Grief Informed Perinatal Care

In this episode of the Pregnancy Loss and Motherhood podcast, Vallen shares her personal healing journey, discussing her recent diagnoses of ADHD, major depressive disorder, generalized anxiety disorder, and OCD. She reflects on the importance of sharing stories for healing and community support. Vallen also delves into her struggles with self-sabotage and the complexities of managing her mental health. As Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month approaches, she emphasizes the significance of supporting those who have experienced loss and offers resources for awareness and healing.

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Welcome to the Pregnancy Loss and Motherhood Podcast. We cover all things loss(pregnancy, baby, identity) womanhood, motherhood, mental health, mindset, life after loss, finding hope and purpose-- literally everything.

Today's Episode

In this heartfelt conversation, Vallen and Halaina reconnect and reflect on their journey into motherhood, discussing the unexpected challenges and joys they faced along the way. They share personal stories about their pregnancies, the realities of parenting, and the importance of support systems. The conversation highlights the emotional toll of motherhood, the significance of open communication with children, and the evolution of their friendships over the years. They also offer valuable advice for new moms, emphasizing the need for self-care and understanding that parenting is a learning process.

takeaways

• Motherhood can be surprising and unexpected.
• Pregnancy brings emotional and physical challenges.
• Support systems are crucial for new moms.
• Every child is unique and requires individual attention.
• Open communication with children is essential.
• Parenting is a learning process with no manual.
• Self-care is important for mothers.
• Friendship evolves but remains a vital support.
• The emotional toll of parenting is real.
• It's okay to seek help and advice from others.

Chapters

00:00 Reconnecting and Reflecting on Friendship

03:08 The Surprising Journey into Motherhood

06:02 Navigating the Challenges of Pregnancy

08:50 The Reality of Motherhood: Expectations vs. Reality

11:53 The Impact of Support Systems in Parenting

15:01 The Struggles of Parenting Multiple Children

17:51 Understanding Child Development and Individual Needs

21:05 The Emotional Toll of Parenting

23:56 The Importance of Open Communication with Kids

27:00 Finding Balance in Parenting and Personal Life

30:01 The Evolution of Friendship and Support

32:59 Lessons Learned from Our Mothers

36:02 Advice for New Moms

38:55 The Future of Parenting and Personal Growth

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Sarah Springer, a nurse practitioner and writer, shares her healing journey and advocacy for mental health. She discusses her experience as a trauma survivor and the impact it had on her mental health. Sarah emphasizes the importance of seeking help and reducing the shame associated with healing. She also talks about the challenges of finding the right therapist and the need for affordable counseling options. Sarah highlights the power of storytelling and the validation that comes from sharing our experiences. She discusses the role of humor in coping with difficult emotions and the misconceptions about medication for mental health. In this conversation, Vallen Webb and Sara Springer discuss the importance of repetition and self-awareness in the healing journey. They emphasize the power of affirmations, grounding techniques, and connecting with nature to support mental health. They also explore the challenges of balancing self-care and motherhood, and the need to be kind and gentle with oneself. Sara shares information about her nonprofit organization, Love Will Foundation, and her book, ' Was I Not Supposed to Say That?' They conclude the conversation by expressing their appreciation for each other and the importance of building connections.

Takeaways:

• Seeking help and reducing shame are crucial in the healing journey.
• Finding the right therapist can be challenging, but it's important to keep trying.
• Sharing our experiences through storytelling can provide validation and support.
• Humor can be a powerful tool in coping with difficult emotions.
• Medication can be a valuable part of the healing process and should not be stigmatized. Repetition is a powerful tool in the healing journey, whether it's through affirmations, grounding techniques, or daily practices.
• Self-awareness is key in recognizing triggers, intrusive thoughts, and the need for rest and self-care.
• Finding a balance between self-care and motherhood can be challenging, but it's important to be kind and gentle with oneself.
• Free resources and practices, such as going outside, focusing on the senses, and using affirmations, can support mental health.
• Building connections and finding a supportive community is crucial in the healing process.

If you need help affording mental health services in the St. Louis area for you or a loved one, reach out to Love Will Foundation at

https://lovewillfoundation.org/

Or make a donation to help pay for services for others!

You can buy Sara's book, HERE!

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Welcome to the Pregnancy Loss and Motherhood Podcast.

In this episode, Vallen discusses the topic of confidence, specifically in womanhood and motherhood. She shares her recent experience with a photo shoot and how it taught her about building confidence. Vallen emphasizes that confidence is not something we inherently have, but rather a muscle that we can develop by putting ourselves in uncomfortable situations and growing from them. She encourages mothers to have confidence in their motherhood and to remind themselves of their abilities. Vallen also touches on the importance of trusting our intuition and practicing self-talk to build ourselves up.

Takeaways

• Confidence is not something we inherently have, but a muscle that we can develop by putting ourselves in uncomfortable situations and growing from them.
• Mothers should have confidence in their motherhood and remind themselves of their abilities.
• Trusting our intuition and practicing self-talk are important for building confidence.
• It's important to give ourselves grace and celebrate the things we're doing right as mothers.

