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- Two Human Needs: Security and Exploration
In this solo episode we're going through the importance of security and desire for individuals and couples. You'll learn:
Importance of relational security and having a home base
Importance of desire and novelty
How to be a creative couple
How to explore individually
Why modern couples feel more pressure than ever
Find me @brittani_procknow on Instagram
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14 min - Navigating Money and Relationships: Questions to ask each other, self-reflections, and importance of lifestyle discussionsEverett Uhl is back! Consider this episode a mix of Nobody Wants This and therapist guidance for navigating money in relationships. You'll learn about our pasts with money, how navigated money conversations in relationships, what you need to consider for your lifestyle similarities and differences, and how to communicate about money.00:53 Setting Up the New Studio03:13 College Memories and Growing Up07:47 Everett's Pursuit of a Singing Career14:21 The Reality of Money and Society18:59 Why We'll Never Recommend Better Help33:44 Personal Stories and Money Beliefs36:28 Childhood Money Lessons37:54 Balancing Materialism and Minimalism39:47 Marriage and Money: A Business Partnership40:42 Financial Compatibility in Relationships41:45 Grocery Shopping and Relationship Dynamics50:23 Money Conversations in Early Dating53:49 Power Dynamics and Household Chores01:10:29 Navigating Financial UncertaintyFind Everett at https://www.everettuhltherapy.com/Brittani- brittaniprocknow.comGet your free Intimacy Workbook https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219How to Relate Newsletter https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc1 hr 17 min
- Addiction Recovery: Finding Strength in Community and Play with Nolan Wright
A vulnerable story about addiction, recovery, and resilience with Nolan Wright.
Disclaimer: This episode mentions suicidal ideation. If you or someone you know is struggling see NAMI's resources https://www.nami.org/support-education/nami-helpline/
00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome
00:39 The Birth of Recess Games
03:22 Navigating COVID Challenges
04:13 The Importance of Play in Recovery
07:18 Pre-Recovery Chaos17:29 First Rehab Experience
24:13 The Turning Point: Healing Transitions
34:45 Thor's Magical Beer and the Illusion of Endless Resources
35:28 From Magic to Money: A Downward Spiral
36:20 Homelessness and Desperation
37:34 A Moment of Clarity and the Decision to Change
38:23 A Spiritual Awakening
41:24 Entering Healing Transitions
44:45 The Reality of Non-Medical Detox
47:19 The Power of Community and Accountability
56:19 Rebuilding Family Relationships
59:48 Launching Life Launch Recovery
01:04:19 Advice for Those Struggling with Addiction
01:07:30 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
1 hr 10 min - Legalities of Marriage: All you need to know from beginning to end in the eyes of the law with Daniel Swain
If marriage's tagline is: "I love you so much, let's get the law involved," then shouldn't we have a complete understanding how the law is involved in marriage? This episode is like your privacy policy settings that you don't want to ignore if you're thinking of getting married, already married, or thinking about ending a marriage. Whatever stage you're in, this episode is for you.
00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome00:12 The Role of a Family Law Attorney03:27 Marriage and Legal Implications06:44 Financial Considerations in Marriage13:15 Understanding Marital Property and Debt28:30 Child Custody and Best Interests32:44 Navigating Custody Disputes44:40 Understanding Alimony in North Carolina48:09 Infidelity and Alimony Claims49:08 Suing the Affair Partner (legal in 6 states)52:02 Jurisdictional Issues in Divorce54:26 Premarital and Prenuptial Agreements59:09 Child Custody Across State Lines01:02:04 Nesting and Co-Parenting Challenges01:15:42 Separation Agreements and Legal Separation01:20:03 Final Advice and Resources1 hr 27 min - Relating with Self-Compassion: Unpacking Perfectionism and Anxiety with Kylie LambertWhat does self-compassion really mean? How do we navigate perfectionism in a world of social media self-help? Do we need to diagnose ourselves from Tik Tok? And more with Kylie Lambert!00:00 Welcome and Guest Introduction00:26 First Meeting and Connection02:14 Understanding Anxiety and Perfectionism04:32 Roots of the 'Not Good Enough' Story10:31 Shame Narratives and Self-Compassion10:58 The Pressure of Productivity and Rest23:15 Defining and Practicing Self-Compassion29:24 Understanding Anxiety and Communication29:57 The Power of Language and Self-Regulation30:41 Trusting Yourself and Building Resilience31:21 Navigating Relationships and External Validation32:47 Perfectionism and Emotional Responsibility33:52 The Influence of Social Media on Mental Health42:20 Self-Compassion and Its Impact on Relationships45:39 Setting Boundaries and Protecting Your Peace54:05 Practical Tips for Self-Compassion56:25 Conclusion and Final Thoughts58 min
- Chaos, Control, and Cherry Juice: Unfiltered conversation with Jamie Drescher IlinetskyEnjoy this unplanned, unfiltered conversation with Jamie. We'll dive into the messiness of early adulthood, Jamie's martial arts career, religious faith and marriage, navigating friendships, and curing anxiety with cherry juice. Enjoy!00:00 Introduction and Initial Banter00:21 First Meeting and Early Memories02:02 Life as Roommates03:15 Adulting and Personal Growth06:20 Social Work and Career Paths07:28 Dating and Social Plans09:17 Jewish Faith and Hebrew School13:53 Taekwondo Journey and Challenges29:28 Anxiety and Mental Health35:01 Telepathic Connections and Idle Hour Coffee35:33 Reconnecting After Years Apart37:03 Girls Trip Planning and Busy Schedules38:54 Discussing Anxiety and Imposter Syndrome40:33 Convenience and Habitual Routines48:58 Married Life and Household Chores58:30 Fun Activities and Hobbies01:05:29 Limiting Doomscrolling and Final Thoughts1 hr 10 min
