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  • Episode 45: With Cousin Don Greenstein (On Family Dynamics, Divorce, Mediation Work, University Ombuds, Vulnerability, Fatherhood and Letting Go)
    Welcome Back to Jonah Asks. In this episode, meet Don Greenstein. I've known Don since I was a child. His mom is my Great Aunt Betty, which makes him my cousin. Don has a background in conflict management, facilitation of difficult communications, organizational development, law, and creative dispute management processes. He has more than 30 years of experience creating unique conflict resolution processes to meet the needs of those involved...at least that is what his work bio says. Don is a warm, compassionate and thoughtful human. I'm grateful we had this talk. music: Bright Eyes "First Day of My Life"OpeningFamily BackgroundLiving above the Vet Hospital in Victor, New York (1950s and 1960s)Don goes out into the field and helps his dad deliver a baby calf0:08Don's paternal grandparents were from Germany and Hungary, coming to the U.S. in the 1890s. 0:10Don's parents, known as "Betty and Eddie" to the rest of the family, met in Farmingdale, New York. They were married for 72 years and knew each other for 77 years. 0:13Divorce Becomes Common in 1970sDon's parents and Jonah's grandparents (on both sides) all had marriages that lasted over 65 years. Nearly all the children of those three couples have been through their own divorces. Don: "I think it was the culture of my generation. It was easier to throw things away than work on them.""It takes two to get married and it takes two to get divorced."On what kept marriages together in the 1940s and 1950s. Don: "Relationships are hard, but I think people of the older generation knew hardships and knew how to work and were willing to stay." Jonah mentions cultural changes, employment changes and opening up of options for women.Mediation: Creating a Fair ProcessMediations require people to give up things on both sides. When people walk away from mediation, if each person is a little agitated, that's probably a win-win. If one person feels very happy and the other is mad, that's unacceptable to me.Both people have to be willing to compromise. I've often thought it would be a great way to set a business model. If this is a hot dispute and you're going to yell at each other, then my rates are going to be $500 an hour. If you guys can work together, It'll be $150 an hour."Business Counseling Versus Personal CounselingDon had social work experience working with juveniles when he was in college. "Even though I have to be neutral, I'm more connected to the people I work with than counselors allow themselves to be. In my work now as an ombudsman (Brandeis University) Ninety percent of the people I see, I only see one person." 0:23An Ongoing Mediation: Getting a Couple to Finally Reach Agreement After Two and a Half YearsDomestic relations mediation. Don worked for a firm where he worked on a complicated and drawn-out divorce case.Jonah talks about the experience of being a child of divorce. How repressed anger impacts families. Unleashing anger in a controlled way is necessary and a relief. 0:31Releasing Anger in Cathartic Way Vs Repressing AngerRicky Gervais' character on the show "After Life" releases his anger in ways that most people rarely do. 0:35Helen and Earl (Lynma and Poppadaddy)Don's Aunt Helen and Uncle Earl were Jonah's grandparents, known as Lynma and Poppadaddy0:40West Virginia AdventureDon worked for an Outward Bound Rehabilitation Program in Monongahela National Forest in West Virginia. 0:46Nature, Mindfulness and Self-Care0:52Collective Political Urgency, Restorative Justice and State Legislation Around Issue of EqualityState legislatures restricting the vote and enforcing right-wing agenda on issues of equality around race and sexualityVoting restrictionshttps://www.brennancenter.org/our-work/research-reports/voting-laws-roundup-december-20210:56Working as an Ombuds: Dealing With Those Who Won't CompromiseDon's experience at the university-level with those in power that aren't always open to compromise or ot(continued)
    1 hr 42 min
  • Episode 44: Ask Jonah: (On Helping People, Health, Comedy, and Judgment)
    Welcome back to Jonah Asks. In this episode, I stop asking questions. Instead, I answer your questions. Or...I use your questions as jumping-off points. Q. Is it better to help friends or needier strangers?Q. What percent of health is mental health?Q. Is it still ok to find Louis C.K. hilarious?Q. Why would you like a question?Q. Why are you so judgmental? I will answer more questions and release another episode within two weeks. As always, if you enjoy this, don't hesitate to share it with others. My only attempt at promotion is word of mouth. Word of mouth is a funny phrase. All spoken words (that I know of) come from the mouth. For questions, comments, episode ideas, or your interest in being a future guest... please email jonah asks at gmail dot comThanks for Listening,Jonah
    38 min
  • Episode 43: Family History: My Mostly Unknown Eastern Europe Roots (Ukrainian and Romanian Jews to New York City and Boston)

    This short episode is about my mostly unknown Eastern European roots. I read entries from the genealogy report I wrote for my social studies class in 8th grade. Considering The Ukraine and Romania and why I (like many American Jews whose families arrived around 1900) don't know much about Eastern Europe or what the experiences of our ancestors was like when they did get out and arrive in New York. 

