Mismatched libido, or "desire discrepancy" is on of the most common problems couples experience. But few people know how to find the underlying cause or teach us what to do about it.

Our interview reveals what's really going on (hint: it's not what you think!) and what couples can do to return to connection, flow, and deeper intimacy, love and pleasure.

Here's what we cover in our interview:

1. What are the top 3 reasons why couples might have mismatched sex drives?

2. How can we discover what really turns us on? 

3.Once we identify what we want, how do we communicate it in a way that doesn’t kill their turn-on?

4. What is the most effective way for couples to resolve differences in sex drive?

5. How can couples get what they want without sacrificing their needs or desires just to please the other?

Here are Susan's free gifts:

https://www.pathwaytopleasure.com/pleasure-keys.html The Pleasure Keys e-Guide is a free guide to deepening connection, enhancing pleasure, and reaching your orgasmic potential. Learn the first triad of the Pleasure Keys Process tm and practical things you can do right away to experience more mutual sexual fulfillment.

Here's how to take Susan's Sexual Speedometer Test: https://susanmorgantaylor.kit.com/967f66a91a

More about Susan Morgan Taylor:

Susan Morgan Taylor, MA, is a leading somatic sex therapist who helps couples deepen their intimacy and create lasting, fulfilling connections. With over 25 years of experience in somatic healing, she developed The Pleasure Keys Process™, a powerful approach to reigniting sexual and emotional harmony in relationships. After a personal awakening from a sexless marriage, Susan became passionate about helping others remove obstacles to pleasure, love, and orgasm. She is also the creator of the Pleasure Keys Retreats and host of the Sex Talk Café Podcast. When not working, she enjoys hiking and singing karaoke in the mountains of Western North Carolina.

Ever wonder why some couples grow closer over time while others drift apart? It’s not fate—it’s patterns. The small, often invisible ways we communicate, react, and repair can determine whether love deepens or disintegrates. And once you can see those patterns, you can change them.

This week, I sat down with Zoey Charif, author of Love Can, In Fact, Be Calculated, to unpack the science (and soul) of lasting love. Zoey spent two decades decoding patterns of human attraction, pulling from her background in criminology, data analytics, and a drive to challenge everything we’ve been taught about love. She reveals what secretly destroys connection—and the small but powerful shifts that can bring it back to life.

Here’s what she covered in our interview: 

-What inspired Zoey to explore the idea that love can actually be calculated?

-What are the most important findings that determine whether love thrives or fades?

-Zoey says that self-worth is the foundation for healthy love. What are the signs someone’s operating from low self-worth—and how can they shift that from the inside out?

-Zoey says that admiration is crucial in long-term relationships, and settling leads to resentment. Why is admiration so essential—and how can people hold out for alignment without closing their hearts?

-For people who keep choosing the same kind of partner and getting hurt, what do her findings reveal about how to break that pattern?

-How can someone use her insights to make their current relationship stronger, not just to find “the right person”?

You can learn more about Zoey’s book, Love Can, In Fact, Be Calculated, here: https://amzn.to/472uLx5

And Zoey’s website is here: https://www.lovecaninfactbecalculated.com/

More about Zoey Charif: 

Zoey Charif isn’t just redefining how we think about love — she’s giving us a blueprint. As the author of Love Can, In Fact, Be Calculated, Zoey spent two decades decoding patterns of human attraction, pulling from her background in criminology, data analytics, and a drive to challenge everything we’ve been taught about love.

Born in Afghanistan, raised in Vancouver, and now based in Orange County, California, Zoey brings a rare blend of emotional depth, analytical precision, and lived experience to her work. Her framework is coachable, actionable, and designed to help people transform their relationships.

Her work is a wake-up call: love isn’t magic. It’s math, psychology, and emotional mastery.

Outside of the relationship space, Zoey is a powerhouse entrepreneur helping startups and established businesses secure funding and scale with precision.Whether she’s helping people find aligned love or success, Zoey’s mission is the same: to turn hope into mastery and potential into reality.

