Going (Not Too) Deep

Happy Tuesday, Freaky Friends!

We have another body episode in our intimacy series, and this one is all about the mechanics of sex. 

• Get This Odd My Chest - Ash's 'Spiritual Lesson Plan' has been asking her, aren't you tired?
• Topic of the Day - Going Inside Intimacy
  • Trece shares more of her sex story and her journey as one of the 70% of women who have difficulty climaxing from penetration alone.
  • Before we start, we have to remind you, sis - PLEASURE IS YOUR BIRTHRIGHT! We're talking about why pleasure is important and what it takes to enjoy it even more entering the bedroom.
  • We give practical tips on how to get the most pleasure sexually. (Hint: Tilt & Squeeze)
  • Our Issa Moment - We discuss giving voice to sex moments that are uncomfortable.
  • What do you do when sex is painful?
  • We talk about the biggest trick in mastering sex mechanics: to s unlearning previous mechanics and mindsets
  • What do you do when sex mechanics with your spouse is different than with past sex partners? Trece and Ash share their experiences.
  • Who's The biggest blocker and hater of our sex life? It's the enemy, sis.
• Talk Dirty To Me - One of our Freaky Friends wants to know, "Let's say that there is a Godly man, but you're not attracted to him physically. What do you do?" Trece and Ash have some thoughts
• Throw It Back - 3 Things: Self advocating, self awareness, and Recognizing your real opposition.

What are some topics you want to hear the Going(not too)Deep Podcast discuss? Let us know through email at [email protected] or on IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast

One of our freaky friends wants to know,   

"Has your openness on the podcast affected our marriage?"    

Check out our answers, and also get a quick preview into next week's topic.   

Happy Tuesday, Freaky Friends! 
 

We're deep into the Intimacy Series (no pun intended) and this week we're still giving love to our bodies. What better way to love to love your body than to show it the exercise it craves!  

This week, we brought on Elena - founder of Bless the Body. Bless the Body is a host of workouts and communities designed to edify women from the inside out. Bless the Body is also home to Elena's 'The Millennial Mompreneur' community and podcast consisting of a community of women committed to their growth as CEO’s of their bodies, babies, and businesses. 

So, let's get into it: 

• Get This Off My Chest - Shortly after hearing about the senseless murder of Ahmaud Arbery, we have a mental health check in and remind ourselves that it's not only ok to not be ok, but it's also ok to try to be ok in order to make it through another day. 
• Topic of the Day - Elena talks Fitness, Confidence & Sex Drive 
  • Elena shares her Sex Story! 
  • We Share the Key to Sustainable Exercise & Discuss the Importance of Finding Something that Speaks to Your Soul 
  • Elena gives us the Real Deal on Building You Dream Body & Waist Trainers 
  • Meanwhile, we Discovered the Most Hidden Gem of Exercise - Kegels 
  • How working out can be spiritual 
  • We get Elena's take on Maintaining Confidence as Discussed in her Podcast Episode "From Hot Girl to Wifey: 3 Ways to Own your Evolution" 
  • And then somehow, we end up on a 10 minute rant about the clitoris - thank You again God! 
  • This Week's Challenge: Do your Kegels and Find an Exercise you enjoy 
• Throw It Back - Summed up simply? Own who you are; Make Exercise a Lifestyle; and Kegel, sis. Kegel! 

What's your favorite form of fitness? 

Let us know by engaging with us on IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast or by email at [email protected] 

Happy Tuesday Freaky Friends! 

