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This episode is an excerpt from a LIVE recording at the 2021 Intimate Covenant Annual Marriage Retreat in Houston, TX. Matt & Jenn field questions about recommendations for sex toys, using Skype sex when couples are apart and how to begin the journey to healing after betrayal by pornography addiction.

Thank you to these incredible companies that supported our 2021 Retreat:
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Ghost Sherpa — ghostsherpa.com
InfiniteMoon — infinitemoon.com
Mentionables — mentionables.com
The Dating Divas — thedatingdivas.com
Uberlube — uberlube.com

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In this episode Matt & Jenn complete their series on overcoming common barriers to sex with discussion about work, travel (physical separation) and separate bedtimes.

1. Learning to identify and eliminate barriers to sex in our relationships requires honest introspection and humility. This process will improve our married sex lives, but also benefit every other aspect of your relationship.
2. Keep your job in perspective. No career or job is worth sacrificing your marriage over.
3. If you must be physically separated by travel, have a plan for how you will maintain connection while away from each other.
4. As much as possible, go to bed together. It’s better for your relationship overall and certainly better for your sex life.

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In this episode, Matt and Jenn discuss overcoming some more barriers to sex -- health, aging, screens and humor.

1. Learning to identify and eliminate barriers to sex in our relationships requires honest introspection and humility. This process will improve our married sex lives, but also benefit every other aspect of your relationship.
2. Since sex is so much more than joining genitals, we can still have pleasurable and deeply meaningful sex even if our body fails us.
3. Put down your screens and be willing to lean into vulnerable conversations. The risk and anxiety will be worth it for your relationship.

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In this episode, Matt and Jenn discuss how to deal with one of the most challenging barriers to sex ...kids. 

1. Daily life often seems to get in the way, creating barriers that hinder our ability to enjoy the sexual connection we would like to have with one another.
2. Have an action plan to combat the barriers that interfere with your sex life! Learn to name your barriers, asking yourself “why?” these barriers exist, then share these barriers with your spouse. Be willing to hear their barriers too and then together discuss solutions.
3. Kids are a beautiful blessing and direct results of the sexual intimacy in your marriage. But, they are also a primary threat to the ongoing sexual intimacy in your marriage if you aren’t taking intentional steps to prioritize your covenant.

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In this episode, Matt and Jenn discuss the pitfalls of expecting our spouse to be a mind-reader and how to avoid the fight over sexual rejection.

1. Neither of you is a mind-reader. Each must be clear about sexual desires and expectations. Foster intimate conversation on all levels in your relationship.
2. Sexual rejection doesn’t have to result in a fight. Grace, empathy, and compassion are required for each to better understand what sexual rejection means to the other.
3. When there is greater intimacy overall, sexual rejection is less divisive. But, each of you should also examine how you can reduce the frequency of rejection.

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn recommend sparking some fun and romance in your marriage by flirting!

1. Flirting with your spouse is important to your relationship because it reinforces your commitment to one another in a playful, fun, and romantic way.
2. Flirting lets your spouse know that they are special to you and worth the extra effort.
3. Take some time to consider how you can reignite the romantic spark in your relationship with a little flirting.

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss the importance of creating a master bedroom that is a haven for you and your beloved. Also, we'll share crucial details to consider when choosing the best mattress for sex.

1. Prioritize your master bedroom. It should be a place of solace and escape with your beloved. Invest the time and effort into making it just that!
2. Your bedroom is your sex room. Create an atmosphere that helps prepare you emotionally, romantically,  physically, and logistically for sex.
3. Deepen your sexual intimacy by decorating in a way that helps pleasantly engage all of your senses. 

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss the special way that wives are asked to be submissive to their husbands. Specifically, we consider what this looks like in the sexual relationship.

1. Like we talked about last week, all are to be “submissive to one another,” yet, there is a special way in which wives are to be submissive to their husbands.
2. Submission must be defined and practiced in the way that the church is subject to Christ by fulfilling the precious role of womanhood with a “gentle and quiet spirit”.
3. In the bedroom, wives must be willing to engage in a shared sexual relationship by responding enthusiastically, serving her husband, and owning her responsibility to grow.

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss what it means for a husband to be "head of the wife." And, how does this concept extend to the bedroom?

1. Before attempting to understand headship, I must first recognize my obligation to submit to all. Mutual submission is essential to every human relationship and crucially important between a husband and wife.
2. Headship is defined and exemplified by Christ’s headship of the church. This means that authority is the smallest part of headship, and only meaningful if exercised through complete self-sacrifice.
3. My role as a head when it comes to our sexual relationship is to love, protect, nurture and sanctify my wife — spiritually, mentally, emotionally and physically. My needs must come second.

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss how a wife can learn to balance her roles as both caregiver (Mom Mode) and lover (Lover Girl).

1. Most wives struggle to find balance between their roles as a caregiver and lover. But, a wife can learn to be both, at the same time.
2. Wives can access “Lover-Girl” more easily when they begin actively looking for sexual cues, learn to harness their husband’s sexual energy, and see the benefits of sex for themselves.
3. Husbands can help by offering and providing a place of retreat from the constant demands on his wife rather than presenting himself as just another need.

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