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In this episode, Matt & Jenn challenge you to carefully evaluate whether your sex routines are really the best way to promote connection.

1. Every couple has a sexual routine or script that they follow for most sexual encounters. But is your routine promoting the best sex and most connection for your marriage?
2. Start by busting the myth that sex starts with intercourse and ends with ejaculation. Make love all day, every day, by frequently connecting emotional and sexually.
3. Assess every stage of your sexual routine and determine if there is something that you can do to facilitate, enhance or extend your sexual script so that you are building oneness and maximizing pleasure.

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In this final episode in the series on Date Night, Matt & Jenn give advice on how to transition the energy from Date Night into the bedroom.

1. Date Night is critical for the spiritual, emotional, romantic, and sexual health of your relationship. Make it a priority in your marriage!
2. How you do Date Night is also critical to maximizing the benefit to your marriage and promoting oneness. Here’s 5 tips to make the most of your time:
   1. Don’t leave it to chance, plan it! 
   2. When you’re on a date, give your undivided attention.
   3. Promote connection through touch, eye contact and intimate conversation.
   4. Novelty accentuates the impact. Do something new together.
   5. Don’t lose the energy when you get home. Make a quick transition to the bedroom.

Helpful Resources:

• Dating Divas: https://www.thedatingdivas.com/
• Crated With Love: https://cratedwithlove.com/
• Gottman Card Decks: https://www.gottman.com  
• Gottman Card Decks App: https://www.gottman.com/couples/apps/
• Ultimate Intimacy App: https://ultimateintimacy.com/
• Intimately Us:  https://intimately.us/

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Cherishing,
Matt & Jenn

PS — If you are interested in bringing Matt & Jenn to your church or small group to speak about the beauty of God’s plan for marriage and sexuality, please contact us: [email protected]



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In this episode, Matt & Jenn continue the discussion about Date Night by offering  5 tips to make for a great date night.

1. Date Night is critical for the spiritual, emotional, romantic, and sexual health of your relationship. Make it a priority in your marriage!
2. How you do Date Night is also critical to maximizing the benefit to your marriage and promoting oneness. Here’s 5 tips to make the most of your time:
   1. Don’t leave it to chance, plan it. 
   2. When you’re on a date, give your undivided attention. 
   3. Promote connection through touch, eye contact and intimate conversation.
      ...Next week we’ll discuss :
   4. Novelty accentuates the impact. Do something new together.
   5. Don’t lose the energy when you get home. Make a quick transition to the bedroom.

Helpful Resources:

• Dating Divas: https://www.thedatingdivas.com/
• Crated With Love: https://cratedwithlove.com/
• Gottman Card Decks: https://www.gottman.com  
• Gottman Card Decks App: https://www.gottman.com/couples/apps/
• Ultimate Intimacy App: https://ultimateintimacy.com/
• Intimately Us:  https://intimately.us/

Register for the 2021 Annual Retreat in September: https://intimatecovenant.com/retreat

 Please send your comments, questions and suggestions to [email protected]
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Cherishing,
Matt & Jenn

PS — If you are interested in bringing Matt & Jenn to your church or small group to speak about the beauty of God’s plan for marriage and sexuality, please contact us: [email protected]



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In this episode, Matt & Jenn begin a series devoted to Date Night - one of their favorite topics. 

1. Date Night is critical for the spiritual, emotional, romantic, and sexual health of your relationship. Make it a priority in your marriage.
2. Date night should be about building connection, not just for your entertainment.
3. Prioritize Date Night by scheduling and planning ahead. Put it on your calendar and in the budget!

Register for the 2021 Annual Retreat in September: https://intimatecovenant.com/retreat

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Matt & Jenn

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Matt & Jenn continue the discussion challenging wives to consider why they might be resistant to hot, holy sex in their marriage bed.

