Welcome to the Summer Lovin’ Series, where we are taking some of the most beloved episodes and bringing you a mix of equipping you with a mix of mindset, mentoring and practicals to help you see the goodness of God in your bedroom and your body.

This is a loaded question. Stop “should-ing” on yourself, especially when it comes to your marriage. “Should” is a word that connotes a duty or a chore…who wants that? Let’s reframe the question moving forward.

Rather, let’s focus on the benefits of an active and growing sex life. While we can focus on the many health benefits, what if we flip the question and understand what’s behind your questions about “how often.”

In this episode you’ll be encouraged to reframe the way you think about frequency or differing sex drives. Listen in and hear a more helpful approach to choosing intimacy and connection.

 Resources Mentioned:

The 10 Health Benefits of Regular Sex. Here

Keep learning with Francie! Join the Circle group mentorship. This is a SWEET community of women, connected with the purpose of seeking God’s heart for their reclaiming a redeemed view of sex and sexuality. Inside the circle, we will explore and discover the good news about God’s heart for sex. Learn more here:  The Circle

101 Course: Strong Foundations to Starting Well

CLAIMING A HEALTHY VISION FOR MARRIED SEX

To build a love that lasts, you must begin with a strong foundation. Whether you’re newly engaged or in need of a new lens, this course is essential. You’ll be equipped to set a Biblically integrated and practically grounded vision for sex, marriage and the calling to steward the gift of pleasure and intimacy. This course is pivotal as you begin to unlearn unhelpful perspectives and sift through shame, lies and painful messages you’ve received over the years. Learn more here.

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Welcome to the Summer Lovin’ Series, where we are taking some of the most beloved episodes and bringing you a mix of equipping you with a mix of mindset, mentoring and practicals to help you see the goodness of God in your bedroom and your body.

What’s okay for Christian marriage in the bedroom? 

Maybe that’s the wrong question. Married sex can be a playground, filled with creativity and adventure. In this episode, we’ll reframe the question and perhaps help you process and give yourself permission for a little bit of adventure and freedom in your marriage bed. God created you in a wonderful way and designed married intimacy as celebration.

The bodies of a husband and wife are designed to fit together perfectly and there isn’t a mandate saying you need to add anything. Sex toys are simply tools that you can introduce to your married intimacy “menu.” Consider these thoughts on sex toys as you process what is good for your marriage.

Keep learning with Francie! Join the Circle group mentorship. This is a SWEET community of women, connected with the purpose of seeking God’s heart for their reclaiming a redeemed view of sex and sexuality. Inside the circle, we will explore and discover the good news about God’s heart for sex. Learn more here:  The Circle

101 Course: Strong Foundations to Starting Well

CLAIMING A HEALTHY VISION FOR MARRIED SEX

To build a love that lasts, you must begin with a strong foundation. Whether you’re newly engaged or in need of a new lens, this course is essential. You’ll be equipped to set a Biblically integrated and practically grounded vision for sex, marriage and the calling to steward the gift of pleasure and intimacy. This course is pivotal as you begin to unlearn unhelpful perspectives and sift through shame, lies and painful messages you’ve received over the years. Learn more here.

Donate to the Heaven in Your Home Ministry:

Your one time donation will allow us to continue to produce and distribute teaching and resources. Thank you for partnering with us! Donate here.

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Welcome to the Summer Lovin’ Series, where we are taking some of the most beloved episodes and bringing you a mix of equipping you with a mix of mindset, mentoring and practicals to help you see the goodness of God in your bedroom and your body.

Are you tuned into your female body? Often, even bringing up the topic of the clitoris or vagina can cause Christian women to shut down. As Bonny shares, when you have education about something, it becomes less scary. And, yet, most women don’t have much understanding of their genitalia.

Bonny breaks down the science and the scriptures to give you permission to know your body and understand how your amazing female body works. In this chat we talk about anatomy, desire, low drives/high drives, growth mindset, loving your female body, arousal, orgasm, communication and shifting gears toward more mutual satisfaction in the bedroom and so much more. Bonny is the mentor we all want on these topics.

More about Bonny Burns:

Bonny Burns works to empower the wife with low sexual interest, little sex drive, and possibly a sexless marriage through science, scripture, and stories.  She writes at oysterbed7.com and podcasts at Sex Chat for Christian Wives. You can find her ministry to women who have experienced sexual betrayal at strongwives.com. She earned a Christian Counseling certification (not licensure) in 2015 and in December, 2019, she completed a Bachelor of Science in counseling psychology from Liberty University. She is married to Dave for over 30 years and is a mother to three adult sons.