Boundaries—we all know they’re important, but putting them into practice? That’s usually the hard part. So often, we’re caught between voicing our needs and feeling guilty, or keeping quiet and subtly losing ourselves.

That’s why I sat down with Emotional Resiliency Coach Jennifer Febel, author of How to Set Boundaries (Without Feeling Like a Dck)*. She busts common myths about boundaries and shares a down-to-earth, empowering framework for creating them with clarity and ease. With over twenty years of expertise in communication and personal growth, Jennifer offers practical tools and compassionate guidance to help you express your needs confidently—without shame, conflict, or endless second-guessing.

If you’ve ever struggled to say no or felt anxious about how others will respond when you finally do, this is a conversation you’ll definitely want to tune into.

Here’s what we cover in our interview: 

-Jennifer shares her inspiring journey to heal herself and discover her own boundaries after being diagnosed with over seven different mental health conditions by the age of 19.

-What is the biggest misconception about boundaries, and why do so many people struggle to set them?

-In her book, Jennifer talks about “the language of boundaries.” She shares examples in our interview that help us put these tools into practice!

-How can someone start setting boundaries today, even if they’ve never done it before?

-Jennifer’s advice for handling people who push back when we start enforcing boundaries.

Jennifer’s Free Gift:

Jennifer is happy to offer her online course 'Rewrite Your Story' as a free gift to my audience. To access the gift, you just have to register at www.btgwellness.com/rewrite. At checkout, use coupon code NICENOMORE to access the course for free.

More about Jennifer Febel

“You are not broken.” This phrase has become Jennifer’s personal and professional mantra and is one she’s determined to share with as many people as possible. After being diagnosed with over seven different mental health conditions by the age of 19, Jennifer embarked on a unique journey of healing and self-discovery that helped shaped her belief that no one is broken and that everyone can find the healing they crave. 

Today, as an Author, Emotional Resiliency Coach, Mentor, and Communications Instructor, Jennifer brings over two decades of experience in psychology, communication, and linguistics to her work.

Through her private practice, trainings, retreats, and podcast, she empowers individuals to overcome their challenges using the same tools and principles that transformed her own life. By blending her professional expertise with the hard-earned wisdom of her personal healing journey, Jennifer has become a trusted resource in emotional resilience and offers support that is authentic, grounded, and deeply meaningful.

In relationships, we don’t enter adulthood with a blank slate—we inherit a “love script” from our childhood. It tells us what love looks like, how much we’re allowed to receive, how we should express ourselves, and what it takes to feel safe or chosen. 

That’s why I decided to interview Inner Child Expert Anat Peri. She’s an expert on how early experiences with our parents shape the way we show up in romantic relationships—and how to rewrite those patterns to create conscious, secure, soul-shaking love. 

Whether you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners or find yourself shutting down when things get intimate, Anat’s guidance will help you reconnect to the part of you that knows how to love and be loved—without losing yourself.

Here’s what we cover in our interview: 

What exactly is a “love script,” and where does it come from?

How do we know if we’re living out our childhood patterns in our current relationships?

How does Mom teach us about self, and dad teach us about others?

How can someone begin to rewrite their love script, especially if they feel stuck in repeating dynamics?

What role does the nervous system play in shifting these deep patterns?

What are some common survival strategies people use in relationships—and what’s underneath them?

How does Anat’s 5 Stages of Healing framework support this transformation?

You can get Anat’s free gift, “Cultivating Safety: A Guided Meditation to Rewire for Love” here: https://trainingcampforthesoul.com/cultivating-safety-meditation/

Before we can rewrite our love script, we must feel safe enough to do so. This 10-minute guided meditation helps you gently reconnect to your body, regulate your nervous system, and create an inner sense of emotional safety—the foundation for conscious love and healing.

Perfect for anyone who feels overwhelmed, shut down, or stuck in survival mode in relationships. Use this meditation daily to come home to yourself and create the safety you didn’t receive as a child.

