Grief Informed Perinatal Care

Today our guest is, Lacey Fisher, a licensed professional counselor, she specializes in perinatal mental health and uses sand therapy as an expressive art in her practice. Sand therapy is a projective mode of psychotherapy that allows clients to process their interpersonal issues using miniatures or figurines in a sand tray. It provides a nonverbal way of communicating and helps clients explore their unconscious thoughts and emotions. Sand therapy can be used with both children and adults and creates a therapeutic distance that makes it easier to share difficult experiences. Lacey also incorporates other expressive arts, such as drawing, to help clients process their grief and trauma. The conversation explores common themes and experiences in perinatal loss and the importance of validation and support. Lacey emphasizes the role of sand tray therapy in helping clients process their grief and connect with their emotions. She discusses the need for therapists to create a safe space for clients to share their stories and express their feelings. Lacey also highlights the significance of finding a therapist who understands and specializes in perinatal loss. The conversation concludes with a reminder to moms that their grief is valid and the importance of seeking community and support.

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"In 2016, we chose to TFMR at 20 weeks. We didn't have a clear diagnosis very "grey area" which made the decision to terminate our son even more challenging as we thought of all the "what ifs" This was right before the 2016 election which brought on a lot of feelings and continues to do in this political climate."

Courtney is so open and vulnerable about sharing her sweet boy with us and her journey surrounding her loss. Stories like these are why I have this platform so we can learn from them and share love and connection.

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In this conversation, Vallen Webb and Karla Levit discuss the challenges and gaps in the medical community when it comes to pregnancy loss, infertility, and women's health. Karla shares her journey of pregnancy loss, infertility, and her experience with IVF. They emphasize the importance of addressing the root causes of fertility issues and the need for a more holistic approach to women's health. They also discuss the lack of support and empowerment for women in the medical community and the importance of advocating for oneself. The conversation highlights the need for women to reclaim their power and share their stories to create change. The conversation revolves around the need for better support and care for women in maternal health, particularly in the areas of pregnancy, postpartum, and infertility. The speakers discuss the lack of attention given to women's emotional and mental health, as well as the need for personalized care and understanding of individual experiences. They emphasize the importance of advocating for oneself, doing research, and seeking alternative options for care. The conversation also touches on the role of midwives in providing compassionate and holistic care. The speakers expressed the need for change in the medical community and the importance of creating spaces and experiences that prioritize women's well-being and healing.

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In this conversation, Gina Mundy, an attorney specializing in childbirth cases, discusses the importance of understanding childbirth and making informed decisions to ensure a healthy birth. She shares her motivation for writing a book on childbirth and highlights the common issues in legal baby cases. The impact of Pitocin, the need for self-advocacy in labor, and the role of baby advocates are also discussed. The conversation emphasizes the significance of choosing a good doctor for a positive birth experience. In this conversation, Gina Mundy emphasizes the importance of choosing a good doctor or midwife and being your own advocate during childbirth. She highlights the significance of communication skills and the doctor's specialization in managing labor and delivery. Gina also discusses the importance of understanding the baby's heart rate and learning about childbirth to make informed decisions. Overall, the conversation emphasizes the need for expectant parents to be proactive and educated to have a safe and positive birth experience.

Takeaways

• Understanding childbirth and making informed decisions is crucial for a healthy birth.

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Vallen discusses the topic of denying oneself after experiencing the loss of a baby. She shares her personal experience and the realization that she stopped taking care of herself as a way of punishing herself. Vallen highlights the importance of confronting these self-denials to move forward. She also mentions the loss of identity and intimacy as other areas where she denied herself. Vallen encourages listeners to reflect on what they may be denying themselves and to prioritize self-care and self-love. Takeaways

• After experiencing the loss of a baby, it is common for mothers to deny themselves self-care and self-love as a way of punishing themselves.
• Denying oneself can manifest in various ways, such as neglecting personal hygiene, avoiding intimacy, or feeling guilty about experiencing joy or happiness.
• It is important to confront these self-denials and work through them to move forward in the healing process.
• Loss of identity and strained relationships, such as with a partner, can also contribute to self-denial.
• Reflecting on what one may be denying themselves and prioritizing self-care and self-love is crucial in difficult time

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In this episode, Vallen Webb discusses the importance of sharing the experience of pregnancy loss and seeking connection and community. She emphasizes that talking about the loss and sharing stories is a crucial step towards healing. Vallen challenges the narrative that talking about babies who have passed away will prevent healing, and instead asserts that sharing and connecting with others who have experienced similar losses is what truly helps in the healing process. She also addresses the shame and guilt that some mothers may feel and encourages them to share their stories without fear of judgment. Vallen highlights the role of time and connection in healing and emphasizes the need for advocacy and support for loss moms. She concludes by announcing a membership program for moms who are ready to find purpose and direction after their loss.

