If you are at all curious about or interested in what coaching can do for you and your relationship, or even what it IS, this bonus episode will help clarify that, and what my specific version of it, for highly sensitive people,  is all about. Since I have changed a few things over the years in what and how I offer marriage coaching, I wanted to update you about those changes as well as help answer some common questions about it all.

So listen in to here the answers to these questions (I recommend listening to the full episode, but you can also pick and choose which question you want to hear the answer for by jumping to that time in the episode, noted by each question):

• What is marriage/relationship coaching and Hannah’s program, Treasured? (@ 4 mins)
• Who is it for? (@ 7 mins 10 seconds)
• Why is Treasured different and will it work if other things haven't? (@10 mins 15 seconds)
• Can my partner and our relationship really change if it’s only me working on my end of things? (@18 mins 25 secs) 
• Why a group program for such a personal thing? Will I be helped as much as I would be in 1:1? (@ 22 mins 51 secs)
• What are the specifics of how it works? (29:45)
• Why would I do a coaching program, instead of just doing it on my own, like from the podcast? (33:48)
• How do I enroll? (36:09)
• Can I talk to you before committing? (37:11)

If you want a happier, more fulfilling, loving dynamic between you and your spouse, you’ve got to find out how coaching can help. Listen in.

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Treasured description and info page
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147  Gina, a client who worked with me in Treasured, had been totally disconnected from her husband and lonely in her marriage for 20+ years. The connected intimacy we love as sensitive people? There wasn’t any of it.

She wasn’t sure she could change things much after all those years, or how totally disconnected they were,  but she was clear she didn't want her life to feel that way forever, and so she dove into the work.

Low and behold, as you’ll hear, nowadays she and her husband are really connected and even quite affectionate with each other (they started to be just several weeks into our work together). And as she led the way in reconnecting, her husband started joining her in building more and more intimacy between them, so now building and enjoying more and more connection is a totally mutual thing for both of them.

How did she do it? Listen in and she will tell you!

In our conversation, Gina opens up about what things were like with her husband for so long, why and how she completely – and quite quickly – changed things between them, and what the biggest keys were for her that made all of this possible.

Listen in to get a dose of hope and inspiration, and hear some great marriage and emotional well-being wisdom from this highly sensitive connection maestro!

SHOW NOTES:

Learn about or enroll in Treasured, Hannah's marriage coaching program for highly sensitive women, here.

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146  What can you realistically expect to feel in a good and healthy relationship? In this episode I spill the beans.

Listen in to hear one potent bit of clarifying medicine to help you lean away from all the painful worry and doubt that comes up around your relationship, to relieve you from all the questioning you may be doing about whether this marriage can be improved or not, and help you lean into improving what’s realistic to improve between you and your partner.

If you've ever felt something was wrong with your relationship because you find yourself unhappy, or upset, or having a hard time emotionally about things with your spouse…

Or if you’ve ever been at all unsure if this is the right relationship for you, or compared your marriage to someone else's (with yours coming up short)...

…You've got to listen to what I share in this episode.

Because I lay it out bluntly: what you can really measure a good relationship by (or a poor one!).  No more wondering needed!

You will walk away relieved and also motivated to spend your time improving what CAN be improved, instead of wasting your energy on what cannot. Listen in.

SHOW NOTES:
Bring Back The Attraction, the new on-demand 45 minute course to that gives you 7 keys to spark more of the magical appeal you used to feel is now available here.

Find out how Hannah can help you more over at her website.

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145  If you sometimes (or often) can't quite feel love for your significant other, I totally get it. I have felt that, too, many a-time, and I know it DOESN'T feel so good . Because, of course you want to feel love for and connection to the person you spend your life with, right? So I want to share a personal story with you that will help.

Dive into today's episode to hear about one of the times I felt deeply cut off from my love for my hubby, and how I got myself back to that sweetness of feeling connected and loving towards him again–so you can do it, too!

How I did that is a reliable process I still use in those times I feel cut off from my heart–because it really can happen rather easily as HSP’s in our busy overstimulating modern lives (and because relationships can bring up a lot of stuff that makes it all too easy to shut down our hearts–even when we have big ones!).

I also share what can get in the way of feeling that steady love for our significant other, and how there may well be different routes to access it again for you, depending on what's going on for you. 