More about Anat Peri:

Anat Peri is an Inner Child Expert, Founder of Training Camp for the Soul™, and Mentor to Coaches and Healers. With over 20 years of experience in emotional healing and leadership, she helps people rewrite the emotional patterns they inherited from childhood—so they can finally create the love, success, and freedom they desire.

Through her signature 5 Stages of Healing, Anat blends somatic work, subconscious reprogramming, and nervous system regulation to help clients break free from survival strategies and embody their true selves. Her TEDx talk, Why Thinking Positive Doesn’t Work, challenges the status quo and champions the power of emotional truth.

Anat has guided over 10,000 hours of transformational work and trained hundreds of coaches to do the same. Her work has been featured on MSN, and she’s known for making deep healing accessible, actionable, and lasting.

Attachment styles are everywhere these days—but what do they really mean for our relationships? Understanding your attachment style is the first step to healing patterns that keep love at arm’s length. When we learn how to cultivate secure attachment, we unlock the ability to create deeper, more lasting connections—starting with ourselves.

That’s why I decided to interview Relationship and attachment trauma Practitioner Bev Mitelman about BECOMING Securely Loved. She, like I, grew up in an environment that fostered disorganized attachment and dedicated herself to learning the skills to heal, grow, and create secure love. Our conversation is a deep dive into attachment styles, how they form, how they look and how you can develop more self awareness that leads to secure love. 

Here’s what we cover in our interview: 

What are attachment styles are and how do they impact our romantic relationships?

How does our childhood play a role in developing our attachment style?

How does being securely attached in your relationship with yourself set the foundation for healthier relationships with others?

Can you change your attachment style?

What are the beliefs and skills of securely vs. insecurely attached people?

Here’s Bev’s Free attachment style quiz!

https://securelyloved.com/attachment-quiz

More about Bev Mitelman: 

As a child, Bev lived in a very unpredictable and chaotic environment where she never knew if she could rely on her parents to meet her emotional needs. This led her to absorb unhealthy relationship ideas based on what she was witnessing: she believed relationships were supposed to be unbalanced, uncertain, and overall chaotic. If you have an insecure attachment style, you probably relate to her experience, and navigating relationships can be particularly difficult for you.  

Prior to becoming a Certified Attachment Practitioner and founding Securely Loved, Bev was an Executive Leader, University Lecturer and published author, having obtained her Masters' Degree in 2006. She has dedicated her entire career (25+ years) working with adults in the realm of personal growth and professional development.

Unfortunately, our world is becoming more polarized and people are arguing more now than ever. How do we stay connected to who we care about and what we care about at the same time? 

That’s why I decided to interview Phyllis Levitt because she talks about how to navigate conflict in a healthy way: in our romantic relationships, families, and larger communities. Her latest book, "America in Therapy" is about bringing healing and conflict resolution to ourselves on a personal level; and our larger communities; and the relationship between the two.

Phyllis presents 6 principles for how to navigate conflict in a healthy way where both people feel connected even if they disagree. It’s also a framework to repair a conflict after it happens.

Here’s what we cover in our interview: 

What struggles lead you to discover these 6 principles? 

What are the principles and how do you apply them to transform conflict into connection? 

What are the pitfalls around conflict? 

What are the dangers for us personally and globally if we don't begin to make this connection? 

What are the benefits and gifts?

Lois is giving away a free gift: 

PDF called The 6 Secrets For Repairing Relationships After Conflict and a Conflict Type Quiz to help identify your conflict style: https://phyllisleavitt.com/wp-content/uploads/6-Secrets-to-Repairing-Relationships.pdf

More about Phyllis Levitt, in her words: 

I am a psychotherapist of over thirty years and my own healing journey from childhood trauma took me deep into a spiritual connection that changed my life. What I realized at a critical point was that the ways I connect to spirit are influenced by my emotional health or ill health, and that healing emotional wounds became as much a part of my work as meditation and other practices. I now see them as intimately related. I wrote two books about my spiritual connection-- "A Light in the Darkness" and "Into the Fire" -- and my latest book, "America in Therapy" is about bringing psychological healing to ourselves and our nation and the relationship between the two. And it is my hope and my commitment that through healing our collective psychological make-up we can all be a part of the evolution of consciousness for the human race.

