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In this episode, Matt & Jenn answer a handful of mailbag questions about sex and spirituality.

1. You can change the culture of fear and shame surrounding sex in your own corner of God’s Kingdom. Start by reshaping your understanding of your own sexuality through the lens of God’s word. Then, use your influence in your community to spread God’s word about holy sexuality and intimate marriage.
2. Consider the benefit of sexual fasting as detailed in 1 Corinthians 7:5 and how to use this spiritual tool to benefit your marriage 
3. Pornography and sexual abuse are two vastly ignored cancers among the church. Local congregations need training, resources and programs to help those recovering from pornography, abuse and betrayal.

For a double feature this week, catch our interview with Nikki and Ben on the Nikki Lee Podcast! We had a great time and some meaningful conversation! We think you'll enjoy it.

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn answer listener questions about some of the nuances of the sexual pursuer/responder dynamic.

1. In all marriages there is a sexual pursuer and a sexual responder. But these roles are not static. In various circumstances and seasons these roles may change in your relationship
2. One example is when a pusher is constantly rejected. It is common for this pursuer to stop pursuing and to withdraw emotionally and sexually.
3. Stereotypically, husbands are usually sexual pursuers, but there is a [not small] minority of wives who are the sexual pursuers in their marriages. There may be many reasons for this, but it does create some unique challenges.

Join us at the 2022 Annual Marriage Retreat, September 22-24, in Houston, TX. Registration is now open, but space is limited and we expect to sell out again. So, register today! www.intimatecovenant.com/retreat

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss the power of sexual fantasy and how to harness this magic for more powerful sex and deeper connection.

1. Fantasy is a story you tell yourself to tap into emotional and sexual arousal. It’s how you choose to be present in your sexual relationship. It’s how you awaken your body to seek and to receive connection.
2. Effective fantasy is dwelling on whatever heightens your sexual awareness and then mindfully bringing your spouse into that. Simmering means intentionally dwelling on fantasy outside the bedroom to heighten your overall level of attraction and desire. Erotic fantasy is focusing your thoughts to keep your mind and body connected during sex which help maximize your connection and pleasure.
3. Fantasy can be either a bridge or a wall to sexual connection. It’s a wall when our sexual thoughts cause us to dissociate from our spouse. Fantasy is a bridge when our sexual thoughts promote deeper closeness in our relationship.

Join us at the 2022 Annual Marriage Retreat, September 22-24, in Houston, TX. Registration is now open, but space is limited and we expect to sell out again. So, register today! www.intimatecovenant.com/retreat

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In this episode, Matt and Jenn discuss factors and tips to improve the sensation, the strength, and the frequency of orgasm -- especially for wives.

1. Orgasm, while not the goal of sex, is an intensely pleasurable point of connection and may be elusive for some, especially wives.
2. Changing the sensation or strengthening the intensity of orgasm can add novelty and improve sexual pleasure for one or both spouses.
3. A number of factors may make orgasm difficult for women but relational strife and emotional stress are the most important negative influences.

Listen to our interview with Keelie Reason and her husband, Austin, on the Love, Hope, Adventure Podcast!  https://lovehopeadventure.com/building-sexual-connection We really enjoyed this conversation about building sexual connection in marriage. We also recommend checking out her blog and wealth of other resources on her website.

Join us at the 2022 Annual Marriage Retreat, September 22-24, in Houston, TX. Registration is now open, but space is limited and we expect to sell out again. So, register today!

Announcing Covenant Club! Our online community with discussion forums (including a wives-only section), monthly interactive webinars, and other resources to help answer your questions, provide encouragements and learn from other covenant-focused couples. Join us! www.intimatecovenant.com/members

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn help us understand the details of orgasm -- including gender physiology differences, health and relational benefits, spiritual parallels and the overall purpose for orgasm.

1. Orgasm, while not the goal of sex, is an intensely pleasurable point of connection with a multitude of relational, emotional, and physical health benefits.
2. There are a number of ways to change the sensation  or to strengthen the feelings of orgasm.
3. Ultimately, each person experiences orgasm differently due to their gender and to individual characteristics. Communication is required to maximize each other’s experience.  

Join us at the 2022 Annual Marriage Retreat, September 22-24, in Houston, TX. Registration is now open, but space is limited and we expect to sell out again. So, register today!

Announcing Covenant Club! Our online community with discussion forums (including a wives-only section), monthly interactive webinars, and other resources to help answer your questions, provide encouragements and learn from other covenant-focused couples. Join us! www.intimatecovenant.com/members

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss the the "orgasm gap." What is the orgasm gap? Does it exist in your marriage? Is the orgasm gap a problem?