1. A wife may be resistant to sex because she is morally conflicted or is carrying shame from sexual sin or trauma. The answer is to allow your mind, body, heart and soul to be transformed by the blood of Jesus. Get the help that you need from God’s word and God’s people, including a professional counselor if needed.
2. Another reason why a wife may be resistant to exploring sex with her husband is that she feels insecure with the sexual boundaries of the relationship. Confident sex requires conversations about firm sexual boundaries.
3. A wife is uniquely capable of teaching her husband how to connect emotionally THROUGH sex. Commit to connecting emotionally within the context of sexual arousal.

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn begin a discussion challenging wives' reasons for avoiding sex.

1. There are many good reasons that a wife may be resistant to sex in her marriage. But, a wife must recognize that the quality of your sex life will impact the quality of the rest of your marriage, and vice versa.
2. If you are saying no to sex because you are emotionally disconnected, intentionally prioritize your entire marriage relationship. Make the choice to connect daily — emotionally, spiritually, romantically, sexually…
3. Say “yes” sometimes, even when it’s inconvenient or feels vulnerable - THEN, commit to engaging your heart, mind, body, and soul. You might be surprised how enjoyable it could be when you let go of the control.

We'll address a few more reasons next week!

Register for the 2021 Annual Retreat in Spring, TX: https://intimatecovenant.com/retreat

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss reasons why a husband's sexual invitations may be rejected and what that might teach us about ourselves and our relationship.

1. Before protesting that you are being unfairly rejected, ask yourself, “Would I want to have sex with someone like me?” Have I met my wife’s needs before expecting her to meet mine? Have I made it easy for her to connect with me spiritually, emotionally and physically?
2. Some reasons your wife may be resistant to sex with you include:
   1. She has a responsive sexual desire and is not naturally inclined to initiate 
   2. She doesn’t feel connected.
   3. She doesn’t feel attractive.
   4. She is focused on being a mom, not a lover.
   5. She is tired, stressed, or depressed.

Register for the 2021 Annual Retreat in Spring, TX: https://intimatecovenant.com/retreat/

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In this episode, Matt and Jenn discuss the differences in how we access and express sexual desire. How do we handle it when one spouse seemingly wants sex more than the other?

1. In general, a man’s sexual desire is like a microwave (spontaneous) and a woman’s sexual desire is like a crockpot (responsive). Neither is right or wrong and neither is better or worse.
2. Empathize with your spouse’s position by offering grace, mercy, and understanding. Learn to embrace your own desire with contentment and enthusiasm.
3. Each of you has a role to play in building and maintaining a solid relationship and circumstances where eroticism and sexual passion can flourish.

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn  discuss principles to guide the difficult conversation with your spouse about your sinful sexual history.

1. Healing begins with confession (James 5:16). If you want true intimacy, you must reveal yourself. Your intimacy is only as deep as your honesty.
2. Use great discretion about what facts or details you share with each other. This process is often best guided by a professional therapist or trusted spiritual mentor.
3. Acknowledge the pain and take proper steps to grieve and forgive each other.

Register for the 2021 Annual Retreat in Spring, TX, September 23-25: https://intimatecovenant.com/retreat
Take advantage of Early Bird Pricing until April 1 (no joke!)

 Please send your comments, questions and suggestions to [email protected]
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Cherishing,
Matt & Jenn

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn talk about pre-marital sex and the impact it has on our marriage relationship and in the marriage bed.

1. Sex outside of marriage has consequences — whether it’s before or after marriage, with your spouse or with someone else.
2. Often (especially for women) these experiences cause barriers of shame which make it difficult to fully enjoy sex within the proper context of marriage covenant.
3. The shame of past sexual sin can be redeemed within intimate relationship through godly confession and meditation.

Register for the 2021 Annual Retreat in Spring, TX, September 23-25:
https://www.intimatecovenant.com/retreat
Take advantage of Early Bird Pricing until April 1 (no joke!)

 Please send your comments, questions and suggestions to [email protected]
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Cherishing,
Matt & Jenn

PS — If you are interested in bringing Matt & Jenn to your church or small group to speak about the beauty of God’s plan for marriage and sexuality, please contact us: [email protected]



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