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In this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss the special way that wives are asked to be submissive to their husbands. Specifically, we consider what this looks like in the sexual relationship.

1. Like we talked about last week, all are to be “submissive to one another,” yet, there is a special way in which wives are to be submissive to their husbands.
2. Submission must be defined and practiced in the way that the church is subject to Christ by fulfilling the precious role of womanhood with a “gentle and quiet spirit”.
3. In the bedroom, wives must be willing to engage in a shared sexual relationship by responding enthusiastically, serving her husband, and owning her responsibility to grow.

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss what it means for a husband to be "head of the wife." And, how does this concept extend to the bedroom?

1. Before attempting to understand headship, I must first recognize my obligation to submit to all. Mutual submission is essential to every human relationship and crucially important between a husband and wife.
2. Headship is defined and exemplified by Christ’s headship of the church. This means that authority is the smallest part of headship, and only meaningful if exercised through complete self-sacrifice.
3. My role as a head when it comes to our sexual relationship is to love, protect, nurture and sanctify my wife — spiritually, mentally, emotionally and physically. My needs must come second.

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss how a wife can learn to balance her roles as both caregiver (Mom Mode) and lover (Lover Girl).

1. Most wives struggle to find balance between their roles as a caregiver and lover. But, a wife can learn to be both, at the same time.
2. Wives can access “Lover-Girl” more easily when they begin actively looking for sexual cues, learn to harness their husband’s sexual energy, and see the benefits of sex for themselves.
3. Husbands can help by offering and providing a place of retreat from the constant demands on his wife rather than presenting himself as just another need.

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn challenge you to bring your heart, soul, strength, and mind to the marriage bed. Plus, get a sneak peak at the theme and topics for the 2021 Marriage Retreat!

1. The focus of the 2021 Intimate Covenant Retreat is to renew our view of marriage as a spiritual endeavor and elevate our purpose beyond the day-to-day obligations of running a household. 
2. Sex should be a place where a couple joins more than just two sets of genitals. Sex should be an opportunity to connect heart, soul, strength, and mind.

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss how the betrayer can help in healing and restoration of the relationship.

1. If you have betrayed your spouse, you must humbly demonstrate that you feel the pain you have caused AND be willing to drastically change your behavior because of it. 
2. Rebuilding a relationship after betrayal will require time and vulnerability on the part of the betrayer.
3. With betrayal, understanding the dynamic that led to the betrayal must be part of the healing and restoration of the relationship.

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss some research and statistics about how normal couples have sex.

1. Most married couples have sex between twice a month to twice a week, depending on which data you look at. Sexual frequency does decline with age, but older couples still have fairly frequent sex.
2. Nearly all couples have intercourse. Many also engage in oral sex and partnered masturbation.
3. Sexual frequency and sexual practices do not necessarily correlate with relationship quality. Ultimately, our sexual practices and frequencies should be determined by what is best for the oneness in our relationship, not driven by trying to be “normal” or “average.”

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss moving past the pain of betrayal towards restoration and healing in your marriage.

1. The first step to overcoming betrayal is to admit your feelings of hurt, anger, resentment or grief and confront your spouse with your feelings.
2. Talk about it in the right way and in the right setting. Know when you need help.
3. Believe in the power of healing found in a full connection with your beloved.

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn challenge and encourage us to put in the hard work necessary to grow and expand our sexual relationship.

1. Believing that great sex just occurs spontaneously and effortlessly is actually preventing us from achieving good sex.
2. Great sex, like any other mastery, is the product of consistent, intentional work over time.
3. Take responsibility for your part in growing your sexual relationship. Then, commit yourself to learning, cultivating and expanding your sex towards greater oneness.

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn consider guidelines that honor God and our spouses when talking to our friends about sex.

1. It is important for God’s people to be talking about sex in a positive and holy way. There is power in a community of believers sharing the beauty of God’s plan.
2. But, sharing intimate details about your personal sex life with anyone other than your spouse is a betrayal. Don’t do it.
3. Follow the lead of Scripture. There is a way to talk about sex that is wholesome and appropriate without giving away all of your privacy.

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn share some of their favorite marriage and sex book recommendations.

1. Find good resources that encourage your marriage and share these with you spouse.
2. If you have trouble in your marriage, seek help from those capable of helping — spiritual mentors, church elders, and professional therapists.
3. If you are a leader, especially in your local congregation, strengthen your marriage. And, equip yourself to help other marriages by developing a biblical view of marriage and sex — good books or other resources can help.

• Good Books for Leaders (but really for everyone)
  • Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson
  • 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman
• General Marriage & Sexuality Books
  • Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas
  • Cherish by Gary Thomas
  • God Loves Sex by Dan Allender & Tremper Longman III
  • Intimate Allies by Dan Allender & Tremper Longman III
• Wives
  • Hot, Holy and Humorous by J Parker (also a blog by the same name)
  • The Good Girls Guide to Great Sex by Sheila Gregoire
• PreMarital
  • Not Yet Married by Marshall Segal
  • 9 Conversations for a Doubt Free Wedding by Gary Thomas

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