Healing the Unresolved

Today’s podcast answers the question of how can the Orthodox divine liturgy play a role in someone’s healing. Starting from the time one enters the interior space of the church, throughout the liturgy, and even in the post liturgy interactions, there are plenty healing opportunities. The podcast also discusses making sure that our participation in liturgy is healthy and healing.

When our early life was deprived of the baseline of learning what is normal with regards to normal emotions, normal upset, and normal life changes, we can go through life feeling life we are missing our inner compass that tells us whats okay and what is normal in our present life. This can lead to chronic doubt and uncertainty. We can retrain ourselves and learn what is normal in the present, so that we have a more peaceful inner world.

Today’s podcast addresses the question submitted by someone who suffered from narcissistic abuse. As a result of the dynamics of the relationship, they were left with a profound sense of shame. Understanding this kind of abuse is the first step in healing from it. In addition, long after the toxic relationship is over, we may perpetuate the abuse through how we relate with ourselves resulting in “shame spirals”.

Today’s episode answers a question from an individual who is a parent and has their own healthy family, but in many ways is having to still parent their family of origin which has been dysfunctional. When this is a role that we have played for a long time, it is very confusing, and often we are saddled with guilt at making our present family our priority. Setting boundaries does not mean we are abandoning our family of origin. When we don’t set boundaries, we might be enabling our family of origin, so that they never truly grow up.

Today’s podcast answers a question from a father who is greatly worried about his adult son. His son has reached a detour in his life and has been unable to move around it. His son also lives a significant distance away, which adds to the feelings of powerlessness. While has maintained great balance in his relationship with his son, he worries about him greatly, and seeks to know what he can do without making his son feel worse or causing him to pull away.

Today’s podcast answers two questions. The first, pertains to how to proceed or cope when others are not able to be responsive to the deeper things we share with them. The second question pertains to the flexibility and malleability we need in setting boundaries.

Today's podcast answers the question of why do setbacks occur in the healing work and how do we navigate the discouragement caused by them. The truth is, these are not setbacks at all, but rather opportunities. They are movement forward, not backward.

During these dark and short days of December, we are fortunate to have the nativity light. The nativity light acts as an x-ray on our soul and illuminates all that is missing, broken, and fallen. It reveals to us the areas that need to be addressed. It is during this time of year that the urge to restore and reconcile is at its strongest. It is also during this time of year that the human heart is the most ripe for reconciliation. We must take advantage of this time while the nativity light is still with us.

Everyone at one time or another experiences a sour mood or just feeling very negative. We complain a lot, and feel like nothing is right. However, sometimes this can become chronic, which can be indicative that there is something else going on. One of the sources of this, that is not often discussed, is when we live in a state of hypervigilance. When we live in a state of hypervigilance we are never at rest, always on guard, and overlooking everything that is right in our life; because it is not relevant to our main mission of scanning our environment for threats. Today’s podcast involves a discussion of this and some steps we can take to undo hypervigilance.

In today’s episode, we we do a deeper exploration of avoidance. Avoidance is very common, and is often employed in everyday life in a way that’s smart and helpful. However, when it comes to the avoidance that follows after painful experiences, we often end up avoiding too much and more than we need to. As a result, it costs us the more beautiful experiences of life, precisely the ones that can serve to heal us.