Ed sits down with Blake Brewer, founder of Legacy Letter, to explore how one handwritten letter can change families for generations. Blake shares the heartbreaking story of losing his father at 19, and the unexpected gift his father left behind that transformed his grief into purpose. Together, they unpack why love, apology, belief, and identity are the true foundations of healthy relationships. This conversation is both a call to action and a reminder that the words we leave behind may matter more than anything we pass on financially.

Key Takeaways:

• How can intentional words and written legacy shape a child’s identity for life?

• Why are apology, love, and belief essential foundations for healing and strengthening family relationships?

• What responsibility do parents have to pass on emotional wisdom—not just financial or material inheritance?

Key Timestamps:

(00:00) - How Blake Lost His Father

(09:00) - Letter That Healed

(12:00) - Grief And Growth

(15:00) - Why Words Matter

(18:00) - Parenting With Intention

(21:00) - Apology In Parenting

(24:00) - Affirming Child Identity

(27:00) - Love, Pride, Belief

(30:00) - Sharing Meaningful Memories

(33:00) - Advice That Shapes Life

(36:00) - Writing From The Heart

(39:00) - Legacy Beyond Death

Key Topics Discussed:

Healthy Love and Money, Ed Coambs, Charlotte North Carolina, Financial Therapy, Couples Financial Planning, Financial Intimacy, Money and Relationships, Financial Communication for Couples, Attachment Styles and Money, Financial Conflict Resolution, Therapy-Informed Financial Planning, Financial Trauma Healing, Financial Wellness for Couples, Legacy Letter, Parent Child Relationships, Emotional Inheritance, Healing Family Relationships, Meaningful Parenting Conversations

Mentions:

Website: https://www.legacyletter.com

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/blakecbrewer/

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Healthy Love & Money is a personal podcast meant for education and entertainment. It should not be taken as financial advice and is not prescriptive of your financial situation.

Ed and researcher and financial planner Mikel Van Cleve, unpack the hidden emotional dynamics, common misconceptions, legal pitfalls, and the critical conversations couples need before making long-term decisions. Whether you’re part of a blended family or simply connected to one through parents, children, or extended relatives, this episode gives you the clarity, language, and confidence to handle even the most complex family-money situations. Mikel’s work is transforming how blended families navigate money, communication, and legacy-building, so you’ll walk away with practical steps, deeper understanding, and the tools to protect the people you love most.

Key Takeaways:

• What risks do couples face when they avoid discussing inheritance, assets, and fairness?

• How can financial therapy and professional guidance help families create clearer, more equitable plans?

• How can blended families better navigate the emotional and financial complexities of estate planning?

Key Timestamps:

(00:00) – Blended Family Landscape

(03:00) – Estate Planning Foundations

(06:00) – Unintentional Disinheritance Risks

(09:00) – Blended Families Statistics

(12:00) – What Are Emotional Barriers?

(15:00) – Kinship Theory Insight

(18:00) – Fairness Versus Equality

(21:00) – Stepchild Support Dynamics

(24:00) – Family Systems Complexity

(27:00) – Emotional Avoidance Costs

(30:00) – Negotiation Within Marriage

Key Topics Discussed:

Healthy Love and Money, Ed Coambs, Charlotte North Carolina, Financial Therapy, Couples Financial Planning, Financial Intimacy, Money and Relationships, Financial Communication for Couples, Attachment Styles and Money, Financial Conflict Resolution, Therapy-Informed Financial Planning, Financial Trauma Healing, Financial Wellness for Couples, Blended Family Estate Planning, Stepfamily Financial Challenges, Unintentional Disinheritance, Financial Therapy Support, Legacy And Inheritance Planning

Mentions:

Website: https://www.myweb.ttu.edu/mvanclev/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mikel-van-cleve

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Healthy Love & Money is a personal podcast meant for education and entertainment. It should not be taken as financial advice and is not prescriptive of your financial situation.

