Friends, co-workers, and even family members are avoiding each other because they don't agree. We are struggling to get along. Bestselling author Jay Payleitner has a new book to help titled, Don't Take the Bait to Escalate. How can family members enjoy more peace and less fighting? In today's conversation, you'll learn: 

3:45 How conflict can be a good thing

6:00 What are the four factors involved in conflict? 

6:40 How did you and your wife settle your peanut butter dispute? 

9:40 It might not be about compromise, it might mean taking turns to help your family member chase a dream 

11:00 Escalation doesn't always involve getting louder 

11:55 Re-connecting with someone you are estranged from 

19:50 What do you do when your middle school aged girl is wearing shorts that are too short? 

23:50 When you're in a pit in your marriage, do this...

Jay Payleitner's new book is Don’t Take the Bait to Escalate: Conflict is inevitable, being a jerk is optional. Jay has worked with the National Center for Fathering, and has sold more than half a million books including 52 Things Kids Need from a Dad and Moms Bringing Out the Best in Dads. He and his wife Rita have raised five kids, loved on 10 foster babies, and are enjoying grandparenthood. Learn more at jaypayleitner.com.

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