How To Relate

By Brittani ProcknowSociety & Culture Health & Fitness Mental Health Education Self-Improvement Relationships

How To Relate episodes

November 14, 2025 Intimacy: Blocks, Verbs, and Creativity
Explore 7 verbs of intimacy, blocks, and understand how you can deepen intimacy with self and others.

00:31 Exploring Different Types of Intimacy
01:56 The Seven Verbs of Intimacy
03:02 Understanding the Verb 'Ask'
04:19 The Importance of 'Taking'
05:19 The Vulnerability of 'Receiving'
06:58 The Act of 'Giving'
09:34 The Power of 'Refusing'
11:55 The Joy of 'Playing'
14:26 Identifying Intimacy Blockers
17:10 Addressing Maladaptive Patterns

Show Resources:
Intimacy Blockers: Understand and Unblock
https://app.kit.com/publications/17948707/reports/overview

Esther Perel Blog:
https://www.estherperel.com/blog/language-of-intimacy-and-7-verbs

Connect:
Website: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/
Get your free Intimacy Workbook https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219
How to Relate Newsletter https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc
23 min
November 06, 2025 Shame: The Impact, Origins, and Steps to Healing
Shame runs deep inside all of us. What if we switched the narrative from eradicating shame to working with it? Drew and Brittani deep dive into the definitions, origin stories of shame, and how we can begin our healing journey.

02:17 Podcast Format Change Announcement
04:28 Deep Dive into Shame
04:55 Defining Shame and Its Impact
10:23 Shame in Development and Relationships
23:43 Shame vs. Other Emotions
28:07 The Garden Analogy for Shame
28:48 The Garden of Shame and Secrets
29:58 Addiction and the Power of Secrets
31:35 Exploring Vulnerability
33:05 Vulnerability in Dating
35:57 The Role of Hope in Vulnerability
37:18 Healthy Shame and Narcissism
43:01 Brene Brown's Approach to Shame
44:45 Narcissism and Leadership
50:04 Rewriting Our Stories
57:58 Final Thoughts on Shame and Vulnerability

Get your free Intimacy Workbook ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219⁠
For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better, sign up for the How to Relate Newsletter ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc⁠
59 min
October 30, 2025 From Frontlines to Healing Minds: Christopher Brown on EMDR, Psychedelics, and Mental Health Innovation
A wounded Marine combat veteran, Chris overcame his own challenges and is now a thriving psychotherapist. With a foundation in cognitive behavioral therapy, he specializes in EMDR for performance enhancement and psychedelic integration therapy. Having worked with 7-figure business executives and startup founders, military combat and special operations veterans, athletes, creatives, first responders, and other clinicians - he has a passion for helping people reach their highest potential. Over the past decade he's served on various public health, non-profit, and advisory boards; as well as national committees focused on clinical quality and rehabilitation research. Chris is a founder and the CEO of Helicon, a public benefit corporation committed to advancing EMDR for societal mental health.

00:11 Exploring EMDR and Its Challenges
01:50 Building a Tech Platform for Therapists
02:46 Marketing Insights and Collaborations
03:52 Helicon: Vision and Implementation08:12 Understanding EMDR: A Deep Dive
15:31 Personal Experiences with EMDR
24:55 Transitioning to Private Practice
25:26 Introduction to Psychedelic Therapy
25:48 Introduction to Psychedelic Studies
26:08 Training During COVID
26:48 Parallels Between Psychedelic Therapy and EMDR
27:51 Exploring Psychedelic Therapy
30:29 Ethical Considerations and Guidelines
31:02 Phases of Psychedelic Assisted Therapy
32:15 EMDR in Psychedelic Therapy
34:56 Neuroplasticity and Psychedelic Therapy
36:36 Client Experiences and Outcomes
43:24 Addressing Skepticism and Trust
47:46 Contact Information and Conclusion

Learn more about Helicon: gowithhelicon.com Connect with Chris: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cdbrownvet/

