Episode #962

When’s the last time your wife gave you that look—the one that says, “I want you”?

If it’s been a minute, you’re not alone. A lot of married guys find themselves in that same spot… and yeah, it probably means your Sexual Market Value (SMV) isn’t where it used to be.

In this episode, Coach Chris and I unpack what SMV actually means for men in long-term relationships. And no, it’s not just about being in shape or dressing sharp. It’s about the way you carry yourself, how much self-respect you have, and whether you’re still showing up like the man she was once drawn to.

We also get into the difference between real confidence and just going through the motions. A lot of men don’t even realize how far they’ve drifted until they either catch a glimpse in the mirror—or hear some hard truth from another man. If you’ve been thinking, “I’m doing everything I should… so why does she seem checked out?”—this conversation might hit close to home.

You’ll hear how to start rebuilding that quiet, steady confidence that naturally draws people in—especially your wife. We’re not talking gimmicks or trying to be someone you’re not. Just simple, real-world actions that help you feel solid in your own skin again. And it all starts with self-respect—not chasing approval.

So if you’ve been feeling kind of invisible at home, and you’re ready to start leading with presence and purpose again—yeah, this one’s for you.

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Episode #961

Ever feel like you're tiptoeing around in your own house?

You’re doing everything you can to keep things calm—avoiding conflict, keeping quiet, trying not to rock the boat. But deep down, it’s eating at you. And here's the tough part: that silence? It might be making things worse.

In this episode, I’m talking with Coach Chris Hansen from our Navigate program about something a lot of guys wrestle with—setting and holding boundaries in their relationships. We get into why it's so damn hard, and how avoiding it usually just leads to more resentment, distance, and disconnect at home.

This isn’t some high-level theory talk. We get into real stuff—actual examples of what setting a boundary really looks like, and how to do it without blowing everything up.

We talk about why your wife might not be taking your boundaries seriously—and how to shift that. We also get into the difference between a boundary, a want, and an agreement. (Hint: mixing those up? It causes way more problems than you think.)

One of the biggest takeaways? Most guys are accidentally teaching their wives to ignore them—and it’s not because they’re weak or passive. It's just a pattern they've never noticed. But one honest convo (the kind we usually avoid) can change a lot.

We wrap it up by looking at what actually creates respect and connection—and no, it’s not raising your voice. Vulnerability, done right, changes everything. When you start showing up differently, the whole dynamic starts to shift.

So if you’re sick of feeling like your needs don’t matter, or like you’re always coming in last—this one’s worth a listen. You’ll walk away with some clear tools to start leading your relationship with more clarity, confidence, and calm.

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Episode #960

Ever catch yourself staring in the mirror thinking, “This can’t be it… right?” That quiet pull, like there’s gotta be more to life—but you’re not even sure what “more” means anymore?

Yeah. You’re not the only one.

In this episode, we get into what a lot of people call a midlife crisis—but we see it differently. We call it a midlife awakening.

Steve and Mark, two of our Alpha Reset coaches, join me for a real conversation about what it actually looks like to hit that wall… and then move through it. These guys have walked with a lot of men through some serious turning points, and they don’t sugarcoat it.

We dig into:

• The silent weight a lot of men carry around without even realizing it

• Why reading all the self-help books in the world won’t move the needle unless you’re willing to get uncomfortable

• What it means when your “little boy” shows up in your marriage—and why your wife feels it even if you don’t

• How most men are chasing a “dream life” they’ve never actually defined

• And yeah… we even talk about a guy who had a realization about his own ashes that completely changed where he chose to live—while he was still alive

This one’s not about fixing yourself. It’s about waking up to what’s real—and maybe starting to live like you mean it.

So if you’ve been saying “livin’ the dream” with an eye roll and a tired laugh… might be time to find out what your real dream actually looks like.

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Episode #959

Ever feel like you're doing everything “right” but still not getting what you want—from your wife, your business, or even yourself?

In this episode, I sit down with Gary, known in The Powerful Man community as the Gentle Warrior. He opens up about how he went from being the classic “nice guy”—quiet, accommodating, but secretly frustrated—to a man who leads his life with purpose, clarity, and confidence.

This isn’t a story about a perfect turnaround. It’s about doing the real, messy work. Gary gets honest about the anger and shame he didn’t even know he was carrying, how he woke up to the truth of a marriage built on obligation, and why ending it was the most loving thing he could do for them both.

But the most powerful shift? He stopped trying to earn love—and started showing up as a man who already knows his worth. And that’s when everything changed.

We talk about what it’s like to be seen and respected by other men, how community accelerates growth, and why volunteering at the Alpha Reset hit him harder than his own Reset did. You’ll also hear the unexpected way he met the love of his life—when he wasn’t even looking.

In this episode, you’ll get a front-row seat to what it really looks like when a man stops hiding, owns his story, and finally takes the lead—not just in his relationship, but in every area of his life.

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Episode #958

What happens when two of our top coaches stop coaching—and step into the Alpha Reset as participants?

