Influence Every Day

Imagine walking into your next meeting, conversation, or challenge already operating at your best—more energized, clearer in thought, and ready to influence with impact. The good news? You don’t need an hour-long mindset routine. You don’t even need 10 minutes. In under five minutes, you can shift your energy, mood, and perspective with simple, science-backed adjustments that work immediately.

You might dismiss them as too simple to work. But try them—just once—and you’ll see how quickly they create real change.

You already influence the world around you. Why not do it deliberately and from your most powerful state?

Now, go out and influence for good. Every day.

Welcome to The Influence Every Day Show with Dr. Ed Tori, where we focus on making every day better and influencing for good.

Ever heard of putting the cart before the horse? In this episode, Dr. Tori tackles how we often get our priorities out of order and why that mindset might be holding us back.

Dr. Tori shares a story about a friend who postponed learning leadership skills until after a promotion—only to realize that’s putting things in the wrong order. Here’s why you need to act first, invest in yourself, and create the conditions for success before expecting rewards. 

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Dr. Tori asks: Where might you be putting the cart before the horse in your life?

Think about:

Take action today to shift those priorities and set the right foundation for success.

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 “Action is the shortest path to clarity. Invest in yourself.

Put the wood in, and then you’ll get the heat.”

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Go forth and influence for good—every day. See you next time!

Host: Dr. Ed Tori, The Influence Every Day Show 

Dr. Ed Tori explores the fine line between virtues and vices when it comes to humility and modesty. While often celebrated as noble traits, they can sometimes become counterproductive, leading to self-sabotage, missed opportunities, or harmful avoidance. Dr. Tori explains how to recognize when these virtues cross into vice and offers actionable strategies to strike the right balance.

“Beware of times when humility or modesty is being used as an excuse for complacency or inaction.” 

Need help navigating these challenges or honing your influence and communication skills? Schedule a strategy call with Dr. Tori at InfluenceConsult.com.

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Let’s Influence for Good—Every Day. 

Episode 041 - Behavior Change: Beware of the Actual Slippery Slope 

The Influence Every Day Show with Dr. Tori

Small compromises often pave the way for major setbacks, particularly in the realm of personal growth and habit formation. This episode highlights the subtle yet powerful phenomenon of “deal-making” with oneself, exploring how justifications, limiting beliefs, and decision fatigue erode progress.

Learn how to make deliberate choices, break free from the cycle of self-compromise, and build lasting habits. Plus, hear why tracking your progress can be more reliable than your perception and how to ride the wave of motivation without letting fatigue derail you.

Explore why minor deviations in goals and ethics often snowball and how to resist the slippery slope of concessions. Armed with these insights, you’ll be better equipped to navigate challenges, maintain momentum, and influence your own behavior for lasting change.

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What if the key to transforming your most important relationships lies hidden in the science of memory? Between the ages of 10 and 30, your brain stored some of its most vivid and emotionally charged memories—a phenomenon known as the reminiscence bump. Understanding and applying this insight can help you deepen rapport, create unforgettable moments, and strengthen bonds with the people who matter most.

In this episode, you’ll uncover:

You’ll also walk away with a step-by-step guide to using the reminiscence bump to create memorable milestones in the year ahead, helping you:

Connection is the currency of influence—and the reminiscence bump offers you a unique way to make interactions unforgettable. Whether it’s through thoughtful gifts, meaningful conversations, or the creation of new firsts, you’ll discover how to use the power of memory to show up for the people in your life in a way that truly resonates.

When you tap into the emotional richness of nostalgia, you don’t just reminisce—you transform relationships.

💡 Are you ready to amplify your influence and improve your relationships with actionable insights like these? Schedule a strategy session with Dr. Tori today at InfluenceConsult.com. 

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Quick reactions might feel efficient, but are they building the trust and understanding you need in your personal and professional relationships? There’s a powerful difference between responding and being truly responsive—and it can make or break how others perceive and connect with you.

Explore how to move beyond reflexive replies to create meaningful, thoughtful interactions that deepen trust, reduce misunderstandings, and enhance collaboration.

The Difference Between Responding and Being Responsive: 

Learn why a simple reply isn’t enough and how responsiveness adds depth, care, and relational value to your communication.

How Responsiveness Builds Trust and Connection: 

Discover how thoughtful interactions make others feel heard, valued, and respected—even in challenging situations.

Why Timing Matters in Your Responses: 

Understand the balance between rapid replies and taking the space to think, adapt, and address needs beyond the immediate question.

