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Ep #44 – How You Identify Yourself Your identity is not rigid or unchangeable. What You’ll Learn on this Episode: What your identity is. How the past doesn’t have to limit your story. How you can rewrite the next chapter of your story. Featured on the Show: Ready for a solid relationship with yourself? Work with me one-on-one. Join me on Instagram and tag me in all your favorite Hello, Lovely moments!

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How You Identify Yourself Your identity can feel very fixed. Like this is just who I am. But your identity is not set in stone. It’s the story you tell about yourself—over and over. It’s how you describe yourself. How you talk to yourself. The labels you use. “This is who I am…” and then comes the story. If you don’t like parts of that story, you can change them. Before anything else, know this: you are already whole and valuable right now. Not later. Not once things change. Now. That’s important, because changing your identity doesn’t come from trying to fix yourself. It comes from understanding yourself. A lot of times, there are parts of your story you don’t want to look at. They get pushed back, ignored, or covered with shame. That’s normal. But when you start looking at your story without judgment, something shifts. You understand why you do what you do. You see how your past shaped your patterns. From there, you get to choose something new. You don’t erase your past. You don’t pretend it didn’t happen. But it doesn’t define who you are now. It’s like something that used to hurt finally healing. You might remember it, but it doesn’t have the same impact. This is where change happens. You start telling a new story. “I am a woman who…” And you practice that. When old thoughts come up, you don’t fight them. You just remind yourself: that’s not who I am anymore. Over time, your life catches up with your identity. You stop chasing validation and start living as the woman you’ve decided to be. That’s the shift. Click here to schedule a Consultation with Christie. Join us in Authentic Confidence Reset to feel yourself again. Click here to sign up. If you want weekly gems to feel your most authentic self, sign up for the Lovelies List here. Tag @mschristiewilliams and share your top takeaways! In this episode, we cover:

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Ep #43 – Real Self-Esteem Self-Esteem is a great friendship with yourself. What You’ll Learn on this Episode: What is real self-esteem? What isn’t needed to have it. How you can you increase your confidence today. Featured on the Show: Hello, Lovely Podcast Episode #2 – What are Goals For? Ready for a better relationship with yourself? Work with me one-on-one. Join me on Instagram and tag me in all your favorite Hello, Lovely moments!

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Real Self-Esteem Self-esteem is not something you earn. It’s something you recognize. Most of us think self-esteem comes from doing more, achieving more, becoming more. Once I hit this goal, then I’ll feel confident. Once I accomplish enough, then I’ll feel valuable. But that’s not how it works. Self-esteem is a result of having a great friendship with yourself. You are already valuable. You are already accomplished. That part is done. When you don’t feel that way, it’s not because it’s missing. It’s because of how you’re thinking about yourself. That’s actually really good news, because it means it can change now—without waiting on anything outside of you. When you identify as “someone who still has a lot of work to do,” your brain will look for proof of that. When you identify as “someone who is accomplished,” your brain will find proof of that too. Same life. Different identity. This is where self-esteem starts. Not with doing more—but with how you see yourself. Think about how you talk about yourself. The labels you use. The way you describe who you are. Are those helping you? Or are they keeping you stuck in a version of you that you don’t even want anymore? You get to decide. You are a person who… fill in that blank. That’s where it starts. From there, goals become something you choose to go after—not something you need in order to feel worthy. That’s real self-esteem. Click here to schedule a Consultation with Christie. Join us in Authentic Confidence Reset to feel yourself again. Click here to sign up. If you want weekly gems to feel your most authentic self, sign up for the Lovelies List here. Tag @mschristiewilliams and share your top takeaways! In this episode, we cover:

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Ep #42 – Understanding What You’ll Learn on this Episode: Why understanding is needed before you can be truly honest with yourself. What happens when we focus on lack of support? How you can use understanding like a tool to change your emotional wellness. Featured on the Show: Ready for a better relationship with yourself? Work with me one-on-one. Join me on Instagram and tag me in all your favorite Hello, Lovely moments!

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Ep #41 – Trust What You’ll Learn on this Episode: What trust is. What happens when trust isn’t used. What changes when trust is used. Featured on the Show: Check out Episode #38 – Recipe for a Strong Relationship for the three ingredients. Episode #39 – Stages of Commitment. Episode #40 – Practice Love Ready for a better relationship with yourself? Work with me one-on-one. Join me on Instagram and tag me in all your favorite Hello, Lovely moments!