    19 min
  • Episode 42: With Jeff Alessandrelli (On Erik Satie, Poetry, Nebraska, Samuel Beckett, Solitude and Running a Non-Profit Poetry Press)

    Welcome Back to Jonah Asks. 

    Meet Jeff Alessandrelli. Jeff is a poet, professor and publisher of poetry. He is the John Stockton of the world of poetry, dishing out assists like its 1989. This is an interview for writers and creative folks. We drift from Erik Satie to Samuel Beckett to Bill Knott to Adam Haslett to our own thoughts on identity, from what it means to write and share your work to the psychology of writers and eventually we discuss nihilism solitude. 


    https://jeffalessandrelli.net/books
    Jeff reads selections from his poetic biography "Erik Satie Watusies His Way Into Sound"


    0:08

    Impressions from Childhood


    0:15

    Skateboarding 

    Jeff wrote a book of essays on skateboarding and Biggie.


    0:24

    Growing up in Reno and family history


    0:30

    Nebraska

    Jeff lived in Nebraska. He earned a PhD in Literature with a focus on Poetry. Later, he returned to Nebraska to teach at a small university.


    0:45

    Writing: Samuel Beckett, Bill Knott and Writing Identity
    Satisfaction vs endless striving. The creative process vs literary world. Recognition and validation. Poet Bill Knott. Identity -- writing identity versus real life identity.


    0:59

    Fonograf Editions
    Jeff started a non-profit poetry press. It began with putting out albums of poetry on vinyl. The press now releases books as well.

    Jeff is an editor and curator. 

    "I started reading and finding an identity in books from a very young age. Fongoraf is an extension of that. Fonograf published Mark Leidner's "Returning the Sword to the Stone," which made the NY Times Best of 2021 list for poetry. 



    1:03

    Appreciating Jeff's Editing and Assisting in Poetry

    Jeff's literary role: Like John Stockton in the 1990s, Jeff dishing out assists to poets. Jeff edits poetry and runs a small press.

    http://thefanzine.com/bad-business-is-good-art-fonograf-editions/


    1:10

    Writing, Solitude and the Imaginative Life


    Nobody Marries Themselves

    In 2003, I read Adam Haslett's story collection "You Are Not a Stranger Here." I finally re-read it a few months ago. 


    Adam Haslett's "The Perpetual Solitude of the Writer"

    "One of the paradoxes of writing...in order to fulfill the urge to communicate something to other people, you end up spending huge amounts of time on your own."


    Jeff, on The freedom of writing poetry: "One of the beautiful things about poetry, but also challenging, is that there's no money in it."


    1:36
    Focusing on Gratitude and Dropping Cynicism

    1:51
    Films: "Nebraska" and "The Station Agent"
    Jeff teaches Nebraska in his composition class.

    1:55
    Writing is Unique to the Writer

    Find Jeff and his books online at jeffalessandrelli.net
    Find Fonograf Editions 

    Thanks for Listening and Sharing,
    Jonah

    2 hr 2 min
  • Episode 41: With Anthony (On Childhood, Socialization, Fathers, Socioeconomics, Parenting, Social Media and Basketball)
    Welcome Back to Jonah Asks. With Anthony (On Childhood, Socialization, Fathers, Socioeconomics, Parenting, Social Media and Basketball)Meet Anthony, a friend who goes back to first grade. We grew up in the same town. Our fathers were different than most of the town's fathers. Our mothers were, too. It was a fascinating conversation. Travel back in time to the 1980s and early 1990s. We discuss the complexity of identity and socioeconomics. We talk about spirituality and religion. The conversation continues on into youth basketball experiences. Toward the end of the interview, we discuss technology, reading and writing, the impact of social media, and future concerns.Musical interlude: sample from "In the Waiting Line" by Zero 70:05 Q. Does anyone ever "find themselves?"0:08 Small Children and Cleaning Up0:10 How Anthony's parents met - London, 19720:15 Growing up in East Arlington. Elementary school, socialization. Parents who strongly value education in a socioeconomically-mixed, working-middle-class suburb.0:22 Arlington Fathers. Jonah's childhood observations. Our dads were different. 0:27 Youth Basketball and Identity. 0:33 Anthony's family home and growing up "shackled"0:35 Choosing a College0:37 Fathers and their Religious Childhoods. Like Jonah, Anthony's dad was raised in the Christian church, but never mentioned religion and his mom was raised as secular Jew in New York. Religion was not part of his family experience. 0:43 Spiritual Urges and Nature. Agnosticism, Atheism, SpiritualityQ. Are you an atheist or agnostic?0:47 Mental Health and Pandemic0:51 Everything Must Be Quantified: Sustaining Creative Projects in Age of Big Data0:58 NBA Hoops Talk1:03 Parenting in Your 40s With Small Children. Thinking about how involved we are today compared with the previous generations. Children need other children. 1:09 Rewarding: The Wonder of 5 year-olds Discovering and Learning1:11 Identity and Parenting: Never-Ending Attempt to Find Balance as a Parent1:20 Technology. Discussing Smart Phone Impact, Social Media Use and the Future. Retaining Optimism, despite treadmill of misinformation on social mediaThanks for Listening to Jonah Asks. Please share this with people who enjoy listening to podcasts.Be Safe,Jonah
    1 hr 43 min
  • Episode 40: With Kyle, Part Two (Humanitarian Work in Malawi, East Timor and Thailand, Balancing Work, Fatherhood and Marriage, and the Difficulty of Just Being)

