Feeling your emotions is simple.

Not easy at first, but simple.

Most of us try to avoid emotions we don’t like. We distract, push them away, or try to fix them as fast as possible.

But emotions are not a problem.

They are part of being human.

When you feel an emotion, it’s coming from a thought. That’s important to know, but for this episode, we’re focusing on the feeling part.

So what does it actually mean to feel an emotion?

It means you pause.

You don’t run from it.

You don’t try to fix it right away.

You notice it.

Where do you feel it in your body? Is it tight in your chest? Heavy in your stomach? Warm? Tense?

Just notice.

You can even name it. This is sadness. This is frustration. This is fear.

And then you let it be there.

No rushing. No judgment.

You’re not stuck in it. Emotions move. They pass. It’s hard to know how with out a self-esteem education.

So if you’re not sure how to do this, that makes sense.

Once you learn self-esteem, the more you practice feeling them, the less scary they become.

Instead of avoiding them, you start to trust yourself to handle them.

That’s the shift.

You can feel them and move forward.

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Resilience is not just getting through something hard.

It’s your ability to bounce back.

I love thinking of it like elasticity—springing back into place. Not perfectly, not instantly, but with flexibility.

When we set goals, there’s this idea that once we’re committed, it should go smoothly. Like if we’re all in, it should feel good the whole time.

But you’re still human.

You will feel emotions on the way to your goals and after you reach them. That doesn’t mean anything has gone wrong.

Resilience is expecting that.

It’s knowing ahead of time that there will be moments where you feel discouraged, tired, or unsure—and that you’ll support yourself through it.

Think of it like a car. You expect to refuel. You don’t get surprised when the tank gets low.

Same thing here.

Resilience is planning to refuel emotionally. Resting. Recommitting. Giving yourself space to feel what you feel without making it a problem.

A small thing that prevents resilience is thinking emotions are the problem.

When you feel discouraged or disappointed and decide that shouldn’t be happening, it can stop you. It makes you think you need to change everything to feel better.

But the emotion isn’t the problem.

Resilience is feeling it, supporting yourself, and continuing forward.

Not perfectly. Just consistently.

You don’t have to force your way through. You can move with understanding and effort together.

That’s resilience.

And it’s part of every goal that matters to you

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Ep #45 – Resilience Success doesn’t come without resilience. What You’ll Learn on this Episode: What is resilience and how can you use it? How thinking goals and life should be problem free is making things more painful. How emotions impact what you do and don’t do. Featured on the Show: Ready to manage and support your emotions? Work with me one-on-one. Join me on Instagram and tag me in all your favorite Hello, Lovely moments!

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Ep #44 – How You Identify Yourself Your identity is not rigid or unchangeable. What You’ll Learn on this Episode: What your identity is. How the past doesn’t have to limit your story. How you can rewrite the next chapter of your story. Featured on the Show: Ready for a solid relationship with yourself? Work with me one-on-one. Join me on Instagram and tag me in all your favorite Hello, Lovely moments!

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Your identity can feel very fixed.

Like this is just who I am.

But your identity is not set in stone. It’s the story you tell about yourself—over and over.

It’s how you describe yourself. How you talk to yourself. The labels you use.

“This is who I am…” and then comes the story.

If you don’t like parts of that story, you can change them.

Before anything else, know this: you are already whole and valuable right now. Not later. Not once things change. Now.

That’s important, because changing your identity doesn’t come from trying to fix yourself. It comes from understanding yourself.

A lot of times, there are parts of your story you don’t want to look at. They get pushed back, ignored, or covered with shame.

That’s normal.

But when you start looking at your story without judgment, something shifts. You understand why you do what you do. You see how your past shaped your patterns.

From there, you get to choose something new.

You don’t erase your past. You don’t pretend it didn’t happen. But it doesn’t define who you are now.

It’s like something that used to hurt finally healing. You might remember it, but it doesn’t have the same impact.

This is where change happens.

You start telling a new story.

“I am a woman who…”

And you practice that.

When old thoughts come up, you don’t fight them. You just remind yourself: that’s not who I am anymore.

Over time, your life catches up with your identity.

You stop chasing validation and start living as the woman you’ve decided to be.

That’s the shift.

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Ep #43 – Real Self-Esteem Self-Esteem is a great friendship with yourself. What You’ll Learn on this Episode: What is real self-esteem? What isn’t needed to have it. How you can you increase your confidence today. Featured on the Show: Hello, Lovely Podcast Episode #2 – What are Goals For? Ready for a better relationship with yourself? Work with me one-on-one. Join me on Instagram and tag me in all your favorite Hello, Lovely moments!

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Self-esteem is not something you earn.

It’s something you recognize.

Most of us think self-esteem comes from doing more, achieving more, becoming more. Once I hit this goal, then I’ll feel confident. Once I accomplish enough, then I’ll feel valuable.

But that’s not how it works.

Self-esteem is a result of having a great friendship with yourself.

You are already valuable. You are already accomplished. That part is done.

When you don’t feel that way, it’s not because it’s missing. It’s because of how you’re thinking about yourself.

That’s actually really good news, because it means it can change now—without waiting on anything outside of you.

When you identify as “someone who still has a lot of work to do,” your brain will look for proof of that. When you identify as “someone who is accomplished,” your brain will find proof of that too.

Same life. Different identity.

This is where self-esteem starts. Not with doing more—but with how you see yourself.

Think about how you talk about yourself. The labels you use. The way you describe who you are.

Are those helping you?

Or are they keeping you stuck in a version of you that you don’t even want anymore?

You get to decide.

You are a person who… fill in that blank.

That’s where it starts.

From there, goals become something you choose to go after—not something you need in order to feel worthy.

That’s real self-esteem.

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Ep #42 – Understanding What You’ll Learn on this Episode: Why understanding is needed before you can be truly honest with yourself. What happens when we focus on lack of support? How you can use understanding like a tool to change your emotional wellness. Featured on the Show: Ready for a better relationship with yourself? Work with me one-on-one. Join me on Instagram and tag me in all your favorite Hello, Lovely moments!

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Ep #41 – Trust What You’ll Learn on this Episode: What trust is. What happens when trust isn’t used. What changes when trust is used. Featured on the Show: Check out Episode #38 – Recipe for a Strong Relationship for the three ingredients. Episode #39 – Stages of Commitment. Episode #40 – Practice Love Ready for a better relationship with yourself? Work with me one-on-one. Join me on Instagram and tag me in all your favorite Hello, Lovely moments!

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Most of us think about feeling understood by other people—and it does feel amazing. Peaceful. Supported. Like everything is OK.

But here’s the shift: you don’t have to wait for someone else to give that to you.

When you don’t feel understood, your brain starts looking for proof. You second guess people. You question their intentions. You wonder what’s wrong. It can feel like you’re stuck in your head.

Understanding brings you back.

It’s a decision to be aware of your own thoughts and feelings with compassion. Not rushing them, not judging them—just listening.

You’re not at the mercy of your emotions. You’re learning to understand them.

From that place, everything changes. You make clearer decisions. You take care of yourself in a real way. You show up more honestly—even when things are hard.

This is a practice.

It can start simple. A few minutes to check in with yourself. Writing things down or just having a conversation in your head. Listening without trying to fix everything right away.

Over time, that creates a safe space with yourself.

And that rolls into your other relationships. You’re less reactive. You don’t feel the need to rush or prove anything. You decide when and how you want to be open.

Understanding is soft, but it’s powerful.

The more you practice it, the more natural it becomes.

And eventually, it’s something you look forward to—because you know you’re going to show up for yourself no matter what.

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