Facing big problems is scary. Facing the world's problems is scarier. It can stop us in our tracks and make us hide away. In this episode we're talking about how we can stay present and take action while also taking care of ourselves.

My guest co-host in this episode, which originally aired 2015, is Jen Louden. She helped start the self-care movement with her first book, The Woman's Comfort Book. She's written seven more books, including The Woman's Retreat Book and The Life Organizer that have inspired more than a million women in 9 languages. Many of you may have seen Jen when she sat on Oprah's couch talking about the power of retreats.

You want to help others. You want to make the world a better place. But where do you start? To make your service efforts sustainable you should look for things that fit into your life, that don’t drain you, and that aren’t attached to a story of what you should be doing. And be careful not to shy away from the acts of service that you could be doing because you don't think they are big enough, sexy enough, or exciting enough.

One of the world's problems that Jen cares most about is climate change. In this episode she offers valuable critiques of the personal growth industry and its story of abundance and consumption. She and I evaluate how leaders could use their platforms to help others.

Listen in to learn about what you can do for your community and the world, what's getting in your way of doing those things, how not to be a martyr, and how to take care of yourself so that your efforts can be sustainable.

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After 2020 and early 2021, we are more than ready to connect. But we have to ensure that we cultivate the connection we want versus what we may be willing to settle for out of desperation. When we receive an invitation to do something, we should want to do it, not do it out of obligation.

Back in my 20s, I was good at getting people to do what I wanted. I was clingy, desperate, and living in a place of scarcity. People around me would do what I wanted, but one day I realized: they were doing it out of obligation.

When we receive an invitation, our immediate reaction can be that we have to say yes because it's what a good friend does' or I don't want to hurt their feelings if I say no'. But be honest and ask yourself, what do you want? Are you saying yes out of obligation?

As the world opens up, we are receiving lots of invitations. I invite you to notice the difference between when you feel desire and obligation. In order to give yourself permission to do what you want, you must first develop an awareness of the stories you have going on inside.

In this episode, I'm exploring invitations and obligations from the point of view of the giver and receiver and highlighting how implied messages of obligation could be showing up in your life. The only thing we have control over is the narrative we tell ourselves, so I'm teaching you how to get clear on what works for you and stop making other people responsible for your emotional wellbeing.

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A lot of us struggle with reading feedback and the non-verbal cues from our environment. We tend to go inside of us to make sense of it rather than viewing things objectively and staying in the moment and staying closer to reality. My guest, Renee, offers us a valuable piece of insight from her friend who says, reality is so much kinder than what we think reality is.

Renee Sievert is a Master Certified Coach, an Equus Coach, a Certified Equus facilitator, and more. Renee joined me for this conversation from 2015 to talk about walking into the horse arena, what it's like, my own experience with it, vulnerability, and judgement all through the lens of showing up in your life.

A lot of our conversation centers around non-verbal cues and accurately interpreting the feedback we experience in our environment and day-to-day lives. Renee uses Equus Coaching to teach people how to understand their assumptions and shift them to better reflect the reality of situations. That shift is what helps people show up in their lives.

Renee also offers some really great questions that you can ask yourself. Be prepared to write them down! One of them is, what is it that I am not understanding about myself?  

Listen to this episode to discover new ways of increasing self-awareness and receiving feedback, how failure and shame are intertwined, the ways that we project our feelings onto our environment, and more.

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There was a message that I heard consistently when I was growing up and that was this: there is no place for emotion here. As a result, I spent a lifetime not being connected to my emotions.

Our emotions are data points that we can use to learn more about ourselves but we have been programmed to believe that feeling and showing them is a weakness. So we have shut this part of our brains down instead of learning how to cultivate and connect with it.

There is so much possibility available to you when you begin to feel your feelings. When you check in with your emotions, you cultivate trust with yourself and regulate yourself, learning to be more calm, agile, and resilient.

I invite you to ask yourself: where are you not feeling your emotions? Where are you offloading your feelings onto other people? You are not responsible for how others feel but you are responsible for the emotional energy you bring into a relationship. I encourage you to cultivate emotional health for yourself so that you can empower yourself and enjoy your life in every way available to you.

Join me this week as I share what being emotionally responsible looks like and show you why it is vital to work through and release all emotions even the negative ones. Learn why it is never too late to become responsible for your emotional health and how to develop an understanding of feeling your feelings and moving through them.

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Judgment can be a trigger for me. It can make me act small in my life and keep me from owning my power. To do the things I want to do and be the person I want to be, I have to stop caring about what other people think and how they might judge me. 

Susan Hyatt is a Master Certified Life and Business coach, podcaster, author, and speaker. In this episode, which originally aired in 2016, Susan and I talk about judgment. The biggest takeaway from our conversation? Judgment is going to happen. 

It's how we deal with it that makes the difference. If we know that judgment is definitely going to happen then there is no reason to let it bring us down. The cost of carrying our armor and taking things to heart too often weighs down on us much more than it's worth.

