Joy Lab | strengthen your mental health with the science of joy

About Joy Lab: Joy Lab is an Ambie-nominated podcast and mental health tool that blends science and soul to help you cope better with stress, anxiety, and depression. It's hosted by integrative psychiatrist Dr. Henry Emmons and holistic mental health researcher Dr. Aimee Prasek.

About this episode: In this episode, we're talking about three common roadblocks that stand in the way of our element of sympathetic joy (and joy in general). These three obstacles trick us into feeling like we're always the victim, there's never enough (time, money, relationships, jobs... everything), and that we are lacking or flawed in some way. These obstacles are sneaky, but when you start to notice them, they can be tamed and overcome. Tune in for some strategies and encouragement to overcome these obstacles and to make more space for joy.

The podcast is best paired with the Joy Lab App.

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Key Takeaways:

• The fallacy of fairness keeps us stuck in resentment, jealousy, and in a victim role. It's a sneaky and really common obstacle that can really hold us back. This fallacy also keeps us from actually seeing what is objectively unfair... which means we fight every single battle with the belief that everything we don't like is unfair, we are always the victim, and we have no power in making a change. That's an exhausting and defeating place to be. That leaves us no energy for much else, including working to change systems or sound the alarm when something is objectively unfair.
• The fallacy of scarcity tricks us into thinking that we never have enough. This keeps us on this ever-racing-track of wanting more and more and never settling into a feeling of contentment or ease.
• And that last obstacle we're talking about in this episode keeps us locked into this feeling that we are flawed or lacking in some way. This is false. You are not flawed, broken, or lacking some essential quality. At Joy Lab, we work on building the elements in our lives that help us step into our most authentic, joyful, and perfect-for-us selves.
• Interoception is a powerful skill that we can use to navigate these obstacles and regulate our emotions toward something that nourishes us more.

Links Mentioned:

• Dr. Bessel van der Kolk (personal website)

This meditation is a surprisingly helpful tool to shift mood and perspective. If you're not sure what sympathetic joy is, head to our last episode, number 36, before or after this. But, the short version is that we're sharing in each other's joy with this element of sympathetic joy and this meditation will help you do just that. This meditation is also a bit of a taste of how we work in the Joy Lab program, so please join us over there for more tools to uncover your most joyful self.

Key Takeaways (see full transcript below):

• Like working with any system or tool, you need to practice. Use this meditation to practice seeing and taking in more joy.
• It's really true...there is a lot of joy around you and in you. Once you see more of it, you'll feel more of it, and you'll share more of it.

About: The Joy Lab Podcast is an Ambie-nominated podcast that blends science and soul to help you cope better with stress, anxiety, and depression. It's hosted by integrative psychiatrist Dr. Henry Emmons and holistic mental health researcher Dr. Aimee Prasek.

The podcast is best paired with the Joy Lab App.

Bonus: spread some joy and keep this podcast ad-free by donating (Joy Lab is powered by the nonprofit Pathways North and your donations are tax-deductible).

Listen & follow the Joy Lab Podcast on your favorite listening app:

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Please remember that this content is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not intended to provide medical advice and is not a replacement for advice and treatment from a medical professional. Please consult your doctor or other qualified health professional before beginning any diet change, supplement, or lifestyle program.

Please see our terms for more information.

If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, help is available. Call the NAMI HelpLine: 1-800-950-6264 available Monday through Friday, 10 a.m. - 10 p.m., ET. OR text "HelpLine" to 62640 or email NAMI at [email protected].

Visit NAMI for more.

You can also call or text SAMHSA at 988 or chat 988lifeline.org

About Joy Lab: Joy Lab is an Ambie-nominated podcast and mental health tool that blends science and soul to help you cope better with stress, anxiety, and depression. It's hosted by integrative psychiatrist Dr. Henry Emmons and holistic mental health researcher Dr. Aimee Prasek.

