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In this episode, Matt & Jenn share recorded excerpts from the live Q&A session at our recent Louisville, KY seminar (shout out to all of our new friends!!!) We covered topics such as:

• I have unwanted sexual thoughts and memories when I try to orgasm? What do I do with these fantasies?
• My bids for connection are unnoticed and ignored. How can I get my spouse to acknowledge my needs for emotional/sexual connection?
• My spouse and I have different Love Languages. Can we still learn to connect?
• How do I talk to my kids about sex without encouraging them to experiment?
• As a husband, how can I help my wife’s body image insecurity?
• How do you pray during intimacy?

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In this episode, Matt and Jenn discuss anal sex in marriage -- is it biblical? what are the benefits? risks? and motivations?

1. The bible does not specifically promote nor prohibit anal sex or anal play by a married couple.
2. Anal play, including prostate massage, may be enjoyable for some. While some do, most women do not enjoy anal intercourse which carries significant risk.
3. As with any sexual novelty, carefully consider your motivation and whether this activity will promote oneness.

Join us at the 2022 Annual Marriage Retreat, September 22-24, in Houston, TX. Registration is now open, but space is limited and we expect to sell out again. So, register today! www.intimatecovenant.com/retreat

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn look at a few more myths that were encouraged by the Purity Culture Movement which still persist in many conservative religious circles. For example:

• “If I save myself for marriage, my sex life will be amazing.” 
• “If I marry a Christian, my marriage will be happy.”
• “Marriage is the solution to your sex problem (lust, porn) and your loneliness problem.”
• “Men’s minds are evil. Women’s bodies are evil.” 
• “Women are responsible for a man’s sexual feelings, thoughts and actions.”

1. Sexual purity means that your whole being is filled and directed by one thing: God. Your motives, desires, purpose, and intentions are not stained by any other influences. Sexual purity is not merely about what we are doing or not doing with our genitals!
2. It is dangerous theology when we come to believe and teach that sex is evil, men can’t control sexual urges, women’s bodies are inherently a stumbling block, and that virginity is a marker of a woman’s value.
3. Instead, let’s simply teach that God blessed us with sexuality and sexual desire to teach us that we are created for promise, for vulnerability, and for the pursuit and exchange of love that compels us toward self sacrifice.

Join us at the 2022 Annual Marriage Retreat, September 22-24, in Houston, TX. Registration is now open, but space is limited and we expect to sell out again. So, register today!

Announcing Covenant Club! Our online community with discussion forums (including a wives-only section), monthly interactive webinars, and other resources to help answer your questions, provide encouragements and learn from other covenant-focused couples. Join us! www.intimatecovenant.com/members

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn challenge your definition of "purity" and tackle some myths propagated by the Sexual Purity Movement.

1. Purity means that your whole being is filled and directed by one thing: God.  Sexual purity is not merely about what we are doing or not doing with our genitals!
2. It is dangerous theology when we come to believe and teach that sex is evil, men can’t control sexual urges, women’s bodies are inherently a stumbling block, and that virginity is idolized.
3. Instead, let’s simply teach that God blessed us with sexuality and sexual desire to teach us that we are created for promise, for vulnerability, and for the pursuit and exchange of love that compels us toward self-sacrifice.

Join us at the 2022 Annual Marriage Retreat, September 22-24, in Houston, TX. Registration is now open, but space is limited and we expect to sell out again. So, register today! www.intimatecovenant.com/retreat

Announcing Covenant Club! Our online community with discussion forums (including husbands-only and wives-only sections), monthly interactive webinars, and other resources to help answer your questions, provide encouragements and learn from other covenant-focused couples. Join us! www.intimatecovenant.com/members

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 Cherishing,
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In this episode Matt & Jenn answer another handful of listener questions, including:

• How to handle daily excuses for not having sex.
• How to find a qualified godly therapist.
• Recommendations for couples bible study.
• Dealing with sensitive topics

As you consider these questions and our answers, take note of the important issues and dynamics in your own relationship. Be willing to ask the hard questions and be confronted by the truth.

Join us at the 2022 Annual Marriage Retreat, September 22-24, in Houston, TX. Registration is now open, but space is limited and we expect to sell out again. So, register today!

Announcing Covenant Club! Our online community with discussion forums (including a wives-only section), monthly interactive webinars, and other resources to help answer your questions, provide encouragements and learn from other covenant-focused couples. Join us! www.intimatecovenant.com/members

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 Cherishing,
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In this episode, Matt & Jenn dig into the mail bag for a potpourri of topics including:

• Can scheduling sex still be romantic?
• How to prioritize your marriage when facing the challenges of raising a special needs child?
• Have we ever been met with resistance by church leaders for talking about marriage and sex?
• Do you have any advice for planning a romantic vacation?

As you consider these questions and our answers, take note of the important issues and dynamics in your own relationship. Be willing to ask the hard questions and be confronted by the truth.

Join us at the 2022 Annual Marriage Retreat, September 22-24, in Houston, TX. Registration is now open, but space is limited and we expect to sell out again. So, register today!

Announcing Covenant Club! Our online community with discussion forums (including a wives-only section), monthly interactive webinars, and other resources to help answer your questions, provide encouragements and learn from other covenant-focused couples. Join us! www.intimatecovenant.com/members

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 Cherishing,
 Matt & Jenn

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss the challenges of rebuilding your sexual relationship and the challenges of maintaining intimacy AFTER the baby comes.

1. If you are blessed by the birth of children, your sex life and relational intimacy will change, especially in the immediate postpartum timeframe.
2. You must each acknowledge the physical and emotional challenges of this time with grace, patience, sacrifice and compassion for your spouse.
3. Your new baby will be most blessed if you learn to prioritize your marriage and your intimacy during this time.

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In this episode Matt & Jenn speak to the challenges of maintaining a sexual relationship and all other realms of connection during pregnancy.

1. In almost all situations, sex during pregnancy is safe. If you are unsure, ask your health care provider and be sure that you ask specific questions about what’s allowed or not.
2. Pregnancy will change many things about a woman’s body and biochemistry that might make sex more challenging.
3. But, there are ways to overcome these obstacles and to grow all points of closeness and intimacy in your marriage during this special time. 

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In this episode, Matt and Jenn discuss period sex -- is it biblical? is it healthy? why would I want to? are there ways to make it easier?

1. If you both are interested, sex during her period is safe, scriptural, and maybe even beneficial. It just may have to look different than at other times.
2. No, a wife is NOT obligated to perform sexual favors during her period in order to keep her husband from being tempted. An obligation mindset is an objectification of women and demeaning to men.
3. Whether you engage in any degree of sex or not during her period, be intentional to not let your relationship drift apart during this time.

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss the oft quoted Bible passage 1 Corinthians 7:1-5 and whether this scripture gives a spouse the right to demand sex from his/her spouse.

1. Overall, 1 Corinthians 7 teaches that I am obligated to meet the sexual needs of my spouse.
2. But this passage does NOT give me authority to demand sex from my spouse. Demanding or offering sex out of obligation is not Christ-like and is unhealthy for your marriage.
3. When there is a sexual fast in your marriage, there needs needs to be ongoing conversation about it and it needs to be for the betterment of the spiritual and emotional relationship.

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Tampa, FL — March 26: Tampa Marriage Day! Registration details coming soon. Stay tuned to the podcast and social media.

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