Hard work is a virtue… until it becomes a trap.

In this episode, we explore how Fives relate to hard work, motivation, and the stories we’ve inherited about what effort should look like. We unpack our personal histories (lazy labels, blue-collar expectations, engineering hacks, and chronic fatigue) and how all of that shaped our relationship to discipline and purpose.

We also dive deep into the myth of "working smarter not harder,” the allure of flow state, and the surprising ways hard work can become a source of love, not just labor.

IN THIS EPISODE:

• Strategic Laziness — How Fives use systems, automation, and over-engineering to avoid work… and why that’s not always a bad thing.
• Hard Work as Avoidance — Why we sidestep tasks that feel like a grind, and how that resistance often masks deeper fears.
• The Flow State Trap — How chasing peak performance can become its own form of procrastination.
• Redefining Discipline — Moving from obligation to alignment, and why discipline matters even when inspiration doesn't show up.
• Motivation Through Meaning — How caring for others (and ourselves) gives effort a new purpose, from parenting to partnership to podcasting.
• The Work of Love — What diapers, depression, and doing the laundry taught us about what love actually is.
• From Avoidance to Integration — How doing the hard emotional work helped us stop running and start liking ourselves.

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📚 Books mentioned:
• The War of Art by Steven Pressfield
• The Creative Way by Seth Haines

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