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- Lessons for the Lost American Male with Vince Benevento
Vince Benevento, LPC, is a licensed counselor in both NY and CT, a husband, father, speaker, entrepreneur, and author of Boys Will Be Men: 8 Lessons for the Lost American Male. He holds a BA from Wesleyan University and a Masters’s in School Counseling from Fairfield University. Vince possesses nearly 20 years of experience working specifically with men and young men as a coach, mentor, and therapist. The organization Vince founded and has directed for the last 15 years, Causeway Collaborative, has supported over 2000 men and young men from 14-30, effectively changing the way that therapy has been done for guys who have been resistant to help over that time. Now, Vince hopes to share key lessons with men who seek to become better versions of themselves and those who love them.
00:33 Meet Vince Benevento: Founder of Causeway Collaborative
01:20 The Journey to Starting Causeway
03:28 Challenges and Needs of Young Men
04:40 The Role of Male Mentorship
05:02 Practical Life Skills and Career Readiness
05:52 The Importance of Purpose-Driven Work
07:23 The Evolution of Causeway's Approach
08:05 Therapy vs. Career Coaching for Young Men
11:14 Building Confidence Through Competence
15:22 The Crisis of Modern Masculinity
18:25 Changes in Client Archetypes Over the Years
21:32 Overcoming Inertia in Young Men
28:01 Writing 'Boys Will Be Men': A Personal Journey
31:56 The Birth of the Book
33:44 The Eight Lessons
35:14 Brick by Brick
36:58 Name It to Tame It
38:26 Provision is Not a Substitute for Presence
40:34 Find Your Inner Wild
43:16 Never Tap Out
44:42 Iron Sharpens Iron
45:53 Gentle Strength
47:22 Find Your Thing
55:16 Lessons from Adversity
Vince's Resources:
Boys Will Be Men Book: https://www.amazon.com/Boys-Will-Be-Men-American/dp/1959170317/ref=zg_bsnr_g_11390_d_sccl_20/000-0000000-0000000?psc=1
Causeway Collaborative: https://causewaycollaborative.com/
Brittani's Resources
Newsletter: https://brittaniprocknow.substack.com/
Website: https://brittaniprocknow.com
1 hr 3 min - The Fresh Start Effect: Inspired Change in the New Year
What makes behavior change stick? We'll dive into different theories including The Fresh Start Effect and new year inspiration, Self-Determination Theory, willpower vs discipline, and temporal landmarks.
00:11 Discussing Behavioral Change01:28 Challenges of Behavioral Change03:01 Regret, Shame, and Identity05:47 The Fresh Start Effect06:30 Temporal Landmarks and Cultural Significance15:49 Willpower vs. Discipline27:46 Intrinsic vs. Extrinsic Motivation28:44 Exploring Competence and Relatability30:02 Intrinsic vs. Extrinsic Motivation34:33 Impact of Self-Determination in Workplaces36:20 Dark Sides of Self-Determination Theory38:54 CrossFit and Community Building41:07 Incorporating Self-Determination in Daily Life45:26 Navigating Interests and Decision Fatigue49:53 New Year's Goals55 min - Inside Marketing for Mental Health with Michael FulwilerMichael Fulwiler specializes in helping therapists and mental health organizations enhance their marketing strategies. We'll discuss the importance of understanding your target audience, the common mistakes therapists make in their marketing, and actionable tips for creating effective, clear messaging. Michael shares his journey from a student intern to the Chief Marketing Officer at the Gottman Institute, emphasizing the value of niche marketing and ethical promotion.00:49 Michael's Journey into Therapist Marketing01:52 Working with the Gottman Institute03:58 Challenges in Therapist Marketing04:57 Effective Marketing Strategies for Therapists05:51 Common Mistakes in Therapist Marketing08:42 Mindset Shifts for Therapists in Marketing11:18 Ethical and Authentic Marketing13:38 Optimizing Therapist Websites16:28 Crafting a Clear Marketing Message18:47 Defining a Somatic Approach19:47 Holistic vs. Research-Based Therapy20:58 Couples Therapy Marketing Strategies23:34 Importance of Clear Messaging26:03 Exercises for Effective Marketing31:18 Local SEO and Google Business Profile33:09 Final Thoughts on Therapist MarketingMichael's ResourcesWebsite: https://michaelfulwiler.com/Therapy Marketer Newsletter: https://www.therapymarketer.co/
Brittani's Resources
Website: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/