Keep learning with Francie! Join the Circle group mentorship. This is a SWEET community of women, connected with the purpose of seeking God’s heart for their reclaiming a redeemed view of sex and sexuality. Inside the circle, we will explore and discover the good news about God’s heart for sex. Learn more here:  The Circle

101 Course: Strong Foundations to Starting Well

CLAIMING A HEALTHY VISION FOR MARRIED SEX

To build a love that lasts, you must begin with a strong foundation. Whether you’re newly engaged or in need of a new lens, this course is essential. You’ll be equipped to set a Biblically integrated and practically grounded vision for sex, marriage and the calling to steward the gift of pleasure and intimacy. This course is pivotal as you begin to unlearn unhelpful perspectives and sift through shame, lies and painful messages you’ve received over the years. Learn more here.

Donate to the Heaven in Your Home Ministry:

Your one time donation will allow us to continue to produce and distribute teaching and resources. Thank you for partnering with us! Donate here.

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Welcome to the Summer Lovin’ Series, where we are taking some of the most beloved episodes and bringing you a mix of equipping you with a mix of mindset, mentoring and practicals to help you see the goodness of God in your bedroom and your body.

Orgasms are a gift created, formed and given straight from the heart of God. This sweet gift will bless your marriage, will bless your interaction with your husband and will give you a glimpse of the pleasure and the wonder that we'll have for eternity with God, where you are lost in wonder and lost in love.

In this episode you will learn more about orgasms, including types of orgasm and the intention of orgasm. In addition to the practicals, you will be given a little bit of vision for thinking about orgasm and realizing that it is not the highest goal of our sexual intimacy, but it is an incredible and holy gift that you are worthy of experiencing.

This teaching is packed with detail and insight. Be equipped and be encouraged as you continue to educate yourself on your wonderful female body.

Keep learning with Francie! Join the Circle group mentorship. This is a SWEET community of women, connected with the purpose of seeking God’s heart for their reclaiming a redeemed view of sex and sexuality. Inside the circle, we will explore and discover the good news about God’s heart for sex. Learn more here:  The Circle

101 Course: Strong Foundations to Starting Well

CLAIMING A HEALTHY VISION FOR MARRIED SEX

To build a love that lasts, you must begin with a strong foundation. Whether you’re newly engaged or in need of a new lens, this course is essential. You’ll be equipped to set a Biblically integrated and practically grounded vision for sex, marriage and the calling to steward the gift of pleasure and intimacy. This course is pivotal as you begin to unlearn unhelpful perspectives and sift through shame, lies and painful messages you’ve received over the years. Learn more here.

Donate to the Heaven in Your Home Ministry:

Your one time donation will allow us to continue to produce and distribute teaching and resources. Thank you for partnering with us! Donate here.

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Welcome to the Summer Lovin’ Series, where we are taking some of the most beloved episodes and bringing you a mix of equipping you with a mix of mindset, mentoring and practicals to help you see the goodness of God in your bedroom and your body.

In this episode, Francie talks about...

• The science behind God’s good gift of intimacy.  

• The GOODNESS of God in our biology and all the amazing God-inspired wonders that happen on a physiological level in our mind, body and emotions when we enjoy the gift of intimacy. 

• The fact that there is a grand narrative … the love story of God ... the very Gospel … embedded into the nature of sexuality, marriage, and into the story of husband and wife.

• How our bodies - our very most private parts, our brains, our hormones, our emotions and our relationships - testify to God’s wisdom, creativity, and genius- all by Him, for Him and for His glory.  

• Romans 11:36- For EVERYTHING comes from Him- and exists by His power and intended for His glory.  

A prayer to see God’s good design on our bodies: 

God, it’s clear that there’s so much resistance in this area.  But I know you to be a God of breakthrough, healing and restoration. I ask for your re-alignment in my mindset on sex, my body, and the gift of intimacy in my marriage.  Help me to discover your view, your intention for my body, my sexuality, my family and my household. Help me embrace that my body is GOOD. Help me to see and celebrate your power, goodness and wisdom that is revealed in my body- this temple in which you delightfully dwell.  

Keep learning with Francie! Join the Circle group mentorship. This is a SWEET community of women, connected with the purpose of seeking God’s heart for their reclaiming a redeemed view of sex and sexuality. Inside the circle, we will explore and discover the good news about God’s heart for sex. Learn more here:  The Circle

101 Course: Strong Foundations to Starting Well

CLAIMING A HEALTHY VISION FOR MARRIED SEX

To build a love that lasts, you must begin with a strong foundation. Whether you’re newly engaged or in need of a new lens, this course is essential. You’ll be equipped to set a Biblically integrated and practically grounded vision for sex, marriage and the calling to steward the gift of pleasure and intimacy. This course is pivotal as you begin to unlearn unhelpful perspectives and sift through shame, lies and painful messages you’ve received over the years. Learn more here.

Donate to the Heaven in Your Home Ministry:

Your one time donation will allow us to continue to produce and distribute teaching and resources. Thank you for partnering with us! Donate here.

