Healthy Wealthy & Wise Relationships

Why Isn’t This Working? Have you ever asked yourself this question about your relationship? Do you have the feeling that ‘something’ is off, and you can’t quite put your finger on what it is? Maybe he or she has already moved on, but you don’t know it?

What are you doing to cope inside of your chaotic and completely confusing relationship? Get Educated about Narcissism! Don’t perish because of lack of knowledge.

This episode is a continuation of an enlightening conversation that despite how awful being in a narcissistic relationship is, will give you hope. Listen in.

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Have you ever heard of the story of Narcissus and Echo? It's a fascinating myth that was written so long ago but has such eternal truth about the human condition. In the story, the mountain nymph Echo was rejected by Narcissus simply because He was in love with himself. This story explores the boundaries between love and obsession and warns that obsessive self-love comes with dire consequences and if you’ve ever loved a narcissist, you’ve definitely suffered dire consequences.

Today’s guest, having gone through a narcissistic relationship shares her wisdom and experiential knowledge with laughter. We shared an incredibly straightforward conversation in today’s episode and the next three.

And when I asked her if she could recommend ways to help someone who has gone through narcissism. She said, quote

“Definitely, I think a blank notebook to journal in is the first step. It's cheaper than therapy and you can always get that appointment with your journal! Deep Breathing also known as Breathwork will help clear the mind and allow for a space where you can become mindful of your own actions. Ask yourself this question. What did I need so badly from this individual that I would allow myself to become entangled with a person who cares for you just enough to keep you around to do their bidding? It's a tough question I know, but be honest with yourself first and foremost.” End Quote. See what you learn from today’s episode.

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Today, I’m going to share a few common terms associated with narcissism. So far, in this series on Narcissism, I’ve uploaded an episode about a young lady raised by a narcissistic dad and different people who have had experience with narcissism. I’ve also uploaded an episode on Narcissism and Church hurt, I’ve even shared my story about being married to a narcissistic pastor.

Why this topic about narcissism? Why do I feel compelled to keep interviewing people for my podcast and talking about narcissism? Because it did a number on me. Go back and listen to my past episodes on narcissism. You’ll see how awful it is to be in a relationship with a narcissist and how it adversely affects you. I was listening to one of Dr. Ramani’s podcasts about narcissism and someone asked, “Why isn’t it considered a crime, like domestic violence, if it’s so bad?” The answer… “Because it is so elusive and hard to identify. The narcissist presents one way in public and the absolute opposite behind closed doors. There are no visible wounds.

In public, the narcissist acts so loving, caring, and humble but it’s all a show…an illusion. None of how they treat you is real...in the beginning. Remember in my introduction I said that periodically I’d share stories from the Yvonne Vault? Well, here’s a short one.

When I was dating my ex-narc, I was ecstatic…at first. I thought he was everything I’d prayed for. We seemed to have so much in common. I was telling everyone how great he was, singing his praises. So was everyone he’d introduced me to. They all sang his praises. And when he asked me to marry him, I thought…FINALLY, finally, I had the man I was going to spend the rest of my life with. I felt that way the entire time we’d dated. Then after we’d married and the dust settled…well, hence this podcast series on narcissism. It is said that the narcissist wears a mask until the mask slips. And when my ex-narc’s mask slipped, I went from being on an emotional high to being emotionally depleted. Just like when a balloon deflates. I had no idea what was happening or why, until I began to research how I was feeling and found the words attached to those feelings, I was miserable. That’s the reason for today’s podcast. I’m going to share the world of narcissism through words associated with it. See if how you’re feeling in your relationship resonates with any or ALL of these words.

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RESOURCES:

https://narcissistfamilyfiles.com/2017/09/19/narcissism-101-a-glossary-of-terms-for-understanding-the-madness/

https://abusewarrior.com/abuse/a-glossary-of-narcissistic-slang-terms/

RESOURCE: Dr. Ramani – Narcissistic Term Glossary

https://completedpeople.com/resources-tool-box/video-playlists/dr-ramani-narcissistic-term-glossary.html

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How do you navigate a relationship with a narcissistic family member? This person was directly instrumental in your mental well-being as you were being raised. You depended on this person for everything when you were young. You love this person, but their behavior was or is extremely toxic and you are unsure if they truly love you. You were or are still confused as to how to approach this person when you need or needed to be held and understood because they’d always tell you that you were wrong for having and showing your emotions.

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RESOURCES:

Dr. Ramani talks in depth about narcissism

https://doctor-ramani.com/

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HG Tudor is a self-professed Narcissist

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC5zIX8qBAl2CUIyF9AeTjaA

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This is my last conversation with Clinical Psychologist, Dr. Ruth Ann Harpur, who specializes in relationships and issues of narcissism. Today we discuss a subject that I have yet to hear any podcast discuss. So if you’ve heard one please email me the link so I can listen, too. Dr Ruth Ann and I discuss this hush hush topic that people don’t want to expose but is one of the reasons people are leaving the church community in droves. It’s even the reason why some people leave the faith. Let’s see what Dr. Ruth Ann has to say about church hurt…

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“Focus your attention on you, not on the person who abused you”

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Again, today I’m joined by Clinical Psychologist, Dr. Ruth Ann Harpur, who specializes in relationships and issues of narcissism. I share my personal experience of being married to a narcissistic pastor. Not ALL pastors are narcissists, but those who are will sometimes use spirituality over his wife’s head. Does your significant other or spouse have a fantasy in their mind of how you should be or what your relationship HAS to be? Let’s see what Dr. Ruth Ann has to say.

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Again, today I’m joined by Clinical Psychologist, Dr. Ruth Ann Harpur, who specializes in relationships and issues of narcissism. What are some common terms in Narcissism world? What is life like with a narcissist? What is crazy-making?

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(Matthew 7:7 ESV) tells us “Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you.”

Today’s Episode is focused on the Abundant Life.

In John 10:10 we read, “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.”

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