Healing With YB

In this episode I share an updated version of my understanding of forgiveness. I share about the time when I initially found transformational forgiveness for my perpetrator back in November 21, 2021. I share the differences between conditional forgiveness and transformational forgiveness. I also share how even though I found transformational forgiveness I expanded my understanding of forgiveness even more. Here are a few top things I’ve learned in the last 4 years—

𝟭. 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮𝙤𝙣𝙚 𝙛𝙞𝙣𝙙𝙨 𝙛𝙤𝙧𝙜𝙞𝙫𝙚𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙤𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙞𝙧 𝙤𝙬𝙣 𝙩𝙞𝙢𝙚.

𝟮. 𝙁𝙤𝙧𝙜𝙞𝙫𝙚𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙞𝙨𝙣'𝙩 𝙖 𝙤𝙣𝙚 𝙩𝙞𝙢𝙚 𝙙𝙤𝙣𝙚 𝙙𝙚𝙖𝙡

𝟯. 𝙔𝙊𝙐 𝙜𝙚𝙩 𝙩𝙤 𝙙𝙚𝙛𝙞𝙣𝙚 𝙬𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙛𝙤𝙧𝙜𝙞𝙫𝙚𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙢𝙚𝙖𝙣𝙨 𝙩𝙤 𝙔𝙊𝙐.

𝟰. 𝙅𝙪𝙨𝙩 𝙗𝙚𝙘𝙖𝙪𝙨𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙛𝙤𝙧𝙜𝙞𝙫𝙚 𝙨𝙤𝙢𝙚𝙤𝙣𝙚 𝙙𝙤𝙚𝙨 𝙣𝙤𝙩 𝙢𝙚𝙖𝙣 𝙬𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙮 𝙙𝙞𝙙 𝙞𝙨 𝙧𝙞𝙜𝙝𝙩, 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙨 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙝𝙖𝙥𝙥𝙚𝙣𝙚𝙙 𝙩𝙤 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙞𝙨 𝙛𝙤𝙧𝙜𝙤𝙩𝙩𝙚𝙣, 𝙤𝙧 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙘𝙤𝙣𝙙𝙤𝙣𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙩𝙮𝙥𝙚 𝙤𝙛 𝙗𝙚𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙞𝙤𝙧!

𝟱. 𝙁𝙤𝙧𝙜𝙞𝙫𝙚𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙙𝙤𝙚𝙨𝙣'𝙩 𝙢𝙚𝙖𝙣 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙚 𝙩𝙤 𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙙 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙧𝙚𝙡𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨𝙝𝙞𝙥 𝙞𝙣 𝙤𝙧𝙙𝙚𝙧 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙛𝙤𝙧𝙜𝙞𝙫𝙚𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙩𝙤 𝙗𝙚 𝙫𝙖𝙡𝙞𝙙.

Tune in to listen to the full details and events that helped me expand my understanding of forgiveness!

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✨THANK YOU FOR BEING HERE BOSS!✨

As always, stay being the bad boss that you are! ̤̮

xoxo,

Nina💕

In this episode I share my understanding of the grey area and what a black & white (b&w) world or mindset looks like. The grey area is being able to be flexible about the way you think or see things. The b&w mindset is to always think it's one way or another. I share the details and how I found the grey area during one of the toughest times in my journey as a CSA survivor. I also share about the period in my life when I was living in the b&w world and I went too far into the Black (being bad) and also another time where I went too far into the White (being good). Tune in to understand my meaning of the grey area and how it's a sign you're healing boss! Maybe it's for you and you want to start practicing it or using it for areas of your life. And if you are using it already, I SEE YOU BOSS! Keep going, keep healing, keep being the bad boss that you are!

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As always, stay being the bad boss that you are! ̤̮

xoxo,

Nina💕

In this episode I share the incident of where my phobia with caterpillars started, how it's linked to my CSA trauma with my perpetrator brother, and a recent incident that tested my tolerance showing how much healing I've done since then. You also get to witness me coping right after the incident and how it looks like for someone healing through their phobia. Exposing oneself to triggers knowing the Core-self (IFS term) can handle it, will continue to widen their window of tolerance and heal them. I am extremely proud of how far I've come and how much I understand about my traumas and how to heal through it. I hope this episode helps you understand your phobia(s) and gives you the courage to heal as well.If you’d like to 🅢🅤🅟🅔🅡 support me here is an option to do so : ♡☕️ https://buymeacoffee.com/healingwithyb✨THANK YOU FOR BEING HERE BOSS!✨As always, stay being the bad boss that you are! ̤̮xoxo,Nina💕

In this episode I share my understanding of Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy and how it has helped me in my healing journey as a CSA survivor. I also share some personal examples of how I used the therapy to overcome certain situations I have faced.

It is one of the number one tools that has changed my life and advanced my healing. Due to the fact that it was a clinical study and experts use this today, I feel even more confident sharing with you bosses. This form of therapy works especially well for me because of my childhood trauma and understanding why I may feel/react the way I do today because of it. It doesn't mean that if you don't have childhood trauma that it won't work for you. Your "parts" (a vocab from IFS) just might not be as apparent or strong but everyone has parts. I hope you tune in to learn about IFS therapy to have a better understanding of why you are the way you are, how to overcome hard feelings, or simple understand those around you.