We're continuing our Intimacy Series for a second week still focusing on the body. This time, we're talking about how to be more confident and being authentic. By the end, you're guaranteed to be Feeling Yourself for sure!  So, let's get into it: 

• Get This Off My Chest - We're talking about embracing who you are and your authentic self as believers, women, and people.  
• Topic of the Day - All About Confidence 
  • FF's, how'd y'all do on last week's challenge? Let's have an accountability moment. 
  • What's the first steps to confidence? Not Criticizing. Then, Contentment. 
  • We discuss the importance of Loving Yourself before you can be anything to anyone else. 
  • How can Mindfulness impact Confidence? 
  • Exploring who we really are and evolving - these are available through Christ's consistency. 
  • The Keys to Body & Overall Confidence 
  • This Week's Challenge: Finding your strong voice & Advocating for yourself 
• Talk Dirty to Me - One of our freaky friends wanted some oral sex tips. You may want to put the kids in another room for this one. It gets raw... 
• Throw It Back - We threw a lot back but it  boils down to hype yourself up in the mirror like Issa and girls love Beyonce. Oh, and give yourself grace** 

What tips do you have on confidence? 

Let us know on IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast or email at [email protected] 

Happy Tuesday, Freak Friends!

We're back with a fire new series called The Intimacy Series!

Before you can embrace your sexuality, you have to feel good about your whole self. That's true intimacy and it starts with you! Typically, a series like this starts from the inside out, but since it's sex we're talking about, we're going from the outside in!

This episode is all about the body and the feelings we as women have towards our bodies. 

Let's get into it:

• Get This Off My Chest - What in the 2020 Pandemic?! Is quarantine time really coming to an end already, y'all? It's too much!  
• Topic of the Day - Body Image - Trece and Ash get REAL real and are vulnerable like never before. The ladies discuss:
  • Their body stories -  from weight management, to colorism, to hair type envy, to body hair, to post baby bodies, and everything in between
  • How becoming girl moms forced them to question their own subconscious biases 
  • Creating a better, more inclusive definition of beauty for their daughters and other generations
  • Embracing the beauty of who we really are in a world that mostly pushes only one standard of beauty
  • The importance of loving and showing gratitude to your body
• Throw It Back - We're challenging our freaky friends  to do 2 things this week: express daily gratitude to your body and just ask for what you want. It's bound to be a good week!

Engage with us!

What's your body story?  Are you down for the challenge this week? Let us know  through IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast or email at [email protected].

Happy Tuesday, Freaky Friends! 
 

We have such a great episode today. Loyal, freaky friend of the podcast, Evie Hampton, joined us to share her story, " Sex (Almost) Ruined My Marriage." 

Evie is an entrepreneur/co-owner of Pretty Tast-E Bakery and Catering, LLC with her husband Devon, an author, a wife of 10 years, and a mother to 1 son and 2 bonus daughters.  She hopes that by sharing stories of her life, she can help to inspire others and let people know that with God you can make it through no matter what situations life brings. 

Let's get into it: 

• Get This Off My Chest - First off, can we retire from being moms and be dads, because.... life.
• Topic of the Day - Sex Almost Ruined My Marriage
  • Evie shares her sex story and how sex complicated things in her marriage: from guilt and shame to a sexless marriage  for 2 years to rebuilding and recovering after infidelity
  • We discuss:
    • Getting over sexual guilt and shame in marriage
    • An affair's impact on a marriage, the decision to stay or leave, and how to start over
    • The road to recovery in marriage - Rebuilding trust and how to practice forgiveness
    • Withholding sex as a punishment
    • Contract v. Covenant - Renewing your mind for marriage
• Talk Dirty to Me - One of our freaky friends want to know.... How has quarantine affected our sex lives?
• Throw It Back  - Trust God, the Word and your spouse; and sex always helps

You can find Evie's Book Blessings to Lessons: Reflections of a church girl on Amazon. 

Has sex complicated things in your marriage?  Engage with us on IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast or email us at [email protected] to let us know! 

Happy Tuesday, Freaky Friends! 

We've had a lot of amazing guests lately, but this week Trece and Ash are kickin it solo to bring a lighthearted, but low key inspirational episode about nothing. 