About this episode: Sympathetic joy may sound like a... funny kind of element. But it is surprisingly powerful. This element encourages us to join in with all the joy that is around us. That means when someone else (like any of the 8 billion folks on the planet) is experiencing happiness or some good fortune, we can participate. And that participation can give us the emotional and physical health benefits, just as if we had experienced the happiness or good fortune ourselves. In this episode, Drs. Emmons and Prasek talk more about this element, some common obstacles, and offer a few key strategies to apply it in your life.

The podcast is best paired with the Joy Lab App.

Bonus: spread some joy and keep this podcast ad-free by donating (Joy Lab is powered by the nonprofit Pathways North and your donations are tax-deductible).

Listen & follow the Joy Lab Podcast on your favorite listening app:

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Please remember that this content is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not intended to provide medical advice and is not a replacement for advice and treatment from a medical professional. Please consult your doctor or other qualified health professional before beginning any diet change, supplement, or lifestyle program.

Please see our terms for more information.

If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, help is available. Call the NAMI HelpLine: 1-800-950-6264 available Monday through Friday, 10 a.m. - 10 p.m., ET. OR text "HelpLine" to 62640 or email NAMI at [email protected].

Visit NAMI for more.

You can also call or text SAMHSA at 988 or chat 988lifeline.org

Key Takeaways:

• Emotions are contagious... meaning we can catch moments of happiness from others. That's what sympathetic joy is all about. Joining in with the happiness that you see around you so that you feel that happiness in you as well.
• As the Dalai Lama said: "Why rely just on your own good fortune to be happy? If there are 8 billion people in the world, and you can be happy for their good fortune, then you have just increased your chances of being happy by 8 billion times!"
• One obstacle to sympathetic joy is simply the lack of attention to it.
• One important way to boost wellbeing is to ensure you have "relational diversity of one's social portfolio." That sounds way more complicated than it is.. essentially it means having a mix of interactions and relationships with people who you feel close to and also with those who you feel not so close too. This diverse social network is better than just interacting with a small group of close friends and/or family.
• You can implement the Kevin Bacon effect to boost your wellbeing...tune in for more.
• One key strategy to put this element into practice is to focus on 1-3 people who you feel demonstrate happiness or another quality that just makes you feel good when you think about them. Sit with that quality that they have and really tap into how it shows up for them and how it makes you feel. Maybe even tell them that this quality is something that rubs off on you as well. That's the power of sympathetic joy!

Links Mentioned:

• Relational diversity in social portfolios predicts well-being (Collins, et al., 2022)

How do our elements of joy help us build this internal, infinite supply of joy that is within us? One reason is that we don't focus on happiness here at Joy Lab. Sounds wild, right? That's because of a little thing called the happiness paradox. Tune in for this episode as Aimee talks about this obstacle and how we use our elements of joy to overcome it. You'll also get a super simple and surprisingly effective strategy to boost your joy... and it involves reality tv and your least favorite sports team... enJOY!

About: The Joy Lab Podcast is an Ambie-nominated podcast that blends science and soul to help you cope better with stress, anxiety, and depression. It's hosted by integrative psychiatrist Dr. Henry Emmons and holistic mental health researcher Dr. Aimee Prasek.

The podcast is best paired with the Joy Lab App.

Bonus: spread some joy and keep this podcast ad-free by donating (Joy Lab is powered by the nonprofit Pathways North and your donations are tax-deductible).

Listen & follow the Joy Lab Podcast on your favorite listening app:

Spotify | Apple | YouTube

Please remember that this content is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not intended to provide medical advice and is not a replacement for advice and treatment from a medical professional. Please consult your doctor or other qualified health professional before beginning any diet change, supplement, or lifestyle program.

Please see our terms for more information.

If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, help is available. Call the NAMI HelpLine: 1-800-950-6264 available Monday through Friday, 10 a.m. - 10 p.m., ET. OR text "HelpLine" to 62640 or email NAMI at [email protected].

Visit NAMI for more.

