Healing with Teeling Podcast

You can look like you have it all together and still feel completely broken after a breakup.

In this episode, I share a real story from a colleague going through the end of a 15 year relationship, and why heartbreak hits high achieving women so deeply.

We talk about the pattern I see all the time. Women who keep going, stay busy, and throw themselves into work, but never fully heal.

If you’re still carrying pain from a past relationship, this episode will help you understand why you feel stuck and what actually needs to change.

What You’ll Learn

• Why heartbreak feels so overwhelming even when you are strong and capable
• The pattern of high achieving women masking pain through work and productivity
• The difference between coping and actually healing
• Why healing is essential if you want a healthy relationship in the future
• The 7 key steps to move forward after a breakup
• Why you keep repeating the same patterns in relationships

The 7 Steps to Healing Heartbreak

• Rediscover joy, connection, and purpose
• Master your mindset
• Reframe the breakup and emotionally declutter
• Refocus on the present
• Rediscover yourself and find the positives
• Build resilience and set boundaries
• Take inspired action toward your future

Key Takeaway

You don’t heal heartbreak by staying busy or waiting for time to pass.

If you don’t heal, you repeat.

Same patterns. Same fears. Same relationship, different person.

Next Steps

If you’re ready to start moving forward, I’ve created a mini course that walks you through these 7 steps in a simple, structured way.

For May, you can get it for free. (worth £77)

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Work With Me

If you’re ready for deeper support and want to shift what’s really keeping you stuck, you can book an empowerment session with me.

We’ll look at where you are, what’s holding you back, and what needs to change so you can move forward with clarity and confidence.

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You’re not bad at dating.

But you might be carrying the wrong energy into it.

In this episode, we’re talking about what really shapes your dating experience before you even sit down across from someone.

Because it’s not just about who you meet.

It’s about how you show up.

If you’ve ever felt anxious before a date, overthought everything you said, or left feeling drained or confused, this episode will help you understand why.

And more importantly, what to do instead.

Inside this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why your energy before a date matters more than what you say or wear

• The common patterns women carry into dating without realising

• How nerves, pressure, and past experiences shape your behaviour

• The shift from needing to be chosen to choosing

• Simple ways to feel calmer, more grounded, and more in control before a date

• Practical dating tips to protect your time, energy, and standards

I also share personal experiences and client stories, including how high-achieving women can feel confident in every area of life but lose that confidence when it comes to dating.

And how that can change.

If you’re tired of repeating the same dating patterns or not feeling like yourself when you date, this episode will give you a new way to approach it.

Next steps

If you want support with how you show up before dating, start with my pre-date ritual.

This will guide you step by step to feel calm, grounded, and in control before you walk into any date.

Download your pre-date ritual here.

If you’re ready to go deeper and shift the patterns behind your dating experience, you can book an Empowerment Session with me.

This is where we uncover what’s really driving your dating patterns and change how you show up so dating actually feels good again.

Book your Empowerment Session here.

Dating doesn’t start when you sit down across from someone.

It starts with the energy you bring before you even walk in.

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You have the life you once dreamed of.

The career.

The home.

The holidays.

The independence.

From the outside, it looks like you have it all.

But when it comes to love… you still feel lonely.

In this episode, I break down why this happens and what is really going on beneath the surface.

If you keep finding yourself dating but never quite getting the relationship you want, this is for you.

Inside this episode, I share:

• Why serial dating is not the problem and what it is protecting you from
• How independence can become emotional armour without you realising
• The hidden fears that block love and intimacy
• Why the belief “it’s too late” is keeping you stuck
• The shift from trying to control love to actually allowing it in
• The choices that create the relationship you want in the future

I also share parts of my own story. From heartbreak and rebuilding my life on my own, to learning how to open up again and receive love in a completely different way.

This is not about doing more.

It is about understanding what is driving your patterns and changing it at the root.

If you are ready to stop repeating the same cycles in dating and start creating real connection, I invite you to book an Empowerment Session.

This is a 1:1 session where we look at your patterns, your blocks, and what is keeping you stuck in your love life.

We will explore your relationship history, the beliefs driving your choices, and the behaviours that are playing out in dating.

You will leave with clarity on what needs to change and how my 1:1 coaching can support you to transform your love life.

Book your Empowerment Session here

You do not need to change who you are.

You just need to feel safe enough to be seen.

And that is where everything shifts.

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Why are you putting up with something that isn’t giving you what you truly want?

In this episode, I’m diving into the reality of situationships, why we get into them, why we stay, and why they can feel so hard to walk away from… even when we know they’re not right for us.

If you’ve ever found yourself:

• Feeling addicted to the highs and lows of a man who isn’t fully available
• Hoping he’ll change or eventually choose you
• Telling yourself you’re “fine” with something casual… when deep down you want more
• Frustrated with dating (especially over 35) and wondering why the men you like won’t commit

This episode is for you.