1. The “orgasm gap” refers to the fact that men tend to orgasm with sex at much higher frequency than women.
2. The significance of the orgasm gap in your marriage depends on many factors and may or may not be problem for your relationship.
3. If either of you is unsatisfied with the orgasm gap in your marriage, you need to have conversation about the significance of sexual pleasure and degree of connection in your relationship.

Join us at the 2022 Annual Marriage Retreat, September 22-24, in Houston, TX. Registration is now open, but space is limited and we expect to sell out again. So, register today!

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn share recorded excerpts from the live Q&A session at our recent Louisville, KY seminar (shout out to all of our new friends!!!) We covered topics such as:

• I have unwanted sexual thoughts and memories when I try to orgasm? What do I do with these fantasies?
• My bids for connection are unnoticed and ignored. How can I get my spouse to acknowledge my needs for emotional/sexual connection?
• My spouse and I have different Love Languages. Can we still learn to connect?
• How do I talk to my kids about sex without encouraging them to experiment?
• As a husband, how can I help my wife’s body image insecurity?
• How do you pray during intimacy?

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Join us at the 2022 Annual Marriage Retreat, September 22-24, in Houston, TX. Registration is now open, but space is limited and we expect to sell out again. So, register today! www.intimatecovenant.com/retreat

Announcing Covenant Club! Our online community with discussion forums (including husbands-only and wives-only sections), monthly interactive webinars, and other resources to help answer your questions, provide encouragements and learn from other covenant-focused couples. Join us! www.intimatecovenant.com/members

 
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In this episode, Matt and Jenn discuss anal sex in marriage -- is it biblical? what are the benefits? risks? and motivations?

1. The bible does not specifically promote nor prohibit anal sex or anal play by a married couple.
2. Anal play, including prostate massage, may be enjoyable for some. While some do, most women do not enjoy anal intercourse which carries significant risk.
3. As with any sexual novelty, carefully consider your motivation and whether this activity will promote oneness.

Join us at the 2022 Annual Marriage Retreat, September 22-24, in Houston, TX. Registration is now open, but space is limited and we expect to sell out again. So, register today! www.intimatecovenant.com/retreat

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn look at a few more myths that were encouraged by the Purity Culture Movement which still persist in many conservative religious circles. For example:

• “If I save myself for marriage, my sex life will be amazing.” 
• “If I marry a Christian, my marriage will be happy.”
• “Marriage is the solution to your sex problem (lust, porn) and your loneliness problem.”
• “Men’s minds are evil. Women’s bodies are evil.” 
• “Women are responsible for a man’s sexual feelings, thoughts and actions.”

1. Sexual purity means that your whole being is filled and directed by one thing: God. Your motives, desires, purpose, and intentions are not stained by any other influences. Sexual purity is not merely about what we are doing or not doing with our genitals!
2. It is dangerous theology when we come to believe and teach that sex is evil, men can’t control sexual urges, women’s bodies are inherently a stumbling block, and that virginity is a marker of a woman’s value.
3. Instead, let’s simply teach that God blessed us with sexuality and sexual desire to teach us that we are created for promise, for vulnerability, and for the pursuit and exchange of love that compels us toward self sacrifice.

Join us at the 2022 Annual Marriage Retreat, September 22-24, in Houston, TX. Registration is now open, but space is limited and we expect to sell out again. So, register today!

Announcing Covenant Club! Our online community with discussion forums (including a wives-only section), monthly interactive webinars, and other resources to help answer your questions, provide encouragements and learn from other covenant-focused couples. Join us! www.intimatecovenant.com/members

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn challenge your definition of "purity" and tackle some myths propagated by the Sexual Purity Movement.

1. Purity means that your whole being is filled and directed by one thing: God.  Sexual purity is not merely about what we are doing or not doing with our genitals!
2. It is dangerous theology when we come to believe and teach that sex is evil, men can’t control sexual urges, women’s bodies are inherently a stumbling block, and that virginity is idolized.
3. Instead, let’s simply teach that God blessed us with sexuality and sexual desire to teach us that we are created for promise, for vulnerability, and for the pursuit and exchange of love that compels us toward self-sacrifice.

Join us at the 2022 Annual Marriage Retreat, September 22-24, in Houston, TX. Registration is now open, but space is limited and we expect to sell out again. So, register today! www.intimatecovenant.com/retreat

Announcing Covenant Club! Our online community with discussion forums (including husbands-only and wives-only sections), monthly interactive webinars, and other resources to help answer your questions, provide encouragements and learn from other covenant-focused couples. Join us! www.intimatecovenant.com/members

 To send your comments, questions and suggestions, go to our website: www.intimatecovenant.com/podcast and click on the button: “Contact the Podcast” for an ANONYMOUS submission form. Or, send an email: [email protected]
 
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