Practical Examples to Apply Right Away: 

Transform your responses from transactional to relational with easy-to-implement shifts in everyday conversations.

Every interaction is an opportunity to leave someone feeling seen and valued. Responsiveness is the skill that turns good communication into great relationships. Ready to elevate how you influence and connect?

Take the next step: share this insight with someone who needs it and explore coaching opportunities to refine your communication skills at InfluenceConsult.com.

What if a quick video or photo could instantly change your mood and help you show up as your best self? In this episode, Dr. Ed Tori explores the science behind personal mementos—like the photos and knickknacks some people keep on their desks—and why these items can reduce stress, boost productivity, and enhance emotional well-being.

But in today’s hybrid work world, where desks aren’t always personal, Dr. Tori introduces a creative alternative: using your phone to anchor yourself with moments of joy. With real-life stories, including one of a dog’s full-body wag, you’ll discover simple yet powerful strategies to reset your state before meetings, conversations, or big presentations.

 • How personal photos and mementos influence stress and productivity.

 • The “pet effect” and why pets can help improve emotional well-being.

 • A simple, portable technique to change your state using your phone.

 • Inspiring examples of how small moments of joy transformed difficult situations.

 • Practical tips for applying this approach to your work and personal life.

 • [01:10] Why personal items at work matter—and what the research says.

 • [03:30] The challenges of hybrid work and hotelling spaces.

 • [08:00] A social worker’s story of using a dog video to reset before stressful moments.

 • [12:50] Dr. Tori’s own experience changing his state before a keynote after personal loss.

 • [17:15] Simple ways to create your own “full-body wag” moments to use anytime.

Do you have a go-to video or photo that helps you reset your mood? Share your thoughts with Dr. Ed Tori on his Influence Every Day blog or with a friend who might benefit from this episode.

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Welcome to The Influence Every Day Show with Dr. Ed Tori, where we make every day better by influencing for good.

What happens when a pickup artist, a hypnotist, and a social psychologist join forces in a hospital? Dr. Tori shares the fascinating story of a “patient whisperer consult” on a cardiac surgery unit, where insights from these seemingly unrelated disciplines helped a patient on the road to recovery. This episode explores how principles of influence—like social proof and “it starts before it begins”—can be borrowed from diverse fields and applied to healthcare, parenting, leadership, and more.

Dr. Tori reveals how combining these tools can transform communication and drive behavior change in meaningful ways. Whether you’re helping a patient walk, guiding a child past fear, or building trust with a team, this episode is packed with actionable insights to help you influence for good.

 • How a principle called “social proof” from pickup artistry helped a patient overcome hesitation and uncertainty.

 • Why the best conversations—and influence strategies—start long before the first words are spoken.

 • How to leverage lessons from conversational hypnotherapy, social psychology, and more to solve your “sticky problems.”

 • Real-world examples of influence in action, from hospital hallways to parenting moments.

 • “Influence starts long before the conversation begins.”

 • “In a time of uncertainty, we do what the group does.”

 • “Your behavior influences others, even when you’re not actively engaged.”

 • Schedule an Influence Strategy Call with Dr. Tori

 • Book Mentioned: Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion by Dr. Robert Cialdini

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Go forth and influence for good. Every day.

In this episode, Dr. Ed Tori takes a counterintuitive look at gratitude by exploring its opposites and absences. While gratitude is often celebrated—especially during holidays and moments of reflection—its absence or opposites, such as resentment, hold lessons just as powerful.

Dr. Tori dives deep into the corrosive nature of resentment, how it can quietly erode relationships, and why it often stems from unmet expectations or perceived injustices. He shares practical insights on identifying resentment, reframing our thoughts, and turning this festering emotion into an opportunity for self-awareness and growth.

As you gather with family, friends, or colleagues during this season, ask yourself:

Your relationships are too important to let resentment fester. Start the conversation, reframe the narrative, and influence for good.

“Resentment can reveal your values, motivate you to change, and push you to have the hard conversations—but left unchecked, it’s an abscess that must be drained. Your relationships are too important to let resentment fester.”

Welcome to The Influence Every Day Show with Dr. Ed Tori! In this compelling episode, Dr. Tori explores the powerful why behind his mission to help good people influence for good. Drawing from decades of experience, heartwarming personal stories, and the ever-changing world around us, this episode is a call to action for anyone who values human connection.

“At the end of our lives, we will reflect on how we treated others. So let’s get really good at it. I can help you skill up to influence for good, in a way that lasts.”

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Now, go forth and influence for good. Every day.