Conflict often shows up in relationships. Especially for those who have been through some form of childhood trauma or been at boarding school.

We weren't taught how to resolve conflict in a heart-centred way. Instead we learned to avoid conflict at all costs. For many it was seen as dangerous.

But there is a positive and life affirming way to resolve difficulties in relationships with others.

And today's guest, Kimberly Best, who is an expert in this field leads us through the key principles of conflict management.

A really fascinating conversation.

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Kimberly Best is a civil mediator and is currently serving her second term on the board of the Tennessee Association of Professional Mediators as Chair/President. She also have over 4 decades as a licensed registered nurse and an MA from the Institute of Conflict Management, Lipscomb University.

Areas to talk about:

1. I would love for you to share some of your journey. How did you get into the work you now do?
2. Men and interpersonal conflict. 
3. Why do men keep so much stored up inside themselves?
4. What are some of the of rules and expectations that we put on men?
5. What do we need to do instead of instilling rules and expectations?
6. How important is it to be heard without judgement and validated, so much locked emotion comes out. It is sacred to share those moments. 
7. Can you please share some tips on conflict management, the emotional experience and/or why we do conflict like we do?
8. Can you please talk about how conflict is normal.
9. It’s a sign of a problem to solve and just because people don’t agree with us doesn’t mean they’re against us - it means they’re different from us. 
10. I talk about the cost of right/wrong, win/lose; the stories we tell ourselves about the other person; the uselessness of blame. 
11. One of the most common for men is trying to mitigate for someone else’s feelings - a commitment to “not upset.”
12. I talk about being honest about what goes on with us and letting the other person feel however they need to.  Conflict resolution is about the “what next?”   
13. I also really like to talk about using mediation as a tool for conflict resolution - at work and with interpersonal relationships. 

#conflictmanagement #conflictresolution #boardingschooltrauma #complexptsd

To find out more about her please visit: https://www.bestconflictsolutions.com/mediation-practice

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Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.

He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.

He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1

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Many blessings,

Piers Cross

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