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In this episode, Vallen Webb and Damiana discuss the importance of supporting families through pregnancy loss and the role of doulas in advocating for patients. They highlight the challenges faced by medical providers in addressing perinatal loss and the need for improved communication and language. Vallen shares her personal experience and emphasizes the importance of compassionate care. They also discuss the need for open conversations and support for families who have experienced loss. The conversation explores the impact of family and cultural influences on the experience of perinatal loss. It highlights the need for education and support for family members who may not have the right language or understanding of perinatal loss. The conversation also delves into the societal shame and cultural norms surrounding perinatal loss, particularly for women. It emphasizes the importance of supporting fathers and family members who often face societal expectations to be strong and not openly grieve. The conversation concludes by discussing the need to acknowledge and assess the support needs of family members and the importance of standardizing support for all parents.

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In this episode, the Vallen Webb discusses her identity crisis after experiencing a stillbirth. She shares how the loss of her child caused her to question her sense of self and navigate the challenges of grief and parenting. The conversation explores the duality of grief and gratitude, the fear and stagnation that can follow loss, and the importance of finding purpose and growth in the healing process. The host also emphasizes the need for support and offers guidance for turning pain into purpose. Overall, the episode highlights the ongoing journey of bereaved mothers and the resilience they find in balancing grief and living in the present.

Takeaways

• Pregnancy loss can lead to an identity crisis as the loss of a child can cause a person to question their sense of self and their role as a parent.
• Grief after pregnancy loss is a complex experience that involves a range of emotions, including confusion, fear, and sadness.
• Finding purpose and growth in the healing process can help bereaved parents navigate their grief and find meaning in their lives.
• Balancing grief and living in the present is a constant challenge for bereaved parents, but it is possible to find joy and fulfillment while still honoring the memory of their lost child.

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In this episode, Vallen Webb discusses the morbid truths and experiences of stillbirth and miscarriage. She emphasizes the importance of providing a voice and support for mothers who have lost babies and normalizing their experiences. The host shares her personal story of losing her daughter and the conflicting emotions and thoughts she had during that time. She explores five morbid truths related to pregnancy loss, including holding the baby, bathing the baby, capturing memories, watching the baby change, and saying goodbye forever.

Takeaways

• Pregnancy loss is a tragic and messy experience, and it is important to provide support and understanding to mothers who have lost babies.
• Mothers who have experienced pregnancy loss may have conflicting emotions and thoughts, and it is normal to feel a sense of guilt, shame, and isolation.
• It is important to create a safe space for mothers to share their experiences without the need for trigger warnings, as trigger warnings can perpetuate feelings of shame and guilt.
• Mothers who have lost babies may have the opportunity to hold their babies for hours or even days, and it is a personal choice that varies depending on individual circumstances.
• Taking pictures and videos of the baby and creating memories can be a way for mothers to cherish and remember their babies in their physical form.

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In this conversation, Kate Carson and Vallen Webb discuss the importance of reconnecting with pleasure and the body after experiencing baby loss. They explore the concept of setting aside time for pleasure and listening to the instincts of the body. The conversation delves into the physical rehabilitation and alternative modalities available for healing. They also touch on navigating medical trauma and rebuilding trust in medical providers. The conversation concludes with a focus on embracing pleasure and thriving in all aspects of life.

Takeaways

• Pregnancy loss can have a profound impact on relationships, and it is important to acknowledge and address the grief experienced by both partners.
• Sexuality and intimacy can be deeply affected by pregnancy loss, and it is essential to create a safe space for open communication and exploration.
• Reconnecting with the body is a crucial step in healing after pregnancy loss. This involves acknowledging and processing emotions, as well as rediscovering pleasure and sensuality.
• Seeking support from professionals, such as somatic love, , and relationship coaches, can be beneficial in navigating the complex emotions and challenges that arise after pregnancy loss. Take time to reconnect with pleasure and listen to the instincts of your body.
• Reverence for the genitals is important for healing and reclaiming a healthy relationship with them.
• Physical rehabilitation and alternative modalities can aid in the healing process.
• Navigating medical trauma requires taking things slow and listening to your body's needs.
• Embracing pleasure and thriving is possible at any stage of life.

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