I've Never Said This Before With Tommy DiDario

Why do we put so much pressure on ourselves to be everything to everyone, and why do we get so disappointed when the people in our lives don't show up exactly the way we expect them to? In this episode of Tommy Talk, Tommy opens up about the unrealistic expectations we place on ourselves and others, the guilt that comes with not always being able to show up for the people we love, and how these pressures can create unnecessary stress, disappointment, and resentment in our relationships. From missing family gatherings and struggling to balance busy schedules to feeling frustrated when others don't do things the way we would, Tommy explores why we can be so quick to judge without considering what someone else might be going through. He reflects on the importance of recognizing that everyone has different capacities, different ways of showing love, and different ways of navigating life. Just because someone doesn't call as often, miss a special occasion, or show up on our timeline doesn't necessarily mean they care any less. So how do we learn to communicate our needs instead of expecting others to read our minds? How do we distinguish between relationships that genuinely aren't serving us and the everyday imperfections that require a little more understanding? And how do we stop holding ourselves to impossible standards? 

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Heather Dubrow (of Real Housewives of Orange County) comes on to share her hot takes! Will she survive this round of rapid fire questions the fans have been wanting the answers to? And after listening to this, check out the full interview with Heather that dropped earlier this week (the episode prior to this one)!

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This week, Tommy is joined by reality TV royalty Heather Dubrow, who has been a fixture on The Real Housewives of Orange County for 10 seasons. In this episode, Heather gets candid about what made this season especially difficult, why returning to RHOC felt different after leaving the show, and why she believes her OG franchise is the best. She opens up about why she feels some of the women are always waiting for her to fall, the moment she had to immediately shut down a comment made this season to protect her husband, and what she does when DMs land in her inbox containing potentially life-altering dirt on other cast members. Heather also reveals the one thing she’s protective of showing on camera, which past-season fights she can finally laugh about after some time, and what she really wants to set the record straight about when it comes to “Paparazzi-Gate.” Plus, she shares why she will forever be a champion for the LGBTQ+ community, how her perspective on aging has shifted as she’s gotten older, why she’s giving fewer F’s as the years go by, and so much more!

And don’t miss Heather's rapid-fire “Hot Takes & Hangouts” interview, our part 2 to this conversation where she’s answering burning fan questions, dropping Thursday, October 22!

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What if the happiness you’ve been chasing is already waiting for you in the life you’re living right now? In this episode of Tommy Talk, Tommy explores why we keep putting happiness on hold, waiting to be happy until something “big” happens. Why do we convince ourselves we’ll finally feel fulfilled when we get the promotion, find the relationship, achieve the goal, or reach the next big milestone? What happens when we become so focused on building the life we want that we forget to enjoy the life we already have? After turning 40 earlier this year, Tommy shares his own journey toward living more presently, finding joy in the seemingly ordinary moments, and breaking the cycle of constantly worrying about what comes next. He also explores why gratitude doesn’t mean ignoring life’s struggles, why we need to stop overlooking the little things that make life meaningful, and how learning to appreciate the present can change the way we experience our lives. Because one day we might look back and realize that the moments we were rushing through were the moments that mattered most.
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Marina Squerciati (of Chicago P.D.) comes on to share her hot takes! Will she survive this round of rapid fire questions the fans have been wanting the answers to? And after listening to this, check out the full interview with Marina that dropped earlier this week (the episode prior to this one)!

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This week, Tommy is joined by actress Marina Squerciati, who you know and love as Detective Kim Burgess on Chicago P.D. In this episode, Marina opens up about why her and her character’s growth has been parallel over the course of the series, the one scene she would show someone who has never watched Chicago P.D., whether she created any elements of Kim’s backstory to help her get into character, and why she’s rooting for Kim and Adam Ruzek’s love story. She also reflects on the only times in her career when losing a role left her feeling defeated, why she was always willing to risk it all to become an actress, and what she considers one of Kim’s most defining moments. Plus, Marina shares how she navigates the show’s darker storylines, the one thing that genuinely scares her on set, a painful rejection that was hard to shake and what it taught her, why she sometimes feels like she’s failing as a mother, why she would never want her kids to become actors, why she’s learning to stop focusing on the things she doesn’t do well, and so much more. And don’t miss Marina's mini rapid-fire “Hot Takes & Hangouts” interview, our part 2 to this conversation where she’s answering burning fan questions, dropping Thursday, October 15!
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In this deeply personal Tommy Talk, Tommy takes you inside the modeling industry of the early 2000s, and shares the truth about what it was really like behind the scenes. After being scouted and signed by Ford Models right out of college, Tommy found himself thrust into a world he knew almost nothing about, booking major campaigns and working with some of the biggest names in fashion. But behind the larger than life photo shoots and exciting opportunities was an industry with few boundaries, little regulation, and an environment where models were often treated like commodities. Tommy opens up about being put in situations he’s never talked about before. He also reflects on why he rarely talks about this chapter of his life, how these experiences shaped him, and why he’s grateful that the entertainment and fashion industries have become more protective of artists and models today. This is Tommy’s unfiltered look at a time when the industry felt like the Wild West, and a reminder of why speaking up, setting boundaries, and protecting people in positions of vulnerability matters.

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Matthew Lillard (of Carrie, Scream & more) comes on to share his hot takes! Will he survive this round of rapid fire questions the fans have been wanting the answers to? And after listening to this, check out the full interview with Matthew Lillard that dropped earlier this week (the episode prior to this one)!

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This week, Tommy is joined by actor Matthew Lillard, who you know and love from so many beloved roles, including Stu Macher in the Scream franchise. Up next, he can be seen in Mike Flanagan’s highly anticipated series Carrie. In this episode, Matthew opens up about what it really means to be called horror royalty, why he calls Billy and Stu the “first husbands of horror,” and why he thinks so many people view Scream as a queer franchise. He reveals if there are any scenes from Scream he would want to redo today, why he resented making Scooby-Doo for the longest time, and how he then navigated a downward trajectory in his career before making a kick ass resurgence. Matthew also shares what makes this adaptation of Carrie the right one, what working with Mike Flanagan has meant to him, and the teachers in his life who made a lasting impact on him. He gets candid about whether he feels valued by Hollywood as an actor, what rejection has taught him throughout his career, and the surprising and incredible fan base he’s built over his 40+ year career. Plus, Matthew talks about championing Phoebe Bridgers early in her career before the world knew her, starting his spirits brand, the story behind his famous viral Ghostface vodka, the new dark comedy play he’s producing, what he has never said before, and so much more. And don’t miss Matthew's mini rapid-fire “Hot Takes & Hangouts” interview, our part 2 to this conversation where he’s answering burning fan questions, dropping Thursday, October 8!

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Even when the world feels heavy, we have to hold onto hope. On this episode of Tommy Talk, Tommy discusses how to keep believing in better days when it sometimes feels impossible to do so. Between difficult headlines, personal struggles, and the constant noise of social media, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed, but caring deeply doesn’t mean we have to carry every painful thing happening around us. Tommy opens up about protecting your peace without losing your compassion, allowing yourself to experience joy without guilt, and finding hope through small acts of kindness and everyday moments. He shares why the people we surround ourselves with and the stories we consume matter, and reminds us that darkness is never the whole story. An honest, heartfelt conversation about holding onto goodness, remembering how much your presence matters, and believing there are still beautiful moments ahead that you haven’t even imagined yet.
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