Dr. Daniel Crosby, psychologist, author, and Chief Behavioral Officer at Orion Financial joins Ed to explore the deeper meaning behind how we earn, spend, save, and relate to wealth. Drawing from his new book The Soul of Wealth, Daniel shares stories from his personal life, his faith background, and his years studying human behavior to reveal why our relationship with money is far more emotional than logical. Together, he and Ed unpack how childhood narratives shape our financial beliefs, why couples collide over money even when the numbers are fine, and how personal growth can dramatically increase both life satisfaction and earning potential. This episode goes beyond budgets and bank accounts to ask the profound questions of what wealth is for and how it can support a more meaningful life. Prepare for an honest, funny, and deeply human conversation about money, identity, and purpose.

Key Takeaways:

• How do childhood experiences and family beliefs shape the way we relate to money as adults?

• Why do couples clash over financial decisions even when they share the same goals?

• What role does personal growth and emotional awareness play in building true, sustainable wealth?

Key Timestamps:

(00:00) – Health Scare Perspective Shift

(09:00) – Eating Disorders Background Connection

(12:00) – Understanding Money Stories

(15:00) – Budgets Reveal Priorities

(18:00) – Couples’ Spending Conflicts

(21:00) – Navigating Money Differences

(24:00) – Anxiety’s Role In Finances

(27:00) – Gender And Money Expectations

(30:00) – Identity Beyond Net Worth

(33:00) – Therapy Boosts Earnings

(36:00) – Emotional Skills And Wealth

Key Topics Discussed:

Healthy Love and Money, Ed Coambs, Charlotte North Carolina, Financial Therapy, Couples Financial Planning, Financial Intimacy, Money and Relationships, Financial Communication for Couples, Attachment Styles and Money, Financial Conflict Resolution, Therapy-Informed Financial Planning, Financial Trauma Healing, Financial Wellness for Couples, Financial Psychology, Money And Meaning, Behavioral Finance Insights, Wealth And Well-Being, Couples And Money Dynamics

Mentions:

Website: https://orion.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/danielcrosby

Mentions: The Soul of Wealth Book

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Healthy Love & Money is a personal podcast meant for education and entertainment. It should not be taken as financial advice and is not prescriptive of your financial situation.

Ed chats with psychotherapist and author Tamala Floyd and financial wellness leader Saundra Davis for an eye-opening conversation at the intersection of healing, money, and identity. Together, they explore how Internal Family Systems (IFS) helps people unlock deep emotional transformation, why legacy burdens shape our financial behaviors, and how ancestral wisdom can accelerate healing across generations. Through honest stories, vulnerable insights, and grounded guidance, this episode highlights the truth that money is never just about numbers, it’s about the parts of ourselves we’ve protected, the wounds we’ve carried, and the generations that came before us. Listeners will walk away with a new understanding of wholeness, the power of self-leadership, and the emotional roots underlying our financial lives.

Key Takeaways:

• How do internal parts and protectors shape the way we approach money and emotional healing?

• In what ways do legacy burdens and ancestral patterns influence financial behavior across generations?

• How can therapy, self-leadership, and mindful awareness create lasting change in both personal and financial well-being?

Key Timestamps:

(00:00) - Childhood Creativity Foundations

(06:00) - Therapy Journey Beginnings

(09:00) - IFS Core Principles

(12:00) - Legacy Burdens Explained

(15:00) - Generational Money Patterns

(18:00) - Emotional Money Conflicts

(21:00) - Wealth Fear Insights

(24:00) - Therapy and Money

(27:00) - Protectors And Wounds

(30:00) - Trauma Healing

(39:00) - Rupture Repair Process

Key Topics Discussed:

Healthy Love and Money, Ed Coambs, Charlotte North Carolina, Financial Therapy, Couples Financial Planning, Financial Intimacy, Money and Relationships, Financial Communication for Couples, Attachment Styles and Money, Financial Conflict Resolution, Therapy-Informed Financial Planning, Financial Trauma Healing, Financial Wellness for Couples, Internal Family Systems, Financial Healing, Legacy Burdens, Ancestral Wisdom, Emotional Money Patterns

Mentions:

Tamala’s Website: https://www.tamalafloyd.com/

Tamala’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamala-floyd-lcsw-2ba1a837

Saundra’s Website: https://www.sagefinancialsolutions.org/

Saundra’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/saundradavis

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Healthy Love & Money is a personal podcast meant for education and entertainment. It should not be taken as financial advice and is not prescriptive of your financial situation.