You've probably heard that communication is one of the keys to a healthy relationship; and I still hear from most people that they feel misunderstood by someone important to them. We need engaging teachers to help us clarify our truth and communicate it clearly.

Jem Fuller has lived a colourful, global life. From barefoot backpacker to corporate leader, fire-dancer and traditional tattooist, kindergarten teacher to motorcycle courier, masseuse and reflexologist, to labourer and travel consultant. For more than 12 years now, he has run his own executive leadership coaching practice and international retreat company teaching conscious communication, which is why I decided to interview him.

Here's what we cover in our interview:

How did you discover conscious communication? 

What mistakes have you made and learnt from?

How do we elevate our relationships and experience of life and love through more conscious communication?

Why do you believe a mindfulness meditation practice is so important?

Jem's free gift:

Mindfulness Made Easy Course: https://jemfuller.teachable.com/p/mindfulness-made-easy Enter the coupon code PODCAST25 for free lifetime access

Here's a direct link to Jem's book: The Art of Conscious Communication: https://amzn.to/4j75cxr

Here's Jem's latest TEDX talk: How to Have THAT Conversation: https://youtu.be/Z6bOk1nYwxs?si=ZatcYd-7xZoZCdkZ

More about Jem Fuller:

Jem Fuller has lived a colourful, global life. From barefoot backpacker to corporate leader, fire-dancer and traditional tattooist, kindergarten teacher to motorcycle courier, masseuse and reflexologist, to labourer and travel consultant. 

For more than 12 years now, he has run his own executive leadership coaching practice and international retreat company in the Himalaya, Bali and Australia. He is a dedicated partner and father, who loves surfing and meditation. He is the author of the award-winning book, The Art of Conscious Communication, and can be seen delivering his TEDx talk on YouTube.

We’ve all heard about narcissism, and the typical advice is to leave because they can’t change. That is true most of the time and if you’re in a relationship with a Narcissist, I encourage you to get professional support. 

However, some therapists who specialize in personality disorders have seen narcissists, with the right support, learn and grow into more empathic people who are capable of showing up with some self-awareness and care. This isn’t the majority, of course, and it’s not to minimize the abuse and hurt that narcissists cause to those closest to them. But if you have to relate to a narcissist, either through family, business, or some other obligation, it’s good to know what your options are. 

That’s why I decide to interview Dr. Anthony Mazzella. He’s a psychoanalyst and psychotherapist specializing in personality disorders, including narcissistic and borderline pathology. He even hosts a podcast and video channel, called The Narcissism Decoder. He’s seen evidence of change in his practice and wanted to share his insights. 

Here’s what we cover in his interview: 

How do you know if the person you're with is on the NPD spectrum?  

What are the typical painful cycles that people get caught in if they're in this type of relationship?  

How do you know if they can change?  

What are the ways that they can change? What is the best case scenario?  

More about Dr. Anthony Mazzella: You can learn more about his work and his podcast on his website: https://www.drmazzella.com/

Dr. Anthony Mazzella is a psychoanalyst and psychotherapist specializing in psychodynamic treatment for individuals and couples. Driven by a passion for continuous learning, he shares valuable insights, strategies, and practical tips through his podcast and video channel, The Narcissism Decoder. His work focuses on the area he is most passionate about—personality disorders, including narcissistic and borderline pathology.

We all know that it takes work to keep love alive in a marriage, but what's the most important work to do? I'm passionate about this topic so I decided to interview relationship coach, marriage expert, and author Gabriela Embon about the Best Practices to Keep a Marriage Alive & Thriving.

While each marriage is different, Gabriela believes that there are universal best practices that transcend all differences. Why? Because they tap into something deeper—the nature of the human soul.

In her book, "Becoming a Power Couple," Gabriela outlines what she considers the key do's and don’ts of legendary relationships, revealing how to build an unshakable connection that deepens with each passing day. She shares the most important points from her book in our interview.