You can also call or text SAMHSA at 988 or chat 988lifeline.org

Key Takeaways:

• Joy is not the same as happiness. It's also not the opposite of depression. Joy is a deeper state of being that we can build up and maintain all the time.
• Chasing happiness is a recipe for fatigue and frustration.
• The happiness paradox is a reminder that we can instead build our elements of joy to uncover the inner state that we're actually after, and that is natural to us.
• Have fun with your work... try the simple sympathetic joy practice Aimee suggests in this episode:
  • Cheer for your rival sports team.
  • Watch a competition show and cheer for everyone.

Links Mentioned:

• The paradox of pursuing happiness (Zerwas & Ford, 2021)
• Fronto-striatal activity predicts anhedonia and positive empathy subtypes (Mirabito, et al., 2019) [this is the study with Extreme Makeover: Home Edition]

We're building on what we've discussed in our last few episodes on Gratitude. After a short intro, you'll find a powerful mindfulness practice to tune into your internal biofeedback tools (your superpower of interception) and to create more space to see-accept-choose with all the good stuff that is around you.

p.s. If you're not sure what "see-accept-choose" refers to, be sure to listen to episodes 30, 31, and 32. It's a powerful system to calm your stress response, come back to your most balanced state, and move forward in ways that nourish you more.

About: The Joy Lab Podcast is an Ambie-nominated podcast that blends science and soul to help you cope better with stress, anxiety, and depression. It's hosted by integrative psychiatrist Dr. Henry Emmons and holistic mental health researcher Dr. Aimee Prasek.

The podcast is best paired with the Joy Lab Program.

Bonus: spread some joy and keep this podcast ad-free by donating (Joy Lab is powered by the nonprofit Pathways North and your donations are tax-deductible).

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Key Takeaways (see full transcript below):

• You have a built-in biofeedback system that can help you notice and open up to let in more of the good.
• Like working with any system or tool, you need to practice. Use this meditation to hone your skills so you can notice sensations in your body more quickly and with better discernment and so you can feel more grounded, more open, and filled with more gratitude.

Please remember that this content is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not intended to provide medical advice and is not a replacement for advice and treatment from a medical professional. Please consult your doctor or other qualified health professional before beginning any diet change, supplement, or lifestyle program.

Please see our terms for more information.

If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, help is available. Call the NAMI HelpLine: 1-800-950-6264 available Monday through Friday, 10 a.m. - 10 p.m., ET. OR text "HelpLine" to 62640 or email NAMI at [email protected].

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You can also call or text SAMHSA at 988 or chat 988lifeline.org

You'll see three special meditations show up soon wherever you listen or watch your Joy Lab podcast. These three meditations will help you work with the elements of gratitude, sympathetic joy, and transitioning into the new year with our element of inspiration.

The first one will be episode #34. You'll then have two more, episodes #37 and #39.

We hope you find these meditation nourishing. Use them again and again, whenever you need to brew up these elements of joy and tap into your most resilient, joyful self.

About: The Joy Lab Podcast is an Ambie-nominated podcast that blends science and soul to help you cope better with stress, anxiety, and depression. It's hosted by integrative psychiatrist Dr. Henry Emmons and holistic mental health researcher Dr. Aimee Prasek.

The podcast is best paired with the Joy Lab Program.

Bonus: spread some joy and keep this podcast ad-free by donating (Joy Lab is powered by the nonprofit Pathways North and your donations are tax-deductible).

Listen & follow the Joy Lab Podcast on your favorite listening app:

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Key Takeaways:

• You have a built-in biofeedback system that can help you notice and open up to let in more of the good. The mediations that we'll offer you over the next two months will help you work with that system.
• Like working with any system or tool, you need to practice. Use these meditations to hone your skills so you can notice sensations in your body more quickly and with better discernment and so you can feel more grounded, more open, and filled with more gratitude.

Please remember that this content is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not intended to provide medical advice and is not a replacement for advice and treatment from a medical professional. Please consult your doctor or other qualified health professional before beginning any diet change, supplement, or lifestyle program.

Please see our terms for more information.

If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, help is available. Call the NAMI HelpLine: 1-800-950-6264 available Monday through Friday, 10 a.m. - 10 p.m., ET. OR text "HelpLine" to 62640 or email NAMI at [email protected].