Brittani-
https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/
Get your free Intimacy Workbook https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219
For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better, sign up for the How to Relate Newsletter https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc

Therapist Threads Newsletter:
https://relate-co.kit.com/069297fffb
51 min
October 24, 2025 North Carolina Sport and Performance Conference
00:20 Event Overview: North Carolina Sport and Performance Professionals Conference
01:41 The Importance of Community and Real-Life Connections
02:27 Building a Supportive Team for Athletes
13:54 Challenges and Benefits of Planning the Conference
19:59 Final Thoughts and Encouragement to Join
21:45 Introduction and Sign-Up Information
22:16 Welcome Back to the Podcast
22:31 Event Overview and Details
23:52 Importance of Community and Teamwork
27:27 Broadening the Definition of Athlete
30:38 Conference Schedule and Activities
35:25 Planning and Challenges
41:28 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
22 min
October 16, 2025 Finding Healing Through Breath with Heather Waxman
Show Description with Timestamps
00:00 – Personal Stories Matter
Host Brittani welcomes Heather Waxman back to the podcast and discusses the importance of sharing personal stories in therapy.
00:14 – The Power of Breathwork
Heather explains the true intention behind breathwork, its connection to spirit, and how it helps us reconnect with our essence.
38:45 – Personal Healing Journey
Heather shares her transformative experience with Kundalini yoga and how breathwork became a daily practice for healing trauma.
1:10:00 – Breathwork Myths & First Experiences
Discussion on common misconceptions, first breathwork experiences, and how breathwork can bring up powerful emotions.
1:45:00 – Safety, Preparation & Group Work
Heather details how she prepares clients for breathwork, the importance of safety, and what to look for in a facilitator.
2:30:00 – Final Thoughts & Where to Find Heather
Closing thoughts on simplicity in healing, the value of curiosity, and where listeners can connect with Heather online.
40 min
October 10, 2025 Are We All Teenagers? with Drew Klobuchar
00:13 Lake Gaston Adventures and Wakeboarding Woes
03:59 The High School Mentality Never Ends
04:44 Life Updates and Upcoming Plans
05:47 The Rise of Non-Alcoholic Options
07:29 The Return of Cigarettes in Media
08:36 Diving into Social Work
22:54 From Awkward to Approachable: Personal Growth
27:18 Therapy for Athletes: Building Genuine Connections
32:35 Bill Belichick's Coaching Style
33:20 Coaching College Athletes vs. NFL Players
34:13 Mental Health and Performance in Sports
35:43 Expectations vs. Preparation
41:36 Challenges of Limited Playing Time
50:44 Therapeutic Approaches for Athletes
52:20 The Role of Values in Sports
55:25 Navigating High School Social Dynamics
01:05:18 Concluding Thoughts and Reflections

Brittani-
https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/
Get your free Intimacy Workbook https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219
For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better, sign up for the How to Relate Newsletter https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc

Therapist Threads:
https://relate-co.kit.com/069297fffb

MemberUp Community Link:https://memberup.com?via=c0cb99
1 hr 14 min
October 02, 2025 Is PRT the Chronic Pain Cure? with Trinity Perini
Chronic pain is curable?! We're learning about Pain Reprocessing Therapy with Trinity Perini, LCSWA and therapist at Whole Mentality. Trinity gives us a masterclass in how PRT works, her story with chronic pain, and her work with clients as a practitioner. You'll want to share this episode with anyone who has struggled with chronic pain, injuries, or who's interested in the mind-body pain connection. Enjoy!