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Understanding Most of us think about feeling understood by other people—and it does feel amazing. Peaceful. Supported. Like everything is OK. But here’s the shift: you don’t have to wait for someone else to give that to you. When you don’t feel understood, your brain starts looking for proof. You second guess people. You question their intentions. You wonder what’s wrong. It can feel like you’re stuck in your head. Understanding brings you back. It’s a decision to be aware of your own thoughts and feelings with compassion. Not rushing them, not judging them—just listening. You’re not at the mercy of your emotions. You’re learning to understand them. From that place, everything changes. You make clearer decisions. You take care of yourself in a real way. You show up more honestly—even when things are hard. This is a practice. It can start simple. A few minutes to check in with yourself. Writing things down or just having a conversation in your head. Listening without trying to fix everything right away. Over time, that creates a safe space with yourself. And that rolls into your other relationships. You’re less reactive. You don’t feel the need to rush or prove anything. You decide when and how you want to be open. Understanding is soft, but it’s powerful. The more you practice it, the more natural it becomes. And eventually, it’s something you look forward to—because you know you’re going to show up for yourself no matter what. Click here to schedule a Consultation with Christie. Join us in Authentic Confidence Reset to feel yourself again. Click here to sign up. If you want weekly gems to feel your most authentic self, sign up for the Lovelies List here. Tag @mschristiewilliams and share your top takeaways! In this episode, we cover:

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Trust Trust is something you already have. It’s not something you earn or wait for. It’s there, and you can choose to use it. When you don’t use trust, it shows up in really normal ways. You second guess yourself. You ask for opinions because you’re unsure, not because you’re curious. You look for validation. You wonder if there’s a better way and feel like you’re missing it. You hesitate, overthink, and feel a little stuck. Nothing has gone wrong when that happens. That’s just what it looks like when trust isn’t being used. A simple way to see that you already have trust is driving. You get in the car and go. You don’t question every move. You don’t freeze at every turn. You trust yourself to handle what comes up. That same trust is available in the rest of your life. When you use trust, things feel different. You enjoy where you are, even while working toward something more. You make decisions more clearly. You don’t need everyone to understand you. You check in with yourself instead of looking outside for answers. You move forward without all the extra confusion. It’s not about doing it perfectly. It’s about practicing. You can practice trust in small ways throughout your day. Making a decision and sticking with it. Listening to what you need. Following through on something you said you would do. The more you practice, the more natural it feels. Trust grows with use. And over time, it becomes something you don’t have to think about. It’s just how you live. Click here to schedule a Consultation with Christie. Join us in Authentic Confidence Reset to feel yourself again. Click here to sign up. If you want weekly gems to feel your most authentic self, sign up for the Lovelies List here. Tag @mschristiewilliams and share your top takeaways! In this episode, we cover: Links mentioned:

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Ep #40 – Practice Love What You’ll Learn on this Episode: What happens when you don’t have love for yourself. Common fears that keep you from practicing love. What you need to strengthen the quality of love. Featured on the Show: Check out Episode #38 – Recipe for a Strong Relationship for the three ingredients. Episode #39 – Stages of Commitment. ‘What is Self-Love‘ – article from Brain and Behavior Research Foundation Ready for a better relationship with yourself? Work with me one-on-one. Join me on Instagram and tag me in all your favorite Hello, Lovely moments!

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Practice Love Hello lovely, today we’re talking about how to practice love. We hear it all the time—“just love yourself.”But it’s hard to practice something you don’t know how to do. If you didn’t experience a lot of love growing up, you didn’t get to practice feeling it. So when you try now, it can feel foreign or uncomfortable. That’s not a problem with you. It just means you need the basics. Just like piano—you wouldn’t sit down and play a full song without learning the basics first. Love works the same way. When you don’t love yourself, it shows up as being critical, repeating things you don’t want to do, reacting to what people say, or telling yourself you should be further along. Then you add pressure—“I should love myself more”—and it feels overwhelming. That’s why we start simple. First, clear up what self-love is not. It’s not selfish.It doesn’t make you arrogant.It doesn’t make you neglect your responsibilities. What actually happens is the opposite. You stop criticizing yourself.You’re honest with yourself.You live in integrity.You know when to push and when to rest.You feel less stress and anxiety. And this rolls into every other relationship. You’re less reactive, less focused on what others think, and more solid in who you are. That’s real self-love. And it comes from practice. You’ve always been capable of it—you just needed a place to Click here to schedule a Consultation with Christie. Join us in Authentic Confidence Reset to feel yourself again. Click here to sign up. If you want weekly gems to feel your most authentic self, sign up for the Lovelies List here. Tag @mschristiewilliams and share your top takeaways! In this episode, we cover: Links mentioned:

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