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We're talking about Gratitude and the third of our strategies to put it into practice. This strategy of "Choosing Wisely" may sound boring or cliche (for example: Are you sick of #gratitude posts?), but this is where gratitude hits the real world and where we take action. And as we take actions that flex our gratitude muscles, we'll get stronger in this element and shift our default toward more grateful living.

About: The Joy Lab Podcast is an Ambie-nominated podcast that blends science and soul to help you cope better with stress, anxiety, and depression. It's hosted by integrative psychiatrist Dr. Henry Emmons and holistic mental health researcher Dr. Aimee Prasek.

The podcast is best paired with the Joy Lab Program.

Bonus: spread some joy and keep this podcast ad-free by donating (Joy Lab is powered by the nonprofit Pathways North and your donations are tax-deductible).

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Key Takeaways:

• Letting our wise mind weigh in allows us to make healthier choices more easily, more often. That's the power of our see what is, accept what is, choose wisely process.
• The power of habit energy... and gratitude energy. We can rely on our love of habits to create a new pattern/habit of gratitude that fuels itself.
• Gratitude practice idea: Whenever you're receiving customer service, apply the see what is, accept what is, choose wisely process with gratitude.
• Another gratitude practice idea: Try gratitude coins! And then send them off into the world to grow new things.

Please remember that this content is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not intended to provide medical advice and is not a replacement for advice and treatment from a medical professional. Please consult your doctor or other qualified health professional before beginning any diet change, supplement, or lifestyle program.

Please see our terms for more information.

If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, help is available. Call the NAMI HelpLine: 1-800-950-6264 available Monday through Friday, 10 a.m. - 10 p.m., ET. OR text "HelpLine" to 62640 or email NAMI at [email protected].

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We're talking about Gratitude and the second of our strategies to put it into practice (see the first strategy in episode #30). This strategy of "Accepting what is" can be tough. Interestingly, even accepting the good things in our lives can be tough. We'll talk about why this happens and also identify some key obstacles that keep gratitude at a distance (i.e., mindlessness, grasping, and aversion), and how we can open up to accept the good, the bad... and everything else. You'll also learn a super simple gratitude practice that is worth two million dollars!

About: The Joy Lab Podcast is an Ambie-nominated podcast that blends science and soul to help you cope better with stress, anxiety, and depression. It's hosted by integrative psychiatrist Dr. Henry Emmons and holistic mental health researcher Dr. Aimee Prasek.

The podcast is best paired with the Joy Lab Program.

Bonus: spread some joy and keep this podcast ad-free by donating (Joy Lab is powered by the nonprofit Pathways North and your donations are tax-deductible).

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Key Takeaways:

• Acceptance is not the same as giving up. Acceptance actually gives us an honest platform to work from. If we choose to fight, we can and we can be more clear about what we're dealing with and what needs to be done. We might also choose to let things be as they are and let ourselves feel better about them. It's really just when we're unwilling to accept things as they actually are, that we get ourselves into trouble.
• Some key obstacles can stand in the way of gratitude and acceptance. These are: aversion, grasping, and mindlessness. And of course... cheraphobia!
• Cheraphobia is the fear of being happy. It's surprisingly common. Gratitude and acceptance are powerful strategies for this.
• You can use your hands as a real-time neurofeedback tool to practice gratitude and acceptance (it's cheaper than a 2 million dollar fMRI machine!)

Links Mentioned:

• Sharon Salzberg (personal website)

Please remember that this content is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not intended to provide medical advice and is not a replacement for advice and treatment from a medical professional. Please consult your doctor or other qualified health professional before beginning any diet change, supplement, or lifestyle program.

Please see our terms for more information.

If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, help is available. Call the NAMI HelpLine: 1-800-950-6264 available Monday through Friday, 10 a.m. - 10 p.m., ET. OR text "HelpLine" to 62640 or email NAMI at [email protected].

