Meet Kelly Redfield, a mother of two beautiful girls, newly re-married after being divorced for 8 years and a life coach, entrepreneur and all around Alabama native. She met her ex when she was 14 and married at 21. She explains how “We did decide to marry because we didn’t really feel like our families let us be adults until we married. I didn’t even go on vacations with them, so this was our way to take our relationship to the next level but we didn’t necessarily understand what that meant because we were looking at it with teenage eyes”.

Overall they were married 10 years and there was a lot of pain around separating, there was a co-dependency that was built between the two of them because they didn’t have a lot of relationship experience outside of just the two of them.

They built their identities around each other. When it was time to begin separating they decided to have a long separation before signing papers because the kids we're still very young. Five and two at the time. She explains how it was a really natural process for the both of them. They had just gotten to the point where they couldn’t be healthy together anymore and were fighting way too much. 

She tells us how she knew they had to separate because the life that the kids would have with them together is not the life they deserved. They could do better apart and as friends.

Kelly shares how childhood sweethearts is really uncommon for long term relationships because you build habits on how you fight and what triggers the other person having arguments as adults but behaving like when you met.

You can find Kelly here:
Website: https://www.celestinevision.com/services
Facebook: @kellyredfieldcoaching · Personal Coach