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Do you ever feel like your whole life is a performance — constantly trying to please others, keep the peace, or avoid judgment? You say yes when you mean no. You hold back what you really think. You feel anxious if someone’s upset with you. Deep down, you’re tired of it — but you don’t know how to stop.
In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott shares the story of a coaching client who spent years living for everyone else’s approval — until he realized that people-pleasing wasn’t kindness. It was self-abandonment. Through The Secure Husband Process, he learned how to stop performing, start trusting his own voice, and build confidence from the inside out.
You’ll learn:
✔️ Why worrying about what others think is really about fear and childhood conditioning
✔️ How people-pleasing becomes emotional self-betrayal
✔️ Why “keeping the peace” destroys connection and authenticity
✔️ Simple daily steps to strengthen your inner confidence
✔️ How to lead your life, marriage, and family from alignment — not approval
This isn’t about becoming selfish or arrogant. It’s about becoming honest. Because when you stop needing everyone’s approval, you finally start living your own life.
👉 Ready to take the next step?
Sign up for a free 30-minute consultation at securehusband.com
. No sales pitch. No pressure. Just a real conversation about what’s happening in your marriage and how coaching might help.
If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.
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#MarriageAdvice
#RelationshipHealing
#SelfWorth
#InnerChildHealing
#MensMentalHealth
#SelfLoveJourney
#EmotionalHealing
#OvercomeRejection
#HealthyMasculinity
#MarriageCoaching
#StopPeoplePleasing
#SelfGrowth
#attachmenttheory
#attachmentstyles
#anxiousattachment
#preoccupiedattachment
#attachment
#avoidantattachment
All content is for informational purposes only and does not provide medical or psychological diagnosis or treatment. Always consult your physician before starting any treatment or therapy. This includes all content on this site, email, blogs, podcasts, social media, and events. Nothing shared constitutes medical or legal advice. Use of this information is at your own risk.
By M. Bruce Abbott, M.A, CPC5
1717 ratings
Do you ever feel like your whole life is a performance — constantly trying to please others, keep the peace, or avoid judgment? You say yes when you mean no. You hold back what you really think. You feel anxious if someone’s upset with you. Deep down, you’re tired of it — but you don’t know how to stop.
In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott shares the story of a coaching client who spent years living for everyone else’s approval — until he realized that people-pleasing wasn’t kindness. It was self-abandonment. Through The Secure Husband Process, he learned how to stop performing, start trusting his own voice, and build confidence from the inside out.
You’ll learn:
✔️ Why worrying about what others think is really about fear and childhood conditioning
✔️ How people-pleasing becomes emotional self-betrayal
✔️ Why “keeping the peace” destroys connection and authenticity
✔️ Simple daily steps to strengthen your inner confidence
✔️ How to lead your life, marriage, and family from alignment — not approval
This isn’t about becoming selfish or arrogant. It’s about becoming honest. Because when you stop needing everyone’s approval, you finally start living your own life.
👉 Ready to take the next step?
Sign up for a free 30-minute consultation at securehusband.com
. No sales pitch. No pressure. Just a real conversation about what’s happening in your marriage and how coaching might help.
If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.
#deadbedroom
#marriage
#sexlessmarriage
#MarriageHelp
#SaveYourMarriage
#SecureHusband
#MarriageAdvice
#RelationshipHealing
#SelfWorth
#InnerChildHealing
#MensMentalHealth
#SelfLoveJourney
#EmotionalHealing
#OvercomeRejection
#HealthyMasculinity
#MarriageCoaching
#StopPeoplePleasing
#SelfGrowth
#attachmenttheory
#attachmentstyles
#anxiousattachment
#preoccupiedattachment
#attachment
#avoidantattachment
All content is for informational purposes only and does not provide medical or psychological diagnosis or treatment. Always consult your physician before starting any treatment or therapy. This includes all content on this site, email, blogs, podcasts, social media, and events. Nothing shared constitutes medical or legal advice. Use of this information is at your own risk.

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