Here's what we cover in our interview:

Why do so many couples end up feeling disconnected over time? What are they missing?

What does “engineering” a successful marriage mean? What does that look like in real life?

What are the 4 pillars to Engineer Legendary Marriages?

What are the biggest "do's and don’ts" that can make or break a marriage?

How can couples shift from “just getting by” to actually thriving together?

What are some simple daily habits that can help couples strengthen their connection?

More about Gabriela Embon:

Gabriela Embon is a Chemical Engineer, Relationship Coach, Author, influential Host of the Life Engineering podcast, and dynamic Keynote Speaker.

Gabriela is the proud author of Becoming a Power Couple – 4 Pillars to Engineer Legendary Marriages, which empowers individuals to embrace key principles that strengthen and elevate their relationships over time.

Gabriela's free gift: https://gabrielaembon.com/prologue-becoming-a-power-couple/

You can download the prologue of the book: Becoming a Power Couple - 4 pillars to engineer legendary marriages for free.

Most of us don’t like feeling confused. We want to feel confident and secure in what we’re creating. But life doesn’t always work that way. In times like this most of us feel more confused than ever. That’s why I decided to interview Giovanna Silvestre, author of the upcoming book "Confused Girl: Find Your Peace in the Chaos” to help us feel inspired during periods of confusion. 

Giovanna Silvestre, a leading lifestyle and wellness influencer and creator of the international activewear brand Confused Girl in the City, understands the turbulence of the modern world firsthand. Her message is this: to all the women who feel stuck, unworthy, and lost, take heart—your confusion is a virtue! It’s the first stepping-stone on your path to becoming an empowered warrior. Now, she’s here to guide women towards breaking free and boldly, confidently pursuing their dreams.

Here’s what we cover in our interview:  

What inspired you to write "Confused Girl: Find Your Peace in the Chaos," and how does it reflect your personal journey?

Why is it important to slow down when we feel confused and learn to listen to your body, feelings, and intuition? 

What are some practical tips you would offer to someone feeling lost or confused in their own life?

What role do you believe self-expression and creativity play in finding peace amidst chaos?

What advice do you have for individuals looking to connect more deeply with their spirituality or intuition?

What do you hope readers will take away from "Confused Girl," and how do you envision it impacting their lives?

Giovanna also has a free gift: if you purchase her book before May 13, she’ll enter you into a contest to win valuable gifts, like a paid get-away or a gift card to her store. You can learn more here: https://confusedgirlinthecity.com/confused-girl-book-launch-giveaway/

More about Giovanna Silvestre

Giovanna Silvestre, a visionary and trailblazer, embarked on a remarkable journey that took her from the prestigious halls of the University of Southern California to the world of entertainment. Beginning her career in Hollywood, Giovanna’s unwavering passion for creativity and innovation quickly distinguished her in the industry. Her sharp eye for talent and commitment to her craft led to a sought-after role alongside a renowned film director at a major studio.

However, after leaving the entertainment industry, Giovanna fell into a dark depression, a pivotal moment that forced her to confront her identity and purpose. This introspective time ignited her quest to discover who she truly was and why she was here on Earth, ultimately leading her to create her brand and write her book.

With an entrepreneurial spirit, Giovanna founded Confused Girl in the City, a unique activewear brand inspired by healing crystals. Driven by her determination and an innate sense of design, her innovative creations have garnered acclaim in prominent publications such as NBC and Forbes, while amassing a dedicated following of 400,000 on Instagram.

In May 2025, Giovanna’s highly anticipated book, "Confused Girl: Find Your Peace in the Chaos," will be published by Blackstone Publishing Company. Written during her two years of solo travel around the world, the book masterfully blends memoir and guidance, empowering readers to embrace confusion as a virtue that can lead to a fulfilling life.

Recognized for her influential voice and authenticity on major social media platforms, Giovanna exudes a magnetic aura that resonates with audiences everywhere. Her journey is a testament to the power of passion, creativity, and the transformative nature of embracing life's uncertainties.