Human beings are going to judge. There is nothing you can do. You can't fly under the radar low enough to avoid some kind of judgment, says Susan in this episode.

I invite you to use the information in this episode to own your power and stop worrying about what others think. Listen in to learn about setting boundaries, the cost of making judgments, the weight of the armor you carry, and how to move past limitations that you face.

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Many of us have been so focused on surviving a global pandemic over the last 16 months that we have pushed down our emotions in an attempt to keep on moving forward. We have learned how to survive using a process called compartmentalizing.

Compartmentalizing is a defense mechanism where we suppress our thoughts and emotions. We coat ourselves in invisible armor in an attempt to protect ourselves. But over time, this armor becomes heavy and everything we bury beneath builds up and overflows. My friend, there is a better way to live our lives.

When we stop compartmentalizing, we allow ourselves to feel our feelings and move through them. When we feel our feelings, even though they are uncomfortable, we cultivate an emotional system and become more emotionally available and connected with ourselves.

This week, I invite you to stop pushing your feelings down and instead, acknowledge them. Identify them, understand where they are in your body, and truly feel them so you can release them. I invite you to thrive in your life.

In this episode, I’m showing you how compartmentalizing has protected you up to this point, and how to give yourself time and patience to cultivate a feelings system. This powerful work is about being aware and intentionally creating the life you want, so discover how to give yourself the permission and space to feel all the feelings and thrive in your life.

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When you're overwhelmed at work or at home do you feel like you can't get your priorities straight? How do you figure out what to focus on?

At age 22, Laura Roeder quit her design job and started her own entrepreneurial journey.  She built and ran a successful online training business and became known as an A lister in the social media business world. 

Eventually Laura created her current business, Edgar, out of a need she had in her own business a way to manage social media more effectively. Laura is the Founder and CEO of Edgar. She bootstrapped her business and has achieved huge success. I would definitely call her one hell of a lady boss.

In this episode, which originally aired in 2016, Laura and I talk about focus, priorities, and constraints. When responsibilities, projects, and ideas get overwhelming, sometimes the answer is to let go of perfectionism. Get your work done to an 80% level, stop working evenings and weekends, and find flow and ease in your work.

Join us in this episode to find clarity and gain inspiration for a better relationship with work and other responsibilities. Try to make the best guess on what will make the biggest impact, says Laura in this episode. It's not about perfectionism or doing everything exactly right.

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I want you to think about the last time you achieved a goal you set. Did you feel proud of yourself? Did you take it in and own it, or did you move straight onto the next thing?

Being proud of yourself involves feeling pleasure or satisfaction over something regarded as highly honorable or credible to oneself. It requires having self-respect and self-esteem. But so often, we don't take the time to be proud of ourselves, even when we have achieved a goal.

We have been culturally programmed to believe that success and pride are relational. We subscribe to the belief that once you achieve a goal you set, you can be proud. But being proud of yourself should not be transactional; it should be transformational.

My invitation for you is to be proud of who you are, with the work you are doing, and who you are becoming, without knowing what the end result is going to be. Being proud of yourself requires tremendous courage, so I invite you to stop giving your power away for others to be proud of you, and start being proud of yourself, here and now.

Join me this week as I'm showing you when to be proud in your life, and how to cultivate a transformational relationship with being proud. Learn how to celebrate your milestones, goals, and accomplishments and be truly proud of yourself, and the ripple effect that this creates for other areas of your life.

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The new world of work is unpredictable. How do you put together your eclectic background with your values and do work you enjoy?  

Pamela Slim helps people find success and happiness in the new world of work.  She too has had a diverse work history as a martial arts director + teacher, a former corporate manager, entrepreneur, and acclaimed author of Escape from Cubicle Nation.  

Her blog, by the same name, is one of the top career and marketing blogs in the world.  She is an expert in career guidance and brand reinvention. Her latest book is Body of Work: Finding the Thread That Ties Your Story Together. In this interview, which originally aired in 2013, Pam joined me to talk about her story and how she has created her own incredible body of work. 

The quality of your life is directly related to the quality of your stories.  Especially those you tell yourself, writes Pam in her book.

Listen to this episode to learn about Pam's story, my story, how to view life as a classroom, how to integrate and balance life and family, and more.

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We all have needs or things we're seeking. Sometimes it's belonging, love, appreciation, or tenderness. Sometimes it's accountability, ownership, and validation.

Instead of looking externally for these things like we've been conditioned to do, I invite you to look inwards. Because friends, the truth is that everything you seek is already inside of you.

Now I know this may sound counterintuitive. Many of my clients are constantly seeking things outside themselves and then they judge themselves when they still don't feel fulfilled.

Judgement of ourselves or others does not lead to feelings of safety, belonging, or love. It causes shame, the worst emotion available to us. I urge you to consider what you're seeking in external sources and if it can be found inside.

In today's episode, I explore the power of asking yourself what you need and then seeking whatever it is inside of you. I promise, what you seek is there inside. But first we have to stop judging ourselves and looking externally. I show you how to do this today and invite you to get curious about why you seek these things from anyone but yourself.

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