giving (un)bothered

giving (un)bothered

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giving (un)bothered episodes

  • lesbian s*x for dummies: labels in the bedroom (with Katie from Labeless)

    We sit down with Katie, founder of queer-owned s*x toy company Labeless, to unpack labels in the bedroom: top, bottom, pillow princess, and everything in between. Plus, our first experiences with women and the awkward truth about visiting a s*x shop for the first time.


    Find us on:

    • Instagram: @giving.unbothered
    • Tiktok: @giving.unbothered
    • Youtube: @givingunbothered


    Find Labeless on:

    • Instagram: @labelessuk
    • Tiktok: @labelessuk


    queer podcast, lgbtq podcast, lesbian stories, queer intimacy, queer dating

    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    1 hr 2 min
  • truth or drink: sapphic age gaps & getting caught having s*x

    We’re back with another Truth or Drink, and things got way too real. From sapphic fantasies to virginity stories we probably shouldn’t have shared, this one’s pure chaos in the best way. Grab a drink and dive into the mess of queer dating, lesbian love, and our very own red flag behaviour 🌶️


    Find us on: 

    • Instagram: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠
    • Tiktok: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠
    • Youtube: ⁠@givingunbothered⁠


    #lgbtq #lgbt #lgbtpodcast #podcasts #relationships #intimacy #datingpodcast #dating #datingandrelationships #wlw #lesbianpodcast #sapphic


    LGBTQ podcast, queer podcast, dating podcast, lesbian podcast, WLW podcast, queer dating advice, WLW relationship advice, signs a woman is interested in you romantically, why do i keep questioning my sexuality, WLW relationships, queer dating, queer dating mistakes, WLW relationship advice, I kissed a girl, IKAG, jojo siwa, gillian anderson, scream, dating red flags, intimacy, age gap relationships 



    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    37 min
  • gold star lesbians, baby gays & heartbreak advice

    We’re answering your questions about gold star lesbians, baby gays, and queer heartbreak. Real listener confessions, breakup advice, and chaotic first-date stories: unfiltered and very gay. 🌈💔


    Find us on: 

    • Instagram: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠
    • Tiktok: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠
    • Youtube: ⁠@givingunbothered⁠

    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    43 min
  • lesbian hot takes : why do lesbians sleep with their friends?

    We’re back, season 2 of giving (un)bothered is here! 🎉 And we’re starting off strong with lesbian hot takes: all the unfiltered, spicy opinions you’ve been thinking (but maybe not saying out loud).

    From controversial takes on queer dating to the unspoken truths about lesbian friendships and community dynamics, we’re laying it all on the table.


    💌 Don’t forget to subscribe and drop your hottest take in the comments 


    Find us on: 

    • Instagram: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠
    • Tiktok: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠
    • Youtube: ⁠@givingunbothered⁠


    #lgbtq #lgbt #lgbtpodcast #podcasts #relationships #intimacy #datingpodcast #dating #datingandrelationships

    LGBTQ podcast, queer podcast, dating podcast, lesbian podcast, WLW podcast, queer dating advice, WLW relationship advice, signs a woman is interested in you romantically, why do i keep questioning my sexuality, WLW relationships, queer dating, queer dating mistakes, lesbian situationships, lesbian dating mistakes, lesbian love signals, WLW relationship advice, signs a woman is interested in you romantically


    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    26 min
  • sapphic red flags : how to get over your first crush

    Your first lesbian crush? Been there. Obsessed? Absolutely. Over it? …Eventually. In this episode, we dive deep into the sapphic red flags you should run from (👀), the ones we controversially find kinda hot (don’t judge us), and the emotional chaos of getting over your first lesbian crush. 


    From the seductive mystery of a girl who lovebombs just enough to keep you hooked, to the heartbreak of someone who wants girlfriend treatment but won’t commit — we’ve seen it all. We’re unpacking the most common red flags in queer dating, like hot-and-cold texting, exes who never fully exit the chat, and intense jealousy disguised as passion. And yes, we also admit the red flags that, controversially, we still find kind of hot (hello, “healthy” possessiveness 👀).


