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In this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss how to keep your relationship and your sex life from freezing over during the busy holiday season.

1. Protect your spouse. Make sure they know that you’ve got their back. Approach your extended families with an “us vs. them” mentality.
2. Prioritize your spouse and your relationship. You absolutely MUST make time to continue to connect with your spouse, even at the expense of making others happy - even your kids.
3. Plan ahead so that you are prepared to overcome challenges to your sex life during this holiday season. 

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn share an excerpt from a session of the 2021 Retreat, titled, "Submitting to one another -- do I know what my spouse really needs?" Learn new moves to help transform conflict into opportunities for growth and connection.

1. Real change starts by seeing my spouse more clearly -- empathy. See their circumstances, their struggles and their desires.
2. If I want change, I have to protect their space for change. I have to reward their vulnerability instead of punishing with judgement, criticism, or coldness.
3. Recognize that we need each other — interdependency. Begin to see conflicts as opportunities to grow & connect; opportunities to face life together.

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn continue last week's discussion about encouraging husbands to be leaders by specifically addressing spiritual leadership in the home.

1. Husbands are given the responsibility of overseeing the spiritual growth of the home and this responsibility is often shirked by many men. Many wives longingly desire to see their husbands grow into a strong spiritual leader.
2. Criticism and pressure are rarely effective ways to motivate a reluctant husband. Instead, be clear and realistic about your expectations, offering praise and gratitude as motivation.
3. Husbands, spiritual growth is in your best interest. If your wife is like most, your growth as a spiritual leader will exponentially improve your romantic and sexual attractiveness.

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn answer a listener question from a wife who wants to know how she can encourage her husband to be a better leader and more engaged in the relationship.

1. Sometimes, our disappointment with leadership is because we have unrealistic expectations. However, clearly many husbands are negligent in their role as head of their household.
2. If you are a wife, your best tool to encourage your husband to lead is to be a godly respectful supporter.
3. Don’t be afraid to hold each other accountable in the roles that God has given.

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In this episode, Matt and Jenn answer a listener question about making eye contact during sex. We'll also discuss ways to use eye contact to enhance emotional and sexual pleasure using eye contact.

1. Eye contact requires vulnerability, but increasing eye contact in your relationship - in and out of the bedroom - can improve emotional and sexual connection.
2. There may be reasons that we are seeking or avoiding eye contact during sex. This begs the question and conversation needed in your marriage, “What does eye contact during sex mean to me?”
3. If you want more eye contact, you must be a place for your spouse to feel safe enough to let you “see” them deeply.

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn share segments from the 2021 Annual Marriage Retreat Q&A session, recorded with a live audience. We tackle topics including sexy hygiene, dealing with aversion to the sex act, overcoming sexual trauma, and how to "keep striving" without pressuring.

We also want to recognize our Retreat sponsors again. THANK YOU!
Married Dance — marrieddance.com
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Ghost Sherpa — ghostsherpa.com
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Dating Divas — thedatingdivas.com
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This episode is an excerpt from a LIVE recording at the 2021 Intimate Covenant Annual Marriage Retreat in Houston, TX. Matt & Jenn field questions about recommendations for sex toys, using Skype sex when couples are apart and how to begin the journey to healing after betrayal by pornography addiction.

Thank you to these incredible companies that supported our 2021 Retreat:
Married Dance — marrieddance.com
Websites That Sell — websitesthatsell.com
Ghost Sherpa — ghostsherpa.com
InfiniteMoon — infinitemoon.com
Mentionables — mentionables.com
The Dating Divas — thedatingdivas.com
Uberlube — uberlube.com

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In this episode Matt & Jenn complete their series on overcoming common barriers to sex with discussion about work, travel (physical separation) and separate bedtimes.

1. Learning to identify and eliminate barriers to sex in our relationships requires honest introspection and humility. This process will improve our married sex lives, but also benefit every other aspect of your relationship.
2. Keep your job in perspective. No career or job is worth sacrificing your marriage over.
3. If you must be physically separated by travel, have a plan for how you will maintain connection while away from each other.
4. As much as possible, go to bed together. It’s better for your relationship overall and certainly better for your sex life.

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In this episode, Matt and Jenn discuss overcoming some more barriers to sex -- health, aging, screens and humor.

1. Learning to identify and eliminate barriers to sex in our relationships requires honest introspection and humility. This process will improve our married sex lives, but also benefit every other aspect of your relationship.
2. Since sex is so much more than joining genitals, we can still have pleasurable and deeply meaningful sex even if our body fails us.
3. Put down your screens and be willing to lean into vulnerable conversations. The risk and anxiety will be worth it for your relationship.

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In this episode, Matt and Jenn discuss how to deal with one of the most challenging barriers to sex ...kids. 

1. Daily life often seems to get in the way, creating barriers that hinder our ability to enjoy the sexual connection we would like to have with one another.
2. Have an action plan to combat the barriers that interfere with your sex life! Learn to name your barriers, asking yourself “why?” these barriers exist, then share these barriers with your spouse. Be willing to hear their barriers too and then together discuss solutions.
3. Kids are a beautiful blessing and direct results of the sexual intimacy in your marriage. But, they are also a primary threat to the ongoing sexual intimacy in your marriage if you aren’t taking intentional steps to prioritize your covenant.

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