Healing the Unresolved

Today’s podcast discusses how the resurrection appearances are evidence that God does not abandon us to grief and loss. What modern day trauma research is telling us, God was already putting into practice in the aftermath of His betrayal crucifixion.

Today’s podcast explores an ever present reality when we struggle in relationships. That reality is the possibility that we are struggling with a disrupted attachment style. We all have a need for love and safety. When in early life, an early caregiver was not consistent in providing love and safety, it can create a template for how we perceive and function in relationships. Understanding our attachment style provides the healing path to resolution, stability, and peace.

Anger is a difficult emotion to admit. This is especially true of anger that is rooted in deep, past experiences. To admit anger is to admit we are vulnerable and that we were hurt. There are social stigmas associated with anger. However, hidden anger reaches out into the present and often manifests itself in a sour, negative mood and in constant complaining. We can also try to mask anger as righteous indignation over imperfections in our present life and in others. Turning to, admitting, and accepting the presence of anger that is rooted in the past, will help us see our present life and all those in it, in a more positive and merciful light.

Today’s podcast answers questions pertaining to the pain of having been in a relationship where there was trauma bonding. Such a relationship can be so confusing, because with the painful abuse there were times of seemingly positive behavior. Also, when the person with whom we were trauma bonded passes away, it can lead to complicated grief. Navigating the confusion of trauma bonding is the focal point of today’s podcast.

Today's episode focuses on how late in the healing work we can feel like we have regressed if we begin to struggle again or have emotional discomfort. Often, it is normal life stress from the present. Sometimes also, it is because we are not allowing ourselves to have normal negative emotions, for fear of what that would mean.

Today’s podcast is a discussion about when we run and flee from God’s callings for us. We are all called to heal, and we are all called to cooperate with time and age. In all these areas we can practice avoidance and be like the prophet Jonah, who tried to run and flee from God‘s plan. When we do this, we only hurt ourselves and suffer more in the long run. Learning to be aware of and master our inner Jonah, can make life more peaceful.

Today’s podcast answers the question of how can a husband and wife who both have trauma histories, stop the cycle of constantly inflicting pain on each other and triggering each other. How couples can make their worst hours their finest hours, is covered in the podcast.

Today’s podcast answers the question of what to do when we begin to feel resentful or taken advantage of in our parish. The discussion explore the possibilities of our situation being self-inflicted through enabling or us being taken advantage of. Often times it’s a combination of both, even when all involved are well intentioned. Discerning which one it is, and the solution, are discussed.

As we approach Forgiveness Sunday, many of us are mindful of forgiving the living and seeking forgiveness from the living. However, what if we need to forgive the departed or are seeking forgiveness from them? Today’s podcast explores this topic, and explains the path to healing relationships with the departed.

Today’s podcast answers the question of how do we overcome our fear of conflict? No one really likes conflict. However, for some of us, it can have a paralyzing effect. If we were exposed to excessive and unhealthy upset and anger early in life, we can lose our confidence and feel powerless in the face of conflict in the present. Learning, and then unlearning, what we came to believe about ourselves as a result of other people’s upset, can lead us to finding our courage and confidence in resolving conflict.