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Welcome to the Summer Lovin’ Series, where we are taking some of the most beloved episodes and bringing you a mix of equipping you with a mix of mindset, mentoring and practicals to help you see the goodness of God in your bedroom and your body.

What do I do if I have a higher drive than my husband? What should I do if my sex drive seems non-existent?

Today’s episode is a fresh perspective and discussion as we unpack sexual desire and high and low libidos, which happens to be one of the most frequently asked questions.

Education and understanding can lead to celebration, therefore  let’s discuss the sexual response cycle, spontaneous desire vs. responsive desire and factors that contribute to seasons of higher/lower seasons of spontaneous desire. 

Let’s get equipped and be encouraged as we seek to see sex and connection through a fresh lens.

Keep learning with Francie! Join the Circle group mentorship. This is a SWEET community of women, connected with the purpose of seeking God’s heart for their reclaiming a redeemed view of sex and sexuality. Inside the circle, we will explore and discover the good news about God’s heart for sex. Learn more here:  The Circle

101 Course: Strong Foundations to Starting Well

CLAIMING A HEALTHY VISION FOR MARRIED SEX

To build a love that lasts, you must begin with a strong foundation. Whether you’re newly engaged or in need of a new lens, this course is essential. You’ll be equipped to set a Biblically integrated and practically grounded vision for sex, marriage and the calling to steward the gift of pleasure and intimacy. This course is pivotal as you begin to unlearn unhelpful perspectives and sift through shame, lies and painful messages you’ve received over the years. Learn more here.

Donate to the Heaven in Your Home Ministry:

Your one time donation will allow us to continue to produce and distribute teaching and resources. Thank you for partnering with us! Donate here.

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Welcome to the Summer Lovin’ Series, where we are taking some of the most beloved episodes and bringing you a mix of equipping you with a mix of mindset, mentoring and practicals to help you see the goodness of God in your bedroom and your body.

Let’s continue the conversation on foreplay with a chat to encourage and equip husbands. (Wives will be encouraged, too). Let’s continue to reframe foreplay and the unique beauty of masculinity and femininity. In this chat, you’ll be encouraged as we discuss:

• Being a man of strength, with unique strength to serve  your bride.

• Becoming an expert of your wife

• Removing the duty perspective and helping your wife flourish

• Foreplay as an opportunity to go at the pace of her pleasure and treasure her from head to toe

• What it looks like practically to serve with sexual strength before and during foreplay

GET THE GUIDE: Foreplay Guide for Husbands and Wives here

You’re Invited:

Keep learning with Francie! Join the Circle group mentorship. This is a SWEET community of women, connected with the purpose of seeking God’s heart for their reclaiming a redeemed view of sex and sexuality. Inside the circle, we will explore and discover the good news about God’s heart for sex. Learn more here:  The Circle

101 Course: Strong Foundations to Starting Well

CLAIMING A HEALTHY VISION FOR MARRIED SEX

To build a love that lasts, you must begin with a strong foundation. Whether you’re newly engaged or in need of a new lens, this course is essential. You’ll be equipped to set a Biblically integrated and practically grounded vision for sex, marriage and the calling to steward the gift of pleasure and intimacy. This course is pivotal as you begin to unlearn unhelpful perspectives and sift through shame, lies and painful messages you’ve received over the years. Learn more here.

Donate to the Heaven in Your Home Ministry:

Your one time donation will allow us to continue to produce and distribute teaching and resources. Thank you for partnering with us! Donate here.

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Welcome to the Summer Lovin’ Series, where we are taking some of the most beloved episodes and bringing you a mix of equipping you with a mix of mindset, mentoring and practicals to help you see the goodness of God in your bedroom and your body.

What is foreplay and what purpose does it serve? In this discussion you’ll learn about the role of foreplay, but it may surprise you. Instead of seeing foreplay as a way to get ready for the main event, what if it were a time of relaxing into more pleasure and greater intimacy? 

You were made for deep connection and naked and unashamed intimacy. Let’s look at foreplay as a tool for connection through rest, relaxation and celebration of your feminine beauty.

GET THE GUIDE: Foreplay Guide for Husbands and Wives here

You’re Invited:

Keep learning with Francie! Join the Circle group mentorship. This is a SWEET community of women, connected with the purpose of seeking God’s heart for their reclaiming a redeemed view of sex and sexuality. Inside the circle, we will explore and discover the good news about God’s heart for sex. Learn more here:  The Circle

101 Course: Strong Foundations to Starting Well

CLAIMING A HEALTHY VISION FOR MARRIED SEX

To build a love that lasts, you must begin with a strong foundation. Whether you’re newly engaged or in need of a new lens, this course is essential. You’ll be equipped to set a Biblically integrated and practically grounded vision for sex, marriage and the calling to steward the gift of pleasure and intimacy. This course is pivotal as you begin to unlearn unhelpful perspectives and sift through shame, lies and painful messages you’ve received over the years. Learn more here.