    Whether you’re spiraling over a situationship, confused by your crush’s mixed signals, or trying to heal after your first real queer heartbreak, this episode is your survival guide to lesbian relationships, emotional growth, and choosing peace over chaos (eventually).


    Find us on: 

    • Instagram: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠
    • Tiktok: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠
    • Youtube: ⁠@givingunbothered⁠


    #lgbtq #lgbt #lgbtpodcast #podcasts #relationships #intimacy #datingpodcast #dating #datingandrelationships



    LGBTQ podcast, queer podcast, dating podcast, lesbian podcast, WLW podcast, queer dating advice, WLW relationship advice, signs a woman is interested in you romantically, why do i keep questioning my sexuality, WLW relationships, queer dating, sapphic relationships, sapphic intimacy, WLW dating advice, sapphic stories, dating stories, how to get over your crush

    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    45 min
  • let’s get naked: sexting, strapping & bedroom icks

    In this unfiltered and hilarious episode, we’re getting real about what happens behind closed doors. From sexting fails to our biggest bedroom icks, nothing is off-limits. We dive into the juicy debate: fingering, scissoring or strapping – which one hits the spot? 👀 Plus, we’re talking threesomes, swinging, and what turns us on vs. what sends us running.


    Whether you're queer, curious, or just here for the chaotic honesty, this episode is your go-to for sex-positive, queer-centered conversations.


    Find us on: 

    • Instagram: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠
    • Tiktok: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠
    • Youtube: ⁠@givingunbothered⁠


    #lgbtq #lgbt #lgbtpodcast #podcasts #relationships #intimacy #datingpodcast #dating #datingandrelationships


    LGBTQ podcast, queer podcast, dating podcast, lesbian podcast, WLW podcast, queer dating advice, WLW relationship advice, signs a woman is interested in you romantically, why do i keep questioning my sexuality, WLW relationships, queer dating, sapphic relationships, sapphic intimacy, WLW dating advice, sapphic stories, dating stories

    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    26 min
  • navigating long distance relationships (with Kelsey & Becky)

    In this episode, we dive deep into the highs and lows of long-distance relationships. We’re joined by Kelsey and Becky, a couple who fell in love 5,000 miles apart after matching on Hinge — and yes, there was a ghosting plot twist 👀

    From navigating a transatlantic relationship (UK to LA) to their first in-person meeting, we unpack how they’re making long-distance love work. We talk conflict resolution, healthy communication in long-distance relationships, building trust across time zones, and the realities no one warns you about.

    Whether you're in a long-distance relationship, thinking about starting one, or just love a good modern-day love story, this episode is full of honest insights, relationship advice, and a real look at what it takes to stay connected when you're worlds apart.


    Find Kelsey & Becky on: 

    • Instagram: ⁠@kelseyandbecky
    • Tiktok: ⁠@kelseyandbecky
    • Youtube: ⁠@kelseyandbecky


    Find us on: 

    • Instagram: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠
    • Tiktok: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠
    • Youtube: ⁠@givingunbothered⁠


    #lgbtq #lgbt #lgbtpodcast #podcasts #relationships #intimacy #datingpodcast #dating #datingandrelationships


    LGBTQ podcast, queer podcast, dating podcast, lesbian podcast, WLW podcast, queer dating advice, WLW relationship advice, signs a woman is interested in you romantically, why do i keep questioning my sexuality, WLW relationships, queer dating, sapphic relationships, sapphic intimacy, WLW dating advice, sapphic stories, dating stories, jojo siwa, chappell roan 

    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    1 hr 22 min
  • we got ghosted by the same girl?! WLW dating horror stories (with Amy Pozzilli)

    This week, we're joined by our friend Amy to talk all things heartbreak, healing, and sapphic dating chaos. Amy shares how she rebuilt her confidence, stepped back into dating, and how it felt getting ghosted by the same girl as co-host Alana 👀💔 We unpack red flags, WLW dating patterns, navigating trust after betrayal, and what healing really looks like.

    We also dive into spiritual healing after a breakup and the surprising ways energy work, intuition, and astrology can support healing.

