"I'm blamed for everything." "Nothing I ever do is good enough." "I'm the only one trying." 

When marriage gets painful it feels like survival mode and the thoughts and stories we repeat in our heads can cause us to feel stuck and hopeless. In this episode we identify a common problem in hurting marriages: The victim mindset. 

We unpack how victim thinking subtly steals power, intimacy and responsibility from both spouses and why healing doesn't begin with assigning blame, but with reclaiming your own power and we give some practical ways to do just that. 

If your marriage feels heavy, tense, or stuck in the same cycles, this conversation may be the turning point you didn't know you needed. 

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