How to Be Human

Dream Queen Autumn Fourkiller is back! We chat about some common dream themes, death, pregnancy, and recurrent locations. Then Autumn interprets some listener's dreams giving a little peek into her reading style and ways to think about interpreting dreams.

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What happens when a psychosomatic therapist and a somatic psychotherapist team up? They do incredible work about topics like co-dependency that you and I get to benefit from. Today's episode with Heidi Smith of Moon and Bloom, and Deborah Bagg of Love is Juniper is filled with helpful information.

What is co-dependency? How can we know it when we feel it? What's a caring relationship versus controlling one? Both Heidi and Deborah give some tools to navigating the topic for as Deborah put it "optimal relationships," which I am stealing and love. Optimal seems like a great goal.

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• Learn more Heidi
• Learn more about Deborah
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*Content | Trigger Warning* There are brief mentions of suicide. If you or someone you love needs help please visit https://www.samhsa.gov/ for resources.

Men have never been worse. Noooooo, I don't mean toxic masculinity. Dr. Josh joins me to discuss the crisis that is men's mental health. The stats in the US are alarming with more men losing their battle with mental health then ever before. Dr. Josh shares what men uniquely grapple with, how they can better access support and the importance of that support. He also gives a great answer as to why men participate in toxic masculinity which I will forever be grateful to him for giving language to.

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• Learn more about Dr. Josh
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• Book a session with Anna

She's back! You loved her first episode on perfectionism and today we are talking joy. Today's guest psychotherapist, and author of The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control: A Path to Peace and Power Katherine Morgan Schafler really knows the value of allowing ourselves more joy in our lives. Most of us want a more joyful life but why does it seem hard? Or does joy seem scary sometimes? We get into it today. Katherine talks about different ways we can invite more joy into our lives or look at where the resistance is. Enjoy!

Where to find us:

• Get Katherine's book
• Take the quiz find out what kind of perfectionist you are
• Follow Katherine on Instagram
• Katherine's Website
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Thrilled for one of my favorite people to be on today's episode. Liz Migliorelli belongs to a lineage of bee maidens, apple romancers and herb cunning-folk. She is a clinical herbalist, animist and educator who roots her work in the stories and practices of her ancestors. She lives on unceded Munsee-Lenape-Esopus lands (also known as the Hudson River Valley in New York), at the foot of the Catskill Mountains where she tends to a big garden. Some of her favorite divination tools are beeswax, murky waters and chickens. Liz weaves together and facilitates classes on plant medicine, ancestral remembrance, earth rhythms, folk magic, hearth culture, poetry and social justice movements. You can learn more about her work at www.sisterspinster.net

In this episode I ask her does magic help the mundane? How do you wade into the wild world of herbs? And lots more she graciously answers.

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How many of you have been startled to find out you're a perfectionist? Raises my own hand. Even today's guest psychotherapist, and author of The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control: A Path to Peace and Power Katherine Morgan Schafler was when she discovered she had perfectionistic tendencies. Katherine joins me today to talk perfectionism! I have been talking about Katherine for multiple episodes so now you finally get to meet her and hear why I have been hyping her so hard. She explains the 5 different kinds of perfectionist personalities, why trying eradicate parts of yourself isn't the move and how joy and pleasure is the antidote to what ails a lot of us. I love her thoughts on how we often misunderstand presence and the myth of a balanced life wellness sells to women. She is so kind and smart I could talk to her for days and hope everyone benefits from her wise words whether on the pod or in her book.

Where to find us:

• Get Katherine's book
• Take the quiz find out what kind of perfectionist you are
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Vanessa Hardy is back and she is sharing with us what Astrology of 2022 still might be significant for us, and tells us what lies ahead in Q1 of 2023. We cover some basic astrology terms (what's a conjunction? A transit) best practices and our mutual love of Anne Ortelee. Vanessa shares some themes to think on and places we can look in our own birth chart for what stories are playing out for us.

Resources mentioned:

Anne Ortelee's Weekly Weather report

Mystic Medusa

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A little check in, a little recap and a little teary at the end to know it's the most tender part of the year. Endings and beginnings. What did I learn in 2022? How is that informing 2023? Do New Years resolutions work? I talk about why I set intentions instead.

Resources mentioned:

Take Kate Devine's Lyric Essay course

Get to know Katherine, and pre-order her book.

Melissa Febos' Work

Love Jillian Turecki's work around self abandonment

We the Urban

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I knew I liked Mari immediately when I met her. We met in Fariha Roisin's Writing with Vulnerability in Mind and as soon as Mari started talking I thought that woman knows some things. Turns out she really really does. Mari Orkenyi is a Contemplative Educator, Psychoanalyst Candidate and Writer. Her work lives in the space where Contemplative Practices, Buddhist Psychology and Psychoanalysis intersect. Mari holds a Masters in Arts, is Certified in Contemplative Psychotherapy and is Certified Meditation Teacher. She supports individuals, corporate teams and groups with Contemplative Practices guiding them on a journey of self awareness, exploration and integration. Mari has collaborated with Moca, The Marciano Foundation, Loom, Apple, DoorDash, LA Dance Project and more. As a native Brazilian immigrant with Hungarian roots, living in Los Angeles by way of Spain and Mexico, her multicultural perspectives and backgrounds are continuously informing her work.

She's not just accomplished, and accredited she's an incredibly warm accessible person which feels like a tricky balance she pulls off effortlessly. Please enjoy our conversation on what mindfulness is and isn't, why Mari's approach feels radically permissive and why to meditate at all.

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• Mari's Website
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Anna met casting agent, astrologer, and energy healer Vanessa Hardy at Maha Rose years ago and chats having an evolving career life with her in this episode. They initially connected over balancing careers in production and wellness but really it's a shared belief in self-knowledge being reflected in career decisions as well. Vanessa shares how awareness of an early ability to see what people were uniquely good at has shaped her career decisions and how she explores that gift. Vanessa also shares what it's been like to return to school as an adult and continue to show up for herself differently in her professional life.

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