Motivation is always lurking around somewhere within our minds. Even if we're not thinking about it, it is still there. My wife, Joi, is a good example.

Take one look at her, and it's easy to see that Joi takes care of herself. She gets up at the same time every day and eats a healthy breakfast. Then, she dresses in her workout clothes; without exception, she exercises. No matter how late she went to bed or how late I sleep in, Joi gets out of bed and heads to our home gym.

Since it's evident that Joi walks-her-walk, it's not uncommon for people to ask, "How do you do it?" — as if she is a member of "The Secret Society of Highly Motivated People Club." You know, the club that requires a password and special handshake to join its ranks. Nope. It's not that complicated.

I joke with Joi that she is my sexy, predictable, exciting, and somewhat boring wife. While that may sound terrible, and I wouldn't say it around Valentine's Day, Joi takes it as a compliment —

"I know. It’s who I am and what I do. I don't think about it. I want to feel and look a certain way, so I do what it takes."

Don't let her fool you. She thinks about it a lot, or at least she did until the magic of motivation arrives in full force.

Her vision of herself becomes her focus. That leads to massive motivation, discipline, and action. As good results arrive, the repetition action transforms into life-long habits and delivers life-long results.

That's how you get what you want.

The pain of exercising your motivational muscle always feels better than the frustration of thinking about what you want for too long.