Tara Buchanan of the Behind Our Smiles marriage podcast joins us to talk about the impact of childhood trauma—big T and little t—on sex in marriage and how to help your husband heal.

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From the Bible

The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. Psalm 34:18

Though my father and mother forsake me, the Lord will receive me. Psalm 27:10

Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God. 2 Corinthians 1:3–4

Jesus went through all the towns and villages, teaching in their synagogues, proclaiming the good news of the kingdom and healing every disease and sickness. Matthew 9:35

He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. Psalm 147:3

Resources

• Behind Our Smiles marriage podcast
• Behind Our Smiles website
• Episode 216: When She Wants Sex More - Sex Chat for Christian Wives w/Tara's first appearance on our show!
• Overcoming Childhood Sexual Abuse: One Powerful Story - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• How We Love: Discover Your Love Style, Enhance Your Marriage by Milan and Kay Yerkovich
• Episode 122: Self-Care for Wives
• Strong Wives - Bonny's coaching site
• The Higher Desire Wife: Understanding and Help for Christian Women Navigating Mismatched Sex Drives by J. Parker
• Sensate Focus Therapy | Cornell Health
• Everything You Need to Know About Sensate Focus Touch by Linda Weiner, LCSW | YouTube
• Couples Recovery and FANOS Check-in - Bethesda Workshops
• The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk MD
• Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing by Jay Stringer
• Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence—from Domestic Abuse to Political Terror by Judith L. Herman MD

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