00:00 Introduction: Confidence in Womanhood and Motherhood

02:42 Building Confidence in Motherhood

04:16 The Muscle of Confidence

09:38 Having Confidence in Your Motherhood

11:56 Trusting Intuition and Self-Talk for Confidence

14:44 Conclusion: Celebrating the Things We're Doing Right as Mothers

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Welcome to the Pregnancy Loss and Motherhood Podcast.

In this episode, host Vallen, discusses the challenges of time management and expectations in modern motherhood. She shares her own experiences and struggles with balancing personal goals, taking care of her family, and maintaining a positive mental health state. Vallen emphasizes the importance of lowering expectations, prioritizing tasks, and allowing oneself to let go of control. She encourages listeners to give themselves a break and reminds them that they are doing a great job.

takeaways

• Modern motherhood involves juggling multiple responsibilities and tasks.
• Time management and estimating task completion time can be challenging.
• Lowering expectations and prioritizing tasks can help reduce overwhelm.
• It's important to take care of oneself and prioritize personal goals.
• Allowing others to be who they are and letting go of control is essential.
• Motherhood is hard, but listeners are doing a great job.

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In this episode, Vallen discusses the process of rebuilding life after pregnancy loss and finding a new normal. She emphasizes that everyone's timeline for healing is different and there is no set path or plan. The host shares her personal experiences and coping mechanisms, such as writing, focusing on living children, and adopting a puppy. She also talks about the importance of allowing oneself to grieve and the physical and emotional aspects of mourning. Rebuilding life after pregnancy loss is a challenging and individual process. There is no set timeline for healing and it is important to take the time needed. Coping mechanisms such as writing, focusing on living children, and adopting a pet can be helpful. Allowing oneself to grieve and express emotions is an important part of the healing process.

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Sarah Cox, a guest on the Pregnancy Loss and Motherhood podcast, shares her journey of infertility, pregnancy loss, and motherhood. She discusses her experiences with PCOS, early losses, and the stillbirth of her daughter Jasmine. Sarah also talks about the rainbow skirt project she started, where families who have experienced pregnancy loss can request to wear the rainbow skirt and share their stories. The conversation touches on topics such as the emotional toll of pregnancy loss, the anxiety and fear that can arise after loss, and how to navigate these challenges with living children. The conversation revolves around the experiences and challenges faced by parents who have lost a baby. They discuss topics such as explaining death to young children, the need for better education and support for pregnancy loss, and the importance of seeking support from others. They also touch on the regrets and unanswered questions that parents often have after a loss. The main takeaway is the importance of not going through the grief journey alone and finding support from others who have experienced similar losses.

You can find more information about Sarah, Jasmine, and the traveling rainbow skirt at https://www.journeyforjasmine.com

@journeyforjasmine

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In this episode, Vallen Webb discusses the importance of attitude and how it can impact the quality of our lives. She shares her own struggles with maintaining a positive attitude and how it relates to her experiences as a mother. Vallen emphasizes the need to pause and reflect when negative thoughts and emotions arise, and offers tips for shifting our attitude. She also explores the influence of past generations on our attitudes and the importance of self-love and flexibility.

Takeaways

• Attitude plays a significant role in determining the quality of our lives. It is important to pause and reflect when negative thoughts and emotions arise, and to challenge their accuracy.
• Our attitudes can be influenced by past generations and the messages we internalize from our upbringing.
• Self-love and flexibility are key in changing our attitudes and embracing our authentic selves.
• Every day is an opportunity to choose a positive attitude and start fresh.

Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Setting the Tone

03:11 Sitting with Discomfort and the Power of Healing

07:02 The Influence of Past Generations on Our Attitudes

10:48 The Importance of Pausing and Reflecting

15:39 Embracing Self-Love and Flexibility

25:49 Taking Responsibility for Our Reactions

28:06 Closing Thoughts

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In this episode, Vallen Webb shares updates and changes happening in her business and personal life. She discusses rebranding her business under the name Evelyn James and Company. She emphasizes the importance of self-trust and self-love in the healing process and encourages listeners to find joy while honoring their babies. Vallen concludes by expressing her gratitude for the support and love from her audience.

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In this conversation, Bianca Sprague discusses her work in reproductive health and justice, as well as her personal experience with pregnancy loss. She emphasizes the importance of bringing joy back to people's lives and supporting marginalized communities. Bianca shares her journey of starting and managing multiple businesses in the field, including Bebo Mia and Baby Me Fitness. She also highlights the need for improved care and support for individuals experiencing pregnancy loss, and the importance of training and education for healthcare professionals. Overall, Bianca advocates for comprehensive support and a shift in the healthcare system to better meet the needs of those affected by pregnancy loss. In this conversation, Vallen Webb and Bianca Sprague discuss the challenges and frustrations of feeling helpless in the face of loss. They explore the importance of taking action in the community to create change and support for those experiencing grief. They emphasize the individuality of grief and the power of putting grief into action. They highlight the need for change in the healthcare system and the importance of creating support systems. They discuss the normalization of acknowledging and honoring loss and the importance of keeping the heart open. They also explore the duality of emotions and the choice to embrace joy amidst grief. They emphasize the opportunity for choice and empowerment after loss and the importance of using grief as fuel for action.

Bianca and her team have created some resources just for us on her website, bebomia.com/plm. Check it out! If you are interested in training to become a doula to help families they have provided you with a 15% discount on the training which is fricken amazing!!!!

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