Are you tired of being single? Maybe you've been rethinking that 21-point list of "non-negotiable" qualities you need in a spouse? Pull up a chair, grab your Java, and share some laughs with a friend who is walking right alongside you.

In this episode, Lisa Anderson brings the stories and lessons learned from her own journey as a single Christian woman. She'll talk about the impact culture had on her approach to dating, offer her thoughts on realistic expectations when looking for a spouse, and remind us that both grief and celebration are a part of the deal.

Guest: Lisa Anderson from The Boundless Podcast at www.boundless.org

Check out Lisa's book, "The Dating Manifesto"

Join our webinar series, "Sexual Pleasure: How To Get Your Mind and Body to Work Together" at www.authenticintimacy.com/event

Find links to all the resources mentioned in this episode at https://www.authenticintimacy.com/resources/31715/95-the-dating-manifesto

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What do you do when sex hurts?  Do you white-knuckle your way through it, because it’s your “duty”? In this episode, you’ll hear why trying to push through the pain doesn’t work — nor is it what God desires for you. We’ll offer advice to help you find the right provider or therapist to help you understand and treat the reason for the pain you're experiencing. You’re not alone. Grab your Java and join us.

Guests: Dr. Carol Tanksley, OB-GYN and Joy Skarka

Show notes:

• Sexual Pleasure: How to Get Your Mind and Body to Work Together at authenticintimacy.com/event (webinar series)
• www.drcarolministries.com
• Check out Dr. Carol's video course, yoursexpectations.com
• "Passion Pursuit," a 10-week study through the Song of Solomon from Linda Dillow & Dr. Juli Slattery
• "Rethinking Sexuality" by Dr. Juli Slattery

Find links for all these resources in our show notes at https://www.authenticintimacy.com/resources/31517/366-no-more-pushing-past-the-pain-god-cares-about-your-sexual-pleasure

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How long would you like foreplay to last? How important is it to have an orgasm every time we have sex? Complete this sentence: “During lovemaking, I wish that you would…”

When was the last time you had a conversation with your spouse that included questions like these? In this episode, sex therapist Dr. Doug Rosenau joins Juli to help couples learn to talk about sex. Grab your Java and your spouse (this is a good one to listen to together) and join us!

Guest: Dr. Doug Rosenau

Register for our webinar series, Sexual Pleasure: How to Get Your Mind & Body to Work Together at authenticintimacy.com/event

Find all of the resources mentioned in this episode in our show notes at authenticintimacy.com/resources/31197/365-how-to-create-a-love-language

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Twitter: @DrJuliSlattery

After infidelity, how do you know when to start having sex again? Recovery is layered, complex, and different for every couple. In this Java with Juli, learn what a healthy recovery process looks like for a grieving wife and how to rebuild sex and intimacy from the ground up.

Couples will try to go back to having sex the way they always have had sex [prior to betrayal]. And I think they have to understand that they’re creating something completely new – just like their marriage. -Lyschel Burket

Guest: Lyschel Burket, APSATS-c

Learn more about Hope Redefined, and their healing retreats, at HopeRedefined.org

Find community this summer in an online book study! authenticintimacy.com/online-book-study

Find all the links for this episode at https://www.authenticintimacy.com/resources/30944/364-work-your-way-back-to-intimacy

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In your conversations about sexuality, can you explain WHY you believe what you believe? Does God’s "one man and one woman" design for marriage feel like a barrier to sharing your faith with others? God talks about sex throughout the Bible, how come it is (and has been) so hard for us to talk about it?  In this conversation, author and theologian Rachel Gilson shares her thoughts on why we struggle to answer today’s questions about sexuality, yet how sexuality, in this moment in history, can actually be a bridge to sharing the gospel.

Connect with Rachel at www.rachelgilson.com

Connect with an online book study at authenticintimacy.com/online-book-studies

Get all the links for this episode at https://www.authenticintimacy.com/resources/30723/363-why-are-christians-afraid

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A complement, according to Webster, is “something that fills up, completes, or makes better or perfect.” Romantic as that is, it’s a tall order in a relationship between two imperfect people! So then, what does it look like to be your spouse’s complement? In this episode, Jamie Ivey shares what God has taught her as she looks back on her own marriage of 20 years. No simplistic formulas, no easy answers, and no perfect people; just rich conversation and bold truth – so grab your Java and join us!

Guest: Jamie Ivey

I grew up thinking that a marriage is where the man works, makes money, then comes home and sits in his Lazy Boy, and the wife has dinner ready by the time he gets there... that's not what God says marriage is. He doesn't say the man goes and works and the woman makes dinner -- and there's no Lazy Boy in the Bible. -Jamie Ivey

Show notes:

• Complement* by Aaron & Jamie Ivey
• Complement Bible Study Book*
• The Happy Hour with Jamie Ivey (podcast)
• Your Sexual Differences Can Make You Better Lovers (Juli's blog)
• A Secret for the Guys (Juli's blog)
• Join an online book study!

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We know. It’s hard to imagine talking to your sweet three or four-year-old about sex. And here’s the thing: you don’t have to. What you can, nay, should do is have age-appropriate conversations about body parts, boys and girls, and how you see God’s design in nature in things like seeds and eggs. These small, everyday conversations lay an important foundation for bigger conversations later on.  You've got this, Momma! You don’t need to be afraid to share God’s design for sexuality with your young children. We’re here to help – grab your Java and join us!

Guest: Megan Michelson, Birds & Bees

Show notes:

• Learn more about www.birds-bees.com
• Use JAVA20 and get 20% off the curriculum!
• God Made All of Me*
• Parenting Through Weakness (Juli's blog)
• When Your Kid Looks At Porn (Juli's blog)

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When you’re feeling fearful, the last thing you need is a social media meme telling you to “tighten your ponytail and carry on.”  A rocky marriage, a wayward child, deeply dividing issues in our country, churches, and families — there’s no shortage of issues to keep us living in fear. In this episode, you'll hear how knowing who God is, and His power to work in your life, is where real courage comes from.  Grab your Java and join us!

Guest: Katie Westenberg

Show notes:

• I Choose Brave* (Katie's book)
• https://katiewestenberg.com/
• Have You Forgotten Who God Is? (blog)
• Learn to have gospel-centered conversations at Equip!
• The Bible Project

Do you believe that only people who watch pornography, use sex to feel loved, or cheat on their spouses are sexually broken? Church culture has long approached sexuality by dividing us into two categories: sexually broken or sexually pure. In this conversation, Juli & Hannah present a different approach.

"We're all sinners. None of us are righteous, not one. And apart from the redemption of Christ and the daily ministry of the Holy Spirit in our lives, we can never achieve righteousness. Why can't we apply that to sexuality?" Juli Slattery

Guest: Hannah Nitz

Show notes:

• Learn to have gospel-centered conversations around sexuality at Equip!
• Dig deeper into this conversation with Juli's book Rethinking Sexuality
• Invite Juli to your church

• There's More (Hannah's podcast)

Tiffany Bluhm wishes this wasn’t her story to tell. Like most victims or bystanders of sexual harassment, she had everything to lose by telling the truth. (Spoiler alert: She did it anyway!)  Join Juli and Tiffany for a conversation about the role you can play in exposing sexual harassment. You’ll hear why harassment is something that women don’t have to tolerate and why, of all the voices raised against it, Christian voices should be the loudest. 

Guest: Tiffany Bluhm (tiffanybluhm.com)

Show notes:

• Prey Tell*
• Why Tho? (podcast)
• #351: Why Our Churches Need To Do Better at Valuing the Voices of Women (exclusive content)
• Equip

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