IG: https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknowIntimacy Workbook: https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219
Newsletter: https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc
36 min - Dating Therapists: Dating New Year 2026 with Jaclyn DitterDating habits you need in 2026.00:49 Reflecting on the New Year01:54 The Dating Therapists: New Series Introduction03:23 Balancing Dating and Personal Growth05:49 Exploring New Social Activities16:08 Intentional Dating and Ambivalence29:10 Discovering Hidden Gems29:17 Crafting Engaging Stories29:49 Personalizing Your Profile30:55 Profile Grammar and Spelling34:14 Balancing Self and Relationships36:33 Men and Achievement in Relationships45:40 Setting Realistic Goals55:48 Foundations of a Healthy Lifestyle51 min
- To Fresh Starts and 2026
Cheers to 2026! Welcome to this solo episode deep dive into fresh starts, self determination theory, and my personal goals for this year on the podcast. Enjoy!
32 min - Reckoning with Regret with Drew KlobucharWe may not enjoy regret, but we can make it useful. Brittani and Drew are here to talk about how we can examine the emotional landscape of regret to help us understand what we want for our lives. Check out the resources for articles and more in the show notes. Enjoy!00:00 Introduction to Regret00:02 Emotional Landscape of Regret00:58 Personal Experiences and Identity01:33 Religion and Regret02:26 Career Choices and Regret03:20 The Power of Regret04:27 Mindfulness and OptimismEpisode ResourcesRegret Research:
https://www.danpink.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/02/Results-of-the-American-Regret-Project.pdf
Unlocking Us Podcast: https://brenebrown.com/podcast/the-power-of-regret/
Podcast Resources
Website: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/
IG: https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow
Intimacy Workbook: https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219
Newsletter: https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc
48 min - Playful Healing: The Power of Play Therapy with Hannah Edwardson
Understand play therapy & integrative family dynamics with Hannah Edwardson, LCMHC. Hannah is a Synergetic Play Therapy certified provider working with kiddos and parents. She uses the family system to help parents understand their children and help children understand their nervous system through play. Enjoy this comprehensive exploration on the importance of play for all.
00:33 Hannah's Journey into Play Therapy
02:04 Working with Different Age Groups
03:04 Common Issues in Child Therapy
04:57 Nervous System Regulation in Kids vs. Adults
11:32 Integrating Therapy with School Systems
18:17 Parental Involvement and Challenges
24:44 Balancing Child Autonomy and Parental Authority
26:23 Generational Trauma and Parenting Support
27:01 Balancing Parenting and Personal Support
27:26 COVID Babies and Parenting Challenges
28:33 Role of Therapists as Advocates for Children
29:10 Role Play: Handling Mealtime Tantrums
30:05 Strategies for Encouraging Children to Eat
40:03 Role Play: Managing Sibling Conflicts
47:06 Disrupting Patterns and Building Connections
48:05 Conclusion and Resources
Hannah's Resources:
IG: https://www.instagram.com/counselingwithkiddos/
Website: https://www.carolinacounselingandplaytherapy.com/
Brittani:
Website: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/
IG: https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow
Intimacy Workbook: https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219
Newsletter: https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc
51 min - The True Meaning of Confidence with Ashley EmmonsIn this episode of the How to Relate Podcast, we explore the topic of confidence with Ashley Emmons. Ashley shares her unique journey from paralegal to therapist, experiences in wilderness therapy, and private practice. The conversation delves into confidence distortions, examining perfectionism, and practical approaches to building genuine self-trust. Ashley also discusses her Confidence Cohorts, a women's coaching program to help cultivate self-trust and confidence. Additionally, she invites listeners to a free holiday workshop focused on maintaining confidence during the holiday season.00:00 Introduction and Warm Welcome01:23 The Journey