If you want further information on IFS or you didn't understand what I talk about in my video, here are links for other resources from experts!

*Watch All 5 Videos from Dr. Tori Olds for break down of IFS*

Part 1 | https://youtu.be/tNA5qTTxFFA?si=EIxXikYGq1MN5eAe

Part 2 | https://youtu.be/3bNHkg4ZPpA?si=gM532MvdB-7MSLQQ

Part 3 | https://youtu.be/Vh4oiSIJhTE?si=RBuVyFE1ND7Zqgxj

Part 4 | https://youtu.be/ThA1ojmekpI?si=ACt98IfjnxmnDHmQ

Part 5 | https://youtu.be/Oy6lM8W363Q?si=vWxJcaBTZ_Lsqb2d

*The Book on IFS (I read most of Part 1 only, it was so fasinating)*

https://books.google.com/books?id=ScqYDwAAQBAJ&pg=PA93&source=gbs_toc_r&cad=2#v=onepage&q&f=false

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As always, stay being the bad boss that you are! ̤̮

xoxo,

Nina💕

In this episode I share about why survivors, victims, or people who have faced hardships/trauma in their life hold onto safe places, things, and people and how it's harder for them to let go. It is completely hard and the grieving process is lonely, but I believe letting go will allow space for growth. Tune in to see what the first place I moved into from the house I was SA'ed in meant to me and how I had to let go of this one item that meant a lot to me.

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As I celebrate the anniversary of me becoming a wife to my partner, I share with you the generalized tools I use in my everyday relationships with my partner, friends, and family. These are great tools that I've gathered over the years and practice- to maintain and build healthy relationships in my life. I hope that you either get a refresher or find some great tools for you that maybe you never knew before and from here you expand your strength in being a better person. ◡̈

Tools spoken in video (watch to receive in depth explanations)-

1. 𝗕𝗲𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮 𝗙𝘂𝗹𝗹 𝗼𝗿 𝗪𝗵𝗼𝗹𝗲 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗼𝗻 so there isn't constant problems rising.

2. 𝗔𝗰𝗰𝗲𝗽𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗽𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗶𝗺𝗮𝗹 𝗳𝗹𝗮𝘄𝘀 𝗼𝗿 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘆'𝗿𝗲 𝗺𝗶𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗴.

3. 𝗕𝗲 𝗮 "𝗻𝗼" 𝗳𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗱 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘀𝘂𝗿𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 "𝗻𝗼" 𝗳𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗱𝘀 (don't be a "yes" person all the time).

4. 𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗺𝘂𝗻𝗶𝗰𝗮𝘁𝗲 𝘀𝗼 𝗻𝗼 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗶𝘀 𝗯𝘂𝗶𝗹𝘁. You can always speak from how you FEEL so that it doesn't blame others. No one can tell you what you do or don't feel.

5. 𝗛𝗮𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮 𝗯𝗮𝗹𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲𝗱 𝗿𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽- 1. Being present to occasions or special events (meals, funerals, parties, showers etc.) 2. Listening as much as you talk and talk as much as you listen. 3. Spending money as evenly as possible or understanding each other's spending style and compromising.

6. 𝗕𝗲𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝘄𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘁𝗼 𝗹𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗻, 𝗴𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗮𝗱𝘃𝗶𝗰𝗲, 𝗼𝗿 𝗵𝘂𝗴 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗳𝗼𝗿𝘁.

ʚ You can find more about me at 𝘄𝘄𝘄.𝗬𝗲𝗿𝗯𝗼𝘀𝘀𝘆.𝗰𝗼𝗺 ɞ

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✨THANK YOU FOR BEING HERE BOSS!✨

As always, stay being the bad boss that you are! ̤̮

xoxo,

Nina💕

Come sit with me as we go through the emotions around my father standing by my perpetrator.. I reveal the live vulnerable pieces of my inner-child's feelings and what it wants and is grieving. This is the current state of my relationship with my father and how he makes me feel (08.07.25).

I hope this episode reminds you that your inner-child doesn't have to grow up. It's okay for it to want things it never had or to grieve things that's leaving/different. It's okay to be vulnerable and to ask for help. To seek a community that sees you and has the capacity to sit with you and your pain.

ʚ You can find more about me at 𝘄𝘄𝘄.𝗬𝗲𝗿𝗯𝗼𝘀𝘀𝘆.𝗰𝗼𝗺 ɞ

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As always, stay being the bad boss that you are! ̤̮xoxo,Nina💕

In this episode you'll find me processing my feelings and thoughts about coming out about who my perpetrator is. I sit through the emotions of how proud I feel with how far I've come, sadness about everything I've been through, and how this is finally happening. I share about how honored I am to have had special people since day 1 and those I've met along the way that supported me on my journey to here. Just feeling truly blessed with my support system and to be alive today.

