to keep going, creating, moving forward. But don't hide or lock it away like it's nothing. That won't benefit you.

This episode was inspired by the lovely Jennifer Baumgardner and the post I reference in the show is here! Check her out!

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What's in this episode?
In today's episode, we deep dumpster dive right into scarcity mindset. What is it? Who has it? How do we get over ourselves enough to reframe things with a more abundant POV.

Scarcity means something is in low supply or is lacking. If you think about it, how many times have you uttered..."there is no good men/women, etc out there because I'm old, too hairy, too accomplished..." so let's settle for what I have, although I'm not happy. Or I can't go on that trip, that's what rich people do and I will never be reach. Whether we are aware we're doing it, scarcity still leads us to playing it "safe" within our comfort zones and never growing. I know that has been the case for me (and still is at times...if I"m to be honest). Let's discuss allllll of this though and see how we can start to change our thinking. 

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What's in this episode?
For years, I have always felt outside of myself. I know, it's odd thing to say. I think that's why my weight fluctuated a bit without me even realizing it. Especially if something traumatic happened to me. I never processed what I went through, it was almost like I was floating outside of my body but it would show up subconsciously in my eating, my drinking, and even with my sexual impulses. But thankfully, I am starting to really work it out and I have fallen back into my love of dance and moving my body. Which has been lovely and I am enjoying exploring my sensuality on my terms in a loving and safe place. 

It wasn't something I expected. I mean, I'm clumsy...me...trying to drop it in stilettos or slink across the floor? But hey, friends -- that's where I am and I'm embracing it.

However, I want to know about you. Are you struggling with this? Or are you good with your mind/body combo? If so, what works for you? Any tips? What has been a huge takeaway for you? I'd love to hear and may share on the show -- if you're cool with it. 

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What's in this episode?
Dating...and being sober on top of that, what the eff? Amirite? But you know, let's talk about it anyway. 

So...?
Yeah, as someone who is somewhat awkward (it's endearing) and not a fan of small talk, dating for me is a mixed bag. Another reason why I frequently got down with some liquid courage either before or during the date. Now, it's a whole new world, baby with a lot to think about unless I just want to keep playing out the same type of patterns that I'm used to. Let's dive in together, shall we? 

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What's in this episode?
I got a listener question. Shout out to @planningwanderlust on Instagram! Check her stuff out if you are into planning and leveling up in this life. 

So...what was the question bih?
Drinking! More importantly, will I ever drink again. Pretty straight to the point but still gave me a lot to think about. 

So, what else?
Gotta listen and find out. I'm trying to make this into a regular segment, so if you have any questions around: addiction, recovery, being black and sober, early sobriety, leveling, life sh*t, anything really -- let a girl know and I'd love to talk about it.  

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