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In this episode, Matt & Jenn answer questions about using private masturbation as a way to help deal with sexual desire and arousal differences between spouses.

1. Any two individuals in a marriage will be quite different when it comes to sexual desire and motivations for sex. Our challenge is to recognize these differences and turn toward each other with empathy, humility, and service.
2. The purpose of our sexual relationship is to promote, accentuate and motivate the fullness of connection in a covenant relationship. We should be motivated to serve our spouse, learn about them, and grow together.
3. When we change the focus of sex to be primarily about pleasure, orgasm, or arousal (especially our own); then we miss the fulness of the sexual connection and the opportunity to benefit the whole relationship.

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn tackle a listener's email question, "Should we tell our kids about the sexual sins of our past? How much should we share?"

1. Talking to your kids about sex must be an ongoing conversation so that they feel comfortable about the topic and that they see you as experts for sex and relationship advice.
2. Sharing your failings with your kids doesn’t make you less respectable, it makes you more relatable. It makes you more credible, especially if you are frank, honest and vulnerable in every aspect of your life.
3. In conversations with your kids about sex and your own failings, focus on the grace of God — His power and the beauty of His plan.

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn share their personal struggles with marriage and sex. You won't want to miss this touching and vulnerable episode.

1. We want you to know that you’re not alone. We know brokenness. But we also know redemption, restoration and unity through the power of the gospel and God’s plan for marriage and sex.
2. We’re here to share that with you and to build a community for vulnerability and encouragement.

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn challenge you to carefully evaluate whether your sex routines are really the best way to promote connection.

1. Every couple has a sexual routine or script that they follow for most sexual encounters. But is your routine promoting the best sex and most connection for your marriage?
2. Start by busting the myth that sex starts with intercourse and ends with ejaculation. Make love all day, every day, by frequently connecting emotional and sexually.
3. Assess every stage of your sexual routine and determine if there is something that you can do to facilitate, enhance or extend your sexual script so that you are building oneness and maximizing pleasure.

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In this final episode in the series on Date Night, Matt & Jenn give advice on how to transition the energy from Date Night into the bedroom.

1. Date Night is critical for the spiritual, emotional, romantic, and sexual health of your relationship. Make it a priority in your marriage!
2. How you do Date Night is also critical to maximizing the benefit to your marriage and promoting oneness. Here’s 5 tips to make the most of your time:
   1. Don’t leave it to chance, plan it! 
   2. When you’re on a date, give your undivided attention.
   3. Promote connection through touch, eye contact and intimate conversation.
   4. Novelty accentuates the impact. Do something new together.
   5. Don’t lose the energy when you get home. Make a quick transition to the bedroom.

Helpful Resources:

• Dating Divas: https://www.thedatingdivas.com/
• Crated With Love: https://cratedwithlove.com/
• Gottman Card Decks: https://www.gottman.com  
• Gottman Card Decks App: https://www.gottman.com/couples/apps/
• Ultimate Intimacy App: https://ultimateintimacy.com/
• Intimately Us:  https://intimately.us/

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn continue the discussion about Date Night by offering  5 tips to make for a great date night.

1. Date Night is critical for the spiritual, emotional, romantic, and sexual health of your relationship. Make it a priority in your marriage!
2. How you do Date Night is also critical to maximizing the benefit to your marriage and promoting oneness. Here’s 5 tips to make the most of your time:
   1. Don’t leave it to chance, plan it. 
   2. When you’re on a date, give your undivided attention. 
   3. Promote connection through touch, eye contact and intimate conversation.
      ...Next week we’ll discuss :
   4. Novelty accentuates the impact. Do something new together.
   5. Don’t lose the energy when you get home. Make a quick transition to the bedroom.

Helpful Resources:

• Dating Divas: https://www.thedatingdivas.com/
• Crated With Love: https://cratedwithlove.com/
• Gottman Card Decks: https://www.gottman.com  
• Gottman Card Decks App: https://www.gottman.com/couples/apps/
• Ultimate Intimacy App: https://ultimateintimacy.com/
• Intimately Us:  https://intimately.us/

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn begin a series devoted to Date Night - one of their favorite topics. 

1. Date Night is critical for the spiritual, emotional, romantic, and sexual health of your relationship. Make it a priority in your marriage.
2. Date night should be about building connection, not just for your entertainment.
3. Prioritize Date Night by scheduling and planning ahead. Put it on your calendar and in the budget!

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Matt & Jenn continue the discussion challenging wives to consider why they might be resistant to hot, holy sex in their marriage bed.

1. A wife may be resistant to sex because she is morally conflicted or is carrying shame from sexual sin or trauma. The answer is to allow your mind, body, heart and soul to be transformed by the blood of Jesus. Get the help that you need from God’s word and God’s people, including a professional counselor if needed.
2. Another reason why a wife may be resistant to exploring sex with her husband is that she feels insecure with the sexual boundaries of the relationship. Confident sex requires conversations about firm sexual boundaries.
3. A wife is uniquely capable of teaching her husband how to connect emotionally THROUGH sex. Commit to connecting emotionally within the context of sexual arousal.

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn begin a discussion challenging wives' reasons for avoiding sex.

1. There are many good reasons that a wife may be resistant to sex in her marriage. But, a wife must recognize that the quality of your sex life will impact the quality of the rest of your marriage, and vice versa.
2. If you are saying no to sex because you are emotionally disconnected, intentionally prioritize your entire marriage relationship. Make the choice to connect daily — emotionally, spiritually, romantically, sexually…
3. Say “yes” sometimes, even when it’s inconvenient or feels vulnerable - THEN, commit to engaging your heart, mind, body, and soul. You might be surprised how enjoyable it could be when you let go of the control.

We'll address a few more reasons next week!

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss reasons why a husband's sexual invitations may be rejected and what that might teach us about ourselves and our relationship.

1. Before protesting that you are being unfairly rejected, ask yourself, “Would I want to have sex with someone like me?” Have I met my wife’s needs before expecting her to meet mine? Have I made it easy for her to connect with me spiritually, emotionally and physically?
2. Some reasons your wife may be resistant to sex with you include:
   1. She has a responsive sexual desire and is not naturally inclined to initiate 
   2. She doesn’t feel connected.
   3. She doesn’t feel attractive.
   4. She is focused on being a mom, not a lover.
   5. She is tired, stressed, or depressed.

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