00:00 Introduction and Greetings
00:43 Romantacy Obsession
05:37 Chronic Pain Journey Begins
07:03 Navigating the Medical System
12:07 Discovering Effective Treatment
19:38 Pain Reprocessing Therapy
35:47 Identifying Key Personality Traits
36:21 Neuroplasticity and Athletes
36:36 Commonalities Among Clients
37:16 Pain Reprocessing Therapy (PRT) in Practice
40:15 Understanding Chronic Pain
46:11 Somatic Tracking Explained
57:06 Combining PRT with Physical Therapy
01:06:34 Resources for Learning About PRT
01:09:18 Final Thoughts and Personal Experiences

Trinity:
https://www.wholementality.com/abouttrinity
1 hr 16 min
September 18, 2025 From New Moms to Athletes: A Holistic Guide to Pelvic Floor Wellness with Mbong Henry, DPT
Mbong Henry, PT, DPT shares insights on the importance of pelvic health for athletic performance, pregnancy, and postpartum recovery. We delve into the complexities of pelvic floor muscles, common misconceptions fueled by social media, and the holistic approach required for effective treatment. You'll learn about the interconnectedness of the pelvic floor with other body parts, the impact of stress, and the importance of a supportive team in navigating pelvic health challenges.

Mbong's Resources
https://www.radiancept.com/
https://www.instagram.com/mbonghenry.dpt/

Brittani-
https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/
Get your free Intimacy Workbook https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219
For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better, sign up for the How to Relate Newsletter https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc
1 hr 1 min
September 11, 2025 Do I Freeze My Eggs or Download Tinder? with Dr. Lori Husband
Psychologist and dating coach Dr. Lori Husband is back! Women dating in their 30's and 40's feel the heaviness of dating decisions, whether or not to freeze eggs, and factors that go into decisions for both. Whether you're a woman in this phase of life, or know women who are, this episode is for you.

00:41 Navigating Dating in Your 30s and 40s
04:12 Introducing the New Course: Should I Freeze My Eggs or Download Tinder?
06:19 The Modern Dating Landscape and Fertility Awareness
10:16 Considering a Move for Better Dating Prospects
16:47 Exploring Social Clubs and Activities for Dating
22:17 Dating Apps: Strategies and Realities
28:43 Understanding Vulnerability in Relationships
30:52 The Dilemma of Dating Apps
31:58 The Importance of Clarity in Dating
40:35 The Reality of Egg Freezing
44:14 Navigating the Decision to Freeze Eggs
49:42 The Cost and Support for Egg Freezing
57:34 Final Thoughts on Egg Freezing and Dating

Dr. Lori's course:
Do I Freeze My Eggs or Download Tinder?
https://drlorihusband.systeme.io/32224554
Work with Lori: https://drlorihusband.com/
Brittani-
https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/
Get your free Intimacy Workbook https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219
For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better, sign up for the How to Relate Newsletter https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc

Therapist Threads Newsletter:
https://relate-co.kit.com/069297fffb
1 hr 1 min
September 05, 2025 Bridging Fields: Sports, Therapy, and the Pursuit of Balance with Drew Klobuchar
What is different about working with athletes? Drew Klobuchar is here to talk about sports, city team loyalty, and how athletes relate. We'll explore the role of sports in childhood and its effect on psychological safety, as well as the pressures and expectations athletes face from their environments and families. The conversation also delves into crash-outs, attachment theory, and the distinctions between mental performance and mental health.

00:00 Introduction and Greetings
00:05 Connecting Through Mutual Friends
01:14 Background and Hometown Stories
02:19 Sports Culture and Small Talk
03:27 Athletes and Their Relationships
10:34 The Human Side of Sports
15:43 Challenges Faced by Young Athletes
23:05 Parental Influence and Athlete Identity
32:24 Emotional Support and Coping Strategies
39:33 Parental Challenges in Youth Sports
40:41 Team Sports vs. Individual Sports
43:48 Mental Health vs. Mental Performance45:28 Understanding Flow State
52:00 The Impact of Dance on Mental Health
59:05 Yoga and Flexibility in Sports
01:08:33 Starting Your Mental Health Journey
01:11:59 Conclusion and Contact Information

Brittani-
https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/
Get your free Intimacy Workbook ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219⁠
For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better, sign up for the How to Relate Newsletter ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc⁠
1 hr 14 min

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Many people try to answer what makes relationships work. This podcast aims to answer how do we work relationships? I’m Brittani Procknow, a relationship therapist working with individuals and couples…

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