Healing the Unresolved

Today’s podcast discusses specific examples of self avoidance and how subtle they are. As a result, we often overlook them and don’t see how they are feeding the larger struggles in our lives.

Today’s podcast explores why boundary setting sometimes goes overboard or is overactive. The various reasons discussed can help explain both our over active boundary systems and also why we might be the one frequently crossing boundaries.

Today’s podcast offers a brief reflection on how we tend to be drawn to what is familiar even if what is familiar is negative. So often we anticipate anger and punishment. Sometimes our deepest fear is that God will be angry and punish us. However, we have to live in such a way that the love of God and mercy is what are familiar and the norm.

Today's podcast answers a question from someone struggling over whether or not they should have another child. They have many conflicting feelings and worries. In those worries is the concern they are not being a good steward if they have another child.

Today’s podcast is a discussion of the paradox of our sense of self. In order to become selfless, we have to have some sense of self. To completely abandon any sense of self can leave us to spiritually flounder and actually abandon who God wants us to be. There is a more detailed discussion on what aspects of self we are to hold onto and engage.

Today’s podcast answers a question from someone who has struggled with obsessive compulsive disorder and has noticed it affecting their orthodox Christian spiritual life. Specifically, they are always convinced God hates them and is punishing them. Today’s podcast discusses what is actually driving those beliefs and some options and areas to explore in finding long-term relief.

Today’s podcast answers a question from someone who is struggling to cope with an enmeshed family of origin. Despite being married and having their own kids, and their siblings all being married and having their own kids, the family of origin functions as though none of that has happened. This can be a very confusing reality to live in. The guilt of the family can be powerful, but we often don’t realize that when we serve an enmeshed family system we are actually working against the life God wants us to live.

Today’s podcast answers a question from someone who is struggling with why God doesn’t just grant them healing from the effects of their experiences after so many years of doing the healing work. We know from raising children, that rescuing too soon robs them of growth opportunities. Also, the healing work is a wonderful growth opportunity, where a beautiful synergy is to play out between ourselves and God.

Today’s podcast discusses the healing power of apologies. Each apology has the ability to create the space of the empty tomb in the heart of another. Apologies often wield a power we don’t realize. While we try not to err, each stumbling becomes an opportunity to apologize, and in doing so we participate in a death and resurrection.