ʚ You can find more about me at 𝘄𝘄𝘄.𝗬𝗲𝗿𝗯𝗼𝘀𝘀𝘆.𝗰𝗼𝗺 ɞ

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As always, stay being the bad boss that you are! ̤̮

xoxo,

Nina💕

My 𝗦𝗧𝗢𝗥𝗬 | A resilient CSA survivor of incest, full of 𝒔𝒕𝒓𝒆𝒏𝒈𝒕𝒉 and 𝒍𝒐𝒗𝒆.

My 𝗪𝗛𝗬 | 𝑪𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒂 𝒗𝒐𝒊𝒄𝒆 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒊𝒏𝒏𝒆𝒓 𝒄𝒉𝒊𝒍𝒅 𝒕𝒐 𝒃𝒆 𝒔𝒆𝒆𝒏 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒂 𝒑𝒂𝒕𝒉 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒂𝒅𝒖𝒍𝒕 𝒔𝒆𝒍𝒇 𝒕𝒐 𝒘𝒂𝒍𝒌.

💌: 𝙄 𝙝𝙤𝙥𝙚 𝙢𝙮 𝙨𝙩𝙤𝙧𝙮 𝙛𝙞𝙣𝙙𝙨 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙬𝙚𝙡𝙡 𝙗𝙤𝙨𝙨, 𝙬𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙧 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙞𝙣 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙤𝙬𝙣 𝙝𝙚𝙖𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙟𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙣𝙚𝙮. 𝙄 𝙝𝙤𝙥𝙚 𝙞𝙩 𝙜𝙞𝙫𝙚𝙨 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙝𝙤𝙥𝙚, 𝙨𝙩𝙧𝙚𝙣𝙜𝙩𝙝, 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙡𝙚𝙨𝙨𝙚𝙣𝙨 𝙖𝙣𝙮 𝙡𝙤𝙣𝙚𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙢𝙖𝙮 𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙚. 𝙈𝙖𝙮 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙗𝙚𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙚 𝙬𝙝𝙤 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙬𝙞𝙨𝙝 𝙩𝙤 𝙗𝙚𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙚. 𝙈𝙖𝙮 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙛𝙞𝙣𝙖𝙡𝙡𝙮 𝙗𝙚 𝙖𝙗𝙡𝙚 𝙩𝙤 𝙗𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙩𝙝𝙚, 𝙛𝙚𝙚𝙡 𝙛𝙧𝙚𝙚, 𝙥𝙪𝙩 𝙤𝙣 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙬𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙨, 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙡𝙞𝙫𝙚 𝙞𝙣 𝙖 𝙬𝙤𝙧𝙡𝙙 𝙬𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙣𝙤 𝙡𝙤𝙣𝙜𝙚𝙧 𝙨𝙪𝙛𝙛𝙚𝙧 𝙗𝙚𝙘𝙖𝙪𝙨𝙚 𝙤𝙛 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙩𝙧𝙖𝙪𝙢𝙖 𝙤𝙧 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙨𝙖𝙠𝙚 𝙤𝙛 𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙨. 𝙈𝙖𝙮 𝙝𝙖𝙥𝙥𝙞𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨, 𝙡𝙤𝙫𝙚, 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙨𝙩𝙧𝙚𝙣𝙜𝙩𝙝 𝙛𝙞𝙣𝙙 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙨𝙩𝙚𝙥 𝙤𝙛 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙬𝙖𝙮 𝙞𝙣 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙟𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙣𝙚𝙮. 𝘼𝙣𝙙 𝙞𝙛 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙚 𝙛𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙬𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙨, 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙡𝙞𝙜𝙝𝙩, 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙥𝙪𝙧𝙥𝙤𝙨𝙚, 𝙄 𝙖𝙢 𝙚𝙭𝙩𝙧𝙚𝙢𝙚𝙡𝙮 𝙥𝙧𝙤𝙪𝙙 𝙤𝙛 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙗𝙤𝙨𝙨. 𝙂𝙤𝙤𝙙 𝙟𝙤𝙗 𝙢𝙖𝙠𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙩 𝙤𝙪𝙩 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙨𝙩𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝙗𝙚𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙖 𝙜𝙤𝙤𝙙 𝙥𝙚𝙧𝙨𝙤𝙣 𝙩𝙤 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙬𝙤𝙧𝙡𝙙.🫶🏼✨

-YB🎀

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✨THANK YOU FOR BEING HERE BOSS!✨

As always, stay being the bad boss that you are! ̤̮

xoxo,

nina💕

✨Take the leap✨

In this episode I share everything I learned from my solo trip to Thailand - Project.findingme. I share all of the things I struggled with and improved on such as: self-love, self-value, being in solitude, loving others, accepting love, and finding my passion vs a purpose. I close all the 4 Season of my personal healing journey and share with you what the future looks like for Yer.Bossy podcast. I am so happy to have been able to share this journey with you Boss. I hope that you have healed in some way along the way as well and that we continue this journey together.

ʚ❤︎ɞ New episode every Tuesday 6AM (CST). ʚ❤︎ɞ You can find my socials and more about me at www.yerbossy.com. Please follow and rate the podcast if you enjoy it. ̤̮