In her work as a clinical therapist, Jasmonae Joyriel helps both individuals and couples process the shame and anxiety they carry when it comes to sex and eroticism. Jasmonae joins Claire to discuss how people can unpack their shame around sex and how partners can build trust and communication. Jasmonae also shares advice on how parents can talk to children about their bodies and consent.

When we recorded this interview, Dr. Joyriel went by a different name, so you'll hear Claire use that name in the audio.

Resources from the show

• Learn more about Jasmonae's work on her website

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Were your parents able to teach you every life lesson perfectly when you were a kid? Claire gives you some tips on how to make up for what you didn’t get when you were young by reparenting yourself now. Plus, she answers a question from a listener who is concerned her issues with mental health will negatively affect her children.

Check out these books Claire recommends about reparenting yourself:

• Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson
• Mothers Who Can’t Love by Susan Forward and Donna Frazier Glynn
• Mother Hunger by Kelly McDaniel
• Healing Your Lost Inner Child by Robert Jackman

Do you have something you want Claire’s help with? Send her a question to be featured on an upcoming episode by emailing us at [email protected] or submitting one at www.bit.ly/newdayask.

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Have you heard of breathwork? Claire gives you some tips on how to get into this interactive meditation technique that aims to center you, move emotions through your body, and relax the parasympathetic nervous system. Plus, she answers a question from a listener who is navigating the healthcare system and wants to know how to be a better patient.

Check out Claire’s recommendations for getting into breathwork: 

• Read Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art by James Nestor
• Follow Jay Bradley on Instagram @breatheonitwithjay 
• Check out Erin Telford’s website
• Learn more about Black Girls Breathing

Do you have something you want Claire’s help with? Send her a question to be featured on an upcoming episode by emailing us at [email protected] or submitting one at www.bit.ly/newdayask.

Want to connect? Join the New Day Facebook Group!  https://www.facebook.com/groups/newdaypod

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Marc Brackett, a research psychologist and Yale University professor, has spent years studying how shame and trauma impact our bodies. Marc joins Claire to talk about how healing from his own distressing childhood experiences inspired his work, which has illuminated key methods on how people can recover from trauma. 

Resources from the show

• Read Permission to Feel by Marc Brackett

Do you have something you want Claire’s help with? Send her a question to be featured on an upcoming episode by emailing us at [email protected] or submitting one at www.bit.ly/newdayask.

Want to connect? Join the New Day Facebook Group!  https://www.facebook.com/groups/newdaypod

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Do you take time to notice, appreciate, and reflect on the good things happening in your life? Claire gives you some tips on how to cultivate more gratitude every day. Plus, she answers a question from a listener who wants advice on how to handle her relationship with an abusive parent.

Check out these two books Claire recommends about reparenting yourself:

• What My Bones Know by Stephanie Foo
• Buy Yourself the F*cking Lillies by Tara Schuster

Do you have something you want Claire’s help with? Send her a question to be featured on an upcoming episode by emailing us at [email protected] or submitting one at www.bit.ly/newdayask.

Want to connect? Join the New Day Facebook Group!  https://www.facebook.com/groups/newdaypod

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Do you struggle to say “no” even when you really want — or need — to say it? Claire gives you some tips on how to recognize when you should say “no,” and how to get better at actually saying it. Plus, she answers a question from a listener who is working from home and struggling to separate his work life from his home life.

Do you have something you want Claire’s help with? Send her a question to be featured on an upcoming episode by emailing us at [email protected] or submitting one at www.bit.ly/newdayask.

Want to connect? Join the New Day Facebook Group!  https://www.facebook.com/groups/newdaypod

Click this link for a list of current sponsors and discount codes for this show and all Lemonada shows go to lemonadamedia.com/sponsors.

To follow along with a transcript and/or take notes for friends and family, go to lemonadamedia.com/show/newday/ shortly after the air date.

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Amanda Levitt is an activist and scholar working to dismantle fatphobia and highlight the ways fat stigma shows up in society. Central to her work is exposing how racism and capitalism generate conditions that shame fat people about their bodies. Amanda tells Claire how the rise of social media has made body shame inescapable in society, how finding a supportive community helped her combat the body shaming she’s experienced throughout her life, and what we can do to challenge the societal norms that lead to body shaming in the first place. 

Resources from the show

• Listen to Fat Theory Book Club, a podcast hosted by scholar and activist Amanda Levitt.
• Read Fearing the Black Body: The Racial Origins of Fat Phobia by Sabrina Strings
• Read Unbearable Weight: Feminism, Western Culture, and the Body by Susan Bordo
• Read This Is Why We Can’t Have Nice Things: Mapping the Relationship Between Online Trolling and Mainstream Culture by Whitney Phillips

Do you have something you want Claire’s help with? Send her a question to be featured on an upcoming episode by emailing us at [email protected] or submitting one at www.bit.ly/newdayask.

Want to connect? Join the New Day Facebook Group!  https://www.facebook.com/groups/newdaypod

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To follow along with a transcript and/or take notes for friends and family, go to lemonadamedia.com/show/newday/ shortly after the air date.

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Do you know people who always tell you to look on the bright side of any situation? Claire gives you some tips on how to deal with toxic positivity when you really need some empathy. Plus, she answers a question from a listener who wants to know if she should confront someone she suspects doesn’t like her.

Do you have something you want Claire’s help with? Send her a question to be featured on an upcoming episode by emailing us at [email protected] or submitting one at www.bit.ly/newdayask.

Want to connect? Join the New Day Facebook Group!  https://www.facebook.com/groups/newdaypod

Click this link for a list of current sponsors and discount codes for this show and all Lemonada shows go to lemonadamedia.com/sponsors.

To follow along with a transcript and/or take notes for friends and family, go to lemonadamedia.com/show/newday/ shortly after the air date.

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Have you been meaning to start therapy but have no idea where to even start? Claire gives you some tips on how to navigate the mental health world and find the right person for you. Plus, she answers a question from a listener who is grieving her decision to only have one child.

Do you have something you want Claire’s help with? Send her a question to be featured on an upcoming episode by emailing us at [email protected] or submitting one at www.bit.ly/newdayask.

Want to connect? Join the New Day Facebook Group!  https://www.facebook.com/groups/newdaypod

Click this link for a list of current sponsors and discount codes for this show and all Lemonada shows go to lemonadamedia.com/sponsors.

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The producers of this series wanted to introduce you to another Lemonada listen, Funny Cuz It’s True with Elyse Myers. Each week on Funny Cuz It’s True, Elyse will be sitting down with her favorite creators, friends and comedians to find the stories that have stuck with them and changed their lives in small ways, and the not-so-funny moments that have become funny over time. She wants to know how they handled these situations and learned to laugh about them years later. How do they do it? Great question, she’d love to tell you. 

Legendary actor and director Paul Feig joins Elyse for her very first episode. Note to listeners: he’s in a seven-piece suit, and Elyse is in sweatpants. It’s great. You'll hear all about her first kiss, and Paul's own awkward romances (like the ones that inspired his show "Freaks and Geeks”). Plus, Paul shares his experience writing for “The Office.” Elyse learns the creative process doesn’t really get easier, even after decades in the industry.

To hear more of Funny Cuz It’s True, head to https://link.chtbl.com/funnycuzitstruewithelysemyers

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