I’m sharing my own experience of being in a situationship, the truth I had to face, and the moment everything changed for me.

We’ll talk about:

• Why situationships feel so addictive
• The hard truth about waiting for him to change
• The questions you need to ask yourself (and answer honestly)
• How to actually walk away, even when it hurts
• Why creating space is the key to calling in the relationship you really want

This is your reminder that you don’t have to settle for half-hearted love, confusion, or “almost” relationships.

You get to choose more.

If you know this is you, and you’re ready to stop repeating the same cycles in dating and relationships…

Book an Empowerment Session with me.

This is where we uncover what’s really keeping you stuck, shift those patterns, and get you moving towards the kind of relationship you actually want.

👉 Book here

• Book your Empowerment Session
• Cord Cutting Meditation & Audio Pack (£7.77) designed to help you energetically and emotionally release attachments and finally let go

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If you’ve ever asked yourself…

“How will I ever trust again?”

This episode is for you.

Infidelity doesn’t just break your heart.

It shatters your reality.

Whether it happened recently or years ago, being cheated on can leave you questioning:

• Your judgement
• Your worth
• Your ability to feel safe with a man again
• Whether all men are secretly the same

In this deeply honest episode, I share a powerful client story (one that mirrors my own experience after my cancelled wedding) and walk you through what it really takes to rebuild trust after betrayal.

Not by fixing him.

But by rebuilding you.

There is nothing wrong with you.

But there is work to do.

And it’s powerful work.

You deserve love that feels:

• Safe
• Secure
• Reciprocal
• Emotionally calm
• Fun

And yes — that is possible.

I’ve lived it.

My clients are living it.

You can too.

Ready to Heal & Attract Secure Love?

I currently have 2 spaces available for 1:1 coaching.

If you’re done carrying betrayal into every new connection and you’re ready to trust yourself (and love) again…

Book your Empowerment Session here.

If you’re not ready for a call yet but you’re struggling to detach from a past relationship, message me on Instagram @rachelteelingcoaching and I’ll send you something to help you start feeling stronger immediately.

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On today’s episode of Healing with Teeling, we dive deep into the many roles women play, the high-achieving career woman, the over-giving fixer, the independent lone wolf, the fit and flawless gym queen, the devoted mother and explore what happens when those roles take over.

We talk about:

• Why showing up as your “protected self” keeps you safe… but also keeps you lonely.
• How past heartbreak, hurt, and old beliefs shape the way you show up in love.
• The archetypes that secretly run your dating life: The Fixer, The Ice Queen, The Overachiever, The Love Addict, and The Lone Wolf.
• How to reconnect with the version of you that feels joyful, free, and authentically seen.
• Why perfection, achievement, and high standards might be attracting the wrong men and how to shift that.

This episode is for the high-achieving, career-focused women who are tired of dating emotionally unavailable men, tired of settling, and ready to finally understand who they are under the armour, the achievements, and the roles.

By the end of this episode, you’ll understand:

• How to start uncovering who you truly are.
• Why you attract what you are, not what you want.
• The first steps to falling in love with yourself authentically.
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Next Steps

If today’s episode resonated with you, there are a few ways I can support you:

1. Take the “Why Am I Still Single?” Quiz - Discover which archetype is currently leading your love life and gain clarity on how to shift it.
2. Book an Empowerment Session - Work with me 1:1 to uncover your patterns, heal old heartbreak, and create a personalised roadmap to the love and life you deserve. Book your session here
3. BeYou Blueprint Course - A self-led course designed to help you reconnect with your authentic self, heal from past heartbreak, and start attracting love that’s aligned with who you truly are.
4. Adored Masterclass (Free) - Learn the steps to start a love affair with yourself — beyond buying flowers or treating yourself. Dive into the real work of self-understanding and emotional alignment.

You don’t need to become someone else to be loved. You need to come home to who you really are.

• Take the Quiz: Why Am I Still Single?
• Book an Empowerment Session
• BeYou Blueprint Course
• Adored Masterclass

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Are you an amazing, successful, and self-aware woman who still struggles to find and keep the right relationship? In today’s episode of Healing with Teeling, I dive into the subconscious patterns that may be secretly running your love life and keeping you single.

We explore five love-blocking archetypes, the Fixer, the Ice Queen, the Overachiever, the Love Addict, and the Lone Wolf and how they show up in your dating life. These archetypes aren’t flaws they’re protective strategies your subconscious created to keep you safe. But they might also be repelling the love you truly desire.

In this episode I share:

• Why “everything’s right” but you’re still single
• How your subconscious may be controlling your dating choices
• What each archetype looks like and how it impacts your relationships
• Ways to start nurturing your inner self so you can open up to love

Plus,I introduces you to my quiz “Why Am I Still Single?” to help you pinpoint which archetype is running your love life and how to start shifting these patterns.