That’s exactly what Mike and Neil did.

In this episode, they open up about the resistance that came up before the Reset, what it took to drop the ego, and what it really means to lead from the front—not just for others, but for themselves.

Mike shares the moment he FaceTimed his wife right after it ended. She just stared at him, smiling. “You look different,” she said. “I like this Mike.” That moment? That was the result. Right there.

Neil’s story is quieter—but just as powerful. He didn’t come home and give a big speech. He didn’t have to. His son just felt it. The calm. The shift. The safety. No words needed.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• What it looks like when high-level coaches stop leading and start doing the deeper work

• Why emotional safety is a game-changer—for your marriage and your kids

• The real reason so many men blame their wives (hint: it’s not about her)

• How showing up differently creates a ripple effect across your entire home

This isn’t about theory. It’s about doing the work—especially when no one’s watching.

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Episode #967

What happens when a man hits his limit... and decides not to fold?

In this episode, I sit down with Eric and Weston—two guys who went through the Alpha Reset and came out the other side different men. Now? They’re giving back and helping other men do the same.

We get into what brought them to The Powerful Man, how their marriages shifted, and what they really discovered about themselves along the way.

Weston opens up about how hard it was to actually connect with his wife—even though the love was there. And Eric? He was ready to walk away from 25 years of marriage, hoping a new car or a bigger paycheck would fix the emptiness. (Spoiler: it didn’t.)

Here’s what you’ll hear in this one:

• What finally got these guys to stop pretending everything was fine

• The internal tug-of-war a lot of Christian men feel in marriage

• Why being truly seen by other men changes everything

• What it’s like to walk into a Reset one guy... and leave someone else entirely

• How volunteering after the Reset brought even more clarity and growth

Truth is, most men are silently struggling, thinking they're alone. They’re not.

This episode dives into what happens when you drop the guilt, shame, and anger—and finally lead from a place of honesty and strength. You’ll see why so many men say the Alpha Reset was the turning point. Not just for them, but for everything.

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Episode #956

Why do so many men struggle in silence when it comes to mental health? And more importantly, what can we do about it?

In this episode, I sit down with Sean Stiller, a psychotherapist with over 16 years of experience, to tackle the tough conversations around suicide, depression, and hopelessness—topics that impact more men than we often realize. Sean breaks down the common misconceptions surrounding mental health, the warning signs to watch for, and, most importantly, how to shift from feeling hopeless to finding real hope.

We also dive into: ✔️ Why high-achieving men often struggle with depression ✔️ How our beliefs and identity can unknowingly trap us in pain ✔️ The subtle (but powerful) mindset shift that changes everything ✔️ Practical steps to help yourself—or someone you love—through dark times

If you've ever felt stuck, lost, or like you're carrying the weight of the world alone, this episode is for you. You're not alone, and there is a way forward.

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Episode #955

Ever feel like you're walking on eggshells in your marriage? You want your wife to feel emotionally safe, but you also don’t want to lose yourself in the process. So, how do you strike the right balance?

In this episode, we’re breaking down what emotional safety really means for women and how you can create it without becoming someone you’re not. We’ll talk about how to clear the past so old arguments stop coming up, how to communicate in a way that actually lands, and how to stay grounded when things get tough.

We’re also tackling a big question: how do you lead at home, at work, and with friends without feeling completely drained? If you’ve ever struggled to set boundaries or find time for yourself, this one’s for you. And for the guys looking to keep date nights fresh, we’ve got some creative ideas to keep things fun and connected.

If you’ve been feeling stuck in your marriage—or just want to step up as a stronger, more confident leader—this episode will give you real, actionable steps to make an immediate impact.

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Episode #954

Why is it so hard for men to express their emotions in relationships?

In this episode, I sit down with Chris to tackle the challenge of male vulnerability and emotional connection. We dive into real questions from men struggling to open up, rebuild trust, and navigate past mistakes without losing their sense of masculinity.

We explore why society conditions men to suppress their emotions and how to break free from that pattern. You'll hear about a powerful way to reconnect with your emotions that doesn’t make you feel weak. We also get into what it really takes to rebuild trust after hurting your partner, and how leading emotionally can actually make you more attractive in your marriage.

If you’ve ever felt stuck when it comes to emotional connection, this episode is for you.

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Episode #953

Most men don’t even realize they’re living in quiet desperation—until they finally break free. When your marriage feels off, your business is harder, your energy is lower, and you’re just grinding through the motions, it’s easy to think this is just “normal.” But what if it’s not?

In this revisit episode, Doug Holt and Brad Holt dive deep into why so many high-achieving men struggle—not just in marriage, but in life. They reveal how the same tools that restore relationships also transform businesses, health, and personal fulfillment.

You’ll discover:

• Why anxiety quietly erodes your business and decision-making.
• How regaining confidence in your marriage spills over into every area of life.
• The hidden habits keeping you stuck—and how to break free.
• What successful men do differently to create lasting change.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re just “getting by” instead of thriving, this episode is for you. Take action—because this is about more than your marriage.

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