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There's a ton of research on gratitude and how powerful it can be for mental health. We'll talk about a really helpful step-by-step mindfulness strategy that can be used to keep gratitude alive, even during tough times. We'll talk about the first of these strategies, "See what is" in this episode and follow up with two more episodes for the rest ("Accept what is" and "Choose wisely"). Seeing, accepting, and choosing may sound a little dull, but you'll likely be surprised how this process can boost present moment awareness and gratitude in big ways.

p.s. We're grateful you're here with us at the Joy Lab!

About: The Joy Lab Podcast is an Ambie-nominated podcast that blends science and soul to help you cope better with stress, anxiety, and depression. It's hosted by integrative psychiatrist Dr. Henry Emmons and holistic mental health researcher Dr. Aimee Prasek.

The podcast is best paired with the Joy Lab Program.

Bonus: spread some joy and keep this podcast ad-free by donating (Joy Lab is powered by the nonprofit Pathways North and your donations are tax-deductible).

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Key Takeaways:

• In this episode, we're focusing on seeing things as they really are and bringing more attention to the good things that exist, no matter the situation.
• It can be hard to practice gratitude amidst the knowledge that we'll also feel the pain of losing those people or things in time. However, as we practice gratitude and our other elements of joy, that knowledge of impermanence (AKA everything changes) can shift from an obstacle to fuel for gratitude.
• A daily practice of gratitude is a powerful tool to reduce depression. Even simple practices, as short as 3 minutes, can have significant, positive impacts on mood.
• Optimists and pessimists aren't so different... they can access gratitude equally.
• We like to think of the negativity bias as a survival bias. If you fall into this category, you're an excellent surveiller of your environment! That's a good evolutionary trait. Of course, too much can turn into chronic worrying, anxiety, and other behaviors. We'll talk about how to quiet that surveillance when it's not needed and how gratitude can help.

Links Mentioned:

• Zadie Smith (personal website)
• Richard Rohr (Center for Action and Contemplation- founded by Richard Rohr)
• Sabrina Benaim (personal website)

Please remember that this content is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not intended to provide medical advice and is not a replacement for advice and treatment from a medical professional. Please consult your doctor or other qualified health professional before beginning any diet change, supplement, or lifestyle program.

Please see our terms for more information.

If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, help is available. Call the NAMI HelpLine: 1-800-950-6264 available Monday through Friday, 10 a.m. - 10 p.m., ET. OR text "HelpLine" to 62640 or email NAMI at [email protected].

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p.s. This isn't about the 1991 movie, Backdraft (though who doesn't love a De Niro flick?!).

Key Takeaways (see full transcript below):

• Love reveals anything unlike itself... the brain is wired to present all the ways we haven't been compassionate.
• We have been trained to be hard on ourselves. That means it's logical if backdraft is coming up for you. The only antidote is self-compassion.
• Note that if you're experiencing a lot of backdraft, it is important to get support from a practitioner or trusted individual who can help you through.
• Three tips to consider to help ease backdraft:
  • Stop, then yield.
  • Feel it to heal it.
  • Name it to tame it.

About: The Joy Lab Podcast is an Ambie-nominated podcast that blends science and soul to help you cope better with stress, anxiety, and depression. It's hosted by integrative psychiatrist Dr. Henry Emmons and holistic mental health researcher Dr. Aimee Prasek.

The podcast is best paired with the Joy Lab Program.

Bonus: spread some joy and keep this podcast ad-free by donating (Joy Lab is powered by the nonprofit Pathways North and your donations are tax-deductible).

Listen & follow the Joy Lab Podcast on your favorite listening app:

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Links Mentioned:

• Mindful Self-Compassion Program

Please remember that this content is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not intended to provide medical advice and is not a replacement for advice and treatment from a medical professional. Please consult your doctor or other qualified health professional before beginning any diet change, supplement, or lifestyle program.

Please see our terms for more information.

If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, help is available. Call the NAMI HelpLine: 1-800-950-6264 available Monday through Friday, 10 a.m. - 10 p.m., ET. OR text "HelpLine" to 62640 or email NAMI at [email protected].

Visit NAMI for more.

You can also call or text SAMHSA at 988 or chat 988lifeline.org.