    Whether you've been ghosted, cheated on, or you're trying to date again after heartbreak—this one's for you.


    Find us on: 

    • Instagram: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠
    • Tiktok: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠
    • Youtube: ⁠@givingunbothered⁠


    #lgbtq #lgbt #lgbtpodcast #podcasts #relationships #intimacy #datingpodcast #dating #datingandrelationships


    LGBTQ podcast, queer podcast, dating podcast, lesbian podcast, WLW podcast, queer dating advice, WLW relationship advice, signs a woman is interested in you romantically, why do i keep questioning my sexuality, WLW relationships, queer dating, sapphic relationships, sapphic intimacy, WLW dating advice, psychic reading

    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    59 min
  • building a happy queer marriage (with Megan Elliott-Hewson)

    In this episode, we sit down with queer writer, artist, and pottery studio owner Megan Elliott-Hewson to dive into the beauty and complexity of queer marriage, building a life in creative partnership, and the unfiltered truth about writing queer fiction.


    👉 We talk:

    💍 The honest reality of queer marriage

    🖋️ Writing queer novels in a straight-centered industry

    🫖 Creating safe, soft spaces through queer pottery classes

    💬 Finding love, art, and community as a queer woman



    Find Megan Elliott-Hewson on: 

    • Instagram: @meganelliotthewson
    • Clay wild studio Instagram: @claywildstudio


    Find us on: 

    • Instagram: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠
    • Tiktok: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠
    • Youtube: ⁠@givingunbothered⁠


    #lgbtq #lgbt #lgbtpodcast #podcasts #relationships #intimacy #datingpodcast #dating #datingandrelationships #queermarriage



    LGBTQ podcast, queer podcast, dating podcast, lesbian podcast, WLW podcast, queer dating advice, WLW relationship advice, signs a woman is interested in you romantically, why do i keep questioning my sexuality, WLW relationships, queer dating, sapphic relationships, sapphic intimacy, WLW dating advice

    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    38 min
  • Hinge's love expert Moe Ari Brown on queer dating trends, label fatigue & identity pressure

    In this episode, we’re joined by Moe Ari Brown (they / him) —Hinge’s Love & Connection Expert and a licensed therapist—to dive deep into the complexities of queer dating in 2025.

    We talk about everything from label fatigue to performance pressure on dating apps, and what Hinge has learned about how LGBTQ+ people swipe, flirt, and connect differently than straight users.

    Moe shares insights on:

    • How queer users are moving away from traditional identity labels
    • What it means to perform queerness on apps, often without realising it
    • Why the pressure to be “dateable” can lead to self-erasure
    • What underrated green flags to look for in queer dating
    • How non-binary and gender-expansive users navigate a still-binary app culture


    We also ask Moe for practical advice on building a more authentic dating profile, understanding identity ambiguity, and flirting past stereotypes like “soft masc” and “femme top.”


    Read Hinge’s 2025 LGBTQIA+ D.A.T.E report (love beyonds labels): https://hinge.co/newsroom/2025-LGBTQ-Report


    Find Moe Ari Brown on: 

    • Instagram: @loveoutproud
    • Tiktok: @loveoutproud



    Find us on: 

    • Instagram: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠
    • Tiktok: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠
    • Youtube: ⁠@givingunbothered⁠


    #lgbtq #lgbt #lgbtpodcast #podcasts #relationships #intimacy #datingpodcast #dating #datingandrelationships



    LGBTQ podcast, queer podcast, dating podcast, lesbian podcast, WLW podcast, queer dating advice, WLW relationship advice, signs a woman is interested in you romantically, why do i keep questioning my sexuality, WLW relationships, queer dating, sapphic relationships, sapphic intimacy, WLW dating advice, Hinge, hinge green flag, hinge red flag, label fatigue, identity pressure

    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    1 hr 8 min

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Two (un)bothered best friends navigating LGBTQ+ dating, friendships, and adulting in your 20s. Tune in for candid, unfiltered conversations on dating disasters, relationship advice, the ups and downs…

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