    Welcome back to Jonah Asks. 

    This is part two of my interview with Kyle. Throughout his life, Kyle has traveled with an open mind and compassionate heart. This episode is affecting, because Kyle is a thoughtful, unrushed storyteller...who happens to have many stories. Even as I listened again in editing, I appreciated the ease with which we discussed the big questions, around humanitarian work, humanity, sustaining hope, fatherhood and marriage, and dealing with technology. 

    A native of Northern California, Kyle has dedicated much of his life to Humanitarian Work. During college, he spent a semester in Australia. After college, he spent two years in Malawi, teaching through the Peace Corps. He traveled to India, Nepal and Bhutan, before returning to California and eventually heading to grad school to study International Peace and Conflict Resolution. After that, Kyle was in East Timor and then based in Thailand, directing an anti-human-trafficking campaign in Southeast Asia.  


    Music samples:
    of Montreal "Wraith Pinned to the Mist" album The Sunlandic Twins
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L8cCPH1qnYI&ab_channel=PolyvinylRecords

    Seckou Keita "N'doké"; album Seckou Keita: 22 Strings

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=77J78-jb-a4&ab_channel=SeckouKeita
    Seckou Keita plays the Kora, a West African lute/harp made of 22 strings. 

    One of Kyle's mentors: Prof. Abdul Aziz Said, started the graduate program, worked on White House Councils, etc.

    https://www.american.edu/sis/news/20210215-a-tribute-to-abdul-aziz-said.cfm

    East Timor / Timor Leste

    We discuss the genocide in East Timor and Kyle's work there on peace and reconciliation after genocide.


    Non-Profit Dedicated to Peace and Reconciliation:
    Search for Common Ground
    https://www.sfcg.org/

    0:47

    Q. When you feel overwhelmed with the problems of the world, what restores you?

    Kyle describes bringing it back to the individual and the power of connection and kindness.


    0:50

    Thailand and South Asia: Anti-Human Trafficking Campaign


    0:58

    Q. How do you balance fatherhood with work, marriage and time for yourself?
    Fatherhood, Relationship, Work and Finding a Balance


    1:20

    Habits: Limiting Technology


    1:24

    The Difficulty of Just Being


    Thanks for Listening to Jonah Asks. If you're looking to donate to the Search for Common Ground, click here: https://www.sfcg.org/

    Please email with questions or comments. 
    jonahasks at gmail dot com

    1 hr 35 min
  • Episode 38: With Kyle, Part One (On Schools, Kindergarten Options for Our 4 Year-Olds, Socialization, Finding Your Voice, Family History and Choosing a College)

    Welcome Back to Jonah Asks and Happy New Year. Let's hope 2022 brings more health, happiness and general peace than 2021. Us humans seem to be struggling. In this episode, meet Kyle. A father, compassionate soul, a traveler, a writer and a  worker in the struggle for humanity who has dedicated many years of his life to making things better for humans. 


    This is a two-part episode. The second part should be up within a week. 

    Stay healthy, safe and kind,
    Jonah
     

    57 min
  • Episode 37: Short Story: Lawrence in Motion
    Over the last few months, I've been writing fiction. This short story, "Lawrence in Motion," takes place mostly in Lincoln, Nebraska, diners, and on America's highways. I enjoyed the process of getting to know this character over time, as he came to me. He's an amalgam of my past and many people I've known. Writing short fiction can be an appealing break from reality. Thank you as always for listening and reading. Be Safe and Enjoy the Autumn,Jonah
    52 min
  • Episode 36: Jonah Songs: Noon EP
    This episode is 19 minutes of musical experiments I've conducted over the last six months. Playing with sounds is a nice diversion from reality. Please enjoy responsibly. Each of these tracks was at one point given a title because that's an easy way to save the file...but those titles don't seem all that important to this experiment. 
    19 min

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Jonah Asks is about connecting human beings. The episodes are interview-conversations with friends, artists, writers, teachers, musicians and other interesting and articulate…