Ed sits down with financial therapist Haylie Castillo, whose powerful story bridges finance, trauma healing, and liberation work. Haylie opens up about her path from corporate finance to financial therapy, revealing how deconstructing her faith, motherhood, and her relationship with power shaped her approach to money and meaning. Together, Ed and Haylie unpack how systems, pleasure, and play influence our money stories, and how embracing joy can be a radical act of financial freedom.

Key Takeaways:

• What role does pleasure play in reshaping our relationship with money?

• How can decolonizing and liberation-centered therapy transform financial healing?

• Why is storytelling such a powerful tool for financial and emotional growth?

Key Timestamps:

(00:00) - MLM And Disempowerment

(10:00) - Navigating Corporate Finance

(12:00) - Motherhood And Awakening

(17:00) - Discovering Financial Therapy

(22:00) - Taking Up Space

(25:00) - Storytelling And Self-Healing

(28:00) - Pleasure And Play With Money

(34:00) - Parallels With Sex And Food

(39:00) - Healing Through Relationship

(41:00) - Ritual And Community

Key Topics Discussed:

Healthy Love and Money, Ed Coambs, Charlotte North Carolina, Financial Therapy, Couples Financial Planning, Financial Intimacy, Money and Relationships, Financial Communication for Couples, Attachment Styles and Money, Financial Conflict Resolution, Therapy-Informed Financial Planning, Financial Trauma Healing, Financial Wellness for Couples, Financial Therapy, Money And Trauma, Liberation-Centered Healing, Pleasure And Money, Decolonizing Wealth

Mentions:

Website: https://www.castillofinancialtherapy.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/c_financial_therapy/

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Healthy Love & Money is a personal podcast meant for education and entertainment. It should not be taken as financial advice and is not prescriptive of your financial situation.

What if the missing link in your healing journey was trauma, and no one ever told you? In this eye-opening episode, Ed Coambs sits down with renowned trauma therapist Lou Lebentz for a deeply moving and transformative conversation. Together, they uncover the hidden layers of trauma that shape our lives, from the subtle emotional imprints of childhood to intergenerational pain and societal systems of shame and scarcity. Lou shares her personal journey through breakdown, financial extremes, and profound healing, leading to the creation of her pioneering program, The Voyage. This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to understand how unresolved trauma shows up in relationships, mental health, and even your financial behaviors and how true healing is not just possible, but your birthright.

Key Takeaways:

• How can healing through programs like The Voyage help individuals move from survival to thriving?

• What role do our childhood experiences and inherited beliefs play in how we relate to money and self-worth?

• How does trauma—beyond just major events—shape our emotional, relational, and financial lives?

Key Timestamps:

(00:00) - Discovering trauma in addiction therapy settings

(05:00) - Four aspects of trauma explained

(08:30) - How classism and societal systems create trauma

(10:00) - Internalizing parental fears and money beliefs

(13:00) - The importance of addressing past, present, and future in healing

(16:00) - The role of therapy and coaching in trauma recovery

(19:00) - Understanding parts work: adult, wounded, and adapted selves

(23:00) - How childhood money experiences shape financial behaviors

(37:00) - Integrating soul, vision, and purpose in healing

(38:00) - Thriving after trauma as a birthright

Key Topics Discussed:

Healthy Love and Money, Ed Coambs, Charlotte North Carolina, Financial Therapy, Couples Financial Planning, Financial Intimacy, Money and Relationships, Financial Communication for Couples, Attachment Styles and Money, Financial Conflict Resolution, Therapy-Informed Financial Planning, Financial Trauma Healing, Financial Wellness for Couples, Trauma recovery program, Inner child healing, Financial trauma therapy, Parts work psychology, Emotional healing journey

Mentions:

Website: https://loulebentz.com/

LinkedIn: https://uk.linkedin.com/in/loulebentz

Mentions: The Voyage

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Healthy Love & Money is a personal podcast meant for education and entertainment. It should not be taken as financial advice and is not prescriptive of your financial situation.

