Inspiration from the Couch

In this episode, we revisit the topic of adult connection and the importance of adult friendships. We review the mental health benefits of social connection (hint: it’s more important than diet and exercise for longevity!). We talk about the advantage of the friend role as compared to other roles. We also discuss what it takes to be a “good friend” and what to do if a friendship becomes unhealthy. Lastly, we provide some advice for deepening friendships. 

In today’s episode we talk about the parts and pieces of ourselves that we’ve lost along the way. Some of these might be aspects of ourselves we’re glad to be rid of (like people pleasing or caring about what other people think), whereas there might be other facets of ourselves (like seeking adventure or having/feeling fun) that we’d like to reclaim. We explore how this comes up in our lives and the lives of our clients, driving factors, and ways to notice and reintegrate missing pieces that we like and want back. 

Perseverance and grit are great to teach our kids but when is it appropriate for them to quit or change directions? In today’s episode, we talk about all of the complicated reasons that we may pressure our kids to stay with things longer than what’s good for their well-being (including our “own stuff” as parents!). We talk about why quitting can be courageous and how you can assist your kids in taking ownership over that. We give pointers and strategies on how to approach the “quitting” conversation and highlight the importance of curiosity and intentionality.

Resource:

https://www.amazon.com/Quitting-Strategy-Perseverance_and-Science-Giving/dp/1538722348

Today’s episode is all about fostering financial literacy in our teens and young adults. We start with some of the main financial related concerns we hear from kids during and after college, and we work backwards, highlighting specific tools and skills we can teach our kids before they leave home. We explore methods of payment, tipping, budgeting, and allowance/income. We also talk about natural opportunities to grow these skills, as well as opportunities for financially oriented natural consequences (e.g., how to respond when your teen loses her laptop stylus for the 3rd time in 3 months!). Lastly, we highlight how financial literacy can be complicated: it’s hard to talk openly and directly about finances, and money tends to stir up all kinds of emotions (which makes it even more uncomfortable). 

We sometimes forget that one of the most effective things we can do as parents is to simply get out of our kids' way. In today’s episode we talk about the importance of allowing our kids to face natural consequences. We touch on issues that can make it difficult for us as parents to take a step back, and we review specific strategies to help us “get out of the way.” We talk about specific life skills that are easier for our kids to develop without our interference and when it can be helpful to offer support. 

In today’s episode, we focus on disappointment, a feeling most of us don’t name or talk about enough. We explore what makes disappointment a harder emotion to acknowledge, highlighting the tendency to quickly detour to anger, judgment, shame, or embarrassment. We discuss our own experiences with disappointment. We talk about how disappointment often presents, including the thoughts, feelings, and body sensations that tend to accompany it. We notice that there’s power in being able to name our disappointment – the trick is in letting disappointment coexist with other, often contradictory, emotions. We explore the relationship between disappointment and our expectations (there’s a strong relationship between these two!), and we talk more specifically about how disappointment shows up in parenting. Lastly we discuss both unhelpful (maladaptive) and helpful (more effective) ways to cope with disappointment. 

It’s our 100th episode! We mark the occasion by talking about milestones and taking a walk down memory lane. We discuss the different lessons we’ve learned along the way and relive some of our favorite moments on the podcast. We talk about some of the struggles and disappointments we’ve faced along the way too. 

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Check out some of our favorite episodes:

Episode 3 Play

https://badassrebellion.com/episode-3-play/

Episode 5 Trance of Scarcity Book Club

https://badassrebellion.com/episode-5-the-trance-of-scarcity/

Episode 7 Do It Afraid

https://badassrebellion.com/episode-7-do-it-afraid/

Episode 13 Compassion

https://badassrebellion.com/episode-13-compassion/

Episode 31 Intentional Holiday Season

https://badassrebellion.com/episode-31-intentional-holiday-season/

Episode 34 Joy

https://badassrebellion.com/episode-34-joy/

Episode 38 Comfort

https://badassrebellion.com/episode-38-comfort/

Episode 40 Healthy Relationships, Part 1

https://badassrebellion.com/episode-40-healthy-relationships-part-1/

Episode 41 Healthy Relationships, Part 2

https://badassrebellion.com/ep-41-healthy-relationships-part-2/

Episode 46 Swimsuit Season

https://badassrebellion.com/episode-46-swimsuit-season/

Episode 55 Dialectics

https://badassrebellion.com/episode-55-dialectics/

Episode 84 Not Enoughness

https://badassrebellion.com/episode-84-not-enoughness/

Episode 86 You and Them

https://badassrebellion.com/episode-86-you-and-them/

Episode 87 Being Human with Taylor White Moffitt

https://badassrebellion.com/ep-87-being-human-with-taylor-white-moffitt/

Episode 90 Unicorn Space with Eve Rodsky

https://badassrebellion.com/episode-90-unicorn-space-with-eve-rodsky/

Episode 93 Delights of December

https://badassrebellion.com/episode-93-delights-of-december/

Today, Jamie, Lucy, and Avery discuss the often misunderstood emotion, envy. In short, envy can occur when someone has something or is doing something that you want for yourself! It often involves some sort of social comparison, usually with people who are similar to us in some way. We talk about the difference between envy and jealousy and why envy often feels “worse.” We share our own experiences with envy, a universal emotion, and what happens when we ignore it.. We also explore the upsides of envy and why it’s important to label envy when it crops up.

Resources:

https://www.eliseloehnen.com/onourbestbehavior

https://www.instagram.com/backwards_hat_dancer/

Love is on our mind as we’re preparing for Valentine’s Day, and today we’re talking about self-love. While we may not be super-fans of the terminology (something about the phrase kind of gives us the ick), but we do actually do love the concept. In this episode, we define “self-love” as loving ourselves unconditionally and taking care of ourselves the way we would someone we love. We touch on the beautiful book The Body is Not an Apology by Sonya Renee Taylor and talk about the quote by Glennon Doyle:  “I have met myself and I am going to care for her fiercely.”. We end with an exercise to help us hold and treat ourselves with love. 

Today’s episode was listener inspired! In this podcast, we talk about what it’s like when the trajectory of our lives is out of sync with what we imagined or expected. We see this during transitions and turning points (whether they are expected or unexpected). We discuss some of the major developmental tasks that we undergo throughout our lives and what it’s like to feel not quite in step with our peers. We also talk about how stories, expectations, having a scarcity mindset, and engaging in social comparison can make us feel even more out of sorts. Lastly, we offer tips and tricks along the way to help navigate all of this change!