Have you ever tried to heal your patterns in love — working on your attachment style, processing your childhood wounds, learning to communicate better — and it just feels like… work? Like you’re grinding through another layer of self-improvement, wondering when you’ll finally get to relax and enjoy love?

What if the path to lasting change wasn’t more effort, but more pleasure?

That’s why I sat down with Lauren Harkness, co-founder of The Tantra Institute, advanced certified tantra educator, and somatic trauma facilitator. Lauren has spent years helping people heal sexual trauma, transform repeating relationship patterns, and come home to their bodies as a source of wisdom, pleasure, and power. In our interview, she dropped many of nuggets of embodied wisdom that felt like coming home to myself.

In this episode, we explore:

∙ What role the body and nervous system play in how we attach, connect, and relate — especially in intimate relationships

∙ How unprocessed trauma or stored stress shows up in intimacy, conflict, or desire

∙ How learning to source fulfillment and aliveness from within yourself changes the way you show up in relationships

∙ Practices you can try to build more presence, self-trust, and nervous system safety

If you’ve ever felt like you know what you want in love but can’t seem to embody it, this conversation is for you.

Lauren offered a free 5‑minute Sensual Activation Practice: https://laurenharkness.kartra.com/page/Blissful-path

Lauren is a trained Tantrika and Advanced Certified Tantra Educator with Charles Muir’s Source School of Tantra. She also studied Lafayette Morehouse practices and is trained in the D/s arts and Shamanism with Om Rupani, Somatic Experiencing with Peter Levine, and is a Mastery Graduate of Mama Gena's School of Womanly Arts. A jewelry designer and seductress, Lauren is a stand for everyone ready to heal and further ignite their sexual self, sovereign and free!

She teaches Tantra and other modalities of healing and personal growth.  

She also offers private Tantra Sessions, Coaching Sessions, and Reiki Healing Attunements. 

She teaches large group classes internationally and has taught at Burning Man, FYN, Dark Odyssey, and is the Co-Founder of The Tantra Institute of NY.

"When you touch one thing with deep awareness, you touch everything."

- Thich Nhat Hanh