Ed opens up about the deeply personal journey of buying a lake house with his wife, a dream years in the making that brought both joy and tension. Through raw reflection, Ed explores how financial decisions often uncover deeper emotional layers in relationships, revealing the power of vulnerability, trust, and emotional awareness. He shares how understanding attachment styles, embracing emotional honesty, and seeking guidance can transform financial conflict into deeper intimacy. This episode invites you to reflect on your own dreams, how you communicate them with your partners, and how shared meaning can strengthen love and money alike.

Key Takeaways:

• How can couples navigate emotional differences when pursuing shared financial dreams?

• What role do attachment styles play in how partners communicate about money and security?

• How can slowing down and seeking guidance turn financial conflict into deeper connection?

Key Timestamps:

(00:00) - Dream Meets Resistance

(05:00) - The Turning Point

(07:00) - Attachment And Awareness

(10:00) - Meaning Behind Dreams

(12:00) - Guidance And Growth

(14:00) - Lessons From The Lakehouse

Key Topics Discussed:

Healthy Love and Money, Ed Coambs, Charlotte North Carolina, Financial Therapy, Couples Financial Planning, Financial Intimacy, Money and Relationships, Financial Communication for Couples, Attachment Styles and Money, Financial Conflict Resolution, Therapy-Informed Financial Planning, Financial Trauma Healing, Financial Wellness for Couples

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Healthy Love & Money is a personal podcast meant for education and entertainment. It should not be taken as financial advice and is not prescriptive of your financial situation.

What happens when deep healing meets financial planning? Lindsay Troxell, business coach, certified life planner, and child-free entrepreneur, joins Ed to explore the profound intersections of money, identity, trauma, and relationships. Together, they unravel Lindsay’s personal journey through financial betrayal, her healing process, and the creation of a thriving life and business alongside her partner, Corey. From grounding practices to quarterly tax triggers, this episode is a masterclass in emotional resilience, authentic partnership, and what it means to truly thrive financially and emotionally.

Key Takeaways:

• How do our childhood experiences and past traumas shape our relationship with money and financial decision-making?

• What does true financial intimacy look like in a romantic partnership, especially when personalities and money stories differ?

• How can somatic practices and identity work support personal healing and professional growth for purpose-driven entrepreneurs?

Key Timestamps:

(00:00) - Integrating wealth, health, and life planning

(08:00) - From financial crisis to empowerment

(12:00) - Launching a values-based RIA

(14:00) - Navigating relationship dynamics with money

(16:00) -Emotional safety and personal growth

(20:00) - Childhood money stories and triggers

(23:00) - Somatic tools for nervous system healing

(26:00) - Communication and deep financial intimacy

(29:00) - Trauma work and psychedelics in healing

(32:00) - The human experience of worth and fear

Key Topics Discussed:

Healthy Love and Money, Ed Coambs, Charlotte North Carolina, Financial Therapy, Couples Financial Planning, Financial Intimacy, Money and Relationships, Financial Communication for Couples, Attachment Styles and Money, Financial Conflict Resolution, Therapy-Informed Financial Planning, Financial Trauma Healing, Financial Wellness for Couples

Mentions:

Website: https://www.discretionaryinc.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lindsaytroxell

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Healthy Love & Money is a personal podcast meant for education and entertainment. It should not be taken as financial advice and is not prescriptive of your financial situation.