- Navigating Your 30s: Love, Career, and Self-Discovery with Beth VincentIn this episode of the How to Relate podcast, host and guest Beth Vincent explore the intricacies of life as a woman in her 30s. They discuss the challenges of balancing career ambitions with personal and relational goals, the role of self-care and movement in maintaining mental health, the impact of societal expectations on dating and relationships, and strategies for dealing with dating burnout. They also delve into gender socialization, the importance of vulnerability, and how to maintain a sense of identity while juggling multiple roles.00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome00:12 Connecting Through Running and Therapy02:08 Balancing Career and Personal Life04:45 Navigating Dating in Your 30s14:39 Effort and Expectations in Dating25:54 The Impact of Job Burnout on Relationships33:23 Exploring Identity Beyond Work34:13 The Power of Taking Risks38:44 Navigating Dating Burnout43:49 Rediscovering Self Amidst Family Life47:53 Challenging Gender Socialization51:41 Rebuilding After Heartbreak56:19 Balancing Self-Work and Relationships01:04:59 The Importance of Fun in Dating01:06:20 Embracing Your 30s with Choice and Joy1 hr 8 min
- Reviving Dead Bedrooms: Sex, Desire, and Communication with Everett UhlIn this episode of the How to Relate Podcast, host Brittani and guest Everett, both therapists, dive into the complexities and nuances of dead bedrooms in relationships. They discuss the definition and implications of sexless relationships, the importance of mutual communication about sexual needs, the impact of individual self-esteem and body image, and the role of environmental and emotional factors in sexual desire. They also touch on the concept of 'the ick' and its impact on sexual attraction, the power dynamics in initiating sex, and how to compassionately reject a partner while maintaining intimacy and connection.00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome00:11 Meeting and Initial Impressions00:56 Therapists in Raleigh01:29 Raleigh vs. New York02:15 Comedian's Take on Raleigh03:15 Transition to Main Topic03:22 Understanding Dead Bedrooms04:22 Sexual Frequency and Metrics05:53 Avoidance in Relationships07:03 Factors Affecting Libido07:52 Impact of Body Image09:00 Relationship Dynamics and Newness10:59 Sexual Compatibility Conversations11:41 Physiological Issues in Sex13:32 Stress and Sexual Performance18:26 Creating a Positive Sexual Environment27:00 Rituals and Spontaneity in Sex32:58 Communicating Sexual Preferences35:06 Navigating Early Conversations About Sex35:57 The Importance of Sexual Communication37:32 Dealing with Sexual Incompatibility39:19 Understanding the Impact of Secrets in Relationships43:33 Addressing Dead Bedrooms and Sexual Neglect44:23 Power Dynamics in Sexual Relationships47:52 Strategies for Initiating Intimacy52:05 The Role of Sensuality and Non-Sexual Physical Comfort54:13 The 'Ick' Factor in Relationships01:00:59 Final Thoughts on Sexual Rejection and Relationship Health1 hr 7 min
- How to Practice Embodiment with Glenn CheathamTalking about embodiment, therapy, yoga, and relationships with Glenn Chetham!00:00 Welcome Back to the Podcast00:18 First Impressions and Shared Interests01:04 Journey to Becoming a Therapist04:53 Exploring Embodiment14:46 Core Capsule Exercise25:54 Navigating Emotions and Inner Dialogue34:47 Empathy and Secure Attachment35:45 Self-Security and Relationships36:26 Embodiment in Relationships38:01 Trust and Nervous System Regulation41:57 Embodiment Practices and Community Healing58:20 Movement as a Tool for Embodiment01:04:40 Challenges and Benefits of Embodiment01:07:30 Final Thoughts on Embodiment1 hr 11 min
- Navigating the Complexities of Dating with Jaclyn Ditter
In this episode of the How to Relate podcast, Brittani and Jaclyn dive into the intricate dynamics of dating, especially from the perspective of therapists. The discussion centers navigating the dating landscape, highlighting the importance of understanding both oneself and the other person involved.
Key topics include managing differences in dating, the balance between independence and togetherness, and how therapists navigate personal relationships while maintaining professional boundaries. We'll touch on common dating hurdles like handling expectations, potential versus reality, and the often blurred lines between offering support and becoming a fixer. Explore the concept of emotional availability, emphasizing the need for vulnerability and openness to both love and potential heartbreak.
1 hr 6 min
About How To Relate
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Many people try to answer what makes relationships work. This podcast aims to answer how do we work relationships? I’m Brittani Procknow, a relationship therapist working with individuals and couples…
to deepen intimacy and live relationally. I’m taking insights from behind closed doors to you, a listener seeking to improve your relational wellbeing. I’m talking to people about everyday concepts including mental health, work, dating, families, friendships, and hobbies to give insights and actions towards living relationally. I’m grateful to have you here. Let’s dive in.