Inner Propaganda with Owen Fitzpatrick

It is not just an inner critic. There are many voices.

We just tend to position our critic in an elevated position.

The relationship with our inner critic. 

Feelings can trigger it. Habitual thought patterns trigger it.

Potential vs Performance

Whenever you are evaluating yourself.

What is your goal?

What information is the critic suggesting?

How accurate is it? 

What is the nuance?

How is it helpful?

How is it not helpful?

What are you going to do moving forward?

In this episode, we talk with Carol Malakasis, the Start-Up Girl, about founder sales, rejection, imposter syndrome, and much, much more!   Carol is a New York City startup veteran. She has ten years of experience in selling. She’s part of the founding sales teams for two startups that were acquired. and is quintilingual in nature. Working with early-stage founders has been her passion. Carol believes that everyone can sell if taught the right way.

Here are some key takeaways from this interview:

• Carol’s story and how she's able to do what she’s doing today

• What stands out as the most important lessons that she got about sales and persuasion?
•  It’s not a matter of talent, it’s a matter of putting in the work
•  Carol talks about changing perspectives and facing rejection 
•  How does she deal with insecurities and impostor syndrome?
•  Rejection is never pleasant, even after you have years of experience
•  Differentiating between external feedback and the way she speaks to herself
• One thing she believes is critical for founders, or any business owner, is the ability to sell
• Carol explains what a sales playbook is

To find out more about Carol check out https://www.linkedin.com/in/carolmalakasis/ 

Ramped Solutions http://ramped.co

What is your goal?

How will you know when you’ve achieved it?

What stops you?

What can you do to overcome those challenges?

What do you need to succeed?

What milestones can you set along the way?

How can you reward yourself for the progress you’re making?

What will you do once you have succeeded?

In this episode, I explore the power of goal setting. We explore different models of goal setting and the many benefits of what they allow us to do.

Types of goals:

Objectives and Key Results Objectives Key Results

SMART Goals Specific  Measurable  Achievable  Results-Oriented  Time-Based

Well-formed outcome: Positive Specific  Sensory Based Ecological Control

The benefits of goals

Clarity Focus Calm Confidence Resilient Motivated Excited Enthusiastic

In this episode, we look at how you can be ready for the future by asking a number of key questions.

We grew up learning the infamous "when life gives you lemons" metaphor, which we use as a lesson to deal with when fate throws anything in our way. But that is not necessarily true because, most of the time, we're taken aback by how unpredictable the future is. Whether you’re currently weathering storms, just got fired from your dream job, or waiting for an acceptance call, here’s a simple guide to being ready for anything life throws your way, because living is a bit more tricky than lemons and oranges.

In today's episode, we'll be learning how to get prepared for the unknown. Here are some of the tips that you should follow in order to be prepared for the future:

1.Create a vision for the future that you want in sections.

2.Instead of preparing for the worst-case scenario, prepare for the most likely scenario.

3.What are the upcoming challenges that you foresee and potential challenges that might occur?

4.Weight the opportunities that are there for you?

5.Identify all of the different skills, mindsets, and behaviors you need in order for you to be ready for the future.

6.What do you need to do in order to make that vision a reality?

7.What are you going to do to be able to change things if something unexpected happens?

In this episode, on this important week in climbing, I talk to Vivian Rigney, a top executive coach here in New York that has climbed the seven summits of the world including Mount Everest. He has also released a new book called ‘Naked at the Knife Edge’ about his incredible Everest adventure. An amazing book, it brings us on the journey as Vivian shares some wonderful wisdom on leadership and high performance along the way. Vivian also happens to be a good friend of mine and, in this episode, we discuss the book, his work with executives and some great wisdom he has learned along the way.

Here are some key takeaways from this interview:

• Vivian’s background and how he found himself doing what he’s doing today 
• Admitting that we need help and asking for help is another level of vulnerability that we all need in our business
• “Beliefs are often feelings rather than facts.”

• The motivation and drive that made him climb Mt. Everest

• What was the toughest part of the climb for him?

• What were the most important lessons in terms of great leadership that Vivian learned along the way?

• Managing your inner dialogue, thinking efficiently, understanding that vulnerability is a strength, and authenticity will lead to followership. 

