Grief Informed Perinatal Care

Holidays are iconically wonderful parts of the year that are full of family, traditions, food, and fun. But what if it's not? What if you don't have a family? What if you don't have the will or energy to create a spectacular holiday for your kids? Are you still a good mom? Will your kids be mad at you?

Let me just say, I think it is MORE common for a lot of us to struggle during the holidays than any other. How could we not with expectations we put on ourselves because other people are doing it, or we are trying to compare ourselves to a mom we know that has hertogether and does everything for her kids? Family feuds and drama make us feel terrible. The family that is no longer with us, but we miss them most during the holidays.

There is a lot that tags along with the holiday season and it is OKAY IF YOU WANT TO DO IT YOUR OWN WAY without all the extras.

Let's have a chat about all the reasons we may have that can affect us during this time and what we can do to make it a little better.

Every get stressed about a new year coming up? You have goals, ideas, celebrations, dreams that you want to come alive, but don't know where to start? Come chat with me about easy, actionable ways to plan a joy filled year!!!!! I know especially after losing my baby girl, Evelyn, this time of year is just a bit harder. But there can be joy found for the new year!

Let's talk about intentions, living in the now, gratitude, books and more! I don't want to give it all away. Come listen and feel more at ease about the new year and plan for joy and finding hope!

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Friendships are a huge part of our lives. One of the most important, especially for moms. We depend on our friendships to give us hope, save our sanity, love each other, and mostly to share our chaotic lives with.

When we have friendships that don't light us up anymore but we are too scared to end them, that can really hurt us in the long run.

We will talk about friendships, when it is time to end them, friends for seasons, friends for lessons, etc. Let's talk about it all!

Leave a comment and let me know what you think about this episode! Have a good week loves.

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THere are so many different reasons we can be stressed during the holidays, whether it's financial, relationship issues, family drama, health issues, etc. Listen to hear a few ways you can counteract the inevitability of Murphy's Law and stress during the holiday season!!!!

SO happy your here, please leave a comment or review if you loved the show. If you have any ideas you'd like to share about what your going through send me an email, i read and respond to all messages and comments personally.

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No matter how long ago your loss was holidays can be a particular trigger or just a very sad time for moms and dads who have lost a baby. I wanted to share 3 things you can do to help support your physical and mental self. You deserve to take care of you. You matter, you are worthy.

I hope you find the joy in even the littlest moments mama,

xx Vallen

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I think there are a lot of things that we are not taught growing up. Even as grown ups difficult things are often put to the side or not talked about. Being a mom is so hard, why are we not taught what motherhood actually is and what it means to be a mom?

What are your thoughts? Share them in the comments, I read and respond to all comments personally!

Enjoy mama,

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Being a Mom is hard, especially when we are always trying to be selfless and meet everyone's needs and neglect our own. The last half of this year I dedicated to my health... little did I know I would be pregnant a month later!

After loss, it is even harder trying to take care of ourselves, whether it's our subconcious telling us we aren't worthy or don't deserve it, or it stems from childhood or adult trauma, or just the beliefs we were engrained with from everyone we have ever encountered. It is MESSY, it feels like chaos, but if we aren't well our families aren't either.

Take a step back mama, choose something you can do for you. Even if it feels hard.

You deserve it. You are a human and everyone is born with the right to take care of themselves, however that may look.

Hang in there! Love you all.

Let me know what you think about this episode by leaving me a comment! I read them all and it also helps others find me.

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I wrote out a list of 5 things I believe everyone should know about pregnancy loss. And I mean everyone. The more conversations we open up about stillbirth & miscarriage, the more support we can start helping moms get who need it. My goal is to help all moms get on a path to healing and finding joy again, loving themselves again, because if you lost a baby, you know. You know the toll it takes on us personally, we don't trust ourselves, we have such enormous guilt and shame and sometimes there is alot of hatred and sadness that we don't know what to do with.

SO I hope you find this episode valuable, i'm working on being vulnerable- that's one of my weaknesses. My hope is that my story and experiences can help at least one person.

Please like, comment and share this episode with anyone you think needs to hear it. It helps me tremendously. I read and respond to all comments personally. I look forward to hearing from you.

xx Vallen

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