to Becoming a Therapist03:50 Wilderness Therapy and Career Transition07:18 Graduate School and Yoga Therapy10:08 Private Practice and Specialization12:22 Understanding Confidence and Perfectionism20:54 Confidence Distortions and Data Gathering24:35 Aligning Nervous System and Mindful Responses25:49 Confidence Distortions: Identifying and Debunking32:13 The Impact of Self-Criticism on Self-Trust34:17 Urgency and Its Effect on Confidence40:32 The Power of Group Dynamics in Building Confidence45:58 Upcoming Workshops and Programs49:57 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsAshley's Resources:IG: https://www.instagram.com/_ashleyemmons_/Confidence Cohorts: https://www.mondaywellness.com/cohortsIntro Call: https://mondaywellness.hbportal.co/public/682b41d95df02c0007a09acfHow to Relate:
Website: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/
Get your free Intimacy Workbook https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219
How to Relate Newsletter https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better
48 min - Single Events 2025 Review with Jaclyn Ditter
Jaclyn Ditter is back! We're reviewing the best and worst dating events of 2025. Plust why Charleston is the city for men to date, are run clubs still the new dating app, and how to approach people at the gym. Enjoy!
00:54 Charleston Adventures
03:05 Relocation Thoughts
05:26 Dating Dynamics and Social Skills
08:49 Speed Dating Experience
11:53 Pitch a Friend Event
14:16 Pickleball and Social Events
17:55 Run Clubs and Socializing
21:10 Gym Etiquette and Approaching People
24:58 Bold Moves at the Gym
25:25 Building Familiarity in Shared Spaces
26:11 Navigating Gym Etiquette
26:46 Approaching Conversations with Confidence
27:36 The Importance of Social Cues
28:13 Making Friends at the Gym
29:11 Shifting Focus from Dating to Community
31:17 First Date Conversations
31:56 Discussing Religion and Values Early On
38:16 The Role of Dating Apps
39:48 The Challenge of Choice Fatigue
42:19 Men and Women in the Dating Scene
44:59 Practical Tips for Improving Your Dating Life
46:29 The Barista Challenge
49:21 Podcast Update
Website: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/
Get your free Intimacy Workbook https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219
How to Relate Newsletter https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better
51 min - AI and Mental Health: Opportunities and Challenges with Daniel FleshnerDaniel Fleshner, LPC, AASECT Certified therapist shares his experiences with mental health tech companies, and offers a balanced perspective on the optimistic and cautionary aspects of AI in therapy.00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome00:12 Discussing AI in Therapy00:44 Challenges in Mental Health Tech02:41 Insurance and Mental Health08:28 Global Healthcare Systems09:47 Consulting in Mental Health Tech13:24 AI and Therapy Innovations18:11 Ethical Concerns with AI Therapists22:34 AI in Relationships25:51 The Personalization of AI27:13 Hopes for AI in Therapy27:57 Therapists' Perspectives on AI32:04 Ethical Concerns with Data Usage39:51 AI and Intimacy46:54 Final Thoughts and Contact InformationDaniel:https://inflectionpointtherapy.com/about-daniel/Disrupted Therapist Substack: https://thedisruptedtherapist.substack.com/about
Brittani-
https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/
Get your free Intimacy Workbook https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219
For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better, sign up for the How to Relate Newsletter https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc
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About How To Relate
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Many people try to answer what makes relationships work. This podcast aims to answer how do we work relationships? I’m Brittani Procknow, a relationship therapist working with individuals and couples…
to deepen intimacy and live relationally. I’m taking insights from behind closed doors to you, a listener seeking to improve your relational wellbeing. I’m talking to people about everyday concepts including mental health, work, dating, families, friendships, and hobbies to give insights and actions towards living relationally. I’m grateful to have you here. Let’s dive in.