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"I really didn't like his tone." "She just seems so angry." "I can't listen to her when she's heated like that."

We're breaking down tone policing, setting out to answer this question: In conversations about race, does tone matter? Should it matter? In this episode, I run through all of the best perspectives so you can figure out where you stand.

Referenced: APA, Prospective Teachers Misperceive Black Children as Angry

Your listen next list:
Should White People Do Diversity Work? on Apple & Spotify
What People of Color Need From Their White Friends Apple & Spotify

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Let's talk through the dos and don'ts of common terms relating to antiracism. We're focusing on terms (like BIPOC, minority, microaggression, and more) that are misused, controversial, and/ or misunderstood.

When should I say "BIPOC" and when should I not? Should I say minority or minoritized? What about underprivileged? What does virtue signaling really mean? Why is the term "microaggression" controversial, even in the antiracism movement? What's the problem with saying underprivileged? I address all of these questions and more.

Sources:
BIPOC: What does it mean and where does it come from? By Chevaz Clarke
Why Forbes Won’t Use The Term Minority To Classify Black And Brown People by Rashaad Lambert
The Coddling of the American Mind by Jonathan Haidt and Greg Lukianoff
Wikipedia’s Microaggression Page

Also Mentioned:
Why Trigger Warnings Are Controversial (And Even Counterproductive) via Apple & Spotify
We're Getting Privilege All Wrong via Apple & Spotify
My post on virtue signaling and performative activism

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It can be easy to dismiss any criticism and write it off as problematic, but I'm confident that there are some important things to learn from critics of CRT.

Critical race theory is a great diagnosis of the issue of racism, but when we try to go from diagnosis of the problem to solution, we can get things really wrong.

Part 1: CRT 101: The 5 Basic Ideas You Need to Know on Apple & Spotify

Sources:
The Basic Tenets of Critical Race Theory via Britannica
A Lesson on Critical Race Theory by the American Bar
Intersectionality, explained by Vox
Stereotype Threat: The effect of racial primes on the test performance of African-American and European-American children by Steele, Bianchi, Ambady

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For every call-to-action encouraging white people to build relationships with people of color, there should be a lesson on how to do this well. Because increased contact doesn't guarantee increased fellowship.

I wanted to break up some of the lesson-type episodes with a personal story. In this episode, we’re breaking down an experience I had when a white woman came up to me and said some kind words that actually carried a tough message. We’ve all been there, where good intentions don’t play out quite right. So we all have something to learn from this.

Referenced: Breaking The Habit of Prejudice by Patricia Devine

Your listen next list:
Should White People Do Diversity Work? on Apple & Spotify
What People of Color Need From Their White Friends Apple & Spotify

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Critical race theory is misrepresented by people who oppose it and misunderstood by those who embrace it.

I’d bet money that you don’t know as much as you think you know about critical race theory. I was surprised when I went to the original work of the scholars who created it. In this episode, we clear away the assumptions and we get right at the heart of the matter: What is critical race theory, really?

This is part one of a two-part series on critical race theory. Check out CRT 102, the episode where we address modern issues with what CRT has become.

Your listen next list:
Critical Race Theory 102: Three Important Criticisms You Need to Know on Apple & Spotify

Sources:
Critical Race Theory: An Introduction by Jean Stefancic and Richard Delgado
Critical Race Theory: Why It Matters and Why You Should Care by Victor Ray
The Basic Tenets of Critical Race Theory via Britannica
Intersectionality, Explained by Jane Coaston
A Lesson on Critical Race Theory via American Bar Association

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In this episode, we rethink our entire understanding of privilege. I share some things that may surprise you. I explain that privilege isn't really about privilege, and I teach you how to elevate privilege from a passive reality to an active role.

Your listen next list:
Important Terms You Should Know (That Are Often Misused) on Apple & Spotify
All The Stuff No One Ever Taught You About Dr. King on Apple & Spotify

Sources:
White Privilege: Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack by Peggy McIntosh
Views About White Privilege Split Sharply Along Racial and Partisan Lines by Pew Research Center

My mentioned posts on privilege: Privilege isn't ammunition and Some people have a hard time recognizing privilege

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In this episode, I teach you everything you need to know about trigger warnings: what they are, what they aim to do, and what research has to say about it all.

Trigger warnings are well-meaning efforts to consider the effects of discussing heavy topics. But study after study has shown that trigger warnings have no positive effect on mental health for anyone, let alone people experiencing PTSD. Trigger warnings are a direct violation of what psychologists teach us about trauma, harm, and healing. This episode is a brief, intriguing look at how I came to the conclusion that trigger warnings do more harm than good.

Sources:
What is Cognitive Behavioral Therapy? By the American Psychological Association
What if Trigger Warnings Don’t Work? by Jeannie Suk Gersen
The Coddling of the American Mind by Greg Lukianoff and Jonathan Haidt
Why Trigger Warnings are Really So Controversial, Explained by Libby Nelson
Remembering Trauma by Richard McNally

Your listen next list:
Tone Policing: Problematic Prejudice or Reasonable Request for Respect? on Apple & Spotify
Important Terms You Should Know (That Are Often Misused) on Apple & Spotify

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Racism (as I’m speaking of it here) is a problem of hatred. But what do we do when things are not-totally-racist-but-still-not-great? When the problem is apathy rather than malice, we have a case of racial insensitivity.

In this episode, I teach you how to identify the root issue so you can respond well. Apathy and hatred are similar, but they are opposite issues. Different problems need to be met with different solutions.


Your listen next list:
We're Getting Privilege All Wrong on Apple & Spotify
Important Terms You Should Know (That Are Often Misused) on Apple & Spotify

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I'm sharing my story, including some things you probably don't know about me. I tell you about the mistakes I've made, the lessons I've learned, and the breakthrough that led me to overcome fear and anger. I'm sharing my story so you can learn how to live a better life (with an unshakeable peace) and make a bigger impact (with confidence and courage to do the hard things).

Referenced: The Coddling of the American Mind by Greg Lukianoff and Jonathan Haidt

Your listen next list:
Why Trigger Warnings Are Controversial (And Even Counterproductive) on Apple & Spotify
Why I Don't Want to be Called a Victim of Racism on Apple & Spotify

To support Marie and get exclusive resources, head to patreon.com/mariebeech. To learn more about Marie's DEI services, head to mariebeecham.com.