To find out more about Vivian check out Vivianjamesrigney.com

TO GET HIS AMAZING BOOK:

HARDBACK VERSION OF NAKED AT THE KNIFE-EDGEhttps://www.amazon.com/Naked-Knife-Edge-Everest-Leadership-Vulnerability/dp/1637630778/ref=sr_1_1?crid=16RXY6V036AQP&keywords=naked+at+the+knife+edge&qid=1649985725&sprefix=naked+at+the+knife+edg%2Caps%2C1136&sr=8-1

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In this episode, we explore the phenomena I first mentioned in my TEDx talk… Inner Propaganda… and explain how it works and how we influence ourselves internally.

Propaganda - Information of a misleading nature designed to influence people

Attention - we focus on whatever maintains the narrative 

Confirmation Bias - we convince ourselves we are correct

Beliefs - Ideas with the feeling of certainty attached

Mindset - A collection of beliefs that we have about a specific topic 

Emotions - Affect that we interpret in a particular way

Moods - Emotions that last more than a few minutes

Thoughts - Ideas we generate inside our mind consciously or unconsciously

Internal multilogue - the conversations that happen inside our head between different voices 

Core Beliefs - what we believe no matter what we feel

Emotional Beliefs - what we believe when we feel a particular emotion

Our Inner narrative - the story we tell ourselves about a situation

An Emotion leads to emotional beliefs and an inner narrative that interprets the experience we are having. 

From the internal multilogue, the negative voices gain power and use negative thoughts and emotional beliefs and an inner narrative. try and convince us of a negative reality.

This reality can keep the emotion alive and lead to a mood and even a mood disorder.

To overcome the challenge posed by inner propaganda, we need to take back power in our own minds. 

This means understanding the difference between core beliefs and emotional beliefs. 

It means changing our inner narratives and choosing where we put our attention.

In this episode, we look at handling trauma and changing how we can react and respond to it effectively to move forward in our lives.

Healing from Trauma

When we experience trauma, it can be easy to forever suffer from the horrible emotions and memories. In this episode, we explore strategies we can use to help us to heal from it.

Disclaimer: Please make sure you seek help from a professional for any trauma that you find overwhelming.

2 Types of Patterning

EmotionalHabitual 

Strong emotional reaction makes memory solidify Change emotional associationChange the narrativeMindfulness - Get DistanceRun the Movie BackwardsBe gentle with yourselfSelf ClosureForgive yourself and themBe okay with feeling badTalk about it

Handling regrets

At least vs If only (Dan Pink The Power of Regret)

It is about what you put your attention on and what action you take.

Attention:

Your focus follows your questions. Start with these 12 questions.

What would the very best you look like? What would the very best you sound like? How would the very best you act? How would the very best you feel? How would the very best you take care of yourself? What would the very best you do to feel happy? What would the morning routine of the very best you be like? What would the evening routine of the very best you be like? What would the very best you spend time learning? How would the very best you switch off? What strengths would the very best you leverage? What weaknesses would the very best you work on?

Action:

What are you going to do to make this happen? When are you going to do it? How are you going to do it? Why are you going to do it? What could stop you? What will you do to overcome what stops you?

In this episode, I talk to my friend and top leadership coach, Mike Goldman, about the work he does in creating breakthrough leadership teams. Mike is a nationally recognized author for his best-selling books revolving around building leadership teams. He walks us through the importance of mastering self-leadership and establishing vulnerability-based trust. If you want to become the leader of a profitable, and growing company that positively impacts the lives of your clients and team members, then listen to today's talk. Some great insights here.

About Mike Goldman

Mike Goldman is an award-winning leadership team coach and the #1 Amazon bestselling author of two books, Breakthrough Leadership Team and Performance Breakthrough.  He speaks internationally to groups of business leaders, such as the Young Presidents Organization (YPO) and the Entrepreneur’s Organization (EO). During his 30+ year coaching and consulting career he has worked with clients including Disney, Verizon, CHANEL and Polo Ralph Lauren. His insights have been featured in Forbes, Fast Company and Chief Executive Magazine and he is widely regarded by CEO’s as the expert on building great leadership teams. 

Resources:Mike Goldman’s website - https://www.mike-goldman.com/ @mikegoldmancoach on Instagram