What if the future of financial planning isn't in the numbers—but in the emotions behind them? In this episode, Ed sits down with Brendan Frazier—host of The Human Side of Money podcast and Chief Behavioral Officer at RFG Advisory—to explore why the most meaningful conversations about money aren’t about returns or budgets…they're about people. With deep insight into the psychology of money, Brendan shares why technology may soon outpace advisors on the technical front—and why human connection is the irreplaceable advantage. Whether you’re a couple trying to get on the same financial page, a planner aiming to deepen client relationships, or someone who just wants to feel seen in your money journey, this conversation is your invitation to shift from transactions to transformation. This is the episode you didn’t know you needed—but won’t stop thinking about.

Key Takeaways:

• How is the growing role of psychology reshaping the future of financial planning, especially in light of advancing technology and AI?

• What challenges do financial advisors face when trying to help clients take meaningful action, and how can understanding human behavior improve outcomes?

• Why are empathy and mutual understanding between partners crucial for navigating money conversations in relationships?

Key Timestamps:

(00:00) – The Emergence of Psychology in Financial Planning

(03:00) – Technology's Role in Financial Advising

(06:00) – The Human Side of Financial Planning

(08:00) – Trust and Vulnerability in Client Relationships

(10:00) – The Psychology of Spending and Understanding Behavior

(17:00) – Financial Trade-Offs and Shared Decision-Making

(19:00) – Automation and Willpower in Money Management

(22:00) – When Knowing What to Do Isn't Enough

(27:00) – Bridging the Financial Knowledge Gap Between Partners

(35:00) – Taking Responsibility in Relationships

Key Topics Discussed:

Healthy Love and Money, Ed Coambs, Charlotte North Carolina, Financial Therapy, Couples Financial Planning, Financial Intimacy, Money and Relationships, Financial Communication for Couples, Attachment Styles and Money, Financial Conflict Resolution, Therapy-Informed Financial Planning, Financial Trauma Healing, Financial Wellness for Couples, Human side of money, Psychology and financial planning, Behavioral finance, Technology and financial advising, Financial advisor client relationships, Brendan Frazier

Mentions:

Website: https://rfgadvisory.com/

LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/brendanfrazier?original_referer=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.google.com%2F

Mentions: Human Side of Money Podcast

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In this solo episode, Ed unpacks the Five W’s—Who, What, Why, Where, and When—as a framework for building deeper financial intimacy. Money isn’t just about numbers; it’s about the stories, fears, hopes, and histories that shape how couples connect. From uncovering the “who” that shows up at the table, to redefining the “what” of financial intimacy, and exploring the “why” behind money conflicts, this conversation helps you turn financial stress into a pathway for trust and closeness. Whether you’re navigating careers, kids, or retirement planning, Ed offers practical reflections and heartfelt insights to bring more honesty, compassion, and teamwork into your financial life together.

Key Takeaways:

• What does financial intimacy mean beyond budgets and numbers, and how can couples practice it with honesty and vulnerability?

• Who shows up in your financial conversations—the present you, or the past experiences that still shape your money story?

• Why does exploring the deeper meaning behind money conflicts transform financial stress into trust, compassion, and connection?

Key Timestamps:

(00:00) - Understanding financial intimacy

(03:00) - Why money conflicts run deeper

(04:00) - A story about mortgage vs. investing

(05:00) - Where financial intimacy happens

(06:00) - Couples and financial intimacy

(07:00) - Pulling the Five W’s together

Key Topics Discussed:

Healthy Love and Money, Ed Coambs, Charlotte North Carolina, Financial Therapy, Couples Financial Planning, Financial Intimacy, Money and Relationships, Financial Communication for Couples, Attachment Styles and Money, Financial Conflict Resolution, Therapy-Informed Financial Planning, Financial Trauma Healing, Financial Wellness for Couples, Financial Intimacy, Healthy Money Conversations, Couples And Money, Building Trust With Finances, Relationship And Financial Wellness

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Contact me at [email protected]

Healthy Love & Money is a personal podcast meant for education and entertainment. It should not be taken as financial advice and is not prescriptive of your financial situation.