Invincible Her

Today I speak to the very inspirational Sandra Cooze, she is a Trauma Incident Recovery/Release and Self Empowerment Coach. Sandra takes us on a journey that started when she was 12 of sexual abuse. She loved horses and got to ride at a stable near town and thats when it all started. This abuse continued with other men she encountered until she was well into her teens and early 20's. With no support or the typical "sweeping things like this under the rug", Sandra never knew it was not ok. She knew it felt wrong and didn't like it, but was told to respect her elders. She also felt ashamed and fear of being blamed. She did tell her mom the first time that happened at age 12 only to just be told you will never go there again. No police were involved, what would the neighbors think! At 16 she was old enough to understand what happened to her. Growing up her feelings were dismissed. She, to this day, still carries the memories and the desperation, you never forget that kind of fear and trauma. It goes deep. When anyone else would of given up and fall into pits of despair, Sandra hit rock bottom and she knew she had to get through this and better herself. With the help of crystals and Reike, she is healing herself. She is now a Reike master and helps others release the triggers that hold onto our emotions. Sexual abuse, even today, is still a stigma of victim blaming. Its their fault because of their clothes or they went to that party, they were friendly...this is NOT OK. While we are making progress, we are a very long way from lifting this stigma experienced by survivors or solving the problem of sexual violence. Every TWO minutes another person is sexually assaulted. Sandra survived to become an Empowered and Inspiring source of love and light. She can help you get through your trauma and release it and to live your purpose. Sandra's Traumatic Incident Reduction coachig program releases trauma and PTSD gently and goes to the root of the cause or issue to release it. Look out for her Youtube channel coming soon for "bite size healing" where she will give you small sessions so not to overwhelm you on how to "heal in short segments". She is writing books and book 1 of three is out next spring. "Journey to Yourself". Be on the look out for that as well! She is doing some amazing things and also working with couples on "relationship triggers" In todays day, that is such a great tool to have being at home with your significant other during this pandemic. I love that she is using spirituality to heal others and also sharing her story, being vulnerable and letting us all in. Thank you Sandra!

Guest Links:

www.riseaboveyourstory.com Author at Sandra Cooze Author on FB

Today I speak to Melissa (melimel) on her journey through Domestic Violence and how she finally had enough. Like so many women in this situation at one point or another (just like me) Melissa felt stuck, she was young and had kids and just kept thinking if she stays, he will change. With him in and out of jail, she still had the faith he would one day change and be the husband and father he should be. No one sees the scars, the emptiness, the tears, they see the bruises but no one says anything. We need to change this and be a group of warriors fighting for these women and children! Melissa is just now after 8 years starting to tell her story, she was afraid of what people may think, but now, who cares, this is her story to tell. This is called Shame shifting, when a survivor of abuse is deemed the problem because heaven forbid it cant be the nice, sweet man! Melissa wanted to protect her kids and fought hard because he was their father. She fought and finally the moment happened, where she became strong and "had enough" after one violent episode of her being kicked and punched where she blacked out. We want to say, don't let it get to this moment. Have the strength, have the plan. This is not love, this is control. See the difference. Melissa is a strong beautiful woman who saved herself and her kids. Every woman who heals herself, heals all the women who came before her and all the women who come after her. Even if Melissas story reaches just one woman, it is worth it to tell. We could have gone so deep on all the emotions and feels and the "silent Scars" but that would be a whole episode of feeling sorry for ourselves and girl, we are not about that!

Today I sit down with a longtime friend from High School, April Meadows. April and I have not talked in over 30 years so it was good to catch up. April's journey is similar to a lot of other women's. You know the one, where we meet this amazing guy on the surface who says all the right things and is the sweetest guy you ever met! Listen up ladies if you have an inkling of red flags that are screaming at you, pause a moment to listen to them. April was in this relationship for 20 years and dont for a second think that just because it was verbal and not physical that it was not abuse. It absolutely 100% is abuse. She, like me, stayed thinking she was protecting her children but the abuse never ended, even up til the very end. She goes on to discuss how she put her career on hold before all of this to have her daughter, dropping out of college to raise her and then marriage and more kids until she finally had that "enough is enough" breakthrough to get out. She found her voice and took back her power. Late in life, as she put it, but she is pursuing her dream of having a PHD. The funny thing about the Universe is that this was not the career she wanted at age 18, her story, her journey took her on this path of finding her true self, loving herself and making something better of herself, by herself. Single and strong. It is never too late to get out, to live your dreams, to make your life better, She is a true testament to a Strong Beautiful Woman! We talk here and there about our childhood and the small town life..I just love her!! Ladies, listen up: Never Settle!! You deserve it all. April put it best when she said, we expect respect and unconditional love from our friends, why cant we expect it from a lover. Hell yes. Stand up, speak up and you will have a life full of magic, miracles and purpose. Happy studying for that PhD April! Born Extraordinary...live extraordinary

Today I speak to Holistic Time Management Coach Becca Rich. Becca helps high achievers and entrepreneurs ditch the hustle and have all the time in the world. Becca reflects on how she saw her parents hustling and working with no time for anything, especially themselves. Becca followed suite, as we all do, in the hustle to only realize after being hospitalized she was still hustling. Embarking on a self journey of healing through yoga she spent the last 7 years getting to know who she was. Working in Engineering she spent her lunches networking From Her Car! From there she created the Holistic Time Management coaching. Becca tells you to Celebrate who we are and to bring up the energies of what is important to you. Make the to do list and prioritize what you want to spend your time on. We are all onions and we need to "open" the onion of ourselves. Self development healing will never end, so don't stress, Play, get clear, take a moment to breathe and working with Becca will get that time back to serve the works in your business, feel deeply fulfilled and relax as a whole! She will help your limiting beliefs and scarcity mindset. There is energy in listening to ourselves. If you would like to work with Becca, please reach out to Becca rich wellness.com. I am creating my daily to do list tonight!!

More information on Becca:

www,beccarichwellness.com www.instagram.com/beccarichwellness https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxyFN-m6wbgf4tRjxNG-JXQ

Today we speak to the beautiful Mala Kennedy. Mala is a Life Coach and EFT Practitioner, with training in Ontological coaching, who started her journey of self love after feeling like she didn't belong and was caught between two worlds she felt she didn't belong in. Mala helps people shift from self-doubt to self-love so they feel confident. Her journey was not easy, with postnatal depression and addiction, she was thrown headfirst into a journey of self acceptance and found the support of a community coaching program. This was the moment she decided she wanted to help others. She healed herself without medication and with self care to get sober and be there for herself and her son. Ontological coaching is the interrelationship between language, emotions and your body to integrate a new way of being, a new found confidence. I loved hearing her story and it's the story of so many of us with various twists. Question your thoughts, are they true? What if they are not? What if you can change them? Shape them into whatever you want. YOU CAN! Mala dove deep into her own personal growth and became the best version of herself and faced the messy parts that didn't serve her. You can find and work with Mala at @malaloves on IG, linktr.ee/malaloves and on FB Mala Kennedy.