Donate to the Heaven in Your Home Ministry:

Your one time donation will allow us to continue to produce and distribute teaching and resources. Thank you for partnering with us! Donate here.

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Welcome to the Summer Lovin’ Series, where we are taking some of the most beloved episodes and bringing you equipping with a mix of mindset, mentoring and practicals to help you see the goodness of God in your bedroom and your body.

In today's episode, we have rich conversations with a licensed counselor and sex therapist Nancy Houston. Nancy offers wonderful insight and compassion into the profound connections between love, sex, and healing. We discuss:

• The spiritual mystery and depth to our sexuality

• Emotional and soul connection in marriage

• How to keep sex on the “front burner” 

• Power and beauty of the feminine body

• Identifying what’s informed your view of sex and understanding how you may be modeling your sex life accordingly

• Working through sexual trauma through sharing your story (or receiving the story of another)

• Normalizing, rather than demonizing, our sexuality

• Styles of attachment (healthy and unhealthy)

About Nancy Houston:

Nancy Houston is an author, speaker, Executive Leadership Coach, Licensed Professional Counselor and Certified Sex Therapist. She loves to help people grow into their full potential, empowering them to be truly alive. Nancy has been married to the love of her life for almost 50 years. Together they have four wonderful married sons and six adorable grandchildren. Nancy is the author of Love and Sex and Then God Made A Woman: Unwrapping Female Sexuality. 

Resources Mentioned:

A Celebration of Sex: A Guide to Enjoying God's Gift of Sexual Intimacy by Dr. Douglas E. Rosenau, Jeff Durham, et al. 

Then God Made A Woman: Unwrapping Female Sexuality by Nancy Houston 

Enjoy!: The Gift of Sexual Pleasure for Women by Joyce and Clifford Penner 

You’re Invited:

Keep learning with Francie! Join the Circle group mentorship. This is a SWEET community of women, connected with the purpose of seeking God’s heart for their reclaiming a redeemed view of sex and sexuality. Inside the circle, we will explore and discover the good news about God’s heart for sex. Learn more here:  The Circle

101 Course: Strong Foundations to Starting Well

CLAIMING A HEALTHY VISION FOR MARRIED SEX

To build a love that lasts, you must begin with a strong foundation. Whether you’re newly engaged or in need of a new lens, this course is essential. You’ll be equipped to set a Biblically integrated and practically grounded vision for sex, marriage and the calling to steward the gift of pleasure and intimacy. This course is pivotal as you begin to unlearn unhelpful perspectives and sift through shame, lies and painful messages you’ve received over the years. Learn more here.

Donate to the Heaven in Your Home Ministry:

Your one time donation will allow us to continue to produce and distribute teaching and resources. Thank you for partnering with us! Donate here.

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Welcome to the Summer Lovin’ Series, where we are taking some of the most beloved episodes and bringing you equipping with a mix of mindset, mentoring and practicals to help you see the goodness of God in your bedroom and your body.

His master said to him, ‘Well done, good and faithful servant. You have been faithful over a little; I will set you over much. Enter into the joy of your master.’ Matthew 25

When you think about the parable of the talents your mind instantly gravitates toward stewarding your finances, your gifts, or even your health. But, have you ever thought about the faithfulness that might flow from stewarding your sexuality?

We get to steward the gift of our sexuality, with purpose and intention over the course of our life. And, faithfulness brings great benefits,including the unity that leads to fruitfulness within the context of marriage. Sex is not a duty, not a chore, not something to check off your list. It is something to enjoy, to pursue, to delight and to receive great pleasure.

Let’s learn a fresh viewpoint on stewardship and experience the joy of our Master.

You’re Invited:

Keep learning with Francie! Join the Circle group mentorship. This is a SWEET community of women, connected with the purpose of seeking God’s heart for their reclaiming a redeemed view of sex and sexuality. Inside the circle, we will explore and discover the good news about God’s heart for sex. Learn more here:  The Circle

101 Course: Strong Foundations to Starting Well

CLAIMING A HEALTHY VISION FOR MARRIED SEX

To build a love that lasts, you must begin with a strong foundation. Whether you’re newly engaged or in need of a new lens, this course is essential. You’ll be equipped to set a Biblically integrated and practically grounded vision for sex, marriage and the calling to steward the gift of pleasure and intimacy. This course is pivotal as you begin to unlearn unhelpful perspectives and sift through shame, lies and painful messages you’ve received over the years. Learn more here.

Donate to the Heaven in Your Home Ministry:

Your one time donation will allow us to continue to produce and distribute teaching and resources. Thank you for partnering with us! Donate here.

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