And I give you the most basic key to figuring out how to guide yourself back to feeling more in your big heart  again, so you can feel better AND inspire more connection, fun, and even passion with your spouse. Dive in!

SHOW NOTES:
Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE. 

Learn about or enroll in Treasured, Hannah's marriage coaching program for highly sensitive women, here. 

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144  If you’ve ever been frustrated by slow or no change in your relationship–either on partner's end or your own, and you want to stop falling into those same old painful dynamics with your partner again and again, and instead SEE things actually getting better over time…

… you’ve got to understand how change works.

Because it really is a process, with 4 distinct stages. And before you even get to them, there is a pre-stage, which is where most people (you?) tend to get stuck.

When you understand these 4 stages you will be so much better equipped to make the real change you want actually happen.

In this episode, we dive into them, as well as into a bit of the science of what is really going on to make new ways of being with each other stick.

So many people don't understand how change really works, and therefore don’t persevere with the process… and end up getting nowhere. 

Now, because of this episode, that will not be you anymore!

With personal and client stories, and well as one very important metaphor to help you understand how the brain really changes (and the brain IS your  #1 agent of change), you will leave this episode so much more empowered and so much more hopeful and encouraged that you, too, can make those changes you've been wanting in your marriage.  Dive in!

SHOW NOTES:

Submit your question to be answered on the show by hopping on my email list HERE (you’ll soon get instructions on how to submit.)

Learn about or enroll in Treasured, Hannah's marriage coaching program for highly sensitive women, here. 

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143   If you are like many other women,  deep down you probably LOVE your partner, but it can feel like you DON’T LIKE him very much sometimes, yeah?

I’ve been there, too, and it doesn't feel great… because who wants to not like the person they’re planning to spend their whole life with? By now, it shouldn't come as a surprise that this can be even more common of an experience as an highly sensitive Person unfortunately.

That’s why I want to share with you 6 primary things I've learned from my own experience with re-enlivening my LIKE for my husband.

So listen in to hear my story of going from feeling rather annoyed often with my husband, and wondering if I even liked him and what it means if I didn't, to realizing one day how MUCH I now truly enjoy him! 

Just like I do, you CAN laugh, be playful, flirt with, and simply enjoy your partner again, when you really implement the 6 steps I share in this episode. 

Don’t get stuck in the myth that there’s nothing you can do from your side of the street to change things for the SO much better.  It simply isn't true.

Listen in and follow my lead, and you WILL start feeling closer and happier with your partner–and even start really LIKING him again. 

SHOW NOTES:

Learn about or enroll now in Treasured, Hannah's marriage coaching program for highly sensitive women, here. 

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142   Developing Self-Compassion is one of the key ingredients to building a truly thriving marriage as an HSP. It is embedded in everything I teach and will be forever, because it is just so essential. 

So I invited Lori Cangilla, a psychologist and HSP specialist, to have a conversation about it with me, share stories and some laughs, and dive deeper into what self-compassion is all about in this episode. 

Although self-compassion is often misunderstood, it is a source of so much goodness between you and your partner–and even if you haven’t been the most self-compassionate person up until now, you can totally develop it! And it will send powerful healing ripples throughout your whole life and marriage.

So listen in to discover: 

• what self compassion really is (and what it isn’t!) 
• how it relates to compassion and connection
• The common misunderstandings about it that may be preventing you from accessing the deep benefits of it, 
• the 4 main pieces that compose self compassion, 
• why you would bother spending a bit of energy to become a more self-compassionate person as a highly sensitive person
• what the benefits of it are in our intimate relationships
• why being self-compassionate can be challenging at first for HSPs 
• the two types of self-compassion and how they work together to help you lead a life that is empowered, and self-honoring, as well as compassionate to others,  
• and tips to begin developing more self compassion starting today
  
  

No HSP should live life without this vital way of relating to yourself.  As you grow your self-compassion, you will open doors to richer and deeper connection and intimacy with your own self and with your significant other, and reap the rich benefits of it in all areas of your life for all your years to come.

SHOW NOTES:
Find Lori at singularlysensitive.com  and her book, Wander and Delve here.

Learn about or enroll now in Treasured, Hannah's marriage coaching program for highly sensitive women, here. 