Take the quiz, discover your archetype, and slide into my DMs on Insta to discuss how it’s showing up in your life. This is your first step toward ending old patterns and finally attracting the love you deserve.

• Take the quiz: Why Am I Still Single?
• Join the waitlist for the Having a Love Affair with Yourself masterclass (February)
• Connect with Rachel: Instagram @RachelTeelingCoaching

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In this episode of Healing with Teeling, I’m joined by my former client Marie, who shares her powerful journey from chaos in dating to calm, secure love after heartbreak.

After coming out of a long marriage and stepping into the modern dating world, Marie found herself navigating dating apps, emotional confusion, ignored red flags, and a relationship that left her anxious, overthinking, and questioning her self-worth.

Together, we talk honestly about:

• Dating after divorce (especially when you have a child)
• Why chaos can feel addictive in relationships
• The early “bunting” 🚩 that’s easy to ignore when you want love to work
• Love bombing, inconsistency, and cancelled plans
• How confusion slowly erodes your self-worth
• Learning to trust your gut again after heartbreak
• Why calm can feel unfamiliar when you’re used to emotional highs and lows
• The inner work that changed everything for Marie
• What a healthy, emotionally available relationship actually feels like
• Choosing peace, safety, and intention over anxiety and uncertainty

Marie also shares how doing the work on herself completely transformed the way she shows up in relationships and how she’s now in a calm, secure, loving partnership that feels easy, safe, and mutual.

If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in confusing dynamics, over-giving, or questioning why love feels so hard, this episode will land deeply.

If you see yourself in Marie’s story, this is your sign.

She didn’t change her love life by luck — she did the inner work.

If you’re ready to stop repeating patterns and start creating calm, emotionally safe love, you can book an Empowerment Session with me.

✨ This work works — and Marie is living proof.

👉 Book your Empowerment Session

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In this episode of Healing with Teeling, Rachel is joined by her partner Ed for a real, honest and fun conversation about dating in your late 30s and 40s.

They talk about what it’s like re-entering the dating world after long-term relationships, marriage, kids and careers, how dating apps have changed everything, and what actually matters when it comes to attraction and connection.

Ed shares the male perspective on dating apps, messaging, first dates and mixed signals, while Rachel reflects on red flags, deal breakers, and why being too rigid can sometimes block genuine connection.

They also share how they met on Bumble and introduce their 7 Relationship Rules, the principles they live by to keep their relationship healthy, playful and connected.

The episode finishes with Ed’s best advice for women dating after 35 who are tired of confusion and want something real.

✨ Honest, relatable and full of laughs, this is a must-listen if you’re dating after heartbreak.

If you’re listening and recognising yourself, feeling stuck in the same dating patterns, confused by mixed signals, or wondering why love still feels hard despite “doing the work” this is exactly the kind of conversation that leads into my coaching.

✨ Book an Empowerment Call to explore what’s really keeping you stuck in love, uncover the subconscious patterns driving your relationships, and get clarity on how my coaching can help you heal, rebuild your confidence, and create the healthy relationship you actually want.

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Christmas has a way of amplifying everything.

In this episode of Healing with Teeling, I’m speaking directly to the woman who feels unhappy, unfulfilled, or emotionally unsafe in her relationship, especially at this time of year when expectations are high and loneliness can feel louder.

If you’ve ever found yourself wondering:

• Is this relationship actually right for me?
• Why do I feel so alone even though I’m not single?
• Why don’t I trust him and is that my intuition or my past?
• Am I staying because I love him… or because I’m afraid to be alone?

This episode is for you.

I talk openly about:

• Feeling unfulfilled in a relationship that looks “fine” on the outside
• Staying because the fear of being alone feels bigger than the unhappiness
• Distrust, anxious attachment, and how past cheating impacts current relationships
• Overgiving, people-pleasing, and losing yourself trying to make it work
• Why Christmas often brings clarity you’ve been avoiding
• The difference between gut instinct and fear
• A simple reflection exercise to help you gain clarity without rushing a decision

This is an honest, grounding conversation designed to help you feel seen, validated, and supported, not pressured.

If this episode resonated and you’re feeling unsure about your relationship, you don’t have to figure it out alone.

My Empowerment Session is a safe, confidential space where we explore:

• What’s really keeping you stuck
• Whether this relationship can change
• Why you feel anxious, disconnected, or unsafe in love
• How tmy 1:1 coaching can support you to feel safe in love, reconnect with your feminine side, and trust yourself and your gut instinct.

Whether you stay or go, this session is about you, your clarity, your peace, and your next steps.

👉 Book your Empowerment Session here

Thank you for listening to Healing with Teeling.

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You’re not alone in this.

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