Check the breakdown: 

• Get This Off My Chest - First off, we have an announcement NEW NAME ALERT!  'cause truth is we're tired of the sex spam
• Topic of the Day - It's an episode about nothing... but it being everything we need right now. Topic highlights:
  • Consistency
  • Celebrating Ourselves
  • Showing Up & Betting on Yourself
  • Preparation Time Never Being Time Lost
  • Importance of Baby Steps
  • Glow Up v. Grind
  • And, finally... We celebrate our first 10 episodes/1000 downloads by sharing our favorite episodes, favorite feedback, and what we've gotten from the podcast
• Talk Dirty to Me - One of our freaky friends want to know... "When you have overnight guests, do you have to have silent sex or do they just hear what they hear? What about when you're the guest?"
• Throw It Back - It comes down to showing up for yourself - in and out of the bedroom

What was your favorite episode so far? How do you show up for yourself?

Engage with us on IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast or email us at [email protected]

Happy Tuesday, Freaky Friends! 

You know we're all about women empowerment on this podcast.... so, we HAD to talk about submission - in and out of the bedroom.  

We got a special guest to help us - Prayer Plug Founder and CEO, Jamika Carter! Jamika keeps it 100 as she shares her sex story and how her journey through submission as a wife and mother of 2 under 2 taught her how to ride for her husband - in these streets and in the sheets. 

Here's the breakdown: 

• Get This Off My Chest - Is birth control stopping God's plan or is that too deep?
• Topic of the Day - Submission is not a cuss word, but we got questions that need answers...
  • Where did Submission come from?
  • What does it look like in your marriage?
  • Does submission leave you without a "voice"?
  • Can submission really benefit your sex life?
  • What about submitting sexually? Do you have to give it to him every time when he wants it ALL the time?
  • Jamika, what's a "bussit" prayer and how do you pray it?
• Talk Dirty to Me - How do you deal with an insecure partner?
• Throw It Back - Alexa, play Floetry, cause "All you gotta do is say yesssss...."

What does submission look like to you?  

Let us know by engaging with us on IG: @goingnottoodeeppodcast or through email at [email protected]

 Happy Tuesday, Freaky Friends! 

We got another WTDW episode for your quarantined listening pleasure. What to Do When: He Gets You Pregnant... and it's lit! 

Basically, a physical manifestation of struggle with sex still means no shame in Christ.  

Let's get into it: 

• Get This Off My Chest - Spreading some light -hearted positivity  in the midst of all this chaos 
• Topic of the Day - What to Do When...He Got You Pregnant 
  • We got a special guest to help us with this one. Meet Laisha - Mother, Wife, and CEO of Blessed Women United! 
  • Laisha  shares her sex story and how getting pregnant as a single woman in ministry school pushed her further into her purpose.  
  • Now married and CEO of a 501(c)(3) nonprofit, Laisha also gives good advice in co-parenting and blended families. 
  • Basically, a pregnancy may be unplanned to you, but it's no surprise to God.  
• Talk Dirty to Me - No Dirty Talk this week  
• Throw It Back - A slow roll through our key takeaways  

Did you have an unexpected pregnancy? Let us know how you handled it! Reach out to us on IG: @goingnottoodeeppodcast or through email at [email protected]

Happy Tuesday, Freaky Friends! 

Our What to Do When Series continues with the problem we all have dealt with at some point... you're single and horny.  

And we know what you're thinking... Trece and Ash aren't there.  

That's why we brought in someone who is... Demy - a freaky friend of the podcast. She's a Houston Baptist University student who embraces her sexuality in her singleness... while still managing to remain celibate for the last 3 years!

It's a lot of honest tips here, and we keep it real. Let's get into it: 

• Get This Off My Chest - 'Rona got us on grown up punishment y'all...And it's ghetto here... How y'all making it?  It's ok. We feel like this downtime is setting us up for a come up.
• Topic of the Day - What to Do When... You're Single and Horny
  • Demy shares her sex story about how she went from using sex as a go-to to remaining abstinent for 3 years and gives advice on how to stop having/not have sex.
• Talk Dirty to Me - Is it wrong to watch porn in your marriage for tips/tricks?
• Throw It Back - We throw it back a bit slow cause these quarantine squats got our legs sore.

Are you single and horny? 

How do you handle it? Message us and let us know on IG: @goingnottoodeeppodcast or through email at [email protected]