141  This episode should be required listening for anyone in an intimate relationship! With many years under my belt as a marriage coach, one of the biggest and most common problem-causer I’ve noticed again and again that causes disrespect, pain, and discord in marriages (and more so in HSP marriages) is the tendency to not know the difference between one’s own side of the court and one’s partner's side of the court–and therefore not tend well to your own, and over-tend to theirs. 

This episode will shed light on why this is so damaging, help you identify if you are doing this–even just a little bit–and help you put an end to it, so you can re-develop or strengthen the mutual respect in your relationship that is so essential for it to thrive.

We dive into the 3 types of “business” there are when it comes to relationships, and clarify what is your domain and what is your spouses–and what is beyond everyone's control.

Then you will get very specific and practical advice on  how you can stop wasting your energy where you have no power or control, and instead put your energy where it is truly effective to drive REAL positive change in yourself and in your marriage…and you and your significant other are freed up to both able to genuinely enjoy each other a whole lot more

For some of you, when you take this episode to heart, it will be the magic bullet that begins a cascade of healing in your marriage–and that perhaps even lets you see once again in your partner that person who you originally fell in love with, but haven’t seen in a while!

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140   We all want a life full of what is most important to us, full of “Wealth” of the emotional, relational, and also financial, kind–or what my guest, Mark Yegge, a “wealth architect” and money manager, calls “balanced abundance”.

In other words, we want the wealth of feeling good, feeling secure, feeling healthy, feeling connected, loved, and fulfilled in this life. There is solid research that proves this.

Even Einstein, the most brilliant scientific mind of his time, was super clear about what actually makes humans feel most alive and abundant. (In this episode we share the most beautiful secret letter he wrote to his daughter—it will truly just melt your heart!!)

Unfortunately, because of the culture we live in, it’s easy to end up (almost by accident) over-focusing on things that don't actually lead us to that happiness and fulfillment. That lead, instead, to what I call Emotional Poverty. Mark and I have both seen all too many people lose track of what most matters to them by over-focusing on the pursuit of a successful career and financial abundance (or what we think is just financial security), while under-focusing on the things that actually bring them Emotional wealth and TRUE security.

Since you're here, you have a pretty good sense that relationships are a prime way to the happiness and meaning you want in this life. But you're likely (even to just a small degree) to fall under the influence of cultural programming that, by no fault of our own, distracts you from being able to make your important relationships the truly fulfilling and life-giving ones you know they are meant to be.

Luckily, it’s not so hard to re-align with what matters most to you, which is HOW you will be able to bring more TRUE WEALTH, the kind that matters most to YOU,  into your life, starting today. It can just take a bit of remembering –and intention.

So listen to this fun, laughter-filled, not-to-be-missed  conversation,  where Mark and I dive straight into the heart of all of this. You’ll come away with your heart energized and a surge of motivation to bring what most matters to YOU alive in your life, so you can feel genuinely happier and more fulfilled --and wealthy in all ways--as an HSP.
 
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139  It's time for FREEDOM FROM HURT WEEK.  Learn more and join us here.  There are 2 categories of emotional pain in our relationships, and although neither of them is “wrong”, one of them tends to push us apart, making our marriages HARDER  (if we don't know how to work with it)…

…and the other, if we let it, can actually fuel the love and connection we want in our relationships.

You WANT to know the difference between these types of pain, because one of them you want to tune deeper into, the other you want to quickly dissolve…

Listen in to this episode, peppered with plenty of personal stories and examples, to discover:

• the difference between “clean pain” and “dirty pain”, 
• the negative impact on your relationships of falling prey to dirty pain and not tending to your clean pain, 
• why clean pain is so healing and powerful, 
• the different ways you want to address each of them to move out of pain and discord in your relationship and into a deeper place of peace, love, and connection than ever 
• and what gets in the way of easily doing this, so YOU can do it well.

 Pain is inevitable in life, but hurt isn't. When you know how to work with these 2 types of pain, you will free yourself from so much unnecessary pain in love and life,  be so much more empowered to effectively make real changes in your marriage that feel so much better, get the best treatment from your significant other, and make the best impact in this world in general. Listen in.

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Learn all about FREEDOM FROM HURT WEEK, a special event where you get live virtual time with